I need some advice, input, opinions, etc...on this situation between a friend of mine and myself. I've been friends with this person for over 20 yrs. (we are 4 yrs. apart); I will be 40 soon and she will be 36 and when we started hanging out my mother did not like the fact that I was friends with her because she's younger than me but, I did not let that stop me. Anyway; eventually my mother accepted it and our friendship continued and grew; and we would hang out together pretty often.

At some point, we didn't see each other as often anymore but, still spoke on the phone, emails, etc....that was fine. I made two mistakes and I did apologize for them, and she forgave me. At one point when I made the mistakes; she told me that we shouldn't be friends anymore cause we have nothing in common anymore, etc...but I told her that I don't want the friendship to end. She said (ok) we won't end the friendship so I was happy and relieved. But since then, I've noticed that she treats me more like an acquaintance than a friend; not as close as we used to be and it's really bothering and hurting me.

I send her messages on facebook and sometimes she doesn't answer me or answers me differently that when she responds to others. She hasn't called me in such a long time; hardly get emails anymore; so are we friends or not?
If we are friends then I need her to show me and if we are not then, I will be hurt but, in time I will accept and deal with it just like the other friendship that I ended a long time ago with my best friend whom I grew up with and was very close to. That's another thing; those two hated each other before and then I found out awhile back that they were talking to each other; don't know if they still are but, it's funny how they went from hating each other to liking each other and that now I am the bad one that they both hate.

I know she doesn't hate me (the one who's younger than me); we still talk but, I've noticed a change in our friendship. I know that because of my mistakes; she probably doesn't like me as much anymore but, she did forgive me so, what's the story? One mistake didn't concern her but, the other did and like I said; I apologized to her for both of them; it's the past, so either let it go or not.

My boyfriend says to just go on and not contact her for awhile to see what will happen; go with the flow but, I want to know straight out if she wants to be my friend; like we used to be or not. I did so much for her in the past and we got along great; shared secrets, always there for each other. It's like all of that; doesn't matter to her but, it does to me.

Should I talk to her about it or just leave her be for now?
If I talk to her; guess I should do it in person; right??
I'm so confused right now; want to straighten this out before I start
school which is coming up soon (March 9); what do I do? :confused:

I think your bf's right. Just let her come and talk to you and if she doesnt ever call or talk to you again then im afraid you have your answer. :(

Then there is the other option you could continue to try and talk to her but you would be putting yourself out there and you could get hurt. I hope things work out between you both.

Well, my friendship with this person is over; it's sad and a real shame but, that's what she wants....that's what she gets; her loss not mine.

Oh well, you gain some you lose some. You deserve better friends. ;)

Sorry to hear about that though, it's always hard losing a friend, especially one you've know for SO long. Good luck.