Have you ever been asked to remove your shoes in someone's home? If so, how did you feel about it? My husband had a work friend, and we were invited to their home. They had light carpeting, and we had to take our shoes off. I didn't like it. I don't want to be barefoot. My shoes are part of my outfit.

When in Rome....actually, my parents and most of our relatives do this; at my brothers place, he has COLD tile floors, so, we bring our own slippers :lol:

In Japan, the custom is to leave one's shoes by the door and wear straw slippers left there for the guest's comfort. In a true Japanese home, the floors are covered with Tatami mats (Straw mats about 6x5) which would be soon ruined by street shoes.

yeah, my friend Ryan's house was one of those houses where everything is alligned perfectly and you feel like you cant touch anything without getting someone mad. so naturally, his mom made us take off our shoes. i didnt mind it, although i was a kid so i guess it didnt really bother me. lol.

My grandmother just moved in with my uncle (her son) last month. She got new carpeting two weeks ago and now whenever I go into the house, she asks me to remove my shoes. She used to ask this of everyone, but when my mom and others started refusing, she gave up. Me, I ALWAYS wear shoes from when I get dressed until I go to bed. It must be part of my OCD lol. But because my grandma spent so much money on the new carpeting, I do it for her. It does annoy me though. So far, she's the only one I know who's done that.

Yes, I have. It doesn't bother me.

Doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather take off my shoes than get something on their carpet and have them hate me forever.

maybe these people have out of control feet fetishes? lol

Doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather take off my shoes than get something on their carpet and have them hate me forever.
That's true.

It's considered rude to enter a Polish home with your shoes on. Something dating centuries back about bringing in dirt with you on your shoes dirtying the floor where people live. Not so much the case these days with sidewalks and doormats, but the tradition stuck. So naturally, out of habit I ALWAYS take my shoes off whenever I enter someone's house. Even if someone tells me I don't need to, I do it anyway, force of habit lol. But we always have slippers at our door for people to put on when they take their shoes off so they don't have to walk around with their socks/barefoot.

In my first apt, I would ask people to take off their shoes. Now I don't care.

A friend of mine moved into a real high-end apt and his wife asked us to remove our shoes.

It doesn't bother me. It actually helps me to relax.

I feel that once they ask me to take off my shoes, they must be OCD and maybe i shouldn't sit on their couches or anything lol. It makes me feel uncomfortable. When i greet guests, i like them to feel comfortable and at home, so i dont usually ask people to take off their shoes, unless of course they are severly muddy. Of course most people remove their shoes anyways when they are muddy.

Also, they ask people to take off their shoes and all, but do they want their guest's sweaty smelly socks or feet touching their clean floors? weird

When my first daughter was born I use to make people take their shoes off at the door. If you didn't take your shoes off you weren't coming into our house.

It only happened to me that one time. We didn't know the people too well, and they had six couples there, and everyone was barefoot. It wasn't wet out, and my shoes weren't filthy. I had on heels, so now my pants were too long, and like I said, my shoes are part of my outfit. My husband's dress shoes are these big, shiny, leather deals. He had to untie them, take them off, and walk around in his socks. I felt like we were in a SNL skit.

I wouldn't dream of asking anyone to take their shoes off, beautiful carpet or not. I certainly wouldn't wear community slippers that anyone tried to hand me either. If there's a storm or something, then I understand; but, get a good doormat and ask your guests to wipe their feet. Plus, let's face it, some people have smelly feet, lol.

It's considered rude to enter a Polish home with your shoes on. Something dating centuries back about bringing in dirt with you on your shoes dirtying the floor where people live. Not so much the case these days with sidewalks and doormats, but the tradition stuck. So naturally, out of habit I ALWAYS take my shoes off whenever I enter someone's house. Even if someone tells me I don't need to, I do it anyway, force of habit lol. But we always have slippers at our door for people to put on when they take their shoes off so they don't have to walk around with their socks/barefoot.
Interesting, i didnt realise they had that tradition in other places besides Asia

Also, they ask people to take off their shoes and all, but do they want their guest's sweaty smelly socks or feet touching their clean floors? weird
Personally, I'd rather have the sweat than the dirt. This time of year annoys me for the fact that no matter how many times a day I could vacuum, there will always be sand on the floor. I'd prefer people not drag more into my house.

It only happened to me that one time. We didn't know the people too well, and they had six couples there, and everyone was barefoot. It wasn't wet out, and my shoes weren't filthy. I had on heels, so now my pants were too long, and like I said, my shoes are part of my outfit. My husband's dress shoes are these big, shiny, leather deals. He had to untie them, take them off, and walk around in his socks. I felt like we were in a SNL skit.

I wouldn't dream of asking anyone to take their shoes off, beautiful carpet or not. I certainly wouldn't wear community slippers that anyone tried to hand me either. If there's a storm or something, then I understand; but, get a good doormat and ask your guests to wipe their feet. Plus, let's face it, some people have smelly feet, lol.

:lol: Yeah, i dont understand the whole "beautiful carpet" thing. Floor and carpet is nice, but people need to be practical, everyone DOES walk on carpet so maybe get a neutral color that won't show stains as much. If I had white carpet i'd be so nervous to do anything on it, but i have beige and i'm not nervous, because when there is a mud stain or something on it, i can clean it off and never see it again. You could never do that with white.

:lol: Yeah, i dont understand the whole "beautiful carpet" thing. Floor and carpet is nice, but people need to be practical, everyone DOES walk on carpet so maybe get a neutral color that won't show stains as much. If I had white carpet i'd be so nervous to do anything on it, but i have beige and i'm not nervous, because when there is a mud stain or something on it, i can clean it off and never see it again. You could never do that with white.
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Why not just hand your guests slippers, pajamas and have them sit on plastic covered furniture? There are more diseases that feet can carry that you can find on the bottom of shoes. If I ever asked my father to take off his shoes, he'd turn around and walk out the door. Everyone's different, I guess. I just think that shoes are a part of a person's attire. Shoes and feet are personal. I'm not walking around with mud filled shoes.

Yeah, if you are that OCD, then you dont need to be having people over. It just takes away from the fun, worrying about people coming in and out your house and taking them off. Too much unneeded stress. I bet its hard to tell that to your parents and other elders, also.

may as well have people start taking off their underwear too

Yeah, if you are that OCD, then you dont need to be having people over. It just takes away from the fun, worrying about people coming in and out your house and taking them off. Too much unneeded stress. I bet its hard to tell that to your parents and other elders, also.

may as well have people start taking off their underwear too
"Guests must take off ALL clothes before coming into the house"

"Guests must take off ALL clothes before coming into the house"
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LOL

I don't think I ever go to anyone's house where we ever do actually keep our shoes on. It's just natural, no one even asks we just do. :lol: I guess it's different if it's not your friends and it's more formal, then I feel a little weird too but I guess you have to respect other people's homes.

I bet its hard to tell that to your parents and other elders, also.
Good point. Imagine telling an 80-year old grandmother to take off their orthopedic shoes. There's dignity, huh. I wasn't kidding about my Dad. He'll always be my hero. He's gone now, but had I ever asked him to take off his Nikes, he would have done an about-face. I wouldn't insult him.

Floors can be cleaned, and carpets should be steamed-cleaned once a year anyway, and a spray cleaner, like Resolve, used before vacuuming in between. Carpets are nasty anyway. They are colonies of dustmites residing in your rugs, no matter how clean they look.

If this practice was the norm in America, why aren't we seeing it in movies and tv, etc. I'm in my 40s, and I've only been asked to remove my shoes once. I've taken them off myself during a storm, but that's it.

My family always left our shoes or had slippers on.

Drove me nuts when I first moved in with Frank and he was fanatical about taking shoes off - got it from his mother. It's a pain in the butt. To me, just properly scrap your shoes or if they are muddy or anything, then put slippers on. We have ceramic floors and my feet freeze in the winter (even with fuzzy slippers).
Maybe it's more of a "european" thing or something?

Anytime we go to his mother's I always make sure I bring slippers - she keeps the thermostat at about 66 degrees. brrr!

When I was little I use to play at my friend's house next door and her mom was OCD about the shoes! I remember her husband walking in real quick with his shoes on and she went nuts! Their divorced now :rolleyes: She made you take off your shoes, and then she'd vacuum as soon as you sat down. I always found that a little offensive.

I'm a neat freak and I admit it lol but I'd never ask anyone to take their shoes off (unless their muddy or something). I just wait until they leave and then vacuum my carpets... that way no one gets offended or feels uncomfortable and it satisfies the -neat freak- in me :lol:

I hate that!
It's like they are saying, "Thou shalt not contaminate my precious house with thy filthy foot coverings, even if they are not filthy. Thou'est shalt do it because I want it that way!"

I mean, I can understand it when we go over to Hawaii to visit my inlaws. They have that orangey clay all over the place that gets on your thongs(the foot kind). Well, that, and that my inlaws are Japanese. But even when visiting the non-Japanese houses over there you do that, because of the clay.

But I would never ask any guest to remove their shoes in order to "allow" them into my home here. I mean, it's a house, not a freakin' sterile labratory.

being chinese myself, it is more of a tradition for people to take off their shoes when they enter the home, particularly in the far east where its the norm. when i get home i take off nike sneakers, wash my feet and put on some slippers or flip flop sandals. in my home in the living room and my bedroom for eg, we don't have carpeting, its just floorboards.

i can understand though if there are bits of glass or metal that is scattered around on the floor, which could result in someone cutting their foot unintentionally. personally speaking, its unhygenic for a guest to be bearfooted because a) they can easily catch germs and b) they can get dirt and other disgusting crap on their feet

when there is new rugs

i can understand though if there are bits of glass or metal that is scattered around on the floor, which could result in someone cutting their foot unintentional. personally speaking, its unhygenic for a guest to be bearfooted because a) they can easily catch germs and b) they can get dirt and other disgusting crap on their feet
That's true. My husband is a diabetic, and he can't go barefoot, not even at home. If he gets a foot unjury, he could lose his foot.

I cannot imagine saying, "Honey, grab your skippers. We're going over over to and Bill and Jane's house for dinner." :lol:

Well, I think when you enter someone's home, they make the rules, if they ask you to take off your shoes, then you should ( Just bring some good slippers with you, i guess :lol: )

Well, I think when you enter someone's home, they make the rules, if they ask you to take off your shoes, then you should ( Just bring some good slippers with you, i guess :lol: )
That's true, and everyone has option of not going there. My husband and I never returned to the home where we had to take off our shoes. People come over our house all the time. It seems bananas to me to say, let me take your coat, and put your shoes over there, lol. Suppose you don't know that's a rule. Do people carry slippers around with them, just in case? LOL.

Well, I think when you enter someone's home, they make the rules, if they ask you to take off your shoes, then you should ( Just bring some good slippers with you, i guess :lol: )


:yeahthat You never know, some people are just clean freaks, germaphobe or have weak immune systems and they are trying to avoid as many germs as possible. When my first daughter was born, she had heart surgery so I made my guest take off their shoes for that reason and I gave them a pair of new socks to wear if they wanted. If you could not abide by that rule then you could not enter our home.

I'd be uncomfortable if someone asked me to do that. I hate my feet, so I don't want anyone seeing them.

That's true. My husband is a diabetic, and he can't go barefoot, not even at home. If he gets a foot unjury, he could lose his foot.

I cannot imagine saying, "Honey, grab your skippers. We're going over over to and Bill and Jane's house for dinner." :lol:

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:yeahthat You never know, some people are just clean freaks, germaphobe or have weak immune systems and they are trying to avoid as many germs as possible. When my first daughter was born, she had heart surgery so I made my guest take off their shoes for that reason and I gave them a pair of new socks to wear if they wanted. If you could not abide by that rule then you could not enter our home.
You're giving an extreme case. I'm referring to people who are not sick, who impose the no-shoe's rule.

this thread totally gives me flashbacks of the Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry and Cheryl are invited to the dinner party thrown by the ex-porn star who is one of Larry's golf buddies. The porn stars wife demanded everyone take their shoes off and Larry refused, then he accidentally broke glass on the floor and everyone freaked out and turned on him :lol:

this thread totally gives me flashbacks of the Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry and Cheryl are invited to the dinner party thrown by the ex-porn star who is one of Larry's golf buddies. The porn stars wife demanded everyone take their shoes off and Larry refused, then he accidentally broke glass on the floor and everyone freaked out and turned on him :lol:
:lol: That was funny. Sex In The City did a show on the shoe thing too. Carrie's real expensive shoes were stolen or something.

I don't mind taking my shoes off if asked, especially if the people had light colored carpet. I'd hate to be the one who accidently tracked in dirt, oil, leaves, mud, or whatever. Our house has an entry hall with a big rug that catches the worst of the dirt, so its not much of a problem for our visitors.

I don't mind. My parents make me take off my shoes and we have all of them in a closet

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:lol: I've got this visual of someone standing on the doorstep with a bottle of wine under one arm and those big fuzzy animal slippers under the other, saying when the door opens, "O.K. - PAAAAAAAARTY!"


(Actually, you and Lou should go back if you're ever invited and where the craziest looking slippers you can find - that's what I'd do. 'Course, maybe that's why I'm single again.......) ;)

I don't mind taking my shoes off if asked, especially if the people had light colored carpet. I'd hate to be the one who accidently tracked in dirt, oil, leaves, mud, or whatever. Our house has an entry hall with a big rug that catches the worst of the dirt, so its not much of a problem for our visitors.


I agree. My girlfriend's parents had a white carpet (ugh!) and I was always paranoid of that, but that was my choice and I gladly took my shoes off (besides, they lived in the same apt. building so sometimes I'd just be in slippers anyway).
I've always kept some form of a good mat or something at the doors just for that - usually a few good scrapes is enough - if not, o.k. then offer to remove your shoes. Usually the person insists that you keep them on).

WELL usually I just take my shoes off when ever I enter a guests house except some of my friends say I don't have to but whenever I go to a family member's house I just take off my shoes it doesn't bother me I wear socks anyways

I wouldn't buy carpet that was so delicate that it couldn't withstand people wearing their shoes. I don't feel comfortable taking off my shoes when I go to other people's houses.

I have no problem taking my shoes off when I go to someones house who wants me to. It's their house, their rules. I have some of my friends who come over take their shoes off as soon as they get in, and I never ask them to, so apparently where they go, they usually have to lol. Personally I don't care at my house, unless its really snowy out or something, cause I hate walking through my house in my socks or barefeet with the floor wet. Still I have no problems going to someones house where I have to take off my shoes, I always wear socks anyhow. I will say though, I hated it as a kid :lol:

The "shoes off" rules isn't all that uncommon to me. A lot of my friends subscribe to it, as do my parents. It doesn't bother me, as long as there is a chair by the door on which I can sit while I take off and put on my shoes (my disability makes it a daunting task to fuss about with my shoes while standing). My parents even have a nice, leather bench by their door that they bought for the sole purpose of people sitting to remove their shoes.

I don't mind it at all.

My parents made me take my shoes off before going into the house. So did my Grandparents. Now when I go into someones house and don't take off my shoes, I feel funny walking on the carpet.

Anyone that comes to my house, knows they have to take off their shoes before they walk into the living room.

I'm Southern, we go everywhere barefoot. ;) :lol:

Yes I've been asked to take off my shoes--I don't mind it too much. In one instance, someone asked this because they had no carpet & didn't want to disburb the neighbors underneath.

I'm Southern, we go everywhere barefoot. ;) :lol:

I'm southern and wouldn't be caught dead barefoot. I don't mind walking around in socks or slippers but barefoot is out of the question.

I'm southern and wouldn't be caught dead barefoot. I don't mind walking around in socks or slippers but barefoot is out of the question.

Ahh well, to each his own. :)

I grew up in the south and I never went barefoot. :lol:

I grew up in the south and I never went barefoot. :lol:

What part of the South Sonny? :lol: I'm from sweet home Alabama, we're too dumb to wear shoes. :rolleyes: ;) :D

What part of the South Sonny? :lol: I'm from sweet home Alabama, we're too dumb to wear shoes. :rolleyes: ;) :D
I grew up in Jacksonville, N.C. We were just dumb period. :lol:

I grew up in Jacksonville, N.C. We were just dumb period. :lol:
:lol:

I grew up in Jacksonville, N.C. We were just dumb period. :lol:

LMAO! :rofl:

One of my best friends won't allow us to wear shoes in his house. He's originally from Kazakhstan so that might have something to do with it. When my friends and I go to each other's houses, we always take our shoes off. When my friends come to my house, they take their shoes off even though we have no rule about wearing shoes in the house.

Janice, what was the reason for you and Lou having to remove your shoes? Did they tell you? I mean did they say, "We have light carpeting and we don't want it ruined?" I ask only because I am curious as to how they asked you to remove your shoes. Some people's audacity really piques my interest. :lol:

Janice, what was the reason for you and Lou having to remove your shoes? Did they tell you? I mean did they say, "We have light carpeting and we don't want it ruined?" I ask only because I am curious as to how they asked you to remove your shoes. Some people's audacity really piques my interest. :lol:
It was about 10 years ago, but I remember there was a pile of shoes in the foyer, and the hosts greeted us wearing slippers. They were polite about it, just something about their carpets, and please remove your shoes. I remember I was wearing a black velvet outfit, as it was a holiday party. I was wearing good size heels, so my pants were dragging on the floor for the entire night. My husband was wearing a suit. He's a big guy, so off went his size 12s. Big strapping guy, wearing a great suit and no shoes. :lol:

I've read that some people put up signs, instructing guests to remove their shoes. Your best bet would be to ask some people on this thread how they impose their no-shoe's rule. I'm envisioning all these Christmas gatherings coming up, with everyone shoeless. My husband's mother has a huge Christmas party every year, the week before Christmas. Her house is a mansion, and it's a catered affair. Everyone is dressed up beautifully. About 40 people attend. I'm trying to imagine her party, with everyone wearing no shoes. I can't even imagine it, to be honest.

Irene, do you have a rule in your house, about shoes?

Your description of that left me :rofl: Not laughing at you or Lou but just imagining how awkward that must have been having your beautiful pants dragging around. And Lou, well, what can I say. Poor guy. Did you know if they had this rule before you went to that party?

I did at one time have a rule abt "no shoes" two years ago when we had new carpeting installed in our home. Mainly it was my kids and their friends who adhered to the rule. They all came in and left their shoes in the foyer. They didn't mind, they felt relaxed. It was temporary. Like you said, there is always the option of steam cleaning the carpet, which I do once a year. I keep a good mat outside the door and it helps to cut down on the dirt that seems to get inside. I also have a rug right inside the foyer.

I think it is completely stupid to take your shoes off when going to somebody's house. It's just as stupid as having plastic cover your furniture. If people come over to my home, they can come as they are.

My wife's friend is like that, she insists everybody take off their shoes before entering her home. I never do. My wife gets mad at me, but it's not like I just came out of a Brazilian rain forest and into her house.

Your description of that left me :rofl: Not laughing at you or Lou but just imagining how awkward that must have been having your beautiful pants dragging around. And Lou, well, what can I say. Poor guy. Did you know if they had this rule before you went to that party?

:lol: Yeah, it was crazy for us and our dragging pants, but from the replies on this thread, it's the norm for many. We didn't know these people well at all, as they were work associates of Lou's. I don't think this was a first time deal for them. Their carpet wasn't new. It seemed like a long-standing rule. We were invited back, but declined, because of that. Lost touch after that.

I mentioned this earlier, but what I don't get is, if it's so common -- why isn't it ever done in movies or tv? Not comedies, serious movies that are true to life. I watch, on average, five movies a week, with countless party, dinner, holiday gathering scenes, etc. and I have never, in even one movie, witnessed anyone taking their shoes off, or being asked to take their shoes off.

but it's not like I just came out of a Brazilian rain forest and into her house.
:rofl:

:lol: Yeah, it was crazy for us and our dragging pants, but from the replies on this thread, it's the norm for many. We didn't know these people well at all, as they were work associates of Lou's. I don't think this was a first time deal for them. Their carpet wasn't new. It seemed like a long-standing rule. We were invited back, but declined, because of that. Lost touch after that.

I mentioned this earlier, but what I don't get is, if it's so common -- why isn't it ever done in movies or tv? Not comedies, serious movies that are true to life. I watch, on average, five movies a week, with countless party, dinner, holiday gathering scenes, etc. and I have never, in even one movie, witnessed anyone taking their shoes off, or being asked to take their shoes off.


It's just bizarre. I am walking into a dang house, not a museum or a sushi house.

:lol: The only time I have seen that done is when the movie was asian and you see the people enter a home and there they took off their shoes. Not all asian movies mind you, but that is how I came to learn of the asian custom of removing one's shoes before you enter. I know it is popular in other countries as well, but as for here, the only time I have heard of people doing that is in the extreme case of a sick person in the home (immune system illnesses, heart condition, etc), germaphobes and those who are like this :snob:...:lol: Those who can't have a speck of dirt or grime enter their homes.

This is what prompted me to start this thread. It reminded me of my experience.

http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn (http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn)


DEAR AMY: My husband and I recently renovated our home and installed hardwood flooring.

I would like to throw a New Year's Eve party for about 30 people. We have no children, so we are able to decorate nicely.

At this party, I don't want to worry about kids running around knocking things over, spilling, etc.

Is there a nice way on the invitation to say it's a child-free event?

Also, is it proper to put in the invitation they will be asked to remove their shoes? - Party Planner

DEAR PLANNER: Evidently, your hardwood flooring is actually hosting this party. In your home, what your floor says goes.

On your invitation to parents, you can say, "We hope you can get a sitter and join us on New Year's Eve, etc."

I can't think of any polite way for you to warn your guests about your "no shoes" policy on the invitation. Perhaps you could throw a "sock hop?"

:lol: The only time I have seen that done is when the movie was asian and you see the people enter a home and there they took off their shoes. Not all asian movies mind you, but that is how I came to learn of the asian custom of removing one's shoes before you enter. I know it is popular in other countries as well, but as for here, the only time I have heard of people doing that is in the extreme case of a sick person in the home (immune system illnesses, heart condition, etc), germaphobes and those who are like this :snob...:lol: Those who can't have a speck of dirt or grime enter their homes.


Exactly! I am willing to spend an extra five minutes in their home and sweep where I walked. :lol:

This is what prompted me to start this thread. It reminded me of my experience.

http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn (http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn)


DEAR AMY: My husband and I recently renovated our home and installed hardwood flooring.

I would like to throw a New Year's Eve party for about 30 people. We have no children, so we are able to decorate nicely.

At this party, I don't want to worry about kids running around knocking things over, spilling, etc.

Is there a nice way on the invitation to say it's a child-free event?

Also, is it proper to put in the invitation they will be asked to remove their shoes? - Party Planner

DEAR PLANNER: Evidently, your hardwood flooring is actually hosting this party. In your home, what your floor says goes.

On your invitation to parents, you can say, "We hope you can get a sitter and join us on New Year's Eve, etc."

I can't think of any polite way for you to warn your guests about your "no shoes" policy on the invitation. Perhaps you could throw a "sock hop?"


That is so true! That "Party Planner" sounds like a real dud.

Exactly! I am willing to spend an extra five minutes in their home and sweep where I walked. :lol:
:rofl: I can imagine you with a little dust pan and brush.

This is what prompted me to start this thread. It reminded me of my experience.

http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn (http://www.tmsfeatures.com/tmsfeatures/subcategory.jsp?file=20071220ctnaa-a.txt&catid=1843&code=ctn)


DEAR AMY: My husband and I recently renovated our home and installed hardwood flooring.

I would like to throw a New Year's Eve party for about 30 people. We have no children, so we are able to decorate nicely.

At this party, I don't want to worry about kids running around knocking things over, spilling, etc.

Is there a nice way on the invitation to say it's a child-free event?

Also, is it proper to put in the invitation they will be asked to remove their shoes? - Party Planner

DEAR PLANNER: Evidently, your hardwood flooring is actually hosting this party. In your home, what your floor says goes.

On your invitation to parents, you can say, "We hope you can get a sitter and join us on New Year's Eve, etc."

I can't think of any polite way for you to warn your guests about your "no shoes" policy on the invitation. Perhaps you could throw a "sock hop?"

A sock hop!!!!! :brent Touche Amy!!!!:lol: :lol: :lol:

I can't stand people like that. If you don't want your things ruined, do one of two things: Change your friends, I mean, you are inferring you have friends who will damage your precious items OR don't have people over EVER! What good is your home if you can't have people over? :crazy:

:rofl: I can imagine you with a little dust pan and brush.


It sounds just as ridiculous as having to carry around fuzzy slippers to go to a house party. :lol:

:lol: The only time I have seen that done is when the movie was asian and you see the people enter a home and there they took off their shoes. Not all asian movies mind you, but that is how I came to learn of the asian custom of removing one's shoes before you enter. I know it is popular in other countries as well, but as for here, the only time I have heard of people doing that is in the extreme case of a sick person in the home (immune system illnesses, heart condition, etc), germaphobes and those who are like this :snob:...:lol: Those who can't have a speck of dirt or grime enter their homes.
You're right about the Asian scenes in movies. I won't let my husband go without slippers at home, because he's a diabetic. We have hardwood floors, and with just socks on, a person can really take a tumble. With my spine problems, I'm not 100% steady either. I make sure our slippers have a great grip on the bottom.

If people are entering our home or we're entering their home, and it's snowing out, of course, the shoes come off. Nobody wants slush tracked through their house. On a nice day, I don't get it. People are actually carrying slippers with them, when they visit people.

It sounds just as ridiculous as having to carry around fuzzy slippers to go to a house party. :lol:
Imagine the germs those fuzzy slippers have going from one home to another? :eek: The same amount you'd have wearing your shoes. ;)


You're right about the Asian scenes in movies. I won't let my husband go without slippers at home, because he's a diabetic. We have hardwood floors, and with just socks on, a person can really take a tumble. With my spine problems, I'm not 100% steady either. I make sure our slippers have a great grip on the bottom.

If people are entering our home or we're entering their home, and it's snowing out, of course, the shoes come off. Nobody wants slush tracked through their house. On a nice day, I don't get it. People are actually carrying slippers with them, when they visit people.

My youngest daughter is diabetic and I know what you mean abt taking care of the feet. I vacuume at least 2-3 times a day if the carpet needs it. With a 6 year old around, I have no choice sometimes. :lol: She loves to walk around in her socks but I worry that maybe there will be something on the carpet that will jab her foot, any small rock that may have come inside from one's shoes or even from the paw of my dog. Or anything that lands on the floor. One reason I don't buy toys for my son that has small or tiny parts because I can't allow any small piece to be embedded into the carpet and have my daughter step on it. :eek: She has slippers but rarely does she wear them.

Out of habit, my kids and I take off our shoes in the foyer. It looks funny seeing all those shoes laying there. :lol: But I don't ask that of my family or other guests. Besides, I purchased these beautiful throw rugs to cover the areas of the carpet where there is heavy traffic. This way, I can just toss those rugs in the washer when they get dirty.

I've posted about this before, but I know a man, a former boss actually, and he's a serious diabetic, since he was 12, and he's in his early 50s now. We've remained friends. A few years ago, a hair from his dog, a German Shepard, a single hair went into his big toe, under the nail bed. Those dogs have that strong thick fur. My friend literally almost lost his foot. It became infected, and they couldn't get the infection under control. He was in the hospital, then a rehab for almost two months.

My husband's father was a diabetic, and he got a nail in his foot, that went through his slipper. He was in his cellar when it happened. Same deal, almost lost his foot, hospital, rehab. My husband takes his shoes off for nobody. If somebody is firm on their no-shoe rule, we'd have to pass. When we went to that party, he wasn't diabetic.

I've posted about this before, but I know a man, a former boss actually, and he's a serious diabetic, since he was 12, and he's in his early 50s now. We've remained friends. A few years ago, a hair from his dog, a German Shepard, a single hair went into his big toe, under the nail bed. Those dogs have that strong thick fur. My friend literally almost lost his foot. It became infected, and they couldn't get the infection under control. He was in the hospital, then a rehab for almost two months.

My husband's father was a diabetic, and he got a nail in his foot, that went through his slipper. He was in his cellar when it happened. Same deal, almost lost his foot, hospital, rehab. My husband takes his shoes off for nobody. If somebody is firm on their no-shoe rule, we'd have to pass. When we went to that party, he wasn't diabetic.
OMG that is frightening and horrible. :eek: Diabetes is nothing to play around with. My father lost his leg below the knee due to diabetes. His mother (my grandmother) lost both her legs as well.

My daughter had her ear pierced abt 6 months ago along with her girlfriend. Two weeks later my daughter's ear got enlarged, red and it was painful to touch. I took her to the E.R. and the doctor had to remove the piercing and told her she can never do that again. She was shocked, as was I since she had her lip pierced almost a year before that with no complications. The doctor said, "You were lucky THAT TIME."

OMG that is frightening and horrible. :eek: Diabetes is nothing to play around with. My father lost his leg below the knee due to diabetes. His mother (my grandmother) lost both her legs as well.

My daughter had her ear pierced abt 6 months ago along with her girlfriend. Two weeks later my daughter's ear got enlarged, red and it was painful to touch. I took her to the E.R. and the doctor had to remove the piercing and told her she can never do that again. She was shocked, as was I since she had her lip pierced almost a year before that with no complications. The doctor said, "You were lucky THAT TIME."
That was a close call for your daughter. She's going to have to be extra careful, for her entire life. I have a friend who's 45, and has/had juvenille diabetes. She had a kidney transplant, five years ago. Her best friend donated a kidney, imagine. My former boss, the man with the dog hair in toenail, he's losing his eyesight fast. It's very sad. That's the thing with diabetes. If you get it young, you're in danger, since it has more years to do its damage. My husband was diagnosed in his 50s, so hopefully, he'll outlive the disease.

His insurance covers special shoes for him, two a year. They look like normal sneakers. Insurance pays for his podiatrist to clip his toenails. He has all these special foot creams, all sorts of stuff. If you're not already aware of this, Irene, your daughter is entitled to special services for her feet, through insurance.

That was a close call for your daughter. She's going to have to be extra careful, for her entire life. I have a friend who's 45, and has/had juvenille diabetes. She had a kidney transplant, five years ago. Her best friend donated a kidney, imagine. My former boss, the man with the dog hair in toenail, he's losing his eyesight fast. It's very sad. That's the thing with diabetes. If you get it young, you're in danger, since it has more years to do its damage. My husband was diagnosed in his 50s, so hopefully, he'll outlive the disease.

His insurance covers special shoes for him, two a year. They look like normal sneakers. Insurance pays for his podiatrist to clip his toenails. He has all these special foot creams, all sorts of stuff. If you're not already aware of this, Irene, your daughter is entitled to special services for her feet, through insurance.
It is a frightening disease as so many things can occur, blindness, kidney failure, gangrene, etc. Terrible.

Right now my daughter sees a child diabetes specialist but that will stop as soon as she turns 19 in February. Her work insurance won't kick in until June. What is that insurance you are referring to Janice?

What is that insurance you are referring to Janice?
It's not even special insurance. We have BlueCross/BlueShield. They cover additional services for Lou because he has diabetes. In other words, they wouldn't cover shoes or professional nail clippings for me, but for him, they will. He has a special foot doctor, as well as a diabetes specialist and a nutritionist, since diet is so important for diabetics. His PCP had to give him a referrals for all that.

What is wrong with taking your shoes off? You are in someone else's house,
so you are subject to their rules. I personally don't have anything against
being barefoot.

This is what prompted me to start this thread. It reminded me of my experience.

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DEAR AMY: My husband and I recently renovated our home and installed hardwood flooring.

I would like to throw a New Year's Eve party for about 30 people. We have no children, so we are able to decorate nicely.

At this party, I don't want to worry about kids running around knocking things over, spilling, etc.

Is there a nice way on the invitation to say it's a child-free event?

Also, is it proper to put in the invitation they will be asked to remove their shoes? - Party Planner

DEAR PLANNER: Evidently, your hardwood flooring is actually hosting this party. In your home, what your floor says goes.

On your invitation to parents, you can say, "We hope you can get a sitter and join us on New Year's Eve, etc."

I can't think of any polite way for you to warn your guests about your "no shoes" policy on the invitation. Perhaps you could throw a "sock hop?"

What a loser. I can't stand people like that. I know people who have recieved wedding invitations or shower invitations that say things like "no kids please". I'm sure over 50% of the guests would not show up due to the fact they cannot or do not want to find childcare. Children like to have fun too. And with the no shoes policy, as a guest i'd be waiting for her to hand me a rules list when i walk in the house.

Besides, most of the time, kids are too shy to run around at a stranger's house. If this person is a stranger to them, its likely that most of the kids will just stay quietly attatched to their parents.

It was about 10 years ago, but I remember there was a pile of shoes in the foyer, and the hosts greeted us wearing slippers. They were polite about it, just something about their carpets, and please remove your shoes. I remember I was wearing a black velvet outfit, as it was a holiday party. I was wearing good size heels, so my pants were dragging on the floor for the entire night. My husband was wearing a suit. He's a big guy, so off went his size 12s. Big strapping guy, wearing a great suit and no shoes. :lol:

I've read that some people put up signs, instructing guests to remove their shoes. Your best bet would be to ask some people on this thread how they impose their no-shoe's rule. I'm envisioning all these Christmas gatherings coming up, with everyone shoeless. My husband's mother has a huge Christmas party every year, the week before Christmas. Her house is a mansion, and it's a catered affair. Everyone is dressed up beautifully. About 40 people attend. I'm trying to imagine her party, with everyone wearing no shoes. I can't even imagine it, to be honest.

Irene, do you have a rule in your house, about shoes?

I'm with Irene - you dragging your pant hems and Lou in a suit and socks!:rofl: (Too bad you didn't think to rip off your panti-hose and start giving yourself a pedicure on their sofa).

The description of a pile of shoes reminds me of a party I went to once. There was the pile of shoes in the foyer and when the party was starting to breakup, all of a sudden you heard someone cry out over the loud music. They were shouting all this "EEEwwwww Gross - Oh man! What's that?". Turns out the guy's cat had decided to make the pile of shoes it's own - he had gone around and peed in and on most of the shoes. If anyone knows cats, they know that it's impossible to get the gross smell of cat urine out of anything - especially on leather.

There's a good way to destroy a pair of Jimmy Choos really fast!

I'm with Irene - you dragging your pant hems and Lou in a suit and socks!:rofl: (Too bad you didn't think to rip off your panti-hose and start giving yourself a pedicure on their sofa).

The description of a pile of shoes reminds me of a party I went to once. There was the pile of shoes in the foyer and when the party was starting to breakup, all of a sudden you heard someone cry out over the loud music. They were shouting all this "EEEwwwww Gross - Oh man! What's that?". Turns out the guy's cat had decided to make the pile of shoes it's own - he had gone around and peed in and on most of the shoes. If anyone knows cats, they know that it's impossible to get the gross smell of cat urine out of anything - especially on leather.

There's a good way to destroy a pair of Jimmy Choos really fast!
:rofl: Instead of Jimmy Choos you can now call them Jimmy POOS. :eek: :lol:

Oh my goodness, that was funny. :lol: