What are your thoughts on this?

The reason I am asking is because I am leaving on a trip at the end of June.

I am flying to Oregon for a week. I met this girl almost 9 years ago. We have talked on the phone and we even send Christmas and birthday cards to each other. Well, circumstances have made it so that we can both meet. I am very excited about finally meeting her.

Now for the reason I am asking. My husband is very upset about my going there. He says that I am crazy and that I have no idea that this is an actual person. I laughed and said "No, I've been talking to a computer for the last 8 and a half years!"

I know I am going to have tons of fun and can't wait!!

I've met two people from here in real life and they were both sane. Though my mom did think that Jeff was a rapist and said, "IF HE ASKS YOU TO GO SOMEWHERE ALONE WITH HIM, DON'T GO."

But I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as you've known each other for a really long time.

Well, I met a fellow SO poster, Dutabi84, two weeks ago and I'm still posting. So is he. :lol: We'd been chatting for over two years prior to our meeting. But I still got asked by both parents -- constantly -- if I was hoping for something romantic to come out of the deal. First of all, he has a girlfriend and second of all, I don't look at him like THAT. He's more of a big brother to me. :lol:

As long as two internet buddies are careful about selecting the location of their first meeting, they really have nothing to worry about. If you guys REALLY are great friends, then everything will go smoothly. :)

I've met people in person from the online world. As some have already mentioned, the best thing to do is use common sense. You don't have to be too paranoid, but just be aware of your surroundings. What will help is the fact you have two have known each other for years, and you have also talked on the phone. So you have had some kind of common interaction going on for quite a while. Have fun finally meeting in person! :)

i'm married to someone who i met from the online world, so i'm all for it as long as it's done safely.

I'm going out with someone who I met online. She's beautiful, Ivy League educated, and is just an amazing woman. Had it not been for the internet, I never would have approached her, because I would have been intimidated, and felt she was out of my league, but meeting her online was the best decision I ever made!!

Anyway Michelle, I hope all goes well with you and your friend when you guys see each other. Enjoy my hometown of Portland!! :D

I'm going out with someone who I met online. She's beautiful, Ivy League educated, and is just an amazing woman. Had it not been for the internet, I never would have approached her, because I would have been intimidated, and felt she was out of my league, but meeting her online was the best decision I ever made!!

Anyway Michelle, I hope all goes well with you and your friend when you guys see each other. Enjoy my hometown of Portland!! :D
awwwwwwwwww, i didn' tknow that! i wanna see pictures of you two now!!

i'm married to someone who i met from the online world, so i'm all for it as long as it's done safely.

Ditto! Okay well we aren't married yet or anything, but I think it'll happen. :)

I'm going out with someone who I met online.

Me too! And I feel very fortunate because I probably never would have met someone like him around here. I'm shy and the only guys who have ever approached me were a-holes.

So I see nothing wrong with it. I'm sure this friend of yours is a real person (I mean, who gets Christmas cards from a computer?) and you'll have a blast. As long as, like was mentioned in another thread recently, you don't meet in a dark alley, or a creepy dude's basement, or a car....restaurants are good places to meet at first.

Me too! And I feel very fortunate because I probably never would have met someone like him around here. I'm shy and the only guys who have ever approached me were a-holes.

So I see nothing wrong with it. I'm sure this friend of yours is a real person (I mean, who gets Christmas cards from a computer?) and you'll have a blast. As long as, like was mentioned in another thread recently, you don't meet in a dark alley, or a creepy dude's basement, or a car....restaurants are good places to meet at first.

We've actually had a couple dates already, and she is a very normal woman. Actually, one of the most normal people Iv'e ever met, so fortunately I don't have to worry about that.

That really is cool that the two of you found each other Cathy. Not to get mushy or anything, but I love to hear that kind of stuff, and I hope your relationship will continue, and blossom into something even more wonderful!! :)

Thanks for all the comments. The weird thing is that I met one online friend here in FL about 3 years ago. She was here visiting her brother and brought her husband and kids. She is from Sweden, originally from the States and we decided to meet.

He had no problem with that. I guess it is because I am going to the other side of the country!! LOL!! Anyway, I am looking forward to it and can't wait!!

I've never done that before (cause I'm only 14 and my parents would NEVER let me do that!) but I will sometime in the future meet some of my online friends and maybe find a date online or a sex partner.

I've never done that before (cause I'm only 14 and my parents would NEVER let me do that!) but I will sometime in the future meet some of my online friends and maybe find a date online or a sex partner.
uhhh...yeah, don't do that, it's VERY dangerous

uhhh...yeah, don't do that, it's VERY dangerous

I know but I can't get it out of my head :(

I've met two people from here in real life and they were both sane. Though my mom did think that Jeff was a rapist and said, "IF HE ASKS YOU TO GO SOMEWHERE ALONE WITH HIM, DON'T GO."

But I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as you've known each other for a really long time.
haha parents...

Yeah just meet in public.

I know but I can't get it out of my head :(
good lord, try masturbating or something. Don't get a sex partner! Why don't you just personally invite an STD over?

good lord, try masturbating or something.

That's not the same

Wow, this thread made a complete turnaround, LOL


Girl Meets World, maybe you shouldn't be so worried about sex. Heck, I'll be 19 in 2 weeks and I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm still a virgin. It's not quite as glamorous as society would have you believe.

I've never done that before (cause I'm only 14 and my parents would NEVER let me do that!) but I will sometime in the future meet some of my online friends and maybe find a date online or a sex partner.

Nikki, Please don't do that. You'll be setting yourself up for any number of problems/dangers. Please don't even think about doing that.

I've met someone in person that I originally only talked to online. We talked for about a year online (and also through regular phone calls, emails, chats, etc) before finally meeting. It was really nerve-wracking meeting her for the first time because I was scared that she may be a totally different person offline than she was online. There's always that worry, I think, whenever meeting someone like that.

But, alas, she stayed with me for a week over the summer of '04 and we had a good time :) It was a good experience, and I truly recommend it if you feel comfortable enough with the person and can meet under safe circumstances :)

never met anyone online offline, I don't really have a desire to either.

awwwwwwwwww, i didn' tknow that! i wanna see pictures of you two now!!

As soon as we get some pics taken together, you'll be the first person I send them to!! :D

I'm going out with someone who I met online. She's beautiful, Ivy League educated, and is just an amazing woman. Had it not been for the internet, I never would have approached her, because I would have been intimidated, and felt she was out of my league, but meeting her online was the best decision I ever made!!

Anyway Michelle, I hope all goes well with you and your friend when you guys see each other. Enjoy my hometown of Portland!! :D

I wish I had a lover. :( *Sniff*

I've never done that before (cause I'm only 14 and my parents would NEVER let me do that!) but I will sometime in the future meet some of my online friends and maybe find a date online or a sex partner.

Nikki, you need to slow down a bit. As I said before, just enjoy being a kid.

Nikki, Please don't do that. You'll be setting yourself up for any number of problems/dangers. Please don't even think about doing that.


Nikki, you listen to Cindy. She knows more about life then you do and gives good advice.

Girl Meets World, maybe you shouldn't be so worried about sex. It's not quite as glamorous as society would have you believe.

You are so right. Sex is waaaay overated. The only time it's any good is when you're with someone you really love and who really loves you.

Nikki, going online to meet someone to have sex with is NOT the way to go. Especially for a young girl like yourself. Please wait till you're older and in a relationship with someone who truely cares about you. You certainly don't want to lose your virginity to some pervert who could care less about your feelings. You'll only regret it later.

Anyways back to the original subject. I agree with the others that I see nothing wrong with meeting online friends in person as long as it's done with caution. I met my husband that way but we were both extremely careful. We E-Mailed and talked on the phone a lot first and then met in a restaurant. I brought 2 friends with me and he brought his sister with him.

If for any reason, God forbid, I ever find myself single again, something tells me I'll find that person in cyberspace.

Listen to everyone else on this, Nikki. I even wish I would have waited, too, which is something that not every guy will admit. I didn't wait, though, and it was with someone I didn't love...and now that I AM in love, in the 2+ years we've been together, I've always wished that I would have saved my first time for her instead. It's something I still regret.

Anyway, as far as the actual subject goes, I think the whole thing about psychos and rapists all being online is kind of overrated; I'm sure they exist, but in the same ratio that they do in real life. I believe that there are just as many people you can trust online as you can trust offline, and also if you've spoken to someone for a number of years...I just find it unlikely that they'd put forth so much patience and effort just so they could finally do harm to you when they meet you.

I wish I had a lover. :( *Sniff*

Awww, I'm sorry Lauren. :( This is basically the first real relationship Iv'e been in, and I'm almost 25, so I can definitely feel your pain. Just hang in there though. You're so sweet and pretty, that your bound to find someone special very soon!! :)

This thread is making me laugh!! LOL!!

Nikki, first of all please don't look for a sex partner online!! First of all you are way too young and need to experience life!! Don't worry about meeting a man. God knows that sex isn't all that everyone makes it out to be!! LOL!!

Secondly, there are way too many diseases out there that men either don't know they have, or if they do know it they won't tell you!! LOL!!

Now that being said, I am being extremely careful. I am renting a car and we are meeting at a public place. I have a hotel room reserved and will have my cell phone on me at all times. I still think this is overkill, but I guess you can never be too careful! LOL!!

I'd just say, be careful, but have fun. Just because you haven't met them in person yet, doesn't automatically dismiss it as not a real friendship. Several years ago, through a neighborhood site where I grew up, I started a correspondence with someone I didn't know. Turned out we grew up a block away from each other. We both mutually knew a same family. Plus, one of her brothers was in the same class as my older brother. And a girl I know for a while dated her other brother after my family moved away to another state. I know, it's not exactly the same thing here--there was already some connection. Well, I met up with this person on a trip to the east coast a few years ago, never having met her before in person, and we had a great time. We went down to Coney Island and ate in an Italian restaurant, then she drove me down to my old block and I met one of my childhood friends who still lived there. As I said, we had a wonderful time. I felt that I'd always known her.

I hope you have a good time too, and have a life-long friend as a result.

Thanks.....I'll think about not doing it cause it can be risky in ways. It's just I need sex so badly.....

Ok, I'll shut up now, lol

hey did you get either PM i sent you? :wave:

hey did you get either PM i sent you? :wave:

Yep, just a second ago....I'm gonna read it in a second! :D

Ive met 2 people offline, one of them being SO.

Thanks.....I'll think about not doing it cause it can be risky in ways. It's just I need sex so badly.....

Ok, I'll shut up now, lol
What are you on, Viagra?!

Thanks.....I'll think about not doing it cause it can be risky in ways. It's just I need sex so badly.....

Ok, I'll shut up now, lol
you're 14 -_-

What are you on, Viagra?!

wtf!

wtf!
lol

wtf!
Youre seriously the horniest person I know. Youre 14 years old .... it aint worth it! You need to stop focusing on what everyone else id "doing" and concentrate on what you want out of life.

What are you on, Viagra?!

Well, maybe VAGINAgra...

*Larry the Cable Guy voice* "Ah apologize, Lord, that ain't right..."

I've met two people from here in real life and they were both sane. Though my mom did think that Jeff was a rapist and said, "IF HE ASKS YOU TO GO SOMEWHERE ALONE WITH HIM, DON'T GO."

But I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as you've known each other for a really long time.

I'm glad to see I'm considered sane. (SCORE ONE FOR KAITLYN)

I had a friend come stay with me for a week. We'd only talked on the phone about 5 or 6 times, but we'd talked online for over a year. We were fast friends anyway. Our parents talked and she came here, and it was exactly like being online. One of the nicest people ever.

One day, some guy randomly IMed me and asked me if I was going to the American Idol concert, and if I'd like to sign his scrapbook for Diana DeGarmo. I said sure and we got to talking and became WICKED close and met up and hung out at the show.

I met Amy, and there have been times where I've planned stuff, but it didn't work out. I am meeting Crystal this summer though, whatever anyone says. AUGUST 3 BABY.

Awww, I'm sorry Lauren. :( This is basically the first real relationship Iv'e been in, and I'm almost 25, so I can definitely feel your pain. Just hang in there though. You're so sweet and pretty, that your bound to find someone special very soon!! :)
Rawk on fellow member of the "First Relationship after 21 Club"! :D

Rawk on fellow member of the "First Relationship after 21 Club"! :D

Hell yeah!!! :banana: I'm glad to finally be a part of this exclusive club. Cheers!!! :cheers:

As soon as we get some pics taken together, you'll be the first person I send them to!! :D
awwww, i feel honored!!

Woo hooooo, I am so happy to hear this, Brad; as I mentioned before, I hope that everything works out well for you, because definitely deserve it:)

Thanks Tara!!! :blush: Thank you for praying that I would meet someone. It wasn't until you started praying that for me, that it finally happened, so I know you were a huge factor in me meeting her!! :)

awwww, i feel honored!!

:)

Thanks Tara!!! :blush: Thank you for praying that I would meet someone. It wasn't until you started praying that for me, that it finally happened, so I know you were a huge factor in me meeting her!! :)

Can I see pics too? I mean you've seen pics of me and my boyfriend. :lol:

Can I see pics too? I mean you've seen pics of me and my boyfriend. :lol:

Sure, you can see the pics too!! I think most people are probably just so shocked that S.O.'s most loveable loser, finally has a girlfriend that isn't inflattable, and you all just want proof that she's real. :lol:

:joke:

Sure, you can see the pics too!! I think most people are probably just so shocked that S.O.'s most loveable loser, finally has a girlfriend that isn't inflattable, and you all just want proof that she's real. :lol:

:joke:

Well I've never thought of you that way at all. Actually you sound similar to my boyfriend before he and I met. He told me a little bit about his experiences. He said it seemed like all of the girls he liked were taken, and usually with big jerks! Also he was too shy to approach a girl to ask her out either. You deserve to be happy, and I'm happy for you!

Well I've never thought of you that way at all. Actually you sound similar to my boyfriend before he and I met. He told me a little bit about his experiences. He said it seemed like all of the girls he liked were taken, and usually with big jerks! Also he was too shy to approach a girl to ask her out either. You deserve to be happy, and I'm happy for you!
Yay for shy guys!

Yay for shy guys!on behalf of all the shy guys here of wich im one of them i thank you for that yay cathy

on behalf of all the shy guys here of wich im one of them i thank you for that yay cathy
:D