....I can't explain it, but I feel it. This is a serious thread....

Every year around this time of the year, I tend to feel super depressed. And, every year I anticipate trying to fight these feelings by keeping myself together and just keeping my mind occupied. This year, I have a part-time job, I had a birthday party, and I was (was?) dating this really nice guy. I just got home after I walked out on a new member social event this evening. I wasn't so happy and I felt left out. I don't know why. No one was purposely excluding me. Even the guy I dated was invited by me, but then it seems like he is talking in actual conversations with everyone else but me. I started to feel sad, jealous, hurt, and even sensitive. Therefore, I just finished my Blue Moon, grabbed my purse and walked out without saying goodbye to anyone. I JUST received a text from this guy saying, "You should talk more." Ugh! It's pissing me off and hurting my heart SO much.

I then started crying sooooo much on my drive back home. Suddenly, I started to feel like my self-esteem has just sunken to an all-time low. I just feel like my heart has been shattered into a million and one pieces. It hurts SO much! You don't understand how much.

But....I am still feeling super depressed and overly-sensitive. I TRIED to be happier and even more in the Christmas spirit, but then I am feeling easily sensitive. If someone ignores me, I am taking it WAY to heart. I easily don't do that, but it seems like these days I am doing that.

I need serious insight. I feel like there is just NO light at the end of my tunnel. I feel lonely and as though I will never find actual love. I am just.....lost in my ravine. My heart is aching SO much! :crying:

I'm sorry that you are feeling the holiday blues, Mona. :( I know that come the holiday season quite a few people feel depressed. It was like that for me for the last few holiday seasons. Thankfully, this holiday season I have been feeling pretty good.

I wish I knew what to say to cheer you up. I read through your post a couple of times to see what maybe you could have done differently. Is it possible that maybe you were being standoffish around the others? Maybe the other people who were there got the impression that you didn't really want to be there or that you were not having a good time. Maybe your guy friend is right and you should have been more outgoing and talked more. I'm not sure.

I am really sorry that you are feeling this way, Mona. Just remember that you are a good person with a big heart and much to offer.

:bighug:

I wish people understood shyness. Not everyone is willing to immediately talk to strangers like they were the best of friends. Sometimes it's nice to scope a place out first. And when you bring someone to a party or gathering, you honestly don't expect them to ignore you, unless that happens to be the plan. Friends stick side by side and meet people together, and then if they feel comfortable, they may go their separate ways. And to tell you to talk more...that was kind of rude. He obviously doesn't get you, and may not be willing to. He should have asked what was wrong and listened to your side of why you left.

I'm 99.9% sure I would have acted in the same manner you did...although knowing me, I may not have gone at all. I've been in situations like that...and I've taken many, many things to heart (I'm super sensitive anymore). I've cried my way home.

Don't feel bad about feeling bad this time of year. Expectations are for it to be so happy and joyous, and seriously, does it EVER turn out that way??

I wish people understood shyness. Not everyone is willing to immediately talk to strangers like they were the best of friends.

I'm going to speak as someone who's been on both sides of this issue. When you're at a party, the common thing to do is "mingle." I know it's hard, but the way to get people to talk to you is to put yourself out there. For the most part, people aren't going to scope out the wallflower. And I've been the wallflower many a time. But I've learned that if I want to be social, I have to be the one to initiate conversations. Just my two cents.

I read people are more depressed in the winter because the sun is less bright. Try some vitamin D. It's an essential mood balancer.

I need to take my own advice...

I read people are more depressed in the winter because the sun is less bright. Try some vitamin D. It's an essential mood balancer.

I need to take my own advice...
that's true. additionally, the holidays create feelings of loneliness in a lot of people.

the first holiday season after my mom died is when i started to always get really depressed around this time of year. i haven't really noticed it this year or last year though, but i suppose that's because i've already been depressed over something else that strongly dominates any 'holiday blues' i would be feeling otherwise.

as far as walking out without saying bye or anything, frankly i'm glad you did. i've done that before. i don't demand people give me a generous amount of attention, but being the extremely dependent and sensitive person i am, i don't tolerate being so ignored by my own friends. i don't care if strangers don't talk to me, in fact i hate it when they do anyway since i have social anxiety, but if my friends neglect me i make my feelings known through my behavior. yeah, i am a bit of a drama queen, as well as an emotional replica of my mom who was quite the same way, i don't care.

Many people get the blues at this time of the year - whether it's for a particular reason or not.

This year, I'm extremely depressed myself. Only 6 weeks ago I found out that the love of my life, my best friend and lover of 17 years wants to break up. And it's not him that's leaving the house - it has to be me. A week and a half after that, I lost my job for the 2nd time in a year.
Now I have no job, no husband and come the new year, no place to live. You talk about having a tough time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I've even been having nightmares about blowing my head off with a gun in my car. I can't sleep or eat (lost about 15 lbs so far) My house isn't decorated for Christmas, but instead, has moving boxes piling up. And I get more depressed looking at them because I have no idea where they'll end up. I'm having to throw out things of sentimental value that I've kept for years - some stuff of my deceased parents even because there won't be room for it all. I'm absolutely devasted this year.

But at the same time, I know things WILL change. Things will be good again, I just have to take this all in stride. The other thing I do is always keep in mind that there's someone out there a lot worse off than me. That seems to really help me keep things in perspective. I'm even thinking that this year, instead of trying to have a dinner at Christmas by myself, I'll go down to the local foodbank or mission and help out there. I'm sure I'll see sights that will make me feel blessed again for what I DO have.

If anything, you may just be finding out that this guy isn't the guy for you if he doesn't understand your shyness. Trust me, better you find out now and move on. Afterall, you never know when you walk out that door from the party that there won't be the right guy waiting for you down the street ~

I read people are more depressed in the winter because the sun is less bright. Try some vitamin D. It's an essential mood balancer.

I need to take my own advice...

Those lamps are also supposed to help. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Those lamps are also supposed to help. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder.

TripperFan, do you have some friends that you could spend the holidays with? When I'm feeling really blue, it always helps me to surround myself with people who care about me.

Those lamps are also supposed to help. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder.
I was going to mention those - they now have them for "personal use". I think Sam's Club carries them. They're a little expensive (around $200), but what's worse?

TripperFan, do you have some friends that you could spend the holidays with? When I'm feeling really blue, it always helps me to surround myself with people who care about me.


Not Christmas Eve or Day (we used to all go over to my husband's mother's place where the whole extended family would gather for a 2nd gift opening with my niece (also my Goddaughter) and nephew.

I will though be having my brother over and we'll try to make the best of it playing Scrabble and I plan on buying a roasting chicken rather than turkey, but still will do the rest of the dinner as if it were "Christmas dinner" for the two of us. It won't be the same, but won't be too horrible. I mainly just miss being a kid right now like I usually am - from Halloween thru to Christmas I'm usually upbeat, energetic, loving just the whole atmosphere of the thing and shopping for gifts for people. I will get through it though. ;)

I wish people understood shyness. Not everyone is willing to immediately talk to strangers like they were the best of friends. Sometimes it's nice to scope a place out first. And when you bring someone to a party or gathering, you honestly don't expect them to ignore you, unless that happens to be the plan. Friends stick side by side and meet people together, and then if they feel comfortable, they may go their separate ways. And to tell you to talk more...that was kind of rude. He obviously doesn't get you, and may not be willing to. He should have asked what was wrong and listened to your side of why you left.

I'm 99.9% sure I would have acted in the same manner you did...although knowing me, I may not have gone at all. I've been in situations like that...and I've taken many, many things to heart (I'm super sensitive anymore). I've cried my way home.

Don't feel bad about feeling bad this time of year. Expectations are for it to be so happy and joyous, and seriously, does it EVER turn out that way??


I understand shyness. I am very shy offline. I have a difficult time starting up conversations with people I don't know. Infact, I have a difficult time even talking to people I don't know. I've never seen Mona as being shy though. She's always come across as very outgoing.

I understand shyness. I am very shy offline. I have a difficult time starting up conversations with people I don't know. Infact, I have a difficult time even talking to people I don't know. I've never seen Mona as being shy though. She's always come across as very outgoing.
That's the way I've always been too. I wish I wasn't. :(

Can't do this in person for you Mona but here is a big hug for you :bighug:

I don't know what to say, I can only say I have been there, I totally know what you feel. :(

Many people get the blues at this time of the year - whether it's for a particular reason or not.

This year, I'm extremely depressed myself. Only 6 weeks ago I found out that the love of my life, my best friend and lover of 17 years wants to break up. And it's not him that's leaving the house - it has to be me. A week and a half after that, I lost my job for the 2nd time in a year.
Now I have no job, no husband and come the new year, no place to live. You talk about having a tough time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I've even been having nightmares about blowing my head off with a gun in my car. I can't sleep or eat (lost about 15 lbs so far) My house isn't decorated for Christmas, but instead, has moving boxes piling up. And I get more depressed looking at them because I have no idea where they'll end up. I'm having to throw out things of sentimental value that I've kept for years - some stuff of my deceased parents even because there won't be room for it all. I'm absolutely devasted this year.

But at the same time, I know things WILL change. Things will be good again, I just have to take this all in stride. The other thing I do is always keep in mind that there's someone out there a lot worse off than me. That seems to really help me keep things in perspective. I'm even thinking that this year, instead of trying to have a dinner at Christmas by myself, I'll go down to the local foodbank or mission and help out there. I'm sure I'll see sights that will make me feel blessed again for what I DO have.

If anything, you may just be finding out that this guy isn't the guy for you if he doesn't understand your shyness. Trust me, better you find out now and move on. Afterall, you never know when you walk out that door from the party that there won't be the right guy waiting for you down the street ~

:( I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through all this. The fear of lonliness and the unknown tears me up, I know. But you seem to have a pretty positive outlook. Try to keep your chin up. :)

That's the way I've always been too. I wish I wasn't. :(


Same here, Sonny.

Mona, it's so easy to get depressed during the holiday season. I feel there's an inordinate demand for everyone to be happy & upbeat this time of the year, which can often bring about the opposite feeling! :( The best thing to do for yourself is to find things you actually enjoy doing, even if they are not Christmas related. I find simple things like working a crossword puzzle can focus your mind on something different. Try not to worry about other people's expectations of you for Christmas. If there are certain holiday songs or movies that make you sad, try to avoid them. If you don't want to go out to a party and mingle with lots of people, that's okay, too. I know it's hard, but you will get through it all, with some help from your friends and family! :)

Thank you all for your kind, caring words. I still don't feel any better, but I am really trying to occupy my mind. I am finding it quite difficult because there are moments when I feel like not socializing or being amongst crowds of people. Ugh!

Cathie, I am terribly sorry to hear about you and your husband's situation. :bighug: You seem to be optimistic as far as just occupying your mind and spending time with your siblings. That is very important to one's health. All the best for you, and always keep your head up high. You're doing a good job. :hug:

I wish I knew what to say to cheer you up. I read through your post a couple of times to see what maybe you could have done differently. Is it possible that maybe you were being standoffish around the others? Maybe the other people who were there got the impression that you didn't really want to be there or that you were not having a good time. Maybe your guy friend is right and you should have been more outgoing and talked more. I'm not sure.
I walked out because I saw he didn't talk so much with me, and he seemed to enjoy talking more with the others. We only talked "yes" and "no" type of questions/answers with each other. What sucks even more is that I just found out this past week that this guy I like had (has?) a huge crush over me! I found out through two other mutual friends of ours. Since that jealous behavior I reacted over last Thursday, I do think that it made the guy lose interest in me. In other words, it was probably a turnoff for him. D'oh!!! I always mess up in this respect! It's not fair!!! This could still be mutual! I still like him!! Oh, this makes my heart hurt sooooooooooooo damn much!!! I feel it aching in every direction. :crying: How do I reverse this stupidity of an action I portrayed??? :(

How do I reverse this stupidity of an action I portrayed??? :(

You don't. You just learn from it. :)

I can sure relate to holiday blues. Things are better this year because I don't work in sales anymore!! :D

For Mona, and everyone else: :bighug:

I walked out because I saw he didn't talk so much with me, and he seemed to enjoy talking more with the others. We only talked "yes" and "no" type of questions/answers with each other. What sucks even more is that I just found out this past week that this guy I like had (has?) a huge crush over me! I found out through two other mutual friends of ours. Since that jealous behavior I reacted over last Thursday, I do think that it made the guy lose interest in me. In other words, it was probably a turnoff for him. D'oh!!! I always mess up in this respect! It's not fair!!! This could still be mutual! I still like him!! Oh, this makes my heart hurt sooooooooooooo damn much!!! I feel it aching in every direction. :crying: How do I reverse this stupidity of an action I portrayed??? :(


You contact him asap and straighten out the misunderstanding. Just be honest and open. Now it sounds like he did get maybe not turned off, but intimidated by your actions and thought he should maybe pull back a bit. You misread his actions and he misread yours. Offer to take him out for a "Christmas drink" and clear it up. Never miss a good opportunity. ;)

You contact him asap and straighten out the misunderstanding. Just be honest and open. Now it sounds like he did get maybe not turned off, but intimidated by your actions and thought he should maybe pull back a bit. You misread his actions and he misread yours. Offer to take him out for a "Christmas drink" and clear it up. Never miss a good opportunity. ;)
Great idea, Cathie! Thanks! One problem: I wouldn't know how to properly approach this. Read below for reasons why.

I, honestly, have no clue what the best approach this is in contacting him. I sent him a couple of text messages this past Tuesday evening asking him when he is going to show me his Tesla Coil project he's been working on (yes, he's a major science geek!). He told me that the major component of the transformer broke, so he has to replace it first. But....he was quite vague over when exactly that would be. That could be months from now! That could be in a couple of days. I dunno! :(

One of our mutual friends brought up a good point over why he might be retracting. Since he had that major crush over me and I was playing hard-to-get, he seemed to enjoy that challenge of me. The moment I walked out of that restaurant last Thursday and then replied to his email the next day revealing to him that I was hurt he didn't talk with me, that sort of made him think I was no longer a challenge. That friend told me that maybe he liked that whole chasing me around when I didn't seem as interested.

I do want to sit him down and talk with him, but I don't know when/how to bring that up. I was told by these friends to let him come around to me so that he will enjoy chasing me. However, what if he doesn't want to chase me anymore? I'm lost because a lot of people said we were really good for each other. I don't want to bug him where he'll be even more turned off, but I do want to allow him some space. I don't know what to do! I don't want him to forget me! This is the first time I actually don't feel creeped out when a guy has a crush on me becuase 1) I like him, and 2) he's very sweet and such a gentleman to me. ohno:

Thank you for your hug, Monika. :hug:

I think that you're over thinking this. Just call him and hash out the misunderstanding.

I think that you're over thinking this. Just call him and hash out the misunderstanding.


I agree! Had I spent less time analysing relationships and the "games" that are played in my twenties I would have just dated a LOT more!

Not sure about your friends' theories, but it really doesn't sound like that to me. He's nervous too and was waiting for an opening to "make his move". You took that away from him when you walked out of the party. Now he's not sure what signals you're sending him - hence, not giving a time reference on his science project (LOL - I'm picturing Ross Gellar here).

Just PHONE him - no texting. It's Christmas! You have every excuse in the world to ask him out - no better time. Now get off these boards and pickup the phone!!! ;) :lol: Just be direct - the way you were skirting around about his project isn't direct enough and leaves room for him to be vague. I'll bet he didn't have a clue that you wanted to see him again soon. (Women tend to hedge around topics while men think directly - that's why so often they say they get "mixed signals" from females - poor guys - they really do too when you think of it!

(even when a guy is doing the chasing, he needs some sort of feedback that he's making progress - one call doesn't mean you're stalking him!)

I agree! Had I spent less time analysing relationships and the "games" that are played in my twenties I would have just dated a LOT more!

Not sure about your friends' theories, but it really doesn't sound like that to me. He's nervous too and was waiting for an opening to "make his move". You took that away from him when you walked out of the party. Now he's not sure what signals you're sending him - hence, not giving a time reference on his science project (LOL - I'm picturing Ross Gellar here).

Just PHONE him - no texting. It's Christmas! You have every excuse in the world to ask him out - no better time. Now get off these boards and pickup the phone!!! ;) :lol: Just be direct - the way you were skirting around about his project isn't direct enough and leaves room for him to be vague. I'll bet he didn't have a clue that you wanted to see him again soon. (Women tend to hedge around topics while men think directly - that's why so often they say they get "mixed signals" from females - poor guys - they really do too when you think of it!

(even when a guy is doing the chasing, he needs some sort of feedback that he's making progress - one call doesn't mean you're stalking him!)

Agreed! Please call him. You lose nothing by being direct... now that you know it's mutual. And it's certainly true that men... or at least I, need a direct answer: will you go out with me? Yes? No? Do you like me? Yes? No? All these games that are played in dating frustrate me.

At least you'll know.

Gee. This brings back some memories...

Before I reply to the above messages, I wanted to ask something....

Do you think I should just send him a quick text and tell him that I would like to meet him for coffee (or, dessert, since he's not a coffee drinker) tomorrow evening after I get off work because I would like to talk with him? Or, shall I just invite him over to my place? I want us to talk, but I don't want to sound TOO available. Argh...

I noticed he logged in yesterday, but he did not reply to my message from last Sunday. Usually, he'll always reply, but I fear he's getting out of touch. I feel helpless!!! :(

Since I didn't get any quick advice when I posted here over an hour ago.... :mad:, I decided to text him. We're texting back and forth, and he is basically saying he needs more space than he thought and doesn't want to socialize much with anyone until the 31st of December (swing dancing New Years' event). *sigh* I've f'ed up!

He wants to meet up after the 14th of January. *sigh* That's a freakin' break!!! We all know where that will turn up, right???? :mad:

I tell ya....karma's after me. I did the same damn thing with the French guy I dated over the summer. And, that turned out bad! :crying:

Update: He says he wants to meet alone after that. Till then, his brain needs to think.

Okay...i'm my way to work!! Later!!

Best of luck with that.

I just remember how confusing my last attempt at a relationship was and what that did to my mental state. Not fun. So good luck.

swedeace, I hope you are able to get through this holiday season and I
pray you can begin feeling better.

Since I didn't get any quick advice when I posted here over an hour ago.... :mad:,


You have no idea how ridiculous that sounds.

You have no idea how ridiculous that sounds.
Then, don't read...

Thank you, Max and Lee.

You have no idea how ridiculous that sounds.


Brian Damage, stop dumping on Swedeace. She is going through a really bad
time right now.

Brian Damage, stop dumping on Swedeace. She is going through a really bad
time right now.

When is she not?

When is she not?


You don't have to be so nasty to her though. If you don't like her posts, than just don't read them.

Mona, I'm very sorry that I haven't given you any real advice. I feel like I haven't been a very good friend. The problem is that I really don't know what advice to give you. If I was in you shoes, I would be just as confused.

When is she not?
That explains the reasoning over why you wrote, what you wrote above. Otherwise, I don't think you would've written what you wrote as I never see you posting in my threads. There are others here who also have depressing moments as well, but you solely target me. You definitely seem to have a bone to pick with me. I don't know why. I have never done anything to or deal dealt personally with you, so if you have a problem with me, just block my username so that you don't read my posts.

You know what? For being such a so-called "loving" family man/husband, you are giving the impression that you are a quite cold, heartless person. We all have our moments, and I can see all of those who are supportive. That's also not very nice coming from your hierarchy role of a moderator....

Mona, I'm very sorry that I haven't given you any real advice. I feel like I haven't been a very good friend. The problem is that I really don't know what advice to give you. If I was in you shoes, I would be just as confused.
Thanks, Mike. No, don't feel bad - it's a toughie. I have some more good news updates since I last posted before heading out to work. I think I will just email them to you personally to avoid more snickering.

To the "lurking" LiveJournal user who sent me a message carrying out the attack further: Nice try trying to be anonymous. I didn't bother to read more than a couple of sentences. If you want to talk to me, send me a PM through here, not anonymously....

That explains the reasoning over why you wrote, what you wrote above. Otherwise, I don't think you would've written what you wrote as I never see you posting in my threads. There are others here who also have depressing moments as well, but you solely target me. You definitely seem to have a bone to pick with me. I don't know why. I have never done anything to or deal dealt personally with you, so if you have a problem with me, just block my username so that you don't read my posts.

You know what? For being such a so-called "loving" family man/husband, you are giving the impression that you are a quite cold, heartless person. We all have our moments, and I can see all of those who are supportive. That's also not very nice coming from your hierarchy role of a moderator....


Everyone has depressing moments in life. He(( I could write a small novel about the way my life is going right now. And the way things have been going the past 5 months leaves a lot to be desired. But, I don't feel that everyone is entitled to know about my life.

But, I don't feel this need to share my problems with everyone and anyone.

Saying that someone didn't read your post after an hour is incredibly ridiculous. Some people don't read these boards everyday. Now I know why I have went to mostly lurking here. Someone can't post their opinion without others bashing them. Heaven forbid. Now I am back to lurking. And gone for good....

Everyone has depressing moments in life. He(( I could write a small novel about the way my life is going right now. And the way things have been going the past 5 months leaves a lot to be desired. But, I don't feel that everyone is entitled to know about my life.

But, I don't feel this need to share my problems with everyone and anyone.

Saying that someone didn't read your post after an hour is incredibly ridiculous. Some people don't read these boards everyday. Now I know why I have went to mostly lurking here. Someone can't post their opinion without others bashing them. Heaven forbid. Now I am back to lurking. And gone for good....
if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.

if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.
It's also my choice to resond in threads where I feel others that I can call friends are being attacked for stating their opinions.

She could have ignored Brian, but instead chose to respond in a hostile manner. She is entitled to express herself, just as I am entitled to express myself. If someone doesn't like me or what I have to write, then feel free to put me on ignore.

I can and will respond to any thread I want to. I will say it again, don't like my posts, put me on ignore and get over it already.

To the "lurking" LiveJournal user who sent me a message carrying out the attack further: Nice try trying to be anonymous. I didn't bother to read more than a couple of sentences. If you want to talk to me, send me a PM through here, not anonymously....

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.

if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.
exactly. a lot of people use these boards to vent, and i dont see a problem with that. its not like your being forced to read her posts. there's also the Ignore List feature if you really cant stand her posts. just because your happy with your life right now doesnt mean everyone else has to be.

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.
:yeahthat

Great points Brian!

exactly. a lot of people use these boards to vent, and i dont see a problem with that. its not like your being forced to read her posts. there's also the Ignore List feature if you really cant stand her posts. just because your happy with your life right now doesnt mean everyone else has to be.
Did you even read my post? Go back a reread it. Never said I was happy with my life, but if that's the way you read it then so be it....

Did you even read my post? Go back a reread it. Never said I was happy with my life, but if that's the way you read it then so be it....
i wasnt responding to only you...i was just saying in general.

:yeahthat

Great points Brian!


Thank you!

No, not everybody's life is perfect. We all have problems, but she seems to take the cake with problems. What gets me, is she throws a fit when people don't respond to her when she see's fit.

It's also my choice to resond in threads where I feel others that I can call friends are being attacked for stating their opinions.

She could have ignored Brian, but instead chose to respond in a hostile manner. She is entitled to express herself, just as I am entitled to express myself. If someone doesn't like me or what I have to write, then feel free to put me on ignore.

I can and will respond to any thread I want to. I will say it again, don't like my posts, put me on ignore and get over it already.
that wasn't the issue i was addressing. i agree that it is silly to get mad over people not responding to a post within an hour, but i was referring to the other part of your post.

if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.
Exactly. And Mona has a right to defend herself if she feels someone's "opinion" is more a personal attack than an opinion. This board has been this way since day one...sorry if you can't handle it.

She could have ignored Brian, but instead chose to respond in a hostile manner.

And his response couldn't be classified a tad hostile? To her it was. You can't tell her how to think.

Good Lord.... ohno:

Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa.
That doesn't sound very mature to be name calling.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
If you have been paying attention much closer apart from my depressing posts, I am quite busy with two jobs and a social life. I haven't been much online apart from this past weekend. Again, this is a false assumption just solely paying attention to my depressing posts. I am not the only one who is depressed, if you read posts throughout the forum.

Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
That is just mean. I never said it was, nor did I make that a point. There are two departments where I post. Plus, others ask for advice, why can't I?

Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.
Oh, I have given a lot of advice, believe it or not. You are just annoyed with my depression posts, so you focus on me as though I am depressed 24/7. Read my other threads, please. You will see otherwise. I do admit I am MORE depressed these days because I have the case of the winter blues. A lot of others have posted similar situations as well, but you just keep picking on me.

You have never given me advice, but at the same time, I have never asked it from you. I don't even really talk with you at all, so I don't know why you are attacking me.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.
I never said you were the only one, nor did I never said anyone else would disagree. There are two sides to every story.

I think that the person who posted anonymously to me was handling this quite immaturely. In fact, I like for people to be honest. It's easy to hide behind a computer, so this person felt the need to send something anonymously instead of being honest about it. I didn't even read past the first two sentences because I knew it was just an immature behavior, so I just marked it as a spammed message and blocked the user.

Depression is a serious matter, and feeling safe, comfortable and trustworthy within an online community is certainly a therapeutic behavior. I am not saying I am totally depending on this forum, but I do find it relaxing to gain others' views and opinions from time-to-time is okay. I am not here all the time.

that wasn't the issue i was addressing. i agree that it is silly to get mad over people not responding to a post within an hour, but i was referring to the other part of your post.
Yeah, I do admit that being impatient was rather a silly behavior. :lol: I would take it back if I could. :)

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.
Dude, was name calling necessary? I mean, is this whole issue that big of a deal to you? I'm sure you have better things in your life than to even read this thread in the first place. Calm down. You're not going to change her.

I think everyone has had their say on this matter, so please stop. There was name calling on both sides, and I think enough blame to go around. Brian's initial remark was uncalled for, but not terrible enough to be called heartless, cold, a "so-called" family man, etc. Insinuating that Brian was stalking wasn't necessary either. He wouldn't do that. Mona reacted to Brian's remark, and he reacted in return. People defend themselves.

It's Christmas. Can the parties involved (and those who are not involved), just take a deep breath and stop the jabs.

....I can't explain it, but I feel it. This is a serious thread....

Every year around this time of the year, I tend to feel super depressed. And, every year I anticipate trying to fight these feelings by keeping myself together and just keeping my mind occupied. This year, I have a part-time job, I had a birthday party, and I was (was?) dating this really nice guy. I just got home after I walked out on a new member social event this evening. I wasn't so happy and I felt left out. I don't know why. No one was purposely excluding me. Even the guy I dated was invited by me, but then it seems like he is talking in actual conversations with everyone else but me. I started to feel sad, jealous, hurt, and even sensitive. Therefore, I just finished my Blue Moon, grabbed my purse and walked out without saying goodbye to anyone. I JUST received a text from this guy saying, "You should talk more." Ugh! It's pissing me off and hurting my heart SO much.

I then started crying sooooo much on my drive back home. Suddenly, I started to feel like my self-esteem has just sunken to an all-time low. I just feel like my heart has been shattered into a million and one pieces. It hurts SO much! You don't understand how much.

But....I am still feeling super depressed and overly-sensitive. I TRIED to be happier and even more in the Christmas spirit, but then I am feeling easily sensitive. If someone ignores me, I am taking it WAY to heart. I easily don't do that, but it seems like these days I am doing that.

I need serious insight. I feel like there is just NO light at the end of my tunnel. I feel lonely and as though I will never find actual love. I am just.....lost in my ravine. My heart is aching SO much! :crying:

I suffer a little with depression everytime before Christmas, I'm a Charlie Brown in this world.

Watch "It's a Wonderful Life", it'll make you feel better.;)

I suffer a little with depression everytime before Christmas, I'm a Charlie Brown in this world.

Watch "It's a Wonderful Life", it'll make you feel better.;)
Hehe...Thank you for the suggestion. A pick-me-up is always welcomed.

Between Xmas, Valentines day (Which I always have spent alone) and my birthday, i have enough depression for 3 people

I think everyone has had their say on this matter, so please stop. There was name calling on both sides, and I think enough blame to go around. Brian's initial remark was uncalled for, but not terrible enough to be called heartless, cold, a "so-called" family man, etc. Insinuating that Brian was stalking wasn't necessary either. He wouldn't do that. Mona reacted to Brian's remark, and he reacted in return. People defend themselves.

It's Christmas. Can the parties involved (and those who are not involved), just take a deep breath and stop the jabs.
I've said all I have to say and for one am done with this.

Merry Christmas to all.

For me at least, this matter is closed. Over and out....