Have you ever been cheated on?

My boyfriend works with a bunch of guys who make no bones abt how they cheat on their wives. My boyfriend is trying to be the voice of reason. The reasons they give for cheating seems to be the same except for one jerk:

1. My wife is "not exciting" in the bedroom...I need some wild lady.

My boyfriend's answer to that (mine too) is THEN WHY DID YOU MARRY A VIRGIN? Why did you marry a woman who you knew wasn't "wild"? These guys reply with, they wanted a "pure" woman...they didn't want a girl who "ran around", etc.

2. The other jerk stated it's a male thing and he can't turn down "freebies".

Generally, both sexes cheat. But my question really is WHY do guys marry women that haven't been around and then complain when they are not "exciting"? I don't get it.

And please note, I didn't use any foul words in this thread, so please don't post any words that may get this thread shut down.:D

When I was in relationships, I can honestly say I didn't, but I did get the urge lots of times. One time, I lent this girl my jacket to wear to the store because it was raining, she didn't have a jacket, so I lent it to her. My ex saw it on her and questioned me, I told her it was just an honest favor, so we had a minor argument, and then we patched things up. I told her I was sorry, and should have respected the fact that we were in a relationship, and it was done almost in her presence. I wasn't thinking.

My ex cheated on me....thats why shes my ex , nuff said ( Glad to be rid of her, actually )

If the married couple has no children I can't understand why you would cheat instead of just getting a divorce if you are not happy. If children are involved it's a little different. I'm not saying cheating at anytime is right. If things aren't going good at home and a man feels he needs to cheat instead of getting a divorce because he's not happy and children are involved, the reason he won't get a divorce is because he wants to keep his family life intact. The majority of the time in a divorce the woman is going to get the kids unless she gives them to the man or she is proven an unfit mother. I've heard "Well you can see them when you get them for your time with them that was layed out in the divorce settlement". Not the same thing. Keeping the family intact is better for the kids in my opinion and I believe most men that cheat would rather be able to spend as much time with their kids as possible instead of on certain weekends. And you could say that the time he is spending with the other woman could be time soent with the kids or family. That's true but I'm sure that there are many opportunities that are out there that don't take away from that time. Once again - I am not approving cheating for anyone. Men or women.

"Generally, both sexes cheat. But my question really is WHY do guys marry women that haven't been around and then complain when they are not "exciting"? I don't get it."

I guess I didn't really answer that question. I would think that people think they can change other people into what they want. You marry "miss prim and proper" and you figure after a few porno movies you can change her int Jenna Jamison. Woman do the same. Alot of them go for the "bad boy" thinking they can change him into Ward Clever.:D

I have cheated on ex girlfriends, mainly because I wanted some hot animal sex. There really was no other reason that I can think of other than that. I guess I wasn't getting what I wanted from the girl I was with. It was all about being young and stupid for me. I think men and women cheat mostly because they don't get the attention they need at home.

i never cheated on my ex girlfriend i just couldnt do that the guilt would have overwhelmed me had i cheated

I remember seeing on Jerry Springer that a guy cheated on his Wife because he had WEIRD Fetishes that he didn't want her to know about-lol-lol

2. The other jerk stated it's a male thing and he can't turn down "freebies".


It's a male thing. That is the :censored: worst and lamest excuse I have ever heard in my life. No, it's not a MALE thing...it's a :censored: thing. And an excuse the feeble minded use, thinking that everyone is as :censored: dumb as they are.

I abhor people who cheat. If a guy ever cheated on me, I'd make him eat his own...thing. I'm not generally a very viscious person...but that's the exception. I'd probably end up arrested for assault and battery.

Cheating is the one thing that I could never get past. Just about anything else, within reason, but never cheating (or abuse).

I too abhor the idea that cheating is okay becasue it is a "guy thing."

Don't get married if you still feel the need to spread your love around.

i never cheated on my ex girlfriend i just couldnt do that the guilt would have overwhelmed me had i cheated
Thats the way I've always been. . I could never live with myself fot hurting someone so bad.

I see no justifications. I could never cheat.

I've been cheated on before by a guy who cheated on my two other friends too.....I'm not romantic enough, anyway.....I'm too shy and I don't know enough about sex :(

If the married couple has no children I can't understand why you would cheat instead of just getting a divorce if you are not happy. If children are involved it's a little different. I'm not saying cheating at anytime is right. If things aren't going good at home and a man feels he needs to cheat instead of getting a divorce because he's not happy and children are involved, the reason he won't get a divorce is because he wants to keep his family life intact. The majority of the time in a divorce the woman is going to get the kids unless she gives them to the man or she is proven an unfit mother. I've heard "Well you can see them when you get them for your time with them that was layed out in the divorce settlement". Not the same thing. Keeping the family intact is better for the kids in my opinion and I believe most men that cheat would rather be able to spend as much time with their kids as possible instead of on certain weekends. And you could say that the time he is spending with the other woman could be time soent with the kids or family. That's true but I'm sure that there are many opportunities that are out there that don't take away from that time. Once again - I am not approving cheating for anyone. Men or women.

When there's a divorce settlement, is for a reason.Keeping the family intact for the sake of the children is not an option all the time. In most cases, the children are the ones affected because of the situation at home. Some men are just too selfish to notice that they are causing a lot of pain and want their wives to stay just to keep the 'family' and the children 'intact'. That is not a healthy thing to do.

cheating sucks. no one should EVER do it. http://img150.imageshack.us/img150/5766/papamcphee3yf.gif

cheating sucks. no one should EVER do it. http://img150.imageshack.us/img150/5766/papamcphee3yf.gif
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If I'm lucky enough to one day find someone I love alot, then I see no reason to cheat. If you've got something good, why risk losing it by cheating?? It makes no sense.

I've never cheated.

I just want to say that I appreciate you guys who haven't cheated and don't plan on it. I can't even begin to explain how it feels when you find out your guy is cheating on you. It is very painful. My last boyfriend cheated on me and it hurt so bad that I haven't dated since, and that was 2 years ago. :(

I just want to say that I appreciate you guys who haven't cheated and don't plan on it. I can't even begin to explain how it feels when you find out your guy is cheating on you. It is very painful. My last boyfriend cheated on me and it hurt so bad that I haven't dated since, and that was 2 years ago. :(
( Huggles ) Well, not every guy is a jerk, get back on that horse , and maybe youll find a knight ;) ( Ya never know til you try :) )

I just want to say that I appreciate you guys who haven't cheated and don't plan on it. I can't even begin to explain how it feels when you find out your guy is cheating on you. It is very painful. My last boyfriend cheated on me and it hurt so bad that I haven't dated since, and that was 2 years ago. :(
I have never had that experience (thank God). I don't even want to know how that feels. I feel so bad for you. Don't let some stupid jerk ruin it for you and especially other guys who want to care and love someone special...and that special person is YOU.

I have never had that experience (thank God). I don't even want to know how that feels. I feel so bad for you. Don't let some stupid jerk ruin it for you and especially other guys who want to care and love someone special...and that special person is YOU.

( Huggles ) Well, not every guy is a jerk, get back on that horse , and maybe youll find a knight ( Ya never know til you try )

Thanks you guys. The worst thing about it is he cheated on me because I wouldn't put out and we had only been dating for a week. :(

My friends are setting me up with a guy I work with. We really hit it off when we met, so cross your fingers! :)

Thanks you guys. Some friends at work are setting me up with a guy I work with. He a real sweetie and we really hit it off when we met. Cross your fingers! :)
*fingers crossed and a special request going to God tonight* ;) :D :D

*fingers crossed and a special request going to God tonight* ;) :D :D

Aww, Thanks Irene! Have I ever told you that you're a Great friend? :D

Aww, Thanks Irene! Have I ever told you that you're a Great friend? :D
I sensed it. Thanx, you are too!!! Hang in there. And keep us posted on this "guy"...;)

I sensed it. Thanx, you are too!!! Hang in there. And keep us posted on this "guy"...;)

LOL! You bet! ;)

I would never cheat on my wife, nor have I ever cheated on any of my past girlfriends. I just don't have it in me, and I am glad about that. I don't understand how some people can be so callous about doing that, almost like it is a game to them.

Thanks you guys. The worst thing about it is he cheated on me because I wouldn't put out and we had only been dating for a week. :(
Man, youre certainly better off without a jack@$$ like that :eek: ( no offense )...good luck with this new guy!!! :):):)
My ex-GF cheated on me, but, I didnt give up...i keep trying ;)

Thanks you guys. The worst thing about it is he cheated on me because I wouldn't put out and we had only been dating for a week. :(


What a lowlife. You are much better without him.

I never cheated on my ex,but she said that she cheated on me last year just for a gag in class one day since there was a sub that day.She did that so I could get over her and it took almost a month to do it

My husbands father was really bad about cheating, thats why my mother-in-law divorced him. But also as she was getting the divorce she had an affair to
get back at him and ended up getting pregnant. I tell my husband his family
should have their own soap opera.

About 6 years ago, I met a security guard who was working the detail of the plaza I was working at back then. He knocked me off my feet. He was soft spoken, gentle and HOT. Then he didn't call for a long time, so I called his apartment to find out once and for all what was going on. A woman answered the phone...his WIFE. I never knew that he was married...otherwise I'd have stayed far away.

Long story short, I was bitter for a long time and hated men in general. Even now I'm still nervous about men and dating. That REALLY broke my heart, and left me with big trust issues. :(

My ex cheated on me and it hurt a lot. Took a long time to get over it.

My ex cheated on me and I got some of the reasons listed here, the relationship had gotten bad and we were both unhappy. It gave mew an excuse to get out of a relationship that I should have left several years before.

I can somewhat understand when 1 person is unhappy that they might seek attention elsewhere however it does not excuse cheating. I would get out of a troubled relationship rather than cheat.

My ex cheated on me and it hurt a lot. Took a long time to get over it.

Wow, I guess this thread got bumped.

Sorry rusyd to hear that. Sorry to anyone who has had to deal with that. I don't ever want to know how that feels.

About 6 years ago, I met a security guard who was working the detail of the plaza I was working at back then. He knocked me off my feet. He was soft spoken, gentle and HOT. Then he didn't call for a long time, so I called his apartment to find out once and for all what was going on. A woman answered the phone...his WIFE. I never knew that he was married...otherwise I'd have stayed far away.

Long story short, I was bitter for a long time and hated men in general. Even now I'm still nervous about men and dating. That REALLY broke my heart, and left me with big trust issues. :(

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience but there are still alot of good men
out there. Try not to give up because of one bad apple. I went out with
several bad & not so bad ones before meeting my husband.

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience but there are still alot of good men
out there. Try not to give up because of one bad apple. I went out with
several bad & not so bad ones before meeting my husband.
Thank you Ann. After about a year I met another guy who was so sweet, the complete opposite of the jerk. Then the sweet guy died suddenly and unexpectedly at age 35. I mention him sometimes as the guy who loved Journey. I thought that I would marry him. So you can see why I am skittish when it comes to men!!

Wow, I guess this thread got bumped.

Sorry rusyd to hear that. Sorry to anyone who has had to deal with that. I don't ever want to know how that feels.

Thanks Irene. Yeah, being cheated on sucks. Luckily I finally found a good one and married him. :)