How many of you have ever had a crush (or gotten involved) with someone from work? Did/do you find it to be a good or bad experience? Do you think it's a good idea to get involved with someone you work with?

I've had many, many crushes on people I've worked with over the years at various jobs, but nothing comes close to the crush I have on this new guy working with me now. I'm absolutely smitten with this guy. He's adorable, funny, smart, sarcastic, and my type of guy overall...

Thing is, he already has a girlfriend :( (Although he hardly mentions her, not even when a few other girls told him I had a crush on him). I don't know what to do...I know he's essentially hands off, but I can't help wanting to be with him...this hurts! :(

How do you feel about work-related love interests in general? You can answer this even if you haven't had the experience with it yet :) I'm genuinely curious.

I can honestly reply I've never had an actual "crush" on a co-worker, but everyone I've ever known who has had a crush on a co-worker has always come to regret it...it's great while you like the person and if it's reciprocated and all...but when you break up or whatnot, it's just awkward.

it can be a good idea if everyone stayed out of your business. but because it's on the job, that's not likley. I dated on the job, and everyone knew about it. I don't like it when everyone's in my personal life who I work with.

I had a crush on a girl on my current job. she had a boyfriend. but she seemed interested in me by always smiling at me, speaking first thing in the morning, and looking at my through a crowd. I was about to make my move when she got laid off. though I didn't want her to cheat on her boyfriend, but I liked her.

Your situation sounds like mine, Garfield. I don't want him to cheat, of course...but he just jokes and teases with me to the point of me thinking I may have a chance. I don't know whether it's just him being funny, or he's flirting with me...I'm clueless.

And, I'll say it again, but he never once mentioned he had a girlfriend when some girls told him I was crushing on him. I wonder why? And he stands close to me, looks at me a lot, and does really cute things to make me think he's flirting. I am confused! :confused:

Tdf, I agree that it can get hard when the break-up occurs...what an awkward situation!

it can be a good idea if everyone stayed out of your business. butm because it's on the job, that's not likley. I dated on the job, and everyone knew about it. I don't like it when everyone's in my personal life who I work with.

I had a crush on a girl on my current job. she had a boyfriend. but she seemed intereste in me by always smiling at me, speaking first thing in the morning, and looking at my through a crowd. I was about to make my move when she got laid off. though I didn't want her to cheat on her boyfriend, but I liked her.

ehhh...risky business

Bad idea!! I'm the type who needs to separate work life and personal life. I've never been in this situation, but I've had co-workers that have dated and in almost every case, it ended badly and affected the work. The one couple who stuck it out only did so after the girl quit and went to work somewhere else. She didn't want the relationship to suffer due to work. They were smart - it's been over 6 years and last I heard, they were still together.

It's a bad idea overall. There are some success stories, but when you are young and the last thing you are thinking of is marriage, 9 out of 10 times it ends badly.

If he cheats on his girlfriend with you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you when someone "better" comes along? You don't need to feel awkward at work.

I had a crush on a guy I worked with once. Not sure why, guess just cuz he was more that stupid "bad boy" type. And I thought the bosses were too hard on him. But alas, he was married and smoked. And a part of a job that totally ruined a year or more of my life.

Bad idea. Bad, bad, bad idea...

I don't know. I had a horrid experience. But my old boss actually married a co-worker last year. So far so good, and they are expecting their first child in August.

So I know it can work. But I don't think I'll do it again. Ever hear the saying "Don't **** where you eat"?

Indeed...

See... my issue is, work is my life. Insert a co-worker love interest in that, it does nothing but complicate everything-- in my experience.

When a relationship goes bad, it interferes in my own job performance, and my enjoyment slips.

Not worth it.

A very bad idea if either, or both parties are married to someone already, as if that needs to be said. If both are single and available, and they like each other, I don't see any problem with it at all.

The only way it could possibly present problems, is if it's a boss/worker relationship; that's why some organizations (like the military) have a no fraternization rule. Things could get 'political': promotions, raises, accusations of favoritism and so forth.

I'm programmed to just have SEXUAL ATTRACTION toward co-workers not the kind of attraction where I would want to go out on a Date

Bad idea. Something goes sour and then it's completely awkward trying to work around them, trying not to bring up or have anyone else bring up what's going on between you two. I have a girl like that at work now, we're completely done and she's getting the silent treatment right now from me. Awkward around other people to leave her out of the conversations and not answer her when she's talking to me, yes, but that peice of trash isn't worth quitting my job for, so this is the next best solution. :)

I'm starting to get his thing for another girl at work but I'm not going to pursue it. I don't need more people with their stupid little gossiping and backtalking around. So all in all, stare all you want at the merchandise, just don't touch it. You'll save yourself the trouble.

It's a bad idea. Avoid them at all costs.

I've had The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.


Don't do it! You'll end up living with Ugly! ;)

Aw, Kristel! Was this the guy you were talking about this past weekend? I'm sorry he has a girlfriend. I really feel for you. It's never easy. :(

I've never really had a crush on co-workers. For one thing, most of my co-workers are older in age or are females. There have been some good-looking part time male co-worker instructors, but they never became a crush. Some female co-workers and I have just briefly talked about how good-looking they are. Nothing more.

On the other hand, I did have several crushes over the male students around my age. I have only approached two of them with not much success after asking them out. :( The nice thing about working in computer classrooms is that I get to scope out the guys in the computer classes. :lol: Even so, this does not make it any easier either.

Gee,ihave a huge crush on a guy that i work with ive had it for years whenever i speak to him i end up saying something stupid!! They are horrible i wish mine would go really i do.:(

Hey Mona,

Yeah, it's the same guy :( I was foolish for getting my hopes up. Besides, he's probably not going to be at my job much longer because he plans on moving to Europe over the summer--so I'm pretty much doomed either way.

Eh, I guess I better stop lusting over him then :lol:

Thanks for your input, everyone :)

The fact that he's probably leaving is a very good thing - the best thing that could happen in a no-win situation. Keep your chin up, Kristel! :bighug:

Story of my life lol. Though right now its working in my favor and I am soooo happy. People talk, whatever, it cant be avoided. There are far worse rumors that could be spread, and atleast this one is true lol.