Naturally, my aunt has had a hard time since my cousin Jamie, her only child, was killed in Iraq in April 2007. Well, the 28th of August would've been Jamie's 22nd birthday, so my aunt decided to go through his stuff and see what she wanted to get rid of and what she wanted to keep. Big mistake, she found out the hard way that she just isn't ready to do that yet. Ever since that day she hardly speaks to anyone, she's become so withdrawn and that's just not like her. She's not eating like she should either. I'm really worried about her, please keep her in your prayers! :(

oh, honey! That's really bad!!!:(

I'll be keeping her in my prayers, also.

So sorry- hope she is ok and I will keep her in my prayors! Best of luck with it all...

My prayers are with her. Is there any way she could get in touch with a group or someone who has gone through this?

I'll be praying for her, bud.

That's horrible. :( I hope she'll be able to get through this.

My thoughts and prayers are with your aunt at this time. I'm sorry she has to go through this.

God be with your aunt and whole family, Lu. :bighug:

I hope that she gets better, Lauren.

Thank you all, I really appreciate your prayers! :bighug:

your aunt is in my prayers

My thoughts & prayers go out to your aunt & all your family.

I'll keep your aunt in my prayers :)

Lauren, your aunt is in my prayers. I saw, up close and personal, the pain of parents losing a child, when my sister died in 1991. My mother was never the same again. It's the ultimate loss, and everyone grieves in their own way. I pray your aunt has the strength to make it through this devastating loss and to rejoin the world. Just be there for her, and don't be afraid to mention your cousin's name. Recall stories of his goodness and the good times you had with him, how you miss him. People often avoid that. They mean well, but most people want to hear their lost loved one's names.

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Lauren, your aunt is in my prayers. I saw, up close and personal, the pain of parents losing a child, when my sister died in 1991. My mother was never the same again. It's the ultimate loss, and everyone grieves in their own way. I pray your aunt has the strength to make it through this devastating loss and to rejoin the world. Just be there for her, and don't be afraid to mention your cousin's name. Recall stories of his goodness and the good times you had with him, how you miss him. People often avoid that. They mean well, but most people want to hear their lost loved one's names.

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I'll do that, maybe it will help. I have a lot of fond memories of Jamie growing up, he was a real pistol :lol: I really do miss him, but I know he's in a much better place.

Lauren, I'm sorry to hear this about your Aunt too. Letting her know you love her, are thinking of her and how much you too deeply miss your cousin may help. Godspeed. I'm praying for both of you.

Lulu, your Aunt is definitely in my prayers and in my thoughts. Jamie was such a wonderful person as well as a wonderful son. And, I am pretty sure, losing him will always be difficult for her to get over. But, she needs to realize that Jamie, is now with God, he is in good hands and he will always be looking after her, and always loving her. He is at her side, always; though, he is not there in the flesh. He is there is spirit. Tell her, that she will be with Jamie, again (in heaven) and that his love for her, will never die, but, live forever:)

Lauren, I'm sorry to hear this about your Aunt too. Letting her know you love her, are thinking of her and how much you too deeply miss your cousin may help. Godspeed. I'm praying for both of you.

Thanks rich, you're such a sweetheart :)

Lulu, your Aunt is definitely in my prayers and in my thoughts. Jamie was such a wonderful person as well as a wonderful son. And, I am pretty sure, losing him will always be difficult for her to get over. But, she needs to realize that Jamie, is now with God, he is in good hands and he will always be looking after her, and always loving her. He is at her side, always; though, he is not there in the flesh. He is there is spirit. Tell her, that she will be with Jamie, again (in heaven) and that his love for her, will never die, but, live forever:)


Thanks Tara, that's beautiful, I will defenately tell her that! :bighug:

Lauren, this poem has been in Dear Abby through the years, author unknown. Here's what I did years ago for my mother. I typed out the poem, in a pretty and enlarged font, bolded, and put a rose graphic in the bottom corner (found in my computer graphics section). The U.S. Flag might be a good choice for you. I then printed it out in on high-quality colored paper, and put in in a decorative 8x10 frame. It hung on my Mother's wall, next to a picture of their daughter, (my sister). I've since done this for others who have lost a child. The only cost is for the frame. It's really a gift from the heart.


My Child

PLEASE, don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be over it.

PLEASE, don't tell me she's in a better place.
She isn't here with me.

PLEASE, don't say at least she isn't suffering.
I haven't come to terms with why she had to suffer at all.

PLEASE, don't tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost a child.

PLEASE, don't ask me if I feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.

PLEASE, don't tell me at least you had her for so many years.
What year would you choose for your child to die?

PLEASE, don't tell me God never gives us more than we can bear.

PLEASE, just say you are sorry.
PLEASE, just say you remember my child, if you do.
PLEASE, just let me talk about my child.
PLEASE, mention my child's name.
PLEASE, just let me cry.

Lulu, your Aunt is definitely in my prayers and in my thoughts. Jamie was such a wonderful person as well as a wonderful son. And, I am pretty sure, losing him will always be difficult for her to get over. But, she needs to realize that Jamie, is now with God, he is in good hands and he will always be looking after her, and always loving her. He is at her side, always; though, he is not there in the flesh. He is there is spirit. Tell her, that she will be with Jamie, again (in heaven) and that his love for her, will never die, but, live forever:)
yes Tara, that IS beautiful!:)

Lauren, this poem has been in Dear Abby through the years, author unknown. Here's what I did years ago for my mother. I typed out the poem, in a pretty and enlarged font, bolded, and put a rose graphic in the bottom corner (found in my computer graphics section). The U.S. Flag might be a good choice for you. I then printed it out in on high-quality colored paper, and put in in a decorative 8x10 frame. It hung on my Mother's wall, next to a picture of their daughter, (my sister). I've since done this for others who have lost a child. The only cost is for the frame. It's really a gift from the heart.


My Child

PLEASE, don't ask me if I'm over it yet.
I'll never be over it.

PLEASE, don't tell me she's in a better place.
She isn't here with me.

PLEASE, don't say at least she isn't suffering.
I haven't come to terms with why she had to suffer at all.

PLEASE, don't tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost a child.

PLEASE, don't ask me if I feel better.
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up.

PLEASE, don't tell me at least you had her for so many years.
What year would you choose for your child to die?

PLEASE, don't tell me God never gives us more than we can bear.

PLEASE, just say you are sorry.
PLEASE, just say you remember my child, if you do.
PLEASE, just let me talk about my child.
PLEASE, mention my child's name.
PLEASE, just let me cry.

Oh Janice, that brought tears to my eyes! :( I'll have to print it out for her and frame it like you mentioned, that's a wonderful idea.

Oh Janice, that brought tears to my eyes! :( I'll have to print it out for her and frame it like you mentioned, that's a wonderful idea.
I'm glad you like it. Don't forget to change the She to He. Like I said, nice enlarged, bold font, maybe a graphic. You're good with graphics and the computer. I'm sure you can make it look great.

I'm glad you like it. Don't forget to change the She to He. Like I said, nice enlarged, bold font, maybe a graphic. You're good with graphics and the computer. I'm sure you can make it look great.

Maybe I can do something with his picture, I'll have to play around with it and see what I can come up with.

God bless your auntie, my prayers and love go out to her.

Thanks littlebelle :)

I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin. :( I will definitely pray for your Aunt during this difficult time!!

I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin. :( I will definitely pray for your Aunt during this difficult time!!

Thank you Darlin! :bighug:

Lauren; even though I've said it before, I'll say it again sweetie-you, your aunt, and your cousin are definately in my prayers at this difficult time for all of you!:bighug: :bighug: :bighug:

I lost a cousin YEARS ago (way back in 1967) and even though, I don't remember her very much, I can understand how painful it must be for your aunt.

Thank you Darlin! :bighug:

You're welcome Lauren! :bighug:

Here's the finished product Janice:

looks real good, Lauren! You're so good on the computer!:) (I'm lucky if I can scan something or print a picture:lol: :lol: )

looks real good, Lauren! You're so good on the computer!:) (I'm lucky if I can scan something or print a picture:lol: :lol: )

Thank you Joe, YEARS of practice! :lol:

you're welcome, hon! (I see you've changed your aviater again!):)

Here's the finished product Janice:
Wow, Lauren, that is just beautiful. That was a nice idea to have his picture as the backdrop for the poem. The font is very elegant. Simply stunning. That's too sad for words. I'm speechless, and for me, that's something. I'm just so sorry for your loss.

Wow that is really nice and well put together. I am sorry as well.

Wow, Lauren, that is just beautiful. That was a nice idea to have his picture as the backdrop for the poem. The font is very elegant. Simply stunning. That's too sad for words. I'm speechless, and for me, that's something. I'm just so sorry for your loss.

Thank you Janice. :)

Losing Jamie has been hard, but it's taught me that we should never take anyone forgranted, because you could lose them at any moment. Jamie was 4 months shy of his 21st birthday, that's young!! You never know what can happen, so hold on tight to those you love!

:( hopefully she'll be able to get through this.

I know she will het through this my friend

Thank you Janice. :)

Losing Jamie has been hard, but it's taught me that we should never take anyone forgranted, because you could lose them at any moment. Jamie was 4 months shy of his 21st birthday, that's young!! You never know what can happen, so hold on tight to those you love!that's true, Lauren! We recently had a health scare with my mother (see my thread "MY 79 YEAR OLD MOTHER..." in the Chit-Chat forum), and she almost died. But God was watching over her! Like you said, never take life for granted.