My husband and I have been having a 20-year debate. I'll give fictional towns, for personal reasons. It involves where I'm "from", not where I currently live.

I was born and raised in Medford. All my friends were from Medford. When I was 16, and a sophmore in high school, my family moved to Arlington, the next town over. I didn't want to change schools, and since it was only one bus away, I didn't transfer. I graduated from Medford High School, went to my boyfriend's prom there, and my own prom from Medford High.

I moved out of Arlington when I was 21, to another town. From that point on, I've lived in a various cities and towns. Whenever I meet someone new, and they ask where I'm from, I tell them Medford. My husband thinks I'm from Arlington, even though I never went to school there, never worked there, or made a single friend there. He thinks that since I lived there for my teen years, that's what counts. I think you're "from" wherever your heart is, your friend's were, your memories, etc.

Who's right?

I think that you're right, Janice. As that old saying goes, home is where the heart is. By the end of this year I hope to move to Pennsylvania, but I figure that I'll always tell people that I'm from Illinois.

I think you're right Janice. You're from where you belong, where you're heart is. And for you, that is Medford.

I think you and your husband need couples therapy.

:lol:

Seriously, I think you're right in this arguement. If you spent more time of your life in Medford, then that counts more.

"I think you're "from" wherever your heart is, your friend's were, your memories, etc."

OR

"Wherever I lay my hat, that's my home"?

Where was your hat all that time? :)

"I think you're "from" wherever your heart is, your friend's were, your memories, etc."

OR

"Wherever I lay my hat, that's my home"?

Where was your hat all that time? :)
My hat was in Arlington, and that's my husband's point. Shut up! Just kidding, vtunie, lol. ;) It's great to see you posting on Chit Chat! Welcome! :wave:

You're from Medford of course. :)

I think you and your husband need couples therapy.

:lol:
You may be right, but as Oprah says, "That's another show." :lol:

My hat was in Arlington, and that's my husband's point. Shut up! Just kidding vtunie, lol. ;) It's great to see you posting on Chit Chat! Welcome! :wave:

Ahh, I thought you'd say it was on your HEAD, and so the answer's Medford!

My husband and I have been having a 20-year debate. I'll give fictional towns, for personal reasons. It involves where I'm "from", not where I currently live.

I was born and raised in Medford. All my friends were from Medford. When I was 16, and a sophmore in high school, my family moved to Arlington, the next town over. I didn't want to change schools, and since it was only one bus away, I didn't transfer. I graduated from Medford High School, went to my boyfriend's prom there, and my own prom from Medford High.

I moved out of Arlington when I was 21, to another town. From that point on, I've lived in a various cities and towns. Whenever I meet someone new, and they ask where I'm from, I tell them Medford. My husband thinks I'm from Arlington, even though I never went to school there, never worked there, or made a single friend there. He thinks that since I lived there for my teen years, that's what counts. I think you're "from" wherever your heart is, your friend's were, your memories, etc.

Who's right?


I think you are. BTW, gots lots of relatives in Malden, Swampscott, Needham, Sharon, Attleboro, Newton--so I know Boston & the burbs a bit.

I agree with everybody here. :)

I have a problem like this... I tell people I live in my hometown now (let's say Minneapolis). Hometown, meaning I was BORN and WENT TO SCHOOL right here. There is a town that is five minutes away from here (let's say St. Paul), and I was a RESIDENT there.

So... For the first part of my life, I lived in St. Paul, but went to school and did pretty much everything else in Minneapolis (shopping, dining, etc). All the friends I had were from Minneapolis. Basically, my social life was centered in Minneapolis. I rarely did anything social in St. Paul. Eventually, we moved away from St. Paul to live in Minneapolis.

When I was in grade school, I left the Minneapolis/St. Paul area to go to school in, let's say, Duluth. I ended up completing the rest of my schooling years and then graduating from HS in Duluth. This is when I lived in Minneapolis AND Duluth at the same time. (Confusing? Indeed.)

I spent about an approximately equal amount of years in all three towns. But when it comes down to it all, my heart is in Minneapolis. It's where I live and work now, after bouncing back and forth between the three towns while growing up.



By the way -- I am *NOT* a native Twin Cities resident. I just used Mpls/St. Paul for comparison, since the town I live in now is set up similarly to the Twin Cities area.

Ahh, I thought you'd say it was on your HEAD, and so the answer's Medford!
Total miscommuniction on my part. I had the old adage in my mind, "Home is where you lay your hat."

Total miscommuniction on my part. I had the old adage in my mind, "Home is where you lay your hat."

Of course, but it didn't sound as though you had enough time left over to LAY your hat anywhere! :talk:

You are right Janice, I will always be from where I lived all my life. I moved to a different burough in NYC, but I always felt that despite where I was currently living, I was always from where I was raised. I hope that made sense. :)

I think you are. BTW, gots lots of relatives in Malden, Swampscott, Needham, Sharon, Attleboro, Newton--so I know Boston & the burbs a bit.
Cool. :cool: I lived in Malden and Newton, of that list. My husband's four kids were born and raised in Malden. My cousin lives in Sharon. Small world, Rich. :)

I agree with everybody here. :)

I have a problem like this... I tell people I live in my hometown now (let's say Minneapolis). Hometown, meaning I was BORN and WENT TO SCHOOL right here. There is a town that is five minutes away from here (let's say St. Paul), and I was a RESIDENT there.

So... For the first part of my life, I lived in St. Paul, but went to school and did pretty much everything else in Minneapolis (shopping, dining, etc). All the friends I had were from Minneapolis. Basically, my social life was centered in Minneapolis. I rarely did anything social in St. Paul. Eventually, we moved away from St. Paul to live in Minneapolis.

When I was in grade school, I left the Minneapolis/St. Paul area to go to school in, let's say, Duluth. I ended up completing the rest of my schooling years and then graduating from HS in Duluth. This is when I lived in Minneapolis AND Duluth at the same time. (Confusing? Indeed.)

I spent about an approximately equal amount of years in all three towns. But when it comes down to it all, my heart is in Minneapolis. It's where I live and work now, after bouncing back and forth between the three towns while growing up.



By the way -- I am *NOT* a native Twin Cities resident. I just used Mpls/St. Paul for comparison, since the town I live in now is set up similarly to the Twin Cities area.
:eek: I thought my story was confusing. I'd say you're from Minneapolis. Is that would you say? I know it's not 'really' Minneapolis.

if you feel like you're from Medford, that's where you're from

:eek: I thought my story was confusing. I'd say you're from Minneapolis. Is that would you say? I know it's not 'really' Minneapolis.
I know. :lol: I confuse everybody when I explain my story to them.

Yeah, I say I'm from Minneapolis too. It works down to this... I've lived in Minneapolis more years than the other towns I lived in.

I lived in St. Paul FULL TIME from 1985 to 1992. PART TIME until 1995. I have *NOT* lived in St. Paul since 1995 and will never live there again.

I lived in Duluth FULL TIME from 1992 to 2003. I also will never live in Duluth ever again.

Minneapolis... It was a PART TIME deal from 1995 to 2003. FULL TIME since 2003. My heart is most definitely right here, because now I do EVERYTHING here. Rarely do I ever venture into St. Paul for anything.



Needless to say, it was very confusing explaining to people that I was a resident in two towns at the same time when I was a kid. :faint: :lol:

Needless to say, it was very confusing explaining to people that I was a resident in two towns at the same time when I was a kid. :faint: :lol:
I know your parents are divorced, Allison. Did that have anything to do with your confusing residencies, or is that yet ANOTHER layer to your story? ;)

I'm thinking that in this day and age, with the divorce rate so high, and many parents sharing equal custody, that it could get tricky for those kids, when they're older living on their own, to answer the simple question of, "So where are you from?"

I know your parents are divorced, Allison. Did that have anything to do with your confusing residencies, or is that yet ANOTHER layer to your story? ;)

I'm thinking that in this day and age, with the divorce rate so high, and many parents sharing equal custody, that it could get tricky for those kids, when they're older living on their own, to answer the simple question of, "So where are you from?"
Yup, that's why the dual residency deal came into play. :lol: My mom and I moved to Duluth, but my dad stayed behind in Minneapolis. I'd head down to Minneapolis on the weekends to visit my dad, while my mom stayed behind in Duluth.

I hope that makes a little bit more sense now. It makes my head hurt thinking about it. :lol:

if you were born and raised in "Medford", then, THAT is where youre from, case closed, you're right, hubby is wrong! :cow: yupyup

I'm starting to wonder if I need to trade my husband in for a smarter model. :lol:

Definetly Medford. The other way would make zero sense to me.

Definetly Medford. The other way would make zero sense to me.
Same here. I think what's going on is that my husband lived in one city until he was 16, then moved to another town. He did transfer schools, and considers where he moved to, as where he's from. So, he thinks I should do the same. I sort of think it could be one of those stubborn things, that he said 20 years ago, and now won't admit he's wrong, lol.

It's the stubborn man syndrome. :lol: I am with you on this one Janice because IT MAKES SENSE, common sense, every which way, it is you who is right. I can't even comprehend Lou's stance on this one. :crazy:

I'm starting to wonder if I need to trade my husband in for a smarter model. :lol:
A 2008 with that "New man smell"?

A 2008 with that "New man smell"?
Yup, goes from 0 to 60 in 5 seconds. :lol:

I was raised and went to school in, let's call it, "Goat Pond." I will always be from Goat Pond, no matter where else I live.

:lol:

Why do you want to move to Pennsylvania?

It is the birth place of America. patriot:

Where did your husband get that from?? :lol: Yeah, where you're "from" is basically a question of where one was born or have grown up. I really dont understand what the teen years has to do with this.

I was raised and went to school in, let's call it, "Goat Pond." I will always be from Goat Pond, no matter where else I live.
I know where you're really from. ;) :lol:

You were born and raised in Medford. You ARE from Medford. End of subject!:p


I was born in Flint, MI but raised in Gaines. Lived there until I got married. Went to school in another town where I now live. I always say that I am from Gaines.

I was born in Flint, MI but raised in Gaines. Lived there until I got married. Went to school in another town where I now live. I always say that I am from Gaines.

Is Gaines in Genesee or another county?

Is Gaines in Genesee or another county?


Gaines is a one-horse town in extreme southern Genesee county. Don't tell me that you've heard of it?!:eek: :lol:

Gaines is a one-horse town in extreme southern Genesee county. Don't tell me that you've heard of it?!:eek: :lol:

:lol: I've never heard of Gaines but I have family from Flint. My Great-Uncle worked for the Buick division of GM for years. I've been there one time and that was in 1978 but don't recall much about the trip.

:lol: I've never heard of Gaines but I have family from Flint. My Great-Uncle worked for the Buick division of GM for years. I've been there one time and that was in 1978 but don't recall much about the trip.



My husband and my dad both retired out of GM. My brother retired from Buick.My grandpa retired from AC Spark Plug.All in Flint. Gaines is about 20 miles southwest of Flint.

Medford.

Medford.

So Janice, have you shown Lou this thread? ;) :lol:

So Janice, have you shown Lou this thread? ;) :lol:

The way the voting is going she may not want to.:lol:

So Janice, have you shown Lou this thread? ;) :lol:
I took great pleasure in showing him the results. :lol: It's this crazy thing he's been saying for years, based on his experience of moving to another city at the same age. He did change schools though, so that's the difference. :crazy:

i kind of wonder where i'm "from" sometimes, since i was conceived when my family lived in north dakota, but i was born and raised in arizona. :grr:

i kind of wonder where i'm "from" sometimes, since i was conceived when my family lived in north dakota, but i was born and raised in arizona. :grr:
You're an Arizona chick. ;)

The way the voting is going she may not want to.:lol:
Why not? She is getting the votes in her favor, not his.