I won't try and make this a debate but I informed my cousin I will be laid off on 6/30/06/ It's not a definite thing yet but it looks like it so yesterday she emailed and says-"HOW IS THE JOB SEARCH GOING?

Now let me just say I received this news on my birthday(june22nd) and it' only been 3 days so why would she email me and ask how the job search is going? How many of you would want to hear that question if you were unemployed? I see i'm going to have to tell my family DON"T ASK ME HOW THE JOB SEARCH IS GOING. It makes sense for me to let the family know if I found another job instead of being ASKED if I found one. My cousin seemed like she didn't take my comment too well after I expressed how I felt.

i didn't bother reading your post because more than likely you said something rude and there is no convincing you that you may be wrong or are indeed wrong. :wave:

It depends on the email and what you said and how you said it. If you said "Don't ask me how my job search is going" then yeah I would take it the wrong way.

The simplest solution would be to say "nothing yet, but I'll let you know when I land one. You answered the question but in a friendly way said "no need to ask again as I'll let you know" Oherwise you can come across confrontational. She didn't mean any harm so need need to put up a bridge.

Harvey

I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female.


Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again! :lol:

I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female.


Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again! :lol:
:rofl:




No, I wouldn't want to hear that question, but I'd just do what lilhave said and just say I'll let you know. Some people are real gung ho about getting those resumes out right away, some people aren't. Maybe she thought you were the former.

So Solomon, how is the job hunting going? :lol:


Seriously, it would bother the heck out of me too.

It depends on the email and what you said and how you said it. If you said "Don't ask me how my job search is going" then yeah I would take it the wrong way.


No the email was very pleasant and I even say please please and added a lol at the end. I just wanted her to understand that asking someone that question who is unemployed can become iritating. Plus it was too early for the question since the layoff period starts in July

Do you even know if you are being laid off for sure?

The simplest solution would be to say "nothing yet, but I'll let you know when I land one. You answered the question but in a friendly way said "no need to ask again as I'll let you know" Oherwise you can come across confrontational. She didn't mean any harm so need need to put up a bridge.

Harvey


True Harvey but the thing is I had not started really looking yet because I was on vacation so I felt it was too early to ask me that question. I mean how well can it be going if I just got the news last thursday?-lol

Do you even know if you are being laid off for sure?


i will find out tomorrow when i return to work

I always hated being asked that. I just answer politely with "Nothing Yet" or something to that effect and change the subject or i'll just smile and make up some excuse to walk away if i'm asked that at a family function.

True Harvey but the thing is I had not started really looking yet because I was on vacation so I felt it was too early to ask me that question. I mean how well can it be going if I just got the news last thursday?-lol

Then say "I haven't looked yet as it came as a big shock but I do intend to get my resume out as soon as I can" Again you answered the question ,didn't have to say it's to early, and what your plans are. Your cousin didn't mean harm as it's a logical question. Most people saying when they hear of job loss, "what are you going to do next". You follow sports, "No harm, no foul". Ride with it because others will ask the same question as it goes with the territory.

Harvey

I always hated being asked that. I just answer politely with "Nothing Yet" or something to that effect and change the subject or i'll just smile and make up some excuse to walk away if i'm asked that at a family function.


Which is why I will let everyone member of my family know, "DON'T ASK ME", let me come to you

I won't try and make this a debate but
Where you go, debate follows, lol.

What exactly did you say to your cousin in the e:mail?

Where you go, debate follows, lol.

What exactly did you say to your cousin in the e:mail?


I can't remember but I did lighten up the email by saying LOL and I even told her to call me if she feel the email was not plesant enough beccause it probably will sound a lot better on the phone. Her response was OK. She was unemployed for a year and I never ever called her and said-"how the job search is going? I know that would irritate the hell out of someone who has been sending out resumes for 3 or 4 months and still no job interviews

Then say "I haven't looked yet as it came as a big shock but I do intend to get my resume out as soon as I can" Again you answered the question ,didn't have to say it's to early, and what your plans are. Your cousin didn't mean harm as it's a logical question. Most people saying when they hear of job loss, "what are you going to do next". You follow sports, "No harm, no foul". Ride with it because others will ask the same question as it goes with the territory.

Harvey


I was just trying to prevent from being asked that question every other week. So I figure I would stop it now by letting the family know not to ask me anything about my job search. Harvey I also told her in the email-"I do appreciate your concern BUT

Keep in mind that mankind is a inquisitive beast. "Looking for a job, how's the job, how's school, what are you majoring in, like your neighborhood, where you going on vacation", etc. Of course when a young girl gets in her twenties, friends, family, co-workers will ask "seeing anyone." Most mean no harm and the ones that just want to pry, not to difficult to brush them off without being nasty. Hate to tell you this but as time goes on this question will come up more frequently, so roll with it. What comes next is "what are you going to do for money", how much unemployment do you have left and of course globs of advice on how to land a job. "Do this with your resume, say this on the interview", etc. What follows after sympathy and compassion will be looks of something must be wrong with you because your not working. "My cousin who is a idiot got a job in two weeks and he can't walk and chew gum at the same time"

Best advice is get a good women to give you all the guidance, and love you will ever need.

Harvey

I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female.


Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again! :lol:


Kelly has spoken. :lol:

Kelly has spoken. :lol:
:king:

Kelly has spoken. :lol:
BEST RESPONSE TO THIS THREAD AND ANY FUTURE THREADS!:lol: :D :wave:

BEST RESPONSE TO THIS THREAD AND ANY FUTURE THREADS!:lol: :D :wave:
Aww shucks!

I won't try and make this a debate but I informed my cousin I will be laid off on 6/30/06/ It's not a definite thing yet but it looks like it so yesterday she emailed and says-"HOW IS THE JOB SEARCH GOING?

Now let me just say I received this news on my birthday(june22nd) and it' only been 3 days so why would she email me and ask how the job search is going? How many of you would want to hear that question if you were unemployed? I see i'm going to have to tell my family DON"T ASK ME HOW THE JOB SEARCH IS GOING. It makes sense for me to let the family know if I found another job instead of being ASKED if I found one. My cousin seemed like she didn't take my comment too well after I expressed how I felt.


Solomon, why do you always get yourself into these types of messes?

Solomon, why do you always get yourself into these types of messes?


Well I cleared everything up so she understands where I'm coming from now

Well I cleared everything up so she understands where I'm coming from now
Please, don't tell us what you said to her.

Please, don't tell us what you said to her.
:rofl:

Please, don't tell us what you said to her.


Well I'm going to tell you anyway, I said I will tell you when I'm employed, just don't ask,