On friday I was at a book store. I ran into this girl I knew from work. Turns out she has been working at the book store.

Since she was on-duty at the time, she couldn't talk long, but she suggested we exchange numbers so that we could "hang out".

In the time I've known her, we've probably shared only three conversations, total, due to the difference in our work activities and locations. I would not mind getting to know her better, especially in a non-work setting. But I'd like to know what to expect, and what's expected of me.

So I wonder if "hang out" means "hang out"; or something more. She asked me to call her. I honestly don't know what to say. I don't know what kind of person she is or what she'd like to do. Books come to mind, but she has likely had her fill of books after work.

There are events of interest going on, of course, what with the holidays and all. Is it prudent to go with friends? No pressure? Or just a one-on-one outing?

And of course, I'm not sure I want a girl-friend at this time. So much is going on at work, I don't need distractions. I love to make friends. But if she wants something more, things could get complicated. Athough I won't deny she is attractive...

I'm not sure how coherent any of this is. Kinda babbling. Oh, well. I sent the story into cyberspace. I'll see what happens...

I know that you wanted a female's advice and I can't help you there but my advice is to get together with her for a movie or something and then just see where it leads you.

I know that you wanted a female's advice and I can't help you there but my advice is to get together with her for a movie or something and then just see where it leads you.

Thanks. Honestly, I don't care where the advice comes from. If it helps make my holiday a little less "ohmygodwhatamigoingtodo", I'd appreciate it.

Coming from a girl, I think she wants to hang out as friends, and then if you two seem to hit it off, should see what happens. So unless she was acting all flirty or dropping little hints, I think shed like to keep it pretty platonic- but things could happen and you two might be a good couple! Id call her. :)

Coming from a girl, I think she wants to hang out as friends, and then if you two seem to hit it off, should see what happens. So unless she was acting all flirty or dropping little hints, I think shed like to keep it pretty platonic- but things could happen and you two might be a good couple! Id call her. :)

There is a Christmas parade on sunday. My family will be visiting, and may very well be going with me. Is that an appropriate first-friendly outing?

She gave you her phone # so she must want to be with you in one way or another,friends or more, I don' know. Go out w her and see what happens.

There is a Christmas parade on sunday. My family will be visiting, and may very well be going with me. Is that an appropriate first-friendly outing?
I think so. Its a parade so its not like you have to go out to dinner or whatever and have akward moments of silence. I think going to the parade will more comfortable to get to know eachother.

I know that you wanted a female's advice and I can't help you there but my advice is to get together with her for a movie or something and then just see where it leads you.
Exactly, summed up very nicely.

On friday I was at a book store. I ran into this girl I knew from work. Turns out she has been working at the book store. Since she was on-duty at the time, she couldn't talk long, but she suggested we exchange numbers so that we could "hang out".
Mmmm... yeah, she is interested in you - be it as friends or more, but she just wants to talk/get to know you more.

There are events of interest going on, of course, what with the holidays and all. Is it prudent to go with friends? No pressure? Or just a one-on-one outing?
I say go on a friend date with your friends ONLY if you are comfortable in doing so. Or, you may even wanna try both things. One alone and then on a group outing. Decide what is best for you.

I'm not sure how coherent any of this is. Kinda babbling. Oh, well. I sent the story into cyberspace. I'll see what happens...
Hmmmm... okay, here goes. She gave you her contact info, so now the ball is in your court. She wants you to contact her. It doesn't really matter whether you know much about her or not, but it does matter that she wants to get to know you more. Just call her and see if you two can go out for coffee or have a light lunch. Either way, this is a perfect opportunity to just talk and see what happens from there.

So I wonder if "hang out" means "hang out"; or something more. She asked me to call her. I honestly don't know what to say. I don't know what kind of person she is or what she'd like to do. Books come to mind, but she has likely had her fill of books after work.
It's hard to decipher for us since we were not there to observe non-verbals. However, I would say just go hang out and take it from there.

In the time I've known her, we've probably shared only three conversations, total, due to the difference in our work activities and locations. I would not mind getting to know her better, especially in a non-work setting. But I'd like to know what to expect, and what's expected of me.
You said you didn't know what to talk about/what things you have in common/expected of you, but this is how it begins. She is probably just expecting to find out more about you too. One important thing I found is a wonderful, instinctive talent we all hold: listening skills. You don't have to be a perfect listener, but just actually LISTEN to what she is saying. Just listen to what she is saying and then reciprocate the conversation flow. I did this with a current friend (I originally approached him because he was a MAJOR crush), so I had NO idea what he liked, did for a living, etc, but I just began the flow of conversation starting with the computer work he was working on. Then, we just flowed from conversation to conversation. This is really the only way to start the conversation engine going - by adding fuel to it. :)

And of course, I'm not sure I want a girl-friend at this time. So much is going on at work, I don't need distractions. I love to make friends. But if she wants something more, things could get complicated. Athough I won't deny she is attractive...
You say you are not interested in having a girlfriend. That's fine. Just talk and then become a friend to her. She may be a good/best friend to you or even more in the future. Only later on will you two know what you two will want for the future. Just take it one step at a time and just BE a friend first and above all.

So take this opportunity, even if it just to be friends. ;) I am no pro, by any means. However, I did take the "listening" skills very seriously and actually listened. It really worked to find info to use in conversation flows. Good luck!! :)

Alright. I'll call her. It could be fun.

I just wish I could get a date. :lol: It has been five years since I've been on one.:(

I just wish I could get a date. :lol: It has been five years since I've been on one.:(

20 years for me. No worries! ;)

I just wish I could get a date. :lol: It has been five years since I've been on one.:(
Hmm...10 for me. But that date STUNK, so I'll just stick with 26 years.

20 years for me. No worries! ;)

21 here, not counting that evil, twisted, fallacious girl I wasted too much time on earlier this year. :king:

I can't even remember the last time I had a date :lol:

Good luck Max. I sort of think that she's interested in more than hanging out, but I could be wrong. When a girl gives a guy her number, there's a good chance of that.

Go for it. You could make a nice friend, or if things catch on, you may change your mind about having a girlfriend. :)

She put the ball in your court by asking to exchange numbers and suggesting you hang out.

OK, take that ball, call her up, then send that ball right back!

Just ask her what she wants to do!!! Just be polite, casual, and of course charming....but just say something to the effect of "so you mentioned you wanted to hang out sometime....what did you have in mind?"

Takes all the pressure off of you for having to try to figure out her motives or risking picking an "inappropritate" activity. And she'll probably appreciate being able to choose something for you. AND it lets her dictate whether or not other friends should be involved.

If I were a man, that's what I'd do. But then, us women are so much more logical. ;)

go for it, and good luck. i don't have any luck with dating, it's just all the ones i don't want that are interested in me. i hate it and it makes me feel bad.

At least you've been on a date. I can't even say that. Of course I would then have to find someone that would actually want to go out with me.

Ditto that.

There is a Christmas parade on sunday. My family will be visiting, and may very well be going with me. Is that an appropriate first-friendly outing?

I think the Parade would be a wonderful idea. I don't believe that taking your family with you on your first outing with this girl is neccesary. It could make her more nervous than she originally would be, and make her question a later meeting. At least that's the case with me- I've been with my boyfriend three years and when I was around his family in the beginning I was all keyed up- I dont know what people expect. I knew him- I didn't know them.
I think you should go with all the other wonderful advice people have given you and toss it back to her on where she'd like to 'hang out' and if she wants friends involved.

Well I called her. It sounds like just hanging out. Cool! I can deal with that. Nothing can move too fast that way. Nothing could move at all, and I'd feel satisfied.

So I'm good. I didn't have any problems talking to her, and she is a good talker, I think we could have an enjoyable, non-romantic outing. Yay for us!

Hey, Bootsy. Good to have ya back. I just noticed you. I don't know how observant that makes me, but oh well! Welcome back!

Gotta fly! Whoosh!!