I would only get involved by calling the police if I thought I needed to. No way would I get in the middle of that and get hurt over someone else's problems. I guess that sounds selfish but unless I could attack him with my pepper spray (which I do carry, thank you) I wouldn't try.

When I see things like that, I call the police. Never get in that mess, the male (or female) may have a weapon. Also, one of them may get mad at you for getting involved to begin with and take it out on you instead.

Id get involved if the guy was hitting the women because thats just wrong.Otherwise its there buisness so i guess leave them to it.

Id get involved if the guy was hitting the women because thats just wrong.Otherwise its there buisness so i guess leave them to it.
Same here I would call the police then seperate the guy from the woman.

Remember, if you get involved and the police show up you will be a witness and later subpoened. By then the victim may recant the whole thing. There are times the victim will recant right then and there when the police show up. Be prepared to give the details and then have the police let both of them go because it was your word against theirs.

Remember, if you get involved and the police show up you will be a witness and later subpoened. By then the victim may recant the whole thing. There are times the victim will recant right then and there when the police show up. Be prepared to give the details and then have the police let both of them go because it was your word against theirs.
Yeah but at least i tryed to of stopped the guy from beating his wife or whatever,when these situations accur you dont think about that you just help the person in need.;) Whatever happens after happens.

Yeah but at least i tryed to of stopped the guy from beating his wife or whatever,when these situations accur you dont think about that you just help the person in need.;) Whatever happens after happens.
True. And I commend people for even helping. So many people just look the other way. You see crimes being committed and people just gawking.

Id get involved if the guy was hitting the women because thats just wrong.

That's true, but it's wrong for women to hit men as well. There shouldn't be violence in a relationship.

We don't hear about them so much, but there are man cases where it's the man suffering abuse.

That's true, but it's wrong for women to hit men as well. There shouldn't be violence in a relationship.

We don't hear about them so much, but there are man cases where it's the man suffering abuse.
Yes thats true i was going to put that in with what ive said before hand its not right for either sex to abuse,but i have to say that a man can do more harm to a women than a women can do to a man...am i right??? Plus its rare you hear a women hitting on a man.

Yes thats true i was going to put that in with what ive said before hand its not right for either sex to abuse,but i have to say that a man can do more harm to a women than a women to a man...am i right???
Depends. A woman's hit in the face may not be as hard as a man's fist in a woman's face, however, the emotional and mental abuse is just as damaging. Not only that, women can use items as a weapon, not just their hands.

Depends. A woman's hit in the face may not be as hard as a man's fist in a woman's face, however, the emotional and mental abuse is just as damaging. Not only that, women can use items as a weapon, not just their hands.
Yes very true also mental abuse!! yes i agree also.

About 15 years or so ago, there was a very sad story here. It was New Years Eve, and the bars were just letting out in Cambridge, Mass. A guy starting hitting on his wife. An innocent bystander stepped in to help, and the nut stabbed him to death. I recall that the guy who died had about five or six kids. So no, don't get involved but always call the police.

About 15 years or so ago, there was a very sad story here. It was New Years Eve, and the bars were just letting out in Cambridge, Mass. A guy starting hitting on his wife. An innocent bystander stepped in to help, and the nut stabbed him to death. I recall that the guy who died had about five or six kids. So no, don't get involved but always call the police.
Geez!! you think your doing the right thing but bang!! that story is very sad its upset me! :(

as much it sounds tempting, the answer to that would be, no i wouldn't. as firstly, it's none of my business, unless the incident or situation resulted in me getting involved and secondly, i would worry if he physically lashed out in retaliation. regardless of whether it is a man hitting a woman or a woman hitting a man, it's unacceptable. and besides, as a woman myself, it is wrong to accept the idea of a woman hitting a man and yet not condemn the idea of a man hitting a woman. both instances are wrong and neither one of them should therefore be excused

Yes thats true i was going to put that in with what ive said before hand its not right for either sex to abuse,but i have to say that a man can do more harm to a women than a women can do to a man...am i right??? Plus its rare you hear a women hitting on a man.

I'm not sure. I know men are supposed to be physically stronger than women, but not all of them are. I've seen some boys/men that don't look too physically strong at all.

No, I would not get involved. It's none of my business and I would quickly leave.

No, I would not get involved. It's none of my business and I would quickly leave.

Same here. As Irene said in an earlier post, the arguing couple could easily turn on you. There is no reason to get involved in someone else's public drama. Call the Police.

I'd make some popcorn and let them duke it out. I'm not getting hurt or involved with the police for their problems.

That's true, but it's wrong for women to hit men as well.
exactly, deciding what action to take based on what gender is doing the hitting is just stupid. men aren't always stronger.

I would Domestic abuse or just fighting gets to me. I would call the police.

No, but I would call 911 on the cell phone.

I wouldn't unless it was violent.

About 15 years or so ago, there was a very sad story here. It was New Years Eve, and the bars were just letting out in Cambridge, Mass. A guy starting hitting on his wife. An innocent bystander stepped in to help, and the nut stabbed him to death. I recall that the guy who died had about five or six kids. So no, don't get involved but always call the police.
See...^^^^^^ That's what I was saying. :crazy:

No I wouldn't get involved. You don't know what kind of nut you're dealing with.

Depending on the circumstances, absolutely 100% I would. For about 3 years I had to live with an incredibly abusive step father, I despise men who hit women.

About 6 years ago one of my neighbours was screaming for help as her boyfriend was attacking her. I did go into the house and get involved, although she refused to press charges when the police got there. Fortunately there is a law in Canada where the police can press charges for domestic violence and they did arrest him. He tried to charge me with excessive force but it never stuck.

2 years ago I got invloved when a man was beating up his girlfriend in front of a 7-11. What pissed me off to know end was that she was screaming for help and at least 5 guys bigger than me just stood back and watched it. Of course once I got involved and made a citizens arrest, then all of a sudden every one offered to help.

I guess to each his own but for me it bothers me how people have just learned to turn a blind eye. Personally I would rather be injured trying to help someone than live with the guilt of walking away especially if you find out the person was seriously injured or killed.

I do admit with the gang swarmings and more people carrying weapons these days I am certainly cautious and would not run in full force but I would hope that if it were my sister or niece being attacked that there would be more people that would try to help than sit back and watch it happen.

There was a famous case back in the 60s where a woman's cries for help were ignored, as she was murdered. The Kitty Genovese story, very sad indeed.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitty_Genovese

[QUOTE=Janice]There was a famous case back in the 60s where a woman's cries for help were ignored, as she was murdered. The Kitty Genovese story, very sad indeed.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitty_Genovese[/QUO


Exactly if i heard a cry for help from a man or women and didnt help them then the next day i read that one of those people have been killed id feel terrible! truly i would so id try my best to help either. ;)

if he was hitting her

I stay out of stranger's problems...their problem, not mine.

It would depend. If it got physical, I would call the cops for sure. I would hesitate to approach them myself though I have to admit. As TJL said, they could easily turn on you and you never know who's armed these days.

Look at what happened in Australia today - a man and woman fighting in the street, he drags her by her hair into a cab or something, bystanders started to get involved and he opened fire killing an innocent person.

Years ago I might have gotten directly involved, but these days there's just too many whackjobs out there to be able to feel safe.

get involved by calling the police, if it looked like he was hurting her

That happend to my friend and I one time on our morning break these 2 couple's were agruing really loud and saying harsh words to each other... , we walked really fast back to our building lol..:lol: We don't trust anyone down where we work they are a bunch of freaks down there:eek:

I have and would get involved again. I know I am probably crazy for doing so, but something in me just can't stand by and watch someone getting abused.

I would only get involved by calling the police if I thought I needed to. No way would I get in the middle of that and get hurt over someone else's problems. I guess that sounds selfish but unless I could attack him with my pepper spray (which I do carry, thank you) I wouldn't try.


i would just keep going where i'm going

I wouldn't get involved.

I would want to help them but I would be afraid of them turning on me and hurting me...

Im not a violent boy... Im very loving and caring to be honest :)