more UPSET? The worst thing a person can ever do is try and make me see the bright side of something when I expressing howe mad I am about something. I want the person to just listen and understand WHY I'm angry. But trying to cheer me up gives off the vibe that they don't care why you are upset . Anyone Agree?

more UPSET? The worst thing a person can ever do is try and make me see the bright side of something when I expressing howe mad I am about something. I want the person to just listen and understand WHY I'm angry. But trying to cheer me up gives off the vibe that they don't care why you are upset . Anyone Agree?
I so agree. I have told my man so many times (he finally gets it now) that when I am feeling at my lowest, or angry, I just need to vent, and if he wants to do anything to make me feel better, JUST HUG ME. Don't say anything, don't try to cheer me up, just give me a hug and let me know you understand how I feel. Men tend to want to be "fixers" and try to fix every single problem. women just like to vent, and other women will LISTEN. which is what men AREN'T TAUGHT early enough to understand.

It depends. If I'm in an angry mood, somebody trying to cheer me up is usually a good thing. But if I'm sad or really upset, sometimes it does worse. Like, say somebody very close to you died. Although you're mourning, usually you can at least contain yourself if people leave you alone. But having people say "Oh I'm sorry" or "Are you okay?" 500 times is what MAKES you even more upset.

It's like when a kid falls down the stairs and they're fine, but then the mother is like "OMG BILLY COME HERE ARE YOU OKAY?!" and then the kid starts screaming his head off.

It all depends on how mad I am. But I'm the type of person who'll try to cheer a person up if they are having a hard time or if they are mad about something.

more UPSET? The worst thing a person can ever do is try and make me see the bright side of something when I expressing howe mad I am about something. I want the person to just listen and understand WHY I'm angry. But trying to cheer me up gives off the vibe that they don't care why you are upset . Anyone Agree?

Yeah, I do. I prefer if they just listen or leave me alone until i'm ready to talk about it.

Yeah if I'm that pissed off usually just tryin to bring up the bright side isn't gonna make me feel better but thats not to say people can't cheer me up. Sometimes female friends don't gotta use words to cheer me up when I'm in a bad mood :grineyes:

Im like the majority, I like someone to listen, not to try to make me feel better. Im looking for comfort, and feeding me BS trying to make me feel better just makes it uncomfortable.



My mom is famous for that which led to many hangups-lol

It depends - if it seems sincere, than I appreciate it. If it seems fake and put-on, then no, I don't like that.

more UPSET? The worst thing a person can ever do is try and make me see the bright side of something when I expressing howe mad I am about something. I want the person to just listen and understand WHY I'm angry. But trying to cheer me up gives off the vibe that they don't care why you are upset . Anyone Agree?
I agree with you here. Another thing that annoys me as well is when I am throwing a pity party for myself, I tend to get "compliments" like, "Don't worry. You will get what you deserve because you are a good person." There are just sooooooo many things I disagree with in that sentence that I could always rebel against, and I have done it at times. I mean, I don't throw pity parties for myself JUST to get "cheerful" comments. I do it because I am expressing my feelings/emotions in a realistic manner. I mean, that's life, and I am aware of it. I guess like you I just want to be "heard" and not necessarily always given advice during these unnecessary times.

Im like the majority, I like someone to listen, not to try to make me feel better. Im looking for comfort, and feeding me BS trying to make me feel better just makes it uncomfortable.


I can be the same way too. I also agree that if someone is genuinely being sincere then it'll make me feel better. It really depends on the situation, I guess. Most of the time, though, I just want someone to vent with me or be a good listener.

I can be the same way too. I also agree that if someone is genuinely being sincere then it'll make me feel better. It really depends on the situation, I guess. Most of the time, though, I just want someone to vent with me or be a good listener.


That's exactly what someone is supposed to do, VENT WITH YOU. That makes me feel so much better

About 50% of the time. In those cases, I'd just prefer to stay pissed off.

If someone is mad, I'll let them vent. When my kids are sad though, I always try to cheer them up by tickling them or telling them a joke. I can't stand to see my children sad.

If someone is mad, I'll let them vent. When my kids are sad though, I always try to cheer them up by tickling them or telling them a joke. I can't stand to see my children sad.
Yeah, my mom is usually the one trying to cheer me up.

It all depends on the situation really, but for the most part I agree with you. If you're a woman, just give me a hug, and listen to me. If you're a guy, please don't hug me, but be quiet and listen. Just because someone is complaining about things, doesn't necessarily mean they're wanting your advice, they're usually just looking for a friend to vent to. I do like it however when friends give comforting words, but if they're trying to lecture me when I'm feeling this way, they're just making the situation worse.

It all depends on the situation really, but for the most part I agree with you. If you're a woman, just give me a hug, and listen to me. If you're a guy, please don't hug me, but be quiet and listen. Just because someone is complaining about things, doesn't necessarily mean they're wanting your advice, they're usually just looking for a friend to vent to. I do like it however when friends give comforting words, but if they're trying to lecture me when I'm feeling this way, they're just making the situation worse.


Ever heard this from someone when u are feeling upset?-"WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS"


I swear I will slap the sh*T out of someone who says that to me again-lol

Ever heard this from someone when u are feeling upset?-"WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS"


I swear I will slap the sh*T out of someone who says that to me again-lol

:lol: Yep, Iv'e heard that so many times, it's pathetic. What I always feel like saying is, what you need to do is shut the hell up, and listen to me for a change, and not give any advice!!

more UPSET? The worst thing a person can ever do is try and make me see the bright side of something when I expressing how mad I am about something.Yes it pi$$es me off like crazy Solomon!!


Like when I express hatred about the garbage in the world now and this brainwashed moron tells me hoe GOOD the world is now.... HOW "GOOD" AI is,its sickening!!

The only people who think the world is GOOD now are brainwashed morons who have been re-programmed to be satisfied with crap!!