Me and my mom had this discussion last night and I was telling her when I come home from work I may go to Subway to buy a sandwich or Rite Aid and the female cashiers will flirt with me all the time. But I said I prefer a woman who is professionally employed like I am. So tell me is there anything wrong with me feeling that way? Now i know at 20 years old it didn't matter to me if a female work in Mcdonald's or Rite Aid but it does now.

There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. You want to find a woman with common interests and if you have a professional job, it might be hard to relate to someone that doesn't have the same as you.

There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. You want to find a woman with common interests and if you have a professional job, it might be hard to relate to someone that doesn't have the same as you.



Exactly, my mom was saying-"does it really matter where someone works if you really like the person?-lol First of all It's not going to get that far because I'm programmed not to get seriouwith anyone who is 29 working in a check cashing place

It's always nice to find a person who is independent and has their own career. I dated a girl once who didn't work and didn't go to school and boy was she needy.

It's always nice to find a person who is independent and has their own career. I dated a girl once who didn't work and didn't go to school and boy was she needy.


Most females in job like that think since you have a shirt and tie on, that means you make lots of money

Me and my mom had this discussion last night and I was telling her when I come home from work I may go to Subway to buy a sandwich or Rite Aid and the female cashiers will flirt with me all the time. But I said I prefer a woman who is professionally employed like I am. So tell me is there anything wrong with me feeling that way? Now i know at 20 years old it didn't matter to me if a female work in Mcdonald's or Rite Aid but it does now.
I can understand how you feel. When I met my boyfriend, he was 39 and divorced and had several relationships with women that he felt didn't go anywhere for many reasons, one of them being the women he chose didn't have a career mind, not much of an education, had no goals, no aspirations, etc. He liked their looks, but had nothing much else going on.
When he met me and I told him I was a paralegal, he says that was one thing that made me exciting to him. that I had a career, my own $$$, not depending on my ex-husband for support, had my own place, my own car and my own mind.
So, it's only logical that you may want a woman with goals in life rather than be dependent on a job that will get you, probably no where in life. I mean, I had JOBS, and those were great for experience, dealing with the public, etc. but it wasn't a career. I had an education and I wanted to be more educated. I love to learn.

I can understand how you feel. When I met my boyfriend, he was 39 and divorced and had several relationships with women that he felt didn't go anywhere for many reasons, one of them being the women he chose didn't have a career mind, not much of an education, had no goals, no aspirations, etc. He liked their looks, but had nothing much else going on.
When he met me and I told him I was a paralegal, he says that was one thing that made me exciting to him. that I had a career, my own $$$, not depending on my ex-husband for support, had my own place, my own car and my own mind.
So, it's only logical that you may want a woman with goals in life rather than be dependent on a job that will get you, probably no where in life. I mean, I had JOBS, and those were great for experience, dealing with the public, etc. but it wasn't a career. I had an education and I wanted to be more educated. I love to learn.


Exactly, it's all about where you are in life. Like I said, 10 years ago, I didn't care if a female was in rite aid or not.

I don't think there is anything wrong with how you feel. As I mentioned before I don't look down on people who didn't go to college, but I think the woman that I choose to spend my ilfe with should be someone that went to college (I think intelligence, being informed and well read is one of the very first things I would look for in a woman that I was going to be serious with) and I think what she does for a living would also be very important.

I don't think there is anything wrong with how you feel. As I mentioned before I don't look down on people who didn't go to college, but I think the woman that I choose to spend my ilfe with should be someone that went to college (I think intelligence, being informed and well read is one of the very first things I would look for in a woman that I was going to be serious with) and I think what she does for a living would also be very important.



well said

As far as me, as long as you have ambition to work somewhere, and you aren't someone like my aunt, who has an average of 8 different jobs a year, money is money and I don't care. If you're a freeloader, then buh bye.

But to each his own, ya know? And maybe to guys it's different. I know a lot of women will work part time jobs when they're married so they can be stay-at-home moms...even maybe if they're a single parent.

Me and my mom had this discussion last night and I was telling her when I come home from work I may go to Subway to buy a sandwich or Rite Aid and the female cashiers will flirt with me all the time. But I said I prefer a woman who is professionally employed like I am. So tell me is there anything wrong with me feeling that way? Now i know at 20 years old it didn't matter to me if a female work in Mcdonald's or Rite Aid but it does now.

Shouldnt matter where they work at least they have a job and making there own money.....

Shouldnt matter where they work at least they have a job and making there own money.....


I have no interest in a women who is 28 and over working at Rite Aid 40 hours a week.

When I worked at the supermarket we had a cashier who dated a lawyer. He would come in all the time to see her. She eventually quit and married him, so I guess occupation doesn't exactly mean everything.

When I worked at the supermarket we had a cashier who dated a lawyer. He would come in all the time to see her. She eventually quit and married him, so I guess occupation doesn't exactly mean everything.



Well she must have been very very attractive.

It doesn't really matter to me, at least the woman is showing some effort to work and support herself.

You want to find a woman with common interests and if you have a professional job, it might be hard to relate to someone that doesn't have the same as you.
I disagree about "relating." I have a friend whose only job so far was a temp job for three months and who so far only has some some college education (no degrees yet), but he is VERY intelligent. In fact, he is a lot more intellectual than some people I know who have higher education degrees and/or professions. That is what I most admire about him. There is always a plethora of topics and discussions all of us humans can have with one another. I believe in this theory.

Anyway, I don't mind about the level of jobs/education for reasons I stated above. I am more interested in discussions and what people have to say about various topics.

Yeah there's nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone who doesn't meet your Hi standards. There are a lot of women who wouldn't date a man who worked at a Burger King or McDonald's. I have a great career but I'm not over 25 as of yet. But if I were single I doubt that I would date a man who worked at a grocery store or McDonald's I wouldn't want to be someone's sugar mama LOL. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone who's well established

It's all a matter of taste and what you have in common with that person.

It doesn't really matter to me, at least the woman is showing some effort to work and support herself.


But i wouldn;t really see effort if she was in Rite Aid at 29 or 30. Which brings me to my next question, what was she doing from 18 to 29?-lol

Well she must have been very very attractive.

She was just average looking, and she had a speech impediment also. I was surprised somebody like a lawyer showed an interest in her. He seemed to be a very nice guy.

I guess it just depends on each person's choice of a mate. For example some men are so insecure abt women having a career, or making more money than him, being more educated, etc. My ex-husband was jealous of me having an education. It didn't bother him when we dated, but when I was getting ready to go to college, he was upset.

Now, the man I am with, as I mentioned before, he got tired of dating women, having relationships with women that had no goals, no desires, not much of an education and he wanted someone that had all those things. He was at the age where he wanted to find someone to spend his life with, and he was not happy with those who had no desires. He is not insecure at all. He believes a woman should do what she wants, for her reasons, whatever makes her happy. He loved hearing abt my education, my career, seeing how independent I was. Having my own car, my own place, etc.

But for the women who work at minimum wage jobs, they may be single mothers, girls who are in college, girls who had to go to work early to help their families at home, etc. So it doesn't always mean those women have no goals; they probably had a circumstance where they needed any job.

I guess it just depends on each person's choice of a mate. For example some men are so insecure abt women having a career, or making more money than him, being more educated, etc. My ex-husband was jealous of me having an education. It didn't bother him when we dated, but when I was getting ready to go to college, he was upset.

Now, the man I am with, as I mentioned before, he got tired of dating women, having relationships with women that had no goals, no desires, not much of an education and he wanted someone that had all those things. He was at the age where he wanted to find someone to spend his life with, and he was not happy with those who had no desires. He is not insecure at all. He believes a woman should do what she wants, for her reasons, whatever makes her happy. He loved hearing abt my education, my career, seeing how independent I was. Having my own car, my own place, etc.

But for the women who work at minimum wage jobs, they may be single mothers, girls who are in college, girls who had to go to work early to help their families at home, etc. So it doesn't always mean those women have no goals; they probably had a circumstance where they needed any job.

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She could have a great job and maybe that's her second job, You'll never know until you actually talk to her. Some people just like working for extra money.

My Aunt is an Administrator and her job pays her very well, but she also works at a department store part time (the evening shift) just to make extra money for vacations and what not. You'll never know what that person has going on in their life until you actually sit and talk to them.

:yeahthat

She could have a great job and maybe that's her second job, You'll never know until you actually talk to her. Some people just like working for extra money.

My Aunt is an Administrator and her job pays her very well, but she also works at a department store part time (the evening shift) just to make extra money for vacations and what not. You'll never know what that person has going on in their life until you actually sit and talk to them.
That is so true. Back in 1996, I was working as a paralegal and then when I left that at 5 p.m. I went to work part-time at a music/video store from 6 p.m. until midnight. I did that so I could keep my kids in private school. I had just filed for divorce and I wasn't going to try and get $$$ from my ex. I just wanted to get away from him and not deal with him. So the $$$ I earned at the part-time job helped me with the school tuition. It was a fun job, I didn't even consider it work.

So, basically, you can't judge a book by it's cover. Solomon, sometimes you have to inquire a little, learn a little more abt these women without making quick judgments. One of those ladies may be paying her way thru college; one of them may be a professional and working part-time for extra $$$. You never know!!!!!!

That is so true. Back in 1996, I was working as a paralegal and then when I left that at 5 p.m. I went to work part-time at a music/video store from 6 p.m. until midnight. I did that so I could keep my kids in private school. I had just filed for divorce and I wasn't going to try and get $$$ from my ex. I just wanted to get away from him and not deal with him. So the $$$ I earned at the part-time job helped me with the school tuition. It was a fun job, I didn't even consider it work.

So, basically, you can't judge a book by it's cover. Solomon, sometimes you have to inquire a little, learn a little more abt these women without making quick judgments. One of those ladies may be paying her way thru college; one of them may be a professional and working part-time for extra $$$. You never know!!!!!!



this girl i know who is 28 has been working at a check cashing place since 2001-lol i was like dAmm how long does she want to do that? I do think working at a check cashing place women have been a wonderful summer job for me when i was between 15 and 17

this girl i know who is 28 has been working at a check cashing place since 2001-lol i was like dAmm how long does she want to do that? I do think working at a check cashing place women have been a wonderful summer job for me when i was between 15 and 17


My aunt has a great job and she still works a second job at the department store part time and she's been working part time there for 6 years. I have a wonderful paying job and when I first got married I use to work part time on a second job just to earn extra spending cash, I bought a car with that extra money. I did that until I got pregnant with my first baby.

After I turned 25 and was ready to settle down it was very important to me to find someone who had a good job. The guy didn't have to be a millionaire or anything. I just wanted someone who had their own place, was stable, had good health insurance etc and wanted the same things out of life that I did. This may sound shallow but I would have not married my husband had he worked at Rite Aid or some minimum wage job. I want to be well provided for and my children to be well provided for. If I wanted to stuggle every month to pay the bills I would have stayed single.

i would think it does


i mean after 25 you want to kinda slow down and settle with someone stable

I guess it just depends on each person's choice of a mate. For example some men are so insecure abt women having a career, or making more money than him, being more educated, etc. My ex-husband was jealous of me having an education. It didn't bother him when we dated, but when I was getting ready to go to college, he was upset.

Now, the man I am with, as I mentioned before, he got tired of dating women, having relationships with women that had no goals, no desires, not much of an education and he wanted someone that had all those things. He was at the age where he wanted to find someone to spend his life with, and he was not happy with those who had no desires. He is not insecure at all. He believes a woman should do what she wants, for her reasons, whatever makes her happy. He loved hearing abt my education, my career, seeing how independent I was. Having my own car, my own place, etc.

But for the women who work at minimum wage jobs, they may be single mothers, girls who are in college, girls who had to go to work early to help their families at home, etc. So it doesn't always mean those women have no goals; they probably had a circumstance where they needed any job.

But for the women who work at minimum wage jobs, they may be single mothers, girls who are in college, girls who had to go to work early to help their families at home, etc. So it doesn't always mean those women have no goals; they probably had a circumstance where they needed any job.

How true, but it just wasn't the women. Many people who work "the dead end jobs" are teenagers such as I was at the time, divorcees, students, housewives whose husbands were laid off, and just people who desperately needed the $$$. It doesn't mean everybody there were losers, dummies, or less than human. Sometimes you find yourself doing things a little longer than you expected. Sometimes life doesn't flow like a storybook and you have to end up doing things you never thought you would.

After I turned 25 and was ready to settle down it was very important to me to find someone who had a good job. The guy didn't have to be a millionaire or anything. I just wanted someone who had their own place, was stable, had good health insurance etc and wanted the same things out of life that I did. This may sound shallow but I would have not married my husband had he worked at Rite Aid or some minimum wage job. I want to be well provided for and my children to be well provided for. If I wanted to stuggle every month to pay the bills I would have stayed single.


The worst thing you can do is depend on a man to take care of you. You should be working just like him

The worst thing you can do is depend on a man to take care of you. You should be working just like him


AMEN!!! I wanted to say that but I didn't want to come off as bitchy

I work and have a great job and my husband works and have a great job. I have the piece of mind in knowing that if we were to get divorce or if something were to happen to him. I know that I can provide for myself and my kids, I wouldn't have to depend on a man to take care of me.

The worst thing you can do is depend on a man to take care of you. You should be working just like him


Excuse me? I am working. I am a full time MOTHER. That may not be considered a job to you but it is to me and many other women around the world as well. It is the hardest and most rewarding job I could ever have and my husband fully supports my decision to stay home and be with our son. I do have a college degree and skills to get a job if need be in the future.. My husband does NOT support me. We support each other. He works ouside of the home. I work in the home.

Excuse me? I am working. I am a full time MOTHER. That may not be considered a job to you but it is to me and many other women around the world as well. It is the hardest and most rewarding job I could ever have and my husband fully supports my decision to stay home and be with our son. I do have a college degree and skills to get a job if need be in the future.. My husband does NOT support me. We support each other. He works ouside of the home. I work in the home.
:clap: amen. thank you.