Throughout your life what traits did your partner(s) have that really worked? What do you look for in a lover?


Although I haven't really been around the block...


Reliability.

That is the one thing I can think of that, given an absence of, would be a deal breaker.

Reliability and responsibility and maturity. Tenderness and intelligence.

Sense of humor
Reliable
Respectful
Compassionate
Intelligent

of course Intellegence, personality, sence of humor, a good listner and she's gotta be a nice person pretty much most of the ones already listed

-- Sense of humor (pretty much a must for me). I'm more in to the quirky, funny guys.

-- HONESTY! Goddamn, I can't stress this enough. If you're open and sincere, there will be no problems with me. I really appreciate people who don't hide their true selves.

-- Good conversationalist/listener...I like a nice balance of these two traits. It's nice to have someone to talk to for hours, yet can also lend a sympathetic ear.

-- Kindness/respect to people and animals. I don't tolerate idiots, sorry.

-- Common interests...it's nice to have something in common, whether it be our love for creative things or music or whatever!

:yeahthat

Ditto to all the qualities listed above. I'll add good hygiene. I'm serious about that too. Before I met my husband, I broke up with a guy because he didn't shower daily, and he also had a problem locating his toothbrush.

nice smile
good personality
knows how to have a good time

if a girl knows how to have a good time, goes to nightlcubs, knows how to dance, then that's all that matters to me.

i don't need someone who judges me. I had a girl who wanted to change me, conform me into what she wanted me to be, and believe me it sucks. i just want a girl who will want me for me and not want to change me into who she WANTS me to be.

but unfortunately a lot of the girls that I have met have been like that. if I could find a nice girl who likes me for who I am, we would be all set. :D

Good sense of humour
honest
kind
caring
compassionate

he also had a problem locating his toothbrush.

*shudders*

Sense of humor is important to me.

If someone gets my sense of humor, so they know when i am kidding or not.

Also, i adore personality. Someone who is a little more outgoing than I am, since I can be very reserved, brings me out of my shell.

To paraprhase Jack Nicholson in "As Good As It Gets," I want someone who "will make me want to be a better person."

Lots of things, but biggest is just that he can put up with me. I'm annoying and depressed. Real great qualities guys look for.


I dunno...is okay with me being a hermit houseplant. Has a sense of humor. Mature. Not a sex fiend. Knows how to visit a barber/hair stylist. Likes my parents. Is willing to go to a doctor when they are sick. Doesn't make fun of what I watch on TV. Can get along with kids. Has a brain and actually uses it. Doesn't look at me hideously when I get mad at people who don't recycle. Has moderate-low self-esteem (because I do). Can add things for me. Doesn't spend every single weekend going out and getting smashed, only to either drunk call me or puke all over my bathroom. That would make me very angry, and you wouldn't like me when I'm that angry. Doesn't find it odd that I have many stuffed animals and a Cabbage Patch doll that sleep on my bed. I'm a little girl at heart.

Intelligence is the sexiest thing in a woman to me, back in school, while most of the guys were hitting on the "bubbles"., i was always after the "A" student girls. I love a girl I can look in the eye, and who can look at me the same way ( im 5'1" , so, anyone over 5'4" is WAY too tall ! ) Other than that, i cant say that i have any other "prerequisites" in my choices for a woman; all women have their own unique charms.

Nothing super new, but honesty is the most important to me. Otherwise, I look for intelligence, humor (particularly, a nice dry sense of humor), integrity, open, patient, and lol, they have to be able to cook since I can't!!

- Cute face
- Nice ass
- Nice legs
- At least shoulder length hair
- Kind of ghetto
- Hot
- Hot
- Hot
- oh yeah a good personality would be nice, but it doesn't really matter as long as she has the other things.

I've already found my guy but things I looked for (and found);
-Maturity but also knowing how to "let go" and be a complete goof :).
-Good morals
-He needs to not only have -goals- but be out there doing what he needs to do in order to achieve them.
-Strong relationships with his family
-Protective in the caring way not the jealous way.
-Men who have back bones and aren't whipped.
-and of course Honesty

This is a PG-13 site. No vulgar or obscene remarks. I deleted a few posts, so those in violation know who they are.

Ohh just thought of something else....I love creative women..artists , musicians anything of that nature. (I'm the creative type, myself)

mmmm, lets see:

He has to be tall, with pretty eyes. Hilarious, too and not a wussy. Not too skinny either. (I like somethin' I can grab on to. ;)) Athletic, Artistic, strong.

-Intelligence
-Caring
-Kind
-Thoughtful
-Loves Music A Lot
-Nice Dresser (women who only wear t-shirts and jeans don't appeal to me)

Good sense of humor, clean and has to have a good temper. That fits my husband perfectly.

*shudders*
Yeah, lol. I was in my early 20s. I didn't live with him, so didn't know his showering or dental routine until we went away for the weekend. It was then that I noticed that he didn't even bring a toothbrush, lol. Otherwise a nice guy, good job, nice family, etc. No matter though, he was history after that.

Mine - just as anyone would expect: kindness, loyalty, honesty, sweetness, sense of humor. I once dated a guy who failed to mention a minor detail - that he had a wife!! :eek: :angryfire :mad: :mumble: I hated men for a long time after that. Not personally or individually, just in general. All men became HIM. To this day, 6 years later, that whole situation haunts me. But I know that most guys are not like that at all - it just takes one bad apple. But I digress...

A good job/career
goals
great personality
good sense of humor
not taking things so damn seriously
being kind to others
respectful of women
chivalry/being a gentleman
great lover / not being afraid of asking for things or doing things
someone who surprises me
trust
faithfulness
honesty
Not afraid of speaking his mind, but also knowing when NOT to say something
respecting my family/friends
has to love "old school" music, oldies, r&b music, my style of music.
Great dancer
takes care of his health
non-smoking
no over-doing with drinking
caring
likes to travel
loves kids
loves animals
one who can laugh at himself
GREAT KISSER...a man who can kiss great, can do other things GREAT TOO. :lol:

They have to look good, worship me and be less intelligent than me.

A good job/career
goals
great personality
good sense of humor
not taking things so damn seriously
being kind to others
respectful of women
chivalry/being a gentleman
great lover / not being afraid of asking for things or doing things
someone who surprises me
trust
faithfulness
honesty
Not afraid of speaking his mind, but also knowing when NOT to say something
respecting my family/friends
has to love "old school" music, oldies, r&b music, my style of music.
Great dancer
takes care of his health
non-smoking
no over-doing with drinking
caring
likes to travel
loves kids
loves animals
one who can laugh at himself
GREAT KISSER...a man who can kiss great, can do other things GREAT TOO. :lol:
Nice to see that you arent TOO fussy, Irene :rolleyes:

Mine - just as anyone would expect: kindness, loyalty, honesty, sweetness, sense of humor. I once dated a guy who failed to mention a minor detail - that he had a wife!! :eek: :angryfire :mad: :mumble: I hated men for a long time after that. Not personally or individually, just in general. All men became HIM. To this day, 6 years later, that whole situation haunts me. But I know that most guys are not like that at all - it just takes one bad apple. But I digress...
You shouldnt let that one experience ruin your perception of all men, but, I know how you feel, I once had a GF who sent me a pic of herself, she had her arm around a man in the pic....claimed he was her brother, six months later, I found out he was her husband!!! ( I dumped her on the spot, btw )

GREAT KISSER...a man who can kiss great, can do other things GREAT TOO. :lol:
this is not PG-13. :grr:

(BTW, i would like to express my anger over :racist:, :mrtarver:, and pissed: being deleted. !)

this is not PG-13. :grr:

(BTW, i would like to express my anger over :racist:, :mrtarver:, and pissed: being deleted. !)
Yeah lol. My post got deleted and it said pretty much the same thing.

Yeah lol. My post got deleted and it said pretty much the same thing.
I gave you a break and didn't warn you publicly, and now you want to push it. What you wrote was DISGUSTING. I'd advise you to drop the matter ASAP. Otherwise, we'll get TJ's take on the FILTH you posted.

Mine - just as anyone would expect: kindness, loyalty, honesty, sweetness, sense of humor. I once dated a guy who failed to mention a minor detail - that he had a wife!! :eek: :angryfire :mad: :mumble: I hated men for a long time after that. Not personally or individually, just in general. All men became HIM. To this day, 6 years later, that whole situation haunts me. But I know that most guys are not like that at all - it just takes one bad apple. But I digress...

What a jerk. :eek: I hope that you had a little talk with his wife, Monika. I once went out on three dates with a girl who failed to mention that she had a boyfriend. :mad:

What a jerk. :eek: I hope that you had a little talk with his wife, Monika. I once went out on three dates with a girl who failed to mention that she had a boyfriend. :mad:
No, I never met her...but I talked to her on the phone when I called his apartment...that's the first I ever heard of her!!! :eek: That was not a good day. But that's all in the past, thank goodness.

I love creative people, too; actually, I say, majority of the men in my life were musicans:)
yeah, your screename kind of gives that away ;)

No, I never met her...but I talked to her on the phone when I called his apartment...that's the first I ever heard of her!!! :eek: That was not a good day. But that's all in the past, thank goodness.

I'm really sorry that this happened to you, Monika. :( Isn't it a shame that there are so many people in this world who cannot be honest with others? Did this guy actually think that you would never find out that he had a wife? :eek: