I was telling my mom recently I don't feel like talking to anyone because I'm tired of not having anyone at my age. Her respnse was


"Well it's possible it can take until you are 40 or 41 to find the right person."



NOW WHO IN THE HELL WANTS TO HEAR THAT WHEN I HAD ALREADY SAID THAT BEING SINGLE AT 32 IS DEPRESSING???

What I think your mom is telling you, is finding that person you want to spend the rest of your life with, IS WORTH WAITING FOR. That person won't come by easy. That special person will eventually come along.

As for your comment, "Does my mother even think before she speaks?" I can't help it, but that is what you do sometimes on here, you post before you think. :lol:

What I think your mom is telling you, is finding that person you want to spend the rest of your life with, IS WORTH WAITING FOR. That person won't come by easy. That special person will eventually come along.

As for your comment, "Does my mother even think before she speaks?" I can't help it, but that is what you do sometimes on here, you post before you think. :lol:


Saying that she will eventually come would have sounded much better. But to say it may take until I'm 40 was such a stupid statement, if i'm down about being single at 32 what do u think I will be at 40?-lol

here's another mother with no parenting skills

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here's another mother with no parenting skills

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OMG!The studiest mother ever :crazy:

Saying that she will eventually come would have sounded much better. But to say it may take until I'm 40 was such a stupid statement, if i'm down about being single at 32 what do u think I will be at 40?-lol
I think you have enough common sense to know that day will come, regardless of who tells you what. I think you are like me, you vent your feelings and don't want to hear any negativity. If anything, I just love to vent, I don't need feedback. Give your mom a break, this comment surely doesn't take away from the years she put up with you. ;) :lol:

I think you have enough common sense to know that day will come, regardless of who tells you what. I think you are like me, you vent your feelings and don't want to hear any negativity. If anything, I just love to vent, I don't need feedback. Give your mom a break, this comment surely doesn't take away from the years she put up with you. ;) :lol:

That's how I am too, no TRYING TO MAKE T BETTER,m let me just get it out of my system

That's how I am too, no TRYING TO MAKE T BETTER,m let me just get it out of my system
THANK YOU!!!! :cheers: God, how many times I vent to my boyfriend, just to vent and feel better, and there he is making it worse by giving me unwanted advice, bad advice, his opinion, blah blah blah. DON'T GIVE ME ADVICE, JUST LISTEN TO ME!!!!!!!!:crazy: :lol:

THANK YOU!!!! :cheers: God, how many times I vent to my boyfriend, just to vent and feel better, and there he is making it worse by giving me unwanted advice, bad advice, his opinion, blah blah blah. DON'T GIVE ME ADVICE, JUST LISTEN TO ME!!!!!!!!:crazy: :lol:


Yeah the worst thing anyone can do when I'm pissed is TRY AND MAKE ME FEEL BETTER

I'm I the only one who's shocked that Salmon said that his mother has no parenting skills?? Maybe it was a bad choice of words

I think that your mother was just saying that by the time you're 40 you will probably meet a woman who know who she is as a person, who's mature and who just basically has her sh*t together. And hopefully you will also.

I'm I the only one who's shocked that Salmon said that his mother has no parenting skills?? Maybe it was a bad choice of words

I think that your mother was just saying that by the time you're 40 you will probably meet a woman who know who she is as a person, who's mature and who just basically has her sh*t together. And hopefully you will also.
I am. :lol: That is why I posted what I did in post #2, the second paragraph abt him not thinking before he posts. :lol:

I am. :lol: That is why I posted what I did in post #2, the second paragraph abt him not thinking before he posts. :lol:


I was going to post something totally different but I held my tongue. So I just hope that, deep down in the depths of his cerebral lobes that he knows that, that was a HUGE disrespectful thing to say.

I was going to post something totally different but I held my tongue. So I just hope that, deep down in the depths of his cerebral lobes that he knows that, that was a HUGE disrespectful thing to say.
:yeahthat: :rofl:

I was going to post something totally different but I held my tongue. So I just hope that, deep down in the depths of his cerebral lobes that he knows that, that was a HUGE disrespectful thing to say.


Because I expect someone her age to know what to say out of her mouth when her son is mad about something. You see that Irene would have not said that to one of her children if they were upset about how difficult it is to find the right person.

Because I expect someone her age to know what to say out of her mouth when her son is mad about something. You see that Irene would have not said that to one of her children if they were upset about how difficult it is to find the right person.
But Solomon, just because your mom said something that was unsettling to you, doesn't make her a bad mom or lacking in parental skills. I am far from perfect, I make mistakes, we all do. No one is perfect. I just stated that I can understand what it is like to want to vent sometimes and not want to hear negative feedback. I get upset with people who do that, but that doesn't make them bad people or lacking. Just a lapse in judgment for a moment. You should be lucky to have a mom who cares.

But Solomon, just because your mom said something that was unsettling to you, doesn't make her a bad mom or lacking in parental skills. I am far from perfect, I make mistakes, we all do. No one is perfect. I just stated that I can understand what it is like to want to vent sometimes and not want to hear negative feedback. I get upset with people who do that, but that doesn't make them bad people or lacking. Just a lapse in judgment for a moment. You should be lucky to have a mom who cares.


She has never really been a good mother, just a good provider. She was not interested in hearing about my problems growing up so what she said on Friday just added to the list of why she was not the greatest parent. I'm glad she is smart enough to know she can never call me when she has a problem. I will end that conversation so fast-lol

She has never really been a good mother, just a good provider. She was not interested in hearing about my problems growing up so what she said on Friday just added to the list of why she was not the greatest parent. I'm glad she is smart enough to know she can never call me when she has a problem. I will end that conversation so fast-lol
Well, I am sure there are issues but I don't think that is for this whole board to know abt. I can see you making a thread abt venting abt being depressed, no girlfriend, etc. and getting some unhelpful advice from your mom, but not stating that your mother has no parenting skills. I am sure your mom did the best she could under whatever circumstances she was put under.

Solomon, you have got a lot of damn nerve calling your mother out when she was giving you worthy advice! That sounds like good advice to me, all of a sudden she has no parenting skills because you don't want to hear any of it. It sounds like a bad son who doesn't appreciate his mother. You better appreciate her....you only get one, and if she goes before you, you'd wish you had listened to her.

Well, I am sure there are issues but I don't think that is for this whole board to know abt. I can see you making a thread abt venting abt being depressed, no girlfriend, etc. and getting some unhelpful advice from your mom, but not stating that your mother has no parenting skills. I am sure your mom did the best she could under whatever circumstances she was put under.


Always remember that just because a mother buys her son/daughter food, toys, and takes them on trips doesnt make her a good mother. Support is what really matters

Always remember that just because a mother buys her son/daughter food, toys, and takes them on trips doesnt make her a good mother. Support is what really matters
Being a parent, I know more of what constitutes a good parent or a bad parent. There are so many parents who are on drugs and/or they are addicted to alcohol, they don't work, they don't provide, they abandon their parenting to other family members, they abuse their children physically and mentally, and on and on and on. Believe me, until you have experienced any or all of the above, you have no idea what a bad parent is.

Parents show their love in many ways without coming right out and saying, "I love you" and without ever sitting down and talking to their kids abt certain matters. What kind of support were you deprived of?

Always remember that just because a mother buys her son/daughter food, toys, and takes them on trips doesnt make her a good mother. Support is what really matters


Sounds like to me that you and your mom need to sit down and have a conversation.

What kind of support were you deprived of?


Really

I'm feeling bad for this poor woman.

Being a parent, I know more of what constitutes a good parent or a bad parent. There are so many parents who are on drugs and/or they are addicted to alcohol, they don't work, they don't provide, they abandon their parenting to other family members, they abuse their children physically and mentally, and on and on and on. Believe me, until you have experienced any or all of the above, you have no idea what a bad parent is.

Parents show their love in many ways without coming right out and saying, "I love you" and without ever sitting down and talking to their kids abt certain matters. What kind of support were you deprived of?


She never had the ability to be supportive. My grandmom does. She just says the WRONG THINGS ALL THE TIME-lol Like when I was about to have surgery, she was trying to make me LAUGH but who the hell is in a joking mood when they are scheduled for a operation?-lol My grandmom had enough sense not to try and make me laugh before a surgery. Her heart was in the right place but her MIND was just somewhere else

Solomon, try having a mother that looks you up and down everyday and says, "You know, if you weren't so fat a guy might actually ask you out." When you have that happen, you can come back and talk to me about bad parenting skills.

Solomon, try having a mother that looks you up and down everyday and says, "You know, if you weren't so fat a guy might actually ask you out." When you have that happen, you can come back and talk to me about bad parenting skills.


Well you should have CURSED her out because that statement was beyond stupid

She never had the ability to be supportive. My grandmom does. She just says the WRONG THINGS ALL THE TIME-lol Like when I was about to have surgery, she was trying to make me LAUGH but who the hell is in a joking mood when they are scheduled for a operation?-lol My grandmom had enough sense not to try and make me laugh before a surgery. Her heart was in the right place but her MIND was just somewhere else
Ok, you said it right there, her heart is in the right place but what comes out is not what you want to hear. That doesn't make her bad or lack in parenting skills. Maybe she felt you needed to have your mind taken off your fear of surgery and laughter was her way of doing it. My God Solomon, there are a sh*t load of bad parents out there and so far your mom doesn't sound like she would make that list. She just has her way of dealing with things and communicating with you. Communication skills may be lacking, but if that is the only thing you have to complain abt, count your self DAMN LUCKY AND BLESSED!

Ok, you said it right there, her heart is in the right place but what comes out is not what you want to hear. That doesn't make her bad or lack in parenting skills. Maybe she felt you needed to have your mind taken off your fear of surgery and laughter was her way of doing it. My God Solomon, there are a sh*t load of bad parents out there and so far your mom doesn't sound like she would make that list. She just has her way of dealing with things and communicating with you. Communication skills may be lacking, but if that is the only thing you have to complain abt, count your self DAMN LUCKY AND BLESSED!



Yes her communication skills has always been the main problem. She has a habit of trying to SOLVE MY PROBLEMS QUICKLY instead f hearing me out and that makes a person feel that you don't care. She waas to see a bad mood of mine quickly vanish instead of finding of WHY I"M PISSED

Yes her communication skills has always been the main problem. She has a habit of trying to SOLVE MY PROBLEMS QUICKLY instead f hearing me out and that makes a person feel that you don't care. She waas to see a bad mood of mine quickly vanish instead of finding of WHY I"M PISSED
Try and do what I do with my boyfriend. Before I tell him what is bugging me I say this, "I need to talk to you abt something, BUT I don't want feedback, I don't need advice, I want you to hear me out and just listen. I am bothered by this and I need someone to vent to."

I swear, I have had to tell him that on many occasions just to get him to listen to me and not give me any dumb advice. That is why I rely on my girlfriends to vent to most of the time because they listen without trying to offer me advice.

Well you should have CURSED her out because that statement was beyond stupid

Doesn't do any good, it still happens everyday.

Yes her communication skills has always been the main problem. She has a habit of trying to SOLVE MY PROBLEMS QUICKLY instead f hearing me out and that makes a person feel that you don't care. She waas to see a bad mood of mine quickly vanish instead of finding of WHY I"M PISSED

Ok I still don't see what she has done in the past to deserve such harsh criticism. I've cracked a few jokes when my aunt was about to have surgery. You do it to try to lighten the mood, my uncle is that way, always trying to look at the bright side of a tough situation.

A good friend of mine, mother dropped her off at her dads when she was little and she just never came back to pick her up. She would have rather been with her boyfriend than her child, and she treated my friend like crap also putting her down. And when she got into high school, her mom tried to get back into her life but it was a little too late, the damage was done.

So you haven't shown that your mom has done wrong.

Ok I still don't see what she has done in the past to deserve such harsh criticism. I've cracked a few jokes when my aunt was about to have surgery. You do it to try to lighten the mood, my uncle is that way, always trying to look at the bright side of a tough situation.

A good friend of mine, mother dropped her off at her dads when she was little and she just never came back to pick her up. She would have rather been with her boyfriend than her child, and she treated my friend like crap also putting her down. And when she got into high school, her mom tried to get back into her life but it was a little too late, the damage was done.

So you haven't shown that your mom has done wrong.



Having a regular conversation would have gotten my mind off the surgery. And then I told her not to ask the doctor how long the surgery is in FRONT OF ME because I didn't want to know. She asked him in front of me anyway which caused me to SNAP ON HER in front of the doctor

Try and do what I do with my boyfriend. Before I tell him what is bugging me I say this, "I need to talk to you abt something, BUT I don't want feedback, I don't need advice, I want you to hear me out and just listen. I am bothered by this and I need someone to vent to."

I swear, I have had to tell him that on many occasions just to get him to listen to me and not give me any dumb advice. That is why I rely on my girlfriends to vent to most of the time because they listen without trying to offer me advice.


Here is another example of her poor Communcation Skills


Me: I want to do my laundry but I can't because someone has their stuff in the damm machine and hasn't come downstairs to get them yet

Her: Well why don't you just go to the LAUNDROMAT


LOL

Well, if your mom has been this way all her life, there is no changing it. You can only change HOW YOU REACT TO IT.

Remember the Supremes song, You Can't Hurry Love? I'm only a few years younger than you and don't have a special somebody. I'm OK with it for now because I know a terrific guy is worth the wait. In the meantime, I keep busy with family, church, work, friends, and hobbies. When the time is right, it'll happen. In the meantime, I'm just going to keep having fun.

Having a regular conversation would have gotten my mind off the surgery. And then I told her not to ask the doctor how long the surgery is in FRONT OF ME because I didn't want to know. She asked him in front of me anyway which caused me to SNAP ON HER in front of the doctor


I swear up to the high heavens, you should be glad that she was even there in the first place. I don't know what your idea of a bad parent or mother is.

I know that I'm spoiled, but I think that you're spoiled as well and you're mad because you're not getting your way and you're not hearing what you want to hear.

Just only if you could live a day in someone else’s shoes to see what a real bad parent is.

Here is another example of her poor Communcation Skills


Me: I want to do my laundry but I can't because someone has their stuff in the damm machine and hasn't come downstairs to get them yet

Her: Well why don't you just go to the LAUNDROMAT


LOL
:brent Good For Her!!! You deserve that comment for the way you stated yours!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup:

:brent Good For Her!!! You deserve that comment for the way you stated yours!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup:


I never touched anyone's clothes before when they were in the machine but 3 weeks ago I didnt care and took them out the machine and put my stuff in there because my clothes had to get done THAT DAY since I was off-lol

But do you get it? You stated: I want to do my laundry but I can't because someone has their stuff in the damm machine and hasn't come downstairs to get them yet


Why did you have to be all sarcastic like that? Why not just take the clothes out and put them in a basket or say this, "Mom, I need to do my laundry, what do you want me to do with these clothes?" Men, why do you make things harder than they are? :crazy:

^ Because they're men!! :rolleyes: :lol:

^ Because they're men!! :rolleyes: :lol:
Bingo! Too many guys talk in a way that is so rude at times. Remember this Solomon, IT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY, BUT HOW YOU SAY IT.

Bottom line, if you talk to someone in a certain manner, they will react to that and it may not be the way you like it. ;)

Well geez, she could have said that you'll have to learn to live with it because no one will ever love you. Some moms out there probably would say something like that to their kids. Be fortunate.

Solomon, try having a mother that looks you up and down everyday and says, "You know, if you weren't so fat a guy might actually ask you out." When you have that happen, you can come back and talk to me about bad parenting skills.
Your mom said that to you??

Your mom said that to you??

Yep, every day

Yep, every day
I'm sorry Lauren. That is awful for a parent to say to their child. :(

Hon, I am sorry that your mom would actually say something, so callous to their own daughter. I have seen your pictures, and you are a very beautiful, young lady that has a lot to offer a guy; and trust me, a lot of men out there find a girl, with a little, extra meat on their bones attractive, more so than "these" skinny bitches, who have bodies like a 12 year old boy. Just be you and the right man will come in your life, and love you for being you:)

Aww, that made me cry! Thank you sweetheart! You made my day! :)

Hon, I am sorry that your mom would actually say something, so callous to their own daughter. I have seen your pictures, and you are a very beautiful, young lady that has a lot to offer a guy; and trust me, a lot of men out there find a girl, with a little, extra meat on their bones attractive, more so than "these" skinny bitches, who have bodies like a 12 year old boy. Just be you and the right man will come in your life, and love you for being you:)
I agree. So well put Tara!!!!