I heard on Maxim radio on Sirius yesterday, there was a survey/poll where 70 percent of people were ok with women proposing marriage. First of all, I don't believe in polls unless a survey asks EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN AMERICA. Asking just certain people doesn't make sense, so that 70 percent figure seems rather flaky to me.

As for the actual question, I don't believe it should be the woman asking simply because too many women who are desperate for marriage will ask men to marry them. I seen a reality show where a camera crew followed a woman who wanted to propose marriage to her long-time boyfriend. He didn't want to get married, etc. He made it clear, so she figured if she did it on camera with his family and her family there, he will have to say YES. To me, that is entrapment and the look on the poor man's face as he said "Yes" to her was obvious he was not happy and while she was happy and jumping for joy, he was in the background with this stupid grin on his face.

Then again, if a woman proposes marriage and a man turns her down, that should be enough embarrasment for the woman to not do that again.

If the woman really loves the man I see nothing wrong with her proposing. It's just traditional for a man to propose. But if you want to get married and you're in love with the person, I see nothing wrong with it.

I proposed to my current boyfriend once a long time ago but unfortunately he said (no) but we're still together and talk about it from time to time. Maybe the next time it will be him to ask me. Regardless, I don't see a problem with a woman doing it. I hope that one day; we will get married to make it official.

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I don't see any problem with it at all.

I dont see the big deal. We're no longer in the 50's.

Yes if the women wants too.

I think it depends on the couple. I don't see anything wrong with it though.

i don't see why not, but i never would. i'm a hopeless romantic who would rather have the guy propose super-romantic like to me!

Normally I'm a traditionalist and I think the guy should ask,

however...

Just last weekend I changed my mind. My sister has been with her boyfriend for four years, and every single holiday for the past 2 years she's been expecting a ring. It was her birthday 2 weeks ago and she told me she was disappointed that he hadn't asked her. I finally got so sick of it that I told her to just ask him. He is just stringing her along and I told her she's better off knowing for sure, rather than every holiday/birthday/special event she's getting her hopes up. I'm not talking about her getting down on one knee, but just asking him point blank, "Do you want to marry me?" Cuz I don't think he's being very respectful to her in leading her on like that. She wants to get married, and if he doesn't, I think she's better off knowing.

hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!

hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!

Like I told my sis, better to be hurt once and know where you stand rather than spend 2 years waiting.

And the guys need to understand something: when a girl is waiting for you to propose, it's never just her. She's complaining to her family, her friends, her coworkers even, that she's waiting for the ring.

My sister's boyfriend gave her a ring over a year ago. It was a saphire and had no promise/proposal that went with it. My brother and I call it a "shut-up ring."

I don't see a problem with that

I don't really think it's a big deal.What does it matter who proposes to whom?

I really don't think it is that big of a deal.

It's 2007, not 1957. I don't see a problem although, I'd rather a guy ask ME.

It doesn't matter to me what other women do, but this woman would never propose. Old-fashioned, I guess. To each his own.

nooooooooooooooo.

definitely a traditionalist on this one.

the guy should ask the girl.

hmm idk....I would be too scared to do it, but I guess if a girl REALLY, truly thinks her bf will say yes, then I guess it wouldn't hurt to try and ask. But I still think it's a little risky cause if he says no, then it'll really hurt & embarrass her!
What about the guy? He could just as equally face the same risk, embarrassment, and rejection as the girl would? It's a lose-lose situation on either end. However, it's all about chances in life no matter which individual it is.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with the female asking. That is, if she wants to propose to him. It is also up to each individual involved. Maybe the guy in a given romantic relationship would prefer him to propose. Maybe another guy would prefer the female be spontaneous and surprise him. No two people are alike.

I think if the woman is fully aware of the relationship and knows that her man loves her, than by all means, go for it. I just am traditional as far as proposals are concerned. I would also think that a woman with lots of money or has a great career that brings her lots of $$$ would be in the position to propose since she has a lot to risk if the marriage fails.