bi or a lesbian/gay & they found out? I've always found myself kind of liking girls in a different way, but it wasn't til just a couple months ago I found out I was truly bi bc I had a crush on one of my friends & started being obsessed w/ her. And as u can tell by my avatar & signature, I REALLY like Gina Glocksen from American Idol....I think she's a great singer, but I also like like her a lot! I talk about her ALL THE TIME & I never stop looking up stuff about her & thinking about her & it drives my family crazy & they get really mad. Yesterday one of my sisters, one of the last people in the world I would want to find out, told me she knows I'm bi....she just could tell by how much I like & obsess over Gina. I hope my parents don't see that....but I'm so afraid if they'll find out or my sister will tell on me! I can't help it that I feel this way....you can't help who you fall in love with! If my parents found out I'm bi, they would be soo mad, probably never let me hang out with any of my friends again, take away my computer, send me to a Christian school, and oh so much more!

I don't think my dad would have understood what it means to be gay/lesbian. He was an old-fashioned man. He would never had judged either. He probably would have believed it to be a choice in life. Not that you are born that way.

I love my parents very much, and they did an excellent job raising three children. All 3 of us still go to church now that we're adults (practically none of their friends can say that), and we all have steady jobs, etc.

If it were me, I know my mom and dad wouldn't be thrilled about it. But I do know that they love me and that they would find a way to deal with it. They also know that I'm 27 and can make my own choices, so it's a bit different than being a teenager in this position. So I hope that you can find a trusting adult friend to confide in. Keep us posted!

My mom and dad has always been my biggest supporters. My dad is always saying that I can do anything, and my mom is the voice of reason. I can always come to her for advice.

That said, I think I'd have the biggest problem with my mom. But I know that they will always support me. Both of them.

I'm lucky.

My mom would be behind me 100%. Yes, she would be shocked at first, but then she would get over it. She knows it's my life, my decisions, etc.
She tells my sibs and me all the time that she will ALWAYS stand behind us 100%, even though she won't necessarily agree w/ our life decisions. But she just wants us to be happy for ourselves, and to learn from our mistakes. As long as we don't suddenly become serial killers, we're on great terms with her. lol

My dad -- well. He's a LOT more conservative. He wouldn't approve of it, I'm sure. I just thought about it for a minute, and I realized I don't think my dad has any friends who are out of the closet in that regard, whereas my mom does. But then he would get over it, I think, and realize the same thing as my mom... He'd just be more vocal about it.

That's not something I ever have to worry about, because I know I am straight as a pole. I have a harder time with my parents accepting the fact that I am really good friends w/ a guy who will be turning 30 in October (I'll turn 22 before he turns 30, though) AND is in the military, to boot. Heh. That's life for ya.

I think my mom would be more okay with it than my dad would be.

I don't think they'll be too happy about it espically my religious grandma. But they'll still love & respect who I am.

My mom and dad would probably disown me. They're not to keen on the whole Lesbian and Gay world.

My parents are pretty religious & go to church & sunday school every Sunday, so I really don't think they would support my idea....if they didn't yell at me, I know they would at least probably talk to me & tell my pastor, and maybe even not let me hang out with my girlfriends. I know they wouldn't just let the whole thing go, like "Oh....you like girls? Oh, that's ok, hun...we still love u & will support you. You can always talk to us & we'll understand."

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?
not in the least. there is nothing wrong with the way God made you. :)

Well, I am a bisexual female, but I haven't really told many people yet (a couple of my close friends know). I've never been in a relationship with another girl, but the feelings are there...I guess you could call me more bi-curious.

But, anyway, I think my parents would be disappointed in me. My mom would probably be the first to accept it (after her initial disappointment faded...because I know it would). My dad would probably be angry at first, but would eventually get over it. I don't think they'd let my sexual orientation ruin our relationship. I'm still their child.

Still, I don't think I'm ever going to tell them....I'm just more comfortable this way :)

i'm a proud lesbian. :)

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

A lot of people have different opinions on that. But personally I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You can't help the way you feel.

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

Hell no!!!

H-e-l-l NO.

Girl, there's enough guilt in this world. Don't go looking for it.

There will be people who don't agree with your preference. There will be people who hate you. There will be people who support you 100%. I can't tell you whether that would be your family. But the important thing is that you do what's right for you. In the end, you can't make anybody happy if you don't first make yourself happy.

Thanks, guys! :) If my parents do find out one day or sometime soon, I'm still not gonna change who I am just for them....it took me a while to finally get it in my head that I can't keep trying to please everyone make them happy! lol...I told my closest friends & they were all cool about it.

You wouldn't believe how many gays, bis, and lesbians are hiding in the church. Especially the evangelical ones.

i'm a proud lesbian. :)
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You wouldn't believe how many gays, bis, and lesbians are hiding in the church. Especially the evangelical ones.

Whenever I go to youth group at church, I always wonder if I'm the only one who's not straight....I would never tell anyone at my church, especially my youth pastor! Whenever we talk about dating there, he always mentions that u need to find someone of the opposite sex to marry....but I just wanna get married to & date whoever I want.

You wouldn't believe how many gays, bis, and lesbians are hiding in the church. Especially the evangelical ones.

It's not like they'd have any other choice but to hide... If they want to worship in peace, they can't come out in the religious community. It's really sad.

Where I live, there is a very large open gay community. It's one of the things about the city I'm proud of. Now, it does seem to limit the options for us straight people, but only in my pessimistic, lonely mind's eye. :lol: Otherwise, I'm just glad people can live as they choose without fear.

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omg...I knew this would happen! My sisters found out I'm bi & they just told my mom!! :eek: My mom's really mad & said she'll talk to me later about it. I'm sooo scared!! :( I wish I had a more supportive family who would let me be who I wanna be! There's nothing really wrong with being bi or a lesbian!! More girls than guys like me, anyway!

omg...I knew this would happen! My sisters found out I'm bi & they just told my mom!! :eek: My mom's really mad & said she'll talk to me later about it. I'm sooo scared!! :( I wish I had a more supportive family who would let me be who I wanna be! There's nothing really wrong with being bi or a lesbian!! More girls than guys like me, anyway!
tell your mom she is an ugly hick and then move to Missouri.

tell your mom she is an ugly hick and then move to Missouri.

lol really, this is serious!

omg...I knew this would happen! My sisters found out I'm bi & they just told my mom!! :eek: My mom's really mad & said she'll talk to me later about it. I'm sooo scared!! :( I wish I had a more supportive family who would let me be who I wanna be! There's nothing really wrong with being bi or a lesbian!! More girls than guys like me, anyway!

I'm sorry. Just be honest. And don't let her make you feel guilty. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty.

Good luck.

http://www.manpg.co.uk/tell_parents.htm

http://www.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html

http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/ss/comingout_5.htm

I love how supportive this community is! I had been away for some time, and I had forgotten.

Ya'll rock! :rock:

omg I'm so mad....my sisters just told my parents that I was bi & they got soo mad!! They took both my cell phone & computer away (I'm at my parents work computer right now) and said I don't get them back for a long time. They're mad bc I'm talking like that & because I was so obsessed w Gina like that! :rolleyes: Stupid stuff like that....I can't wait til I'm 18 & move out....I can't stand my parents!!!

Hopefully I can get on sometime soon, somewhere! :( :wave:

omg I'm so mad....my sisters just told my parents that I was bi & they got soo mad!! They took both my cell phone & computer away (I'm at my parents work computer right now) and said I don't get them back for a long time. They're mad bc I'm talking like that & because I was so obsessed w Gina like that! :rolleyes: Stupid stuff like that....I can't wait til I'm 18 & move out....I can't stand my parents!!!

Hopefully I can get on sometime soon, somewhere! :( :wave:
they're punishing you for being who you are? That's not right.

omg I'm so mad....my sisters just told my parents that I was bi & they got soo mad!! They took both my cell phone & computer away (I'm at my parents work computer right now) and said I don't get them back for a long time. They're mad bc I'm talking like that & because I was so obsessed w Gina like that! :rolleyes: Stupid stuff like that....I can't wait til I'm 18 & move out....I can't stand my parents!!!

Hopefully I can get on sometime soon, somewhere! :( :wave:
from what you've posted about them your parents sound immature, close-minded and clueless. they really should take some kind of parenting classes, clearly they need it.

Okay, I'm going to add this in because it's been bothering me. All I can say is be careful and make sure you're not jumping to conclusions. You seemed to decide pretty quickly that you were bi. I mean, you're 15...how many people at that age are confused when it comes to that stuff. You could turn out to be straight, or maybe not...but if you're deciding this quickly that you are, chances are it COULD be a phase. Maybe not, I'm not you I don't know. Just take some time out to think about it, have you always felt that way towards girls or is it just a feeling you're suddenly feeling? There's this thing called hormones, they screw up human emotion pretty bad, especially when you're a teenager.

That aside, for now just be who you feel you are. Don't let you're parents tell you who you are because they can't know, they're not you. All parents do what they think is right for their kids, and some just happen to be a little close-minded and think what is right isn't. Bear with it, it'll be hard. They don't understand anymore than you do. Don't let them hurt you, just listen to what they have to say and maturely disagree. Don't let it destroy you.

Okay, I'm going to add this in because it's been bothering me. All I can say is be careful and make sure you're not jumping to conclusions. You seemed to decide pretty quickly that you were bi. I mean, you're 15...how many people at that age are confused when it comes to that stuff. You could turn out to be straight, or maybe not...but if you're deciding this quickly that you are, chances are it COULD be a phase. Maybe not, I'm not you I don't know. Just take some time out to think about it, have you always felt that way towards girls or is it just a feeling you're suddenly feeling? There's this thing called hormones, they screw up human emotion pretty bad, especially when you're a teenager.

That aside, for now just be who you feel you are. Don't let you're parents tell you who you are because they can't know, they're not you. All parents do what they think is right for their kids, and some just happen to be a little close-minded and think what is right isn't. Bear with it, it'll be hard. They don't understand anymore than you do. Don't let them hurt you, just listen to what they have to say and maturely disagree. Don't let it destroy you.yeah, i agree with this post 100%. i'd wait a while before you claimed yourself to be lesbian/bi. having a crush on a girl at 15 doesn't nessacarily make you a lesbian (or even bi).

from what you've posted about them your parents sound immature, close-minded and clueless. they really should take some kind of parenting classes, clearly they need it.
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Yeah, I mean, like ot's just not right that they have to do that, I mean, you're bein who ya wanan be and theyre not doing that, thats just crappy, I mean are they like homophobic or something?

yeah, i agree with this post 100%. i'd wait a while before you claimed yourself to be lesbian/bi. having a crush on a girl at 15 doesn't nessacarily make you a lesbian (or even bi).
I second that agreement :D

My family took it the same way sweetie when I came out about being gay 4 years ago, and they still have hardly anything to do with me. And the only reason I am still at home is because my parents are in fragile health and to help them out. But I plan on moving eventually. But if it wasn't for my parents, I would have nothing to do with my family .

A lot of people have different opinions on that. But personally I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You can't help the way you feel.No and if ya try to fight it,you will make yourself mentally sick.......

Nothing wrong with being open minded enough to be able to love the same sex....... Its beautiful :)

is it really wrong to be bi/lesbian?

For any given individual, I believe they have as much right to think it is "wrong", as another person has to believe it is "okay".

All this groupthink garbage where since some people believe it is okay, then everyone else is obligated to feel similar....is what is REALLY wrong.

I don't care who or what you "do, just don't tell me that I am obliged to approve.

Specific to the original premise of this thread, I believe that "Bi" is just a story that gheys tell their mothers to keep her from crying.

Ah man!!