I don't know if any of you remember KristenHerreraFan but basically the little bastard won't leave me alone. Every month or so I'll get an IM from him or a "friend" He used to talk to some of my friends here and I about a year ago, and he was a pain in the ass from the start and because we said we wanted nothing to do with him, he got pissed. We clearly stated that we wanted him to leave us alone and finally, though angry, he said he would. But then I get these IM's from him pretending like nothing happened, or just messing with me. He'll say he's someone else but always eventually say it's Travis. I'll yell at him to leave me alone and he just complains about how much he hates us and how much we angered him. I must've gotten at least 5 different SN's from him or people claiming to be a "friend" of his, and each time I tell him to leave me alone. It's starting to creep my out that he won't give up on it. I know most of you will say to change my SN but that is way too much of a pain for me to do. I don't know how to get rid of him, or how to get him to leave me alone. I'm creeped out by this kid...I really DON'T know him, or what he's capable of and I don't want my friends or myself to get hurt. Does anyone have any idea of what I should do?

http://www.haltabuse.org/ < Try this link......its a group that stops online stalkers!!!

Here's what usually works on people like that:

Say in a very firm way: "Travis, I've copied your IM conversations and am forwarding them over to my local police. What you're doing is called stalking and it is illegal. I suggest you stop doing this before you get in to some major trouble".

Usually that works on cowardly people once they know the police might get involved. I hope it works out for the best! :wave:

Here's what usually works on people like that:

Say in a very firm way: "Travis, I've copied your IM conversations and am forwarding them over to my local police. What you're doing is called stalking and it is illegal. I suggest you stop doing this before you get in to some major trouble".

Usually that works on cowardly people once they know the police might get involved. I hope it works out for the best! :wave:
YES!

Here's what usually works on people like that:

Say in a very firm way: "Travis, I've copied your IM conversations and am forwarding them over to my local police. What you're doing is called stalking and it is illegal. I suggest you stop doing this before you get in to some major trouble".

Usually that works on cowardly people once they know the police might get involved. I hope it works out for the best! :wave:


That sounds like good advice.

I'm sorry that you are going though this right now, *Pleasant Tomorrow*.

Here's what usually works on people like that:

Say in a very firm way: "Travis, I've copied your IM conversations and am forwarding them over to my local police. What you're doing is called stalking and it is illegal. I suggest you stop doing this before you get in to some major trouble".

Usually that works on cowardly people once they know the police might get involved. I hope it works out for the best! :wave:
yeah i agree. you definitley need to take action.

Here's what usually works on people like that:

Say in a very firm way: "Travis, I've copied your IM conversations and am forwarding them over to my local police. What you're doing is called stalking and it is illegal. I suggest you stop doing this before you get in to some major trouble".

Usually that works on cowardly people once they know the police might get involved. I hope it works out for the best! :wave:

There ya go. :nod: This is really something you should consider doing. Also, if you're on AIM I'm pretty sure you can use a brand new name (along with the one you already have) then go invisible/private - obviously only give this out to people you know. I know it's gotta be a pain in the butt to go through all of that, but he doesn't need to have any contact with you. Good luck and I hope you're able to resolve this as soon as possible.

Thanks everyone. I actually have told him once that I'd do that, but obviously it hasn't helped. I talked to him a little while ago and I made sure to get his word down clearly that he's never talk to us again...so that next time if he does, I have it all there. I saved it all.

Thanks everyone. I actually have told him once that I'd do that, but obviously it hasn't helped. I talked to him a little while ago and I made sure to get his word down clearly that he's never talk to us again...so that next time if he does, I have it all there. I saved it all.


I sure hope that he gets the hint this time. What is strange is that I remember him posting here and he seemed like he was an okay kid. I never would have guessed that he would have turned out to be that sort of person.

You'll be fine

I sure hope that he gets the hint this time. What is strange is that I remember him posting here and he seemed like he was an okay kid. I never would have guessed that he would have turned out to be that sort of person.
You never know who anyone is. he did seem like an okay kid, but I have no idea why he won't give up on this.

You'll be fine
You never know, I don't want to take chances with this crap. It's not just creepy, it's a pain in the ass.

Would the police even bother to deal with online abuse?

Maybe...maybe not. Sometimes the idea that they might get involved sends people running, though ;) :D


Would the police even bother to deal with online abuse?

Maybe...maybe not. Sometimes the idea that they might get involved sends people running, though ;) :D
Good idea. My daughter is having a problem with a girl who is constantly harassing my daughter on her myspace page. She asked me what she could do and I haven't a clue.

Thanks everyone. I actually have told him once that I'd do that, but obviously it hasn't helped. I talked to him a little while ago and I made sure to get his word down clearly that he's never talk to us again...so that next time if he does, I have it all there. I saved it all.

You're welcome, Ashlee. :) It's going through one ear and out the other, he isn't listening and he obviously doesn't give a damn. After that, don't respond to any more of his IMs, emails - nothing.

Didn't he threaten to kill himself or something once? I just remember he had a very short fuse.

You never know, I don't want to take chances with this crap. It's not just creepy, it's a pain in the ass.
just ignore it...that's what i do

Would the police even bother to deal with online abuse?
They take online stalking more seriously now than they did 10 years ago, so yes. It's called cyberstalking and is serious business. It can be hard to pin down if the stalker in question is under 18 (I think) but as long as you at least have some of the stalker's personal info (if you know of any) it can be useful to the police when opening up a cyberstalking case.

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I'm sure nobody else remembers, but I had a really big problem several years ago with someone from here who would ABSOLUTELY NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. It went on for nearly a year and this person was just relentless. I'm sure most of you guys have an idea of who I'm talking about. It finally came down to the line one day when we both agreed to call a truce, and this person has not stalked me before. I was one of the luckier ones.

They take online stalking more seriously now than they did 10 years ago, so yes. It's called cyberstalking and is serious business. It can be hard to pin down if the stalker in question is under 18 (I think) but as long as you at least have some of the stalker's personal info (if you know of any) it can be useful to the police when opening up a cyberstalking case.

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I'm sure nobody else remembers, but I had a really big problem several years ago with someone from here who would ABSOLUTELY NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. It went on for nearly a year and this person was just relentless. I'm sure most of you guys have an idea of who I'm talking about. It finally came down to the line one day when we both agreed to call a truce, and this person has not stalked me before. I was one of the luckier ones.
Thank you for that info. I never really knew this before. Like I said, my daughter is being harassed by this girl. My daughter is 23 and this girl I believe is the same age. My daughter asked me abt putting a restraining order on her, but I told her that it costs $300 for a civil restraining order, and I don't think a judge would issue a restraining order for harassment on myspace. The only restraining orders I have worked on and prepared documents for are for domestic violence restraining orders, and with those, one has to have had some sort of threat or physical violence done towards them.

I really need to find out more abt this. I learn something new everyday here.

I remember him; he didn't seem too bad either. He stopped posting not that long ago, didn't he? I think he kept complaining that people were being mean to him?

Anyway, I hope you get it sorted out. :)

If you can ascertain his IP address, forward that along with your logs to his ISP. It's almost certainly a violation of their ToS. Most have an e-mail address setup for this sort of things, abuse @ ISP, ect. They really do tend to take abuse complaints seriously, at least in my experience.

I don't know if any of you remember KristenHerreraFan but basically the little bastard won't leave me alone. Every month or so I'll get an IM from him or a "friend" He used to talk to some of my friends here and I about a year ago, and he was a pain in the ass from the start and because we said we wanted nothing to do with him, he got pissed. We clearly stated that we wanted him to leave us alone and finally, though angry, he said he would. But then I get these IM's from him pretending like nothing happened, or just messing with me. He'll say he's someone else but always eventually say it's Travis. I'll yell at him to leave me alone and he just complains about how much he hates us and how much we angered him. I must've gotten at least 5 different SN's from him or people claiming to be a "friend" of his, and each time I tell him to leave me alone. It's starting to creep my out that he won't give up on it. I know most of you will say to change my SN but that is way too much of a pain for me to do. I don't know how to get rid of him, or how to get him to leave me alone. I'm creeped out by this kid...I really DON'T know him, or what he's capable of and I don't want my friends or myself to get hurt. Does anyone have any idea of what I should do?


Dont we have a new Advice Department for this ?:eek: Good Luck...i hate stalkers

Get his/her/it's IP address, go to www.dnsstuff.com and get the abuse email for his/her/it's ISP. Send an email to them.

Thanks again...if he tries this crap again, I'll have to try something.

yeah, we basically told him if he does it again he's in trouble.

if you read his last couple of posts you'll probably see all the "anger" he had toward us (actually he had a lot of anger in general apparently because he fought with a few other people too). i'll admit we were mean to him at first, but we've apologized and he's still bothered us. -_-

What about just blocking his email address, PM, and IM screen names? You usually have the options of deleting and/or blocking. I know this is only handling this situation on a surface level, but it can still help out to a degree until you take some more action to it.

Good idea. My daughter is having a problem with a girl who is constantly harassing my daughter on her myspace page. She asked me what she could do and I haven't a clue.
Is her page private? If not she may want to set her Myspace to "friends only" and/or block the girl who's harassing her. If this girl has a myspace she can also report her.
I'd go with setting it to private though (if she hasn't already). I did that with mine that way I know the only people able to view my stuff and leave comments on my page are my friends.

You never know who anyone is. he did seem like an okay kid, but I have no idea why he won't give up on this.
Someone I know had an online stalker and she reported him to his Internet Provider...usually they will give the person 1 warning and if they continue anyway their accounts will be suspended/cancelled (that's what happened to the guy who was stalking her). You may want to look into that if it continues.

What about just blocking his email address, PM, and IM screen names? You usually have the options of deleting and/or blocking. I know this is only handling this situation on a surface level, but it can still help out to a degree until you take some more action to it.
we block all of his screen names but he makes new ones to contact her/us. he said he has a list of 100 screen names to use when people block him.

we block all of his screen names but he makes new ones to contact her/us. he said he has a list of 100 screen names to use when people block him.

If that's the case, then you can just set AIM to not allow anyone to contact you if they're not on your buddy list. Mine's set up that way b/c I got sick of bots IMing me to advertise porn. :mad:

- Kristen

I had a similar situation like this with a member once. It wasn't to this extreme, but to an extent I can definitely relate to what you're going through *Pleasant Tomorrow*. With me, the person eventually got the hint and left me alone, but it was sure annoying when it was going on. I hope the issue is resolved for you soon as well. Hang in there!! :)

I had a similar situation like this with a member once. It wasn't to this extreme, but to an extent I can definitely relate to what you're going through *Pleasant Tomorrow*. With me, the person eventually got the hint and left me alone, but it was sure annoying when it was going on. I hope the issue is resolved for you soon as well. Hang in there!! :)
I said I was sorry for that! I stopped when you got the restraining order, didn't I? What else can I say. Shesh.

;)

I said I was sorry for that! I stopped when you got the restraining order, didn't I? What else can I say. Shesh.

;)

:lol:

Would the police even bother to deal with online abuse?

LOL very true cant see that happening!!

LOL very true cant see that happening!!
they deal with it a lot. abuse is abuse, the method is irrelevant. you can't group in everyday teasing with death threats, sexual abuse, slander, and invasion of privacy.

I said I was sorry for that! I stopped when you got the restraining order, didn't I? What else can I say. Shesh.

;)

:rofl::rotflmao:

If that's the case, then you can just set AIM to not allow anyone to contact you if they're not on your buddy list. Mine's set up that way b/c I got sick of bots IMing me to advertise porn. :mad:

- Kristen
Yeah, that's a good idea! There are usually options of ONLY receiving IMs from the people in your contact list. If they're not in your contact list, then you will not receive the IMs, Ashlee.

we block all of his screen names but he makes new ones to contact her/us. he said he has a list of 100 screen names to use when people block him.
Wow...that's a bit extreme to do that! I think there is just WAY too much time on this kid's hands to be creating this many names. Sheesh! He needs to get a better hobby than this. ohno:

they deal with it a lot. abuse is abuse, the method is irrelevant. you can't group in everyday teasing with death threats, sexual abuse, slander, and invasion of privacy.


Exactly - also it's considered "bullying" and I don't know about the States, but they're sure cracking down on it here. There was a huge thing in the news a few months ago about kids posting stuff about their teachers and principals on Facebook and they were suspended along with a lot of other punishment. The cops are starting to take this stuff seriously - and so they should I think.

we block all of his screen names but he makes new ones to contact her/us. he said he has a list of 100 screen names to use when people block him.

Well that's just creepy! There's someone else on here that does that too (actually, there are probably hundreds, huh?). One time they got banned on another board for harassing people and then they came on here and defended themselves in the 3rd person, like "hey, did you see what they did to so-and-so on that other board?'. SO banned the person but they kept coming back. Too much free time and Internet access is a bad combination for the nut cases out there. :rolleyes:

I said I was sorry for that! I stopped when you got the restraining order, didn't I? What else can I say. Shesh.

;)
:rofl:

Well that's just creepy! There's someone else on here that does that too (actually, there are probably hundreds, huh?). One time they got banned on another board for harassing people and then they came on here and defended themselves in the 3rd person, like "hey, did you see what they did to so-and-so on that other board?'. SO banned the person but they kept coming back. Too much free time and Internet access is a bad combination for the nut cases out there. :rolleyes:

yeah having time to make that many screen names is creppy....I've never been stalked by an SO member but I had an long distance relationship once and once we broke it off, once I broke it off, it tooke like 6 months for him to get over it...I probably changed my email about 10 times but he kept finding it....I'm so glad thats over *Pleasant Tomorrow* I hope your situation is getting better

Ireneparalegal theres only one of two things your daughter can do, set her profile to private, or just make a whole new myspace accout, my sister went through this not too long ago. she ended up deleting her account and making a new one and her new once is private.

Well, so far he's left me alone. Hopefully it's for good this time, but if not thanks for your guys' advice again. :)

Well, so far he's left me alone. Hopefully it's for good this time, but if not thanks for your guys' advice again. :)

Well thats good, hope it stays that way

Exactly - also it's considered "bullying" and I don't know about the States, but they're sure cracking down on it here. There was a huge thing in the news a few months ago about kids posting stuff about their teachers and principals on Facebook and they were suspended along with a lot of other punishment. The cops are starting to take this stuff seriously - and so they should I think.
I saw that on Global Edmonton yesterday. Some girl said if her Facebook group got 200 members or something, she'd kick her teacher so she ended up expelled from the school and her parents weren't happy.

I take it she won't be on Facebook anytime soon. ;)

BTW Facebook rocks!