who hasn't ever had a boy call her anything like hot, sexy, pretty, beautiful, ect before??
It makes me feel really bad that no boy calls me anything like that ever while all my friends and family get called those nice names all the time! Last year boys always called me ugly like every single day!! :crying:
Sometimes my friends or people in my familiy say I'm not ugly and I'm pretty, but I can't believe them since a boy has never said I'm pretty or anything!

I did get a boyfriend a few days ago....I met him online, he was a couple of my friends ex boyfriend. My friends keep telling me he's just a jerk and I shouldn't go out with him or anything. But if my "boyfriend" ever met me or saw me, I'm afraid if he'd break up with me :(

Please take me seriously here.

Just because a boy hasn't said it doesn't mean squat. Seriously. If you have to rely on boys to keep up your self-esteem, you're in for a long and depressing life.

It's Thanksgiving (at least for a few more minutes). Just be thankful you're healthy and have a house to live in and food on the table. Don't dwell over this crap.

who hasn't ever had a boy call her anything like hot, sexy, pretty, beautiful, ect before??
It makes me feel really bad that no boy calls me anything like that ever while all my friends and family get called those nice names all the time! Last year boys always called me ugly like every single day!! :crying:
Sometimes my friends or people in my familiy say I'm not ugly and I'm pretty, but I can't believe them since a boy has never said I'm pretty or anything!

I did get a boyfriend a few days ago....I met him online, he was a couple of my friends ex boyfriend. My friends keep telling me he's just a jerk and I shouldn't go out with him or anything. But if my "boyfriend" ever met me or saw me, I'm afraid if he'd break up with me :(

Please take me seriously here.
i know exactly how you feel, its sucks cause the only person who actually calls pretty is my mom

Just because a boy hasn't said it doesn't mean squat. Seriously. If you have to rely on boys to keep up your self-esteem, you're in for a long and depressing life.

It's Thanksgiving (at least for a few more minutes). Just be thankful you're healthy and have a house to live in and food on the table. Don't dwell over this crap.
Ditto.

I don't even speak to any guys at this point, therefore I have no idea what they are thinking about me. No one has ever randomly come up to me and told me I was pretty or anything like that. I personally don't think I'm all that attractive. I don't say that to fish for compliments, that's just how I feel about myself. I don't really mind much anymore. It used to annoy me that my sister got so much more attention from people in general when she was my age then I do, but I've gotten over it. We're complete opposites anyways.

Stop obsessing with having a boyfriend. You don't want to come off as desperate, or guys really aren't going to like you. Hm, well atleast I'm guessing that is the case. I may not be the most reliable source when it comes to the guy department...

You don't want to come off as desperate, or guys really aren't going to like you

Exactly. Most don't want a needy, desperate girl.

Are you wanting a boyfriend so bad because you want the companionship and friendship, or just because everyone else has one?

Youre only 14!! When youre 21 and still single, call me and we can sulk together.

And just because a guy doesnt call you hot or sexy or babe, doesnt mean he doesnt think it.

Youre only 14!! When youre 21 and still single, call me and we can sulk together.

Here, here. :cheers:

Youre only 14!! When youre 21 and still single, call me and we can sulk together.

And just because a guy doesnt call you hot or sexy or babe, doesnt mean he doesnt think it.

Since you're only 14, give it about 3 or 4 years, and I bet you the guy's compliments will start coming your way!!:)

Since you're only 14, give it about 3 or 4 years, and I bet you the guy's compliments will start coming your way!!:)
well im 16 so does that mean i have to wait another year? lol

You need to get to know yourself and appeciate the qualities you do have. If your worried about appearing sexy to some idiot who knows what to say to keep you in check, then your gonna be be depressed and probably knocked up by 16 to put it bluntly. A guy worth having is one who appreciates the fact that your happy with yourself and knowing that no one is going to change that about you. Beauty lasts a moment, depth lasts a lifetime.

Well I'm married and my husband doesn't tell me all that mushy crap. Every once in a while he'll tell me my hair looks nice or that I look good in a certain outfit but I don't think he's ever called me sexy or hot or whatever to my face. It doesn't bother me a bit, I mean he wouldn't have married me if he wasn't attracted to me. What's important to me is that he has a job, is responsible and able to take care of his family. Half these guys who tell their women that they are hot and gorgeous don't even really mean it anyway. One minute theyh tell you your gorgeous and that they love you and the next minute they go out and cheat on you or something.

why should it matter if boys say that you're sexy or hot? over half the time at this age, it's just a superficial comment to make, with little or no meaning.

for example, my friend was dating this girl Amy for a week. and during that week, he was saying how hot and sexy she was practically once every 5 minutes! guess what, they broke up. now, he says she's the fattest ugliest bitch in the world, and he constantly picks her appearance apart.

so if a boy calls you sexy or hot, the chances are that he'll find someone else within the next couple of days to call "hot and sexy" and he'll forget about you. i should know. but actually i've thought this one girl was hot and sexy for 2 months now and she's the only girl i like in that way.

you shouldn't base your happiness off of what guys say to you. if you do this, you will only have a life of sorrow and depression, and a low self image.

We're back to this again?

Youre only 14!! When youre 21 and still single, call me and we can sulk together.

And just because a guy doesnt call you hot or sexy or babe, doesnt mean he doesnt think it.
:nod: Boys can be shy too, believe it or not.

Youre only 14!! When youre 21 and still single, call me and we can sulk together.


All right, cause I know it'll probably happen unless I meet another boy online.

why should it matter if boys say that you're sexy or hot? over half the time at this age, it's just a superficial comment to make, with little or no meaning.

for example, my friend was dating this girl Amy for a week. and during that week, he was saying how hot and sexy she was practically once every 5 minutes! guess what, they broke up. now, he says she's the fattest ugliest bitch in the world, and he constantly picks her appearance apart.

so if a boy calls you sexy or hot, the chances are that he'll find someone else within the next couple of days to call "hot and sexy" and he'll forget about you. i should know. but actually i've thought this one girl was hot and sexy for 2 months now and she's the only girl i like in that way.

you shouldn't base your happiness off of what guys say to you. if you do this, you will only have a life of sorrow and depression, and a low self image.

Yeah, it's just I'm really jealous of how my sisters are always having boys go up to them and say "OMG you are sooooooooooooo ****ing hottttttt!!!!!!!!!!"
and asking them out! The only reason I have a boyfriend right now is because I met him online (don't worry, he lives in my city) so he has no clue what I look like.

why should it matter if boys say that you're sexy or hot? over half the time at this age, it's just a superficial comment to make, with little or no meaning.

for example, my friend was dating this girl Amy for a week. and during that week, he was saying how hot and sexy she was practically once every 5 minutes! guess what, they broke up. now, he says she's the fattest ugliest bitch in the world, and he constantly picks her appearance apart.

so if a boy calls you sexy or hot, the chances are that he'll find someone else within the next couple of days to call "hot and sexy" and he'll forget about you. i should know. but actually i've thought this one girl was hot and sexy for 2 months now and she's the only girl i like in that way.

you shouldn't base your happiness off of what guys say to you. if you do this, you will only have a life of sorrow and depression, and a low self image.Exactly, there's more to life then boys and dates and stuff like that.

Why don't you get a hobby or something? It will keep you from sitting around thinking about guys.

Yeah, it's just I'm really jealous of how my sisters are always having boys go up to them and say "OMG you are sooooooooooooo ****ing hottttttt!!!!!!!!!!"
and asking them out! The only reason I have a boyfriend right now is because I met him online (don't worry, he lives in my city) so he has no clue what I look like.

how old are your sisters? if they are any younger than me, i think it's really rude that a guy would go up and say that. i don't have that kind of nerve.

maybe if you joined an after school activity, get involved with a sport, etc. you'll have something to occupy your time with. go for it. :wave:

how old are your sisters? if they are any younger than me, i think it's really rude that a guy would go up and say that. i don't have that kind of nerve.

maybe if you joined an after school activity, get involved with a sport, etc. you'll have something to occupy your time with. go for it. :wave:

12 & 9.

I do some other stuff....well pretty much just Sylvan and Taekwondo....besides I'm afraid if I'll get called ugly again by a boy :(
I wish I could switch places with one of my sisters for a day to enjoy all the compliments of "You're hot!". Sorry if it sounds dumb.

12 & 9.

I do some other stuff....well pretty much just Sylvan and Taekwondo....besides I'm afraid if I'll get called ugly again by a boy :(
I wish I could switch places with one of my sisters for a day to enjoy all the compliments of "You're hot!". Sorry if it sounds dumb.

if i went up to a girl and said "you're ****ing hot" she'd probably say "GET AWAY FROM ME you PERVERT!!!" i doubt she'd like it. and i don't know why you'd want a guy to only like you for the way you look.

All right, cause I know it'll probably happen unless I meet another boy online.
Why do you want to meet a boy online? Why is that even an option? Do you want to get caught up in some fantasy just because you want to hear someone tell you your pretty? I don't understand that one at all, I mean your 14. What are you going to do with a relationship like this? I'de hate to tell you this but the success rate of relationships online are very low at your age. You'de probably have a higher chance of running into a 45 -year-old pedophile who wants rape you and kill you.

Niki, just get more involved in extra-cirricular activities and mingle. Seriously. When you do that, it's a better way of getting to know people. Focus on just getting to know them more so than searching, especially at your age. I wish I would've done that at your age. I wish I would've had advice like you are getting, and I would've been more outgoing with better self-esteem. You don't want to come off as "desparate" by waiting for guys to say that. Take a look at some of the guys who have posted about this already. It's an indicator.

Niki, just get more involved in extra-cirricular activities and mingle. Seriously. When you do that, it's a better way of getting to know people. Focus on just getting to know them more so than searching, especially at your age. I wish I would've done that at your age. I wish I would've had advice like you are getting, and I would've been more outgoing with better self-esteem. You don't want to come off as "desparate" by waiting for guys to say that. Take a look at some of the guys who have posted about this already. It's an indicator.

maybe she could end up meeting a guy at an extra-curricular activity, who she has something in common with. it's a good way to meet people.

maybe she could end up meeting a guy at an extra-curricular activity, who she has something in common with. it's a good way to meet people.
That's why I suggested the extra-cirricular activities. It's a great way to meet people and might find a boy with the same interest. That's how it's done. :)

there's so much more to life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend. i would like a girlfriend but not having one doesn't make me any less happy.

there's so much more to life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend. i would like a girlfriend but not having one doesn't make me any less happy.

Yes, there is so much more to life than that. I could go back to some of my journals when I was in 8th grade and I was so preoccupied with the fact that I had never had a boyfriend or been asked out or even had a guy like me (actually I thought this stuff as early as 11 years old.) That lasted pretty much through my sophomore year of high school when it hit me that I probably wouldn't get a boyfriend in HS and I was ok with that (most of the time.)

I feel like I have been saying this all the time around here but I didn't get my first boyfriend, or a guy call me beautiful, until this past summer. So from someone who knows what you are feeling Niki, it's really not worth dwelling over. I ended up having a great time in high school with my small group of friends instead of moving from boyfriend to boyfriend like a lot of girls do and now I am in my second year of college when it's so easy to drift away from people and I still have my close group of high school friends and a boyfriend.

So, in my opinion, it was worth the wait.

OMG I just sent a picture of me to my boyfriend and he actually said I was beautiful!!! I hope he really ment it!!!!!! :eyes:

trust me when i say that personality means way more than looks.

well im 16 so does that mean i have to wait another year? lol

:lol: ;)

I said 'about' 3 or 4 years, so I didn't mean exactly and I was talking about Niki. So who knows, when Niki is 16, she might be a total hottie!!

And I knew you were kidding!:wave:

besides, every guy has different taste in girls. you could have one girl that one guy looks at and says "oh she's so ****ing sexy" and another guy looks at her and says "eww GROSS!!" i know this for a definite fact. :lol:

trust me when i say that personality means way more than looks.

I know, but sometimes it seems like some boys just care about what girls look like and don't care who they really are inside.

I know, but sometimes it seems like some boys just care about what girls look like and don't care who they really are inside.

Those guys who only care about looks aren't worth your time. Obviously, physical attraction is important but as *AgEnT FaLLoN* said, not all guys look at the same girl and think the same thing.

Just because a boy hasn't said it doesn't mean squat. Seriously. If you have to rely on boys to keep up your self-esteem, you're in for a long and depressing life.

It's Thanksgiving (at least for a few more minutes). Just be thankful you're healthy and have a house to live in and food on the table. Don't dwell over this crap.



Everyone relies on feedback from the Opposite Sex to know to have confidence or not. If you say you don't you are lying. When I buy a new outfit and get a haircut I'm not doing it to get notice by men-lol

i think that if someone is ugly physically but they have a good personality, you might end up forgetting about what the person looks like and getting to know them as a person. but if someone is really attractive but acts like an ass, what good is it to get to know them?

i don't want a hot girl who acts like an ass, or a nice girl who looks like one.

In All Honesty, if a female never hears she is attractive from a guy that means she may not be at that time. How do I know? Because when I was 14 I never had a female say I was Cute. It wasn't until I turned 18. I became more attractive as I became older. When I was 14 I was a walking disaster-lol

i think that if someone is ugly physically but they have a good personality, you might end up forgetting about what the person looks like and getting to know them as a person. but if someone is really attractive but acts like an ass, what good is it to get to know them?

i don't want a hot girl who acts like an ass, or a nice girl who looks like one.


You wouldfn't mind PLAYING with a Hot Girl who acts like an a$$. Am I Wrong?-lol

:lol: you know what i meant. :lol:

In All Honesty, if a female never hears she is attractive from a guy that means she may not be at that time. How do I know? Because when I was 14 I never had a female say I was Cute. It wasn't until I turned 18. I became more attractive as I became older. When I was 14 I was a walking disaster-lol

You have a point. I hardly think I am a beauty queen but I am much more attractive than I was at 14. Just the natural process of growing up can sometimes work wonders. :lol:

Youre 9 year old sister has guys calling her '****ing hot!!'? Thast nasty. Creeps!

Youre 9 year old sister has guys calling her '****ing hot!!'? Thast nasty. Creeps!
i wonder how HOT they'll think she is when she shows up for school pregnant at 14...

I know other people have said this, Niki, but I really wouldn't worry about it if I were you. You're still quite young, and as others have said, not all boys can just go and tell a girl that they're really pretty, even if they are.

There's plenty of time for all of that to happen - and if you really want to meet some people, then I agree with what the others have said; you could join in some clubs or activities. Are there any sports that you like doing? Are there any clubs at your school that you'd be interested in joining?

You could even try forming some friendships with boys...not necessarily boyfriend/girlfriend relationships...just as friends, to see how it goes.

Those guys who only care about looks aren't worth your time. Obviously, physical attraction is important but as *AgEnT FaLLoN* said, not all guys look at the same girl and think the same thing.
She'll learn for herself. She doesn't seem to take what we are saying seriously, so it'll be up to her to "see" for herself then.

In All Honesty, if a female never hears she is attractive from a guy that means she may not be at that time.
Well, if anyone (be it, male OR female) is always reliant on hearing such a compliment about themselves, then they will feel miserable the minute they don't get that "compliment." It helps to know realistically it can be both ways at times. That'll lead of depressed and "what is wrong with me?" feelings if people are reliant on "compliments" and don't hear what THEY want to hear. Right now, Niki seems to be very obsessed over "I MUST be hot or else I'll be miserable" attitude. It shows in her posts.

her obsessive need to be hot is not a "hot" personality trait to most guys.

12 & 9.

Your 9 year old sister has boys call her hot? No offense, but that's disturbing. Dang, I mean, I didn't really get my appearance together and all that until I was at least in HS. I JH I looked ugly and awkward...as did most of the girls I went to school with. I wouldn't worry about it...the boys telling your sisters this either don't mean it, are just saying it because they think it sounds cool, are jerks, or all 3. I wouldn't put a lot into a 12 year old calling me "hot."

trust me when i say that personality means way more than looks.

Totally. I've known some guys that I thought were hot and girls I thought were attractive and you know, a lot of them had egos the size of Antarctica. Really obnoxious, ugly people. Like getting a present with very pretty wrapping, but inside it's a box of poop.

Everyone relies on feedback from the Opposite Sex to know to have confidence or not. If you say you don't you are lying. When I buy a new outfit and get a haircut I'm not doing it to get notice by men-lol

Of course eveyone likes compliments. But if I buy a nice outfit, I'm not soley doing it for a guy, I'm doing it because I like how I look in it. If some random guy doesn't think I look good, screw him. He can go stare at some girl with less self-esteem.

Like getting a present with very pretty wrapping, but inside it's a box of poop.

that's actually a good comparison to use :lol: i agree totally.

Of course eveyone likes compliments. But if I buy a nice outfit, I'm not soley doing it for a guy, I'm doing it because I like how I look in it. If some random guy doesn't think I look good, screw him. He can go stare at some girl with less self-esteem.
Exactly! Why is that such a hard concept to understand!?! It almost seems like some people just don't want it to be that easy or something, or is it that if they stop appearing so desperate for compliments then people will just stop paying attention to them altogether?

Why does this subject pop up like once every six months? First of all no 9 year old is hot. Even when I was 9 I never thought of one as "hot". Secondly it's annoying that you feel you have to come here and say that you think you are ugly, only to have people tell you you aren't.

Anyhow if I recall 14 is an akward age for anyone. People are going through puberty so fast, it alters the way you look. So while I am doubting you are unattractive, even if you are, in a couple years you could be a knockout, then what will all them boys say? Give it time, there is no reason to rush things.

And once again, a 9 year old under any circumstances is not hot.

Exactly! Why is that such a hard concept to understand!?! It almost seems like some people just don't want it to be that easy or something, or is it that if they stop appearing so desperate for compliments then people will just stop paying attention to them altogether?
Those are good questions.

Maybe I'm weird, but too many compliments embarrass me. Plus, I think a lot of compliments aren't really all that meaningful. Like they're just being said so the person you're complimenting doesn't think you're a jerk.

Youre 9 year old sister has guys calling her '****ing hot!!'? Thast nasty. Creeps!
:nod:

and :nod: to what Roby said.

Just because a boy hasn't said it doesn't mean squat. Seriously. If you have to rely on boys to keep up your self-esteem, you're in for a long and depressing life.

It's Thanksgiving (at least for a few more minutes). Just be thankful you're healthy and have a house to live in and food on the table. Don't dwell over this crap.

:nod:

Honestly if you are jealous of your 9 year old sister being hot (ewwww) then your future will just be one more reason to keep Jerry Springer on the air, do you really want that?

Honestly if you are jealous of your 9 year old sister being hot (ewwww) then your future will just be one more reason to keep Jerry Springer on the air, do you really want that?
:lol:

I know, but sometimes it seems like some boys just care about what girls look like and don't care who they really are inside.


Many guys do only care about looks. But I, as a guy, hold no respect for pigs like that.

I realize I have come in late(happens all the time, these days) and I doubt I can say much more than has already been said. Truthfully, I admire how much genuine advise you have already gotten. It'll be hard for me not to sound redundant.

But I will say, when you posted a picture of yourself one time, I said you were pretty. I'm not generally known to give out compliments like that. And I certainly ment it. You've got some real physical beauty, and it's a tragady you don't realize it.

I fear for you. If you can't develop a strong foundation in self-esteam, it won't matter if you have a dozen guys falling over you. Every little upset in life will prove devestating.

I hate to say this, but people will fail you. Betrayal, lies, departure, death. Even the truest friends could leave you, through no fault of their own.

You should focus on strengthening your values; not wait for someone else to place a value on you.

If you can build yourself up on a strong foundation of self-esteam, trust yourself and love yourself for your values(not the ones someone places on you), then you can survive anything life throws at you... without a boy friend....

It's a bit of a jungle out here, dear. You can't rely on any one person... to see you through.

Many guys do only care about looks. But I, as a guy, hold no respect for pigs like that.

I realize I have come in late(happens all the time, these days) and I doubt I can say much more than has already been said. Truthfully, I admire how much genuine advise you have already gotten. It'll be hard for me not to sound redundant.

But I will say, when you posted a picture of yourself one time, I said you were pretty. I'm not generally known to give out compliments like that. And I certainly ment it. You've got some real physical beauty, and it's a tragady you don't realize it.

I fear for you. If you can't develop a strong foundation in self-esteam, it won't matter if you have a dozen guys falling over you. Every little upset in life will prove devestating.

I hate to say this, but people will fail you. Betrayal, lies, departure, death. Even the truest friends could leave you, through no fault of their own.

You should focus on strengthening your values; not wait for someone else to place a value on you.

If you can build yourself up on a strong foundation of self-esteam, trust yourself and love yourself for your values(not the ones someone places on you), then you can survive anything life throws at you... without a boy friend....

It's a bit of a jungle out here, dear. You can't rely on any one person... to see you through.

There has never been more truth spoken than this! :tiphat:

Aw, sweetie, you don't need guys to tell you your beautiful. I'm sure you are, and you don't need anyone to tell you that. Trust me, guys will come around soon and they'll be all over you.
Having a boyfriend online isn't the best thing, because they can say they're someone different then who they are.
If you want to talk, you can PM me :)

Good God. Just make a thread titled "FEEL SORRY FOR ME".

"Please take me seriously here."

**** that.

she isn't asking any of us to feel sorry for her. she just isn't totally recognizing the points we're all trying to make.

that's actually a good comparison to use :lol: i agree totally.
ditto :lol:

I know Niki's serious. I don't think she created this thread as a "feel sorry for me" thing. She didn't. I do think she's getting quite obsessed over the situation, though.

Boys don't really call my 9 year old sister hot, they just do to my 12 year old sister. The one thats 9 just gets asked out quite a bit, but not near as many times as Jasmine (shes 12) does!

But I'm not as worried about it anymore since yesterday when my boyfriend said I was pretty after I send him my picture and he said "I love you!" :D

Good God. Just make a thread titled "FEEL SORRY FOR ME".

"Please take me seriously here.

**** that.


Wow, you're rude!

Aw, sweetie, you don't need guys to tell you your beautiful. I'm sure you are, and you don't need anyone to tell you that. Trust me, guys will come around soon and they'll be all over you.
Having a boyfriend online isn't the best thing, because they can say they're someone different then who they are.
If you want to talk, you can PM me :)

Aw thanks! :D

she isn't asking any of us to feel sorry for her. she just isn't totally recognizing the points we're all trying to make.
She obviously isn't recongnizing them at all......:rolleyes:

Boys don't really call my 9 year old sister hot, they just do to my 12 year old sister. The one thats 9 just gets asked out quite a bit, but not near as many times as Jasmine (shes 12) does!

But I'm not as worried about it anymore since yesterday when my boyfriend said I was pretty after I send him my picture and he said "I love you!" :D


If he's saying "I love you" he's got problems. It's one thing if he says that you're attractive, that's not a bad thing. But "I love you" is pretty serious. I mean the whole online thing, you never know who you're talking to. He might send you a picture, that is fake. In reality, he could be a 48 year old man. You're 14, and really are too young for internet dating or things like that. There are women in their 30s, who get taken for suckers everyday on the internet. Really, your time will come. It'll happen when it's supposed to. Maybe you're a late bloomer. I know that I am. I'm 20, and just recently had the experience of my first date, and first kiss. It was great, and I'm happy it happend when I was older.

If he's saying "I love you" he's got problems. It's one thing if he says that you're attractive, that's not a bad thing. But "I love you" is pretty serious. I mean the whole online thing, you never know who you're talking to. He might send you a picture, that is fake. In reality, he could be a 48 year old man. You're 14, and really are too young for internet dating or things like that. There are women in their 30s, who get taken for suckers everyday on the internet. Really, your time will come. It'll happen when it's supposed to. Maybe you're a late bloomer. I know that I am. I'm 20, and just recently had the experience of my first date, and first kiss. It was great, and I'm happy it happend when I was older.
and thats probably why her parents are nervous about her talking to people while she's online.

and thats probably why her parents are nervous about her talking to people while she's online.
See... this is why I won't have kids! :lol:

See... this is why I won't have kids! :lol:
:lol:

See... this is why I won't have kids! :lol:
Now, now.... let's not be vindictive about it either.

Good God. Just make a thread titled "FEEL SORRY FOR ME".

"Please take me seriously here."

**** that.
YOU WERE SUPOSSED TO CALL ME LAST NIGHT!! YOUR NEVER HOME ANYMORE!!!!!

Now, now.... let's not be vindictive about it either.
I'm not being vindicitive, I'm just saying it's a handful to deal with as a parent. I was only stating the obvious. It wasn't at her in particular, it was more about to what extent you need to watch and worry about their kid. That's a lot to handle.

But I'm not as worried about it anymore since yesterday when my boyfriend said I was pretty after I send him my picture and he said "I love you!" :D

13/14 year olds don't even know what true love is.

But I'm not as worried about it anymore since yesterday when my boyfriend said I was pretty after I send him my picture and he said "I love you!" :D


Wait...You have a BF over the internet?...thats not safe

Boys don't really call my 9 year old sister hot, they just do to my 12 year old sister. The one thats 9 just gets asked out quite a bit, but not near as many times as Jasmine (shes 12) does!


Your 9 year old sister gets asked out? Thats disturbing.

Wait...You have a BF over the internet?...thats not safe
:nod: Its not at all. If you want a boyfriend im sure you could find one in real life.

i have mixed feelings on online relationships.

i think that it's alright if you can't find someone who you like in real life, and you meet someone online. but you must know for sure who you're talking to and that they are being honest.

the part i think makes it bad is that you never know who it is you're talking to, and it could be a 50 year old trying to stalk you.

:wave:

:nod: Its not at all. If you want a boyfriend im sure you could find one in real life.

that's so easy for people to say who have no problems finding someone in real life. but i'm sorry, it doesn't work that same way for a lot of people.

i have mixed feelings on online relationships.

i think that it's alright if you can't find someone who you like in real life, and you meet someone online. but you must know for sure who you're talking to and that they are being honest.

the part i think makes it bad is that you never know who it is you're talking to, and it could be a 50 year old trying to stalk you.

:wave:

I agree with your feelings about online relationships. My best friend met her current boyfriend online and he's a nice guy and things are going great for them. But she's in a different sort of situation-she's 20, talked to him on the phone before she met him, met him in a public place, all those sort of things. I'm still kind of wary about online relationships in general but having known someone who had it work, I'm starting to come around a bit.

it sort of pisses me off when people say "why not find someone in real life". this is probably coming from someone who can easily get anyone they want and doesn't understand other people's situations. i wouldn't have an online relationship but i don't see what the big deal is.

that's so easy for people to say who have no problems finding someone in real life. but i'm sorry, it doesn't work that same way for a lot of people.
But honestly, is dating someone you dont even know and for all you know could be some 50 year old pediphile really safe?

But honestly, is dating someone you dont even know and for all you know could be some 50 year old pediphile really safe?

No it's probably not safe but in all honesty if all it does it stay online, no in person meetings or anything, if the person is some pedophile or not, I hardly think it qualifys as dating.

it doesn't qualify as real dating if it's just kept online. but i think it depends on the situation to determine if it's acceptable or not.

If he's saying "I love you" he's got problems. It's one thing if he says that you're attractive, that's not a bad thing. But "I love you" is pretty serious. I mean the whole online thing, you never know who you're talking to. He might send you a picture, that is fake. In reality, he could be a 48 year old man. You're 14, and really are too young for internet dating or things like that. There are women in their 30s, who get taken for suckers everyday on the internet. Really, your time will come. It'll happen when it's supposed to. Maybe you're a late bloomer. I know that I am. I'm 20, and just recently had the experience of my first date, and first kiss. It was great, and I'm happy it happend when I was older.

Oh no, he's just my friends ex-boyfriend :lol: He just goes to a different school, that's all.

Oh no, he's just my friends ex-boyfriend :lol: He just goes to a different school, that's all.
oh thats good. *WHEW!* I was about to send you one of ASHLEE'S HEARTFELT PM'S!

thats okay carry on...

oh thats good. *WHEW!* I was about to send you one of ASHLEE'S HEARTFELT PM'S!

thats okay carry on...

Ok, I'll ask u a dumb question. Who's Ashlee Heartfelt?

Ok, I'll ask u a dumb question. Who's Ashlee Heartfelt?
Ashlee is Rock Princess and heartfelt was what the PM was gonna be there's no such thing as someone named Ashlee Heartfelt

Except maybe, Ashlee Simpson's puppeteer

Ashlee is Rock Princess and heartfelt was what the PM was gonna be there's no such thing as someone named Ashlee Heartfelt

Except maybe, Ashlee Simpson's puppeteer

Oh :lol:

Oh :lol:
Yeah :D

Ok, I'll ask u a dumb question. Who's Ashlee Heartfelt?
She's the inventor of Aerosol Confidence in-A-CAN!!

(now in NEW papaya scent!!)

She's the inventor of Aerosol Confidence in-A-CAN!!

(now in NEW papaya scent!!)
:brent

She's the inventor of Aerosol Confidence in-A-CAN!!

(now in NEW papaya scent!!)

LOL

http://img476.imageshack.us/img476/9598/ashleeheartfelts5up.png (http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/posting.php)

Yeah you guys!!! pick up a can!! (avaible only in Japan)

Ashlee is Rock Princess and heartfelt was what the PM was gonna be there's no such thing as someone named Ashlee Heartfelt

Except maybe, Ashlee Simpson's puppeteer
hay did anyone else see the new family guy episode making fun of ashlee's SNL appearance? the song starts and she gets ready to lip sync but some male opera voice comes on in the background instead of her own and she looks around confused and dances away off the stage. effing hilarious. lol you can't help but kind of feel bad for her though.

hay did anyone else see the new family guy episode making fun of ashlee's SNL appearance? the song starts and she gets ready to lip sync but some male opera voice comes on in the background instead of her own and she looks around confused and dances away off the stage. effing hilarious. lol you can't help but kind of feel bad for her though.
lol sounds funny!

Maybe you're a late bloomer. I know that I am. I'm 20, and just recently had the experience of my first date, and first kiss. It was great, and I'm happy it happend when I was older.

lol...then I'll be a one foot in the grave bloomer.

Your 9 year old sister gets asked out? Thats disturbing.

12 year olds asking each other out is disturbing. Are kids not kids anymore?? Sad.

i have mixed feelings on online relationships.

i think that it's alright if you can't find someone who you like in real life, and you meet someone online. but you must know for sure who you're talking to and that they are being honest.

the part i think makes it bad is that you never know who it is you're talking to, and it could be a 50 year old trying to stalk you.

:wave:

I don't think you should be all like "we're boyfriend and girlfriend" until you've met in person and hung out several times. Online people can be just fine; just don't go all overboard and declare you have a relationship when the 2 of you have never been in the same room.

it sort of pisses me off when people say "why not find someone in real life". this is probably coming from someone who can easily get anyone they want and doesn't understand other people's situations. i wouldn't have an online relationship but i don't see what the big deal is.

I agree with you. Heaven forbid some of us be terribly shy or just not have the knack for meeting people or socializing. I mean, many people my age meet at bars or clubs...I hate bars and clubs. Or at school...I did that and the one guy I met was a *****. Or at work...right now all the people at my work are women or old.

some people don't have the nerve (or capability) of meeting someone in real life, and i don't think that there should be any reason why it's wrong to find someone online, if that is their situation.

Wait...You have a BF over the internet?...thats not safe


Proof right there that she didn't listen to any of the advice about online predators given in the other 389048392048 threads she made on this subject. If she doesn't listen why bother giving her advice?

hay did anyone else see the new family guy episode making fun of ashlee's SNL appearance? the song starts and she gets ready to lip sync but some male opera voice comes on in the background instead of her own and she looks around confused and dances away off the stage. effing hilarious. lol you can't help but kind of feel bad for her though.
:brent I haven't seen it....yet

LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE POST HERE!

when you are like 16 you are going to look back at these posts and be like "oh dear god... tell me that's not me"

when you are like 16 you are going to look back at these posts and be like "oh dear god... tell me that's not me"

Yeah, unless I'm still single

btw I heard my boyfriends gonna dump me soon.....oh great! :rolleyes: :(

Ok, ok, I'll shut up!!

Yeah, unless I'm still single

btw I heard my boyfriends gonna dump me soon.....oh great! :rolleyes: :(

Ok, ok, I'll shut up!!
listen, I wouldn't call a guy i've never met in person my "boyfriend".... so therefore, you're not being dumped..

jUst chill out, i'm not going to beat a dead horse and waste my time trying to convince you that you are only 14 and are totally over reacting...

best thing is, you are 14, do you really wanna be like a 12 year old? um, no. And i'm sorry, but your sisters sound like whores, an ever bigger reason not to want to be like them. Get over it, guys aren't everything... concentrate on yoruself, what do you want to be when you grow up? Worry about crap like that, not whether or not you'll every be told by some randomn guy that you're hot, because trust me, that will NOT be the type of attention you want.

It's your life. Do what you feel you need.

Just look back on what everyone's said, and consider your actions carefully. Learn from your mistakes. Most importantly, never let anybody disrespect you.


In any event, we'll be here. An ever present companion.

Yeah, unless I'm still single

btw I heard my boyfriends gonna dump me soon.....oh great! :rolleyes: :(

Ok, ok, I'll shut up!!
1. Rumors arent always true
2. Hes not really a "boyfriend" yet...

listen, I wouldn't call a guy i've never met in person my "boyfriend".... so therefore, you're not being dumped..

jUst chill out, i'm not going to beat a dead horse and waste my time trying to convince you that you are only 14 and are totally over reacting...

best thing is, you are 14, do you really wanna be like a 12 year old? um, no. And i'm sorry, but your sisters sound like whores, an ever bigger reason not to want to be like them. Get over it, guys aren't everything... concentrate on yoruself, what do you want to be when you grow up? Worry about crap like that, not whether or not you'll every be told by some randomn guy that you're hot, because trust me, that will NOT be the type of attention you want.
Things like what you want to be when you grow up arent the important thing anymore, which is sad.

There's a girl in my cousins grade, 15 years old, who is PREGNANT :( ohno:

Now do you really want to be like her, Niki, or do you want to live a happy and normal life?

...do you want to live a happy and normal life?

Define "normal". Half the people I know are 18-21, and they are already parents! One was a father at 14!!!

Some could argue that that's normal. Certainly not right, but normal.

sure, the definition of "normal" might be different.. but the defintion of a hard life isn't... being a father at 14 is no easy life.

Define "normal". Half the people I know are 18-21, and they are already parents! One was a father at 14!!!

Some could argue that that's normal. Certainly not right, but normal.
Well maybe not "normal", but "good".

There's a girl in my cousins grade, 15 years old, who is PREGNANT :( ohno:
Sad thing. When I was 13 and in the 7th grade, I knew of a pregnant 12-year-old girl in the 6th grade. Now, that kid is already a teenager. ohno:

Yeah, unless I'm still single

Trust me....You will look back at this and shake your head whether you're single or not.

Heck, I shake my head at half of my posts from 2002, and I was just making posts about sitcoms.

Trust me....You will look back at this and shake your head whether you're single or not.

Heck, I shake my head at half of my posts from 2002, and I was just making posts about sitcoms.
Yep, I agree with you here because we are all human. It's in our nature to grow and learn from our mistakes and mentalities we change.

Sad thing. When I was 13 and in the 7th grade, I knew of a pregnant 12-year-old girl in the 6th grade. Now, that kid is already a teenager. ohno:
When I was in 6th grade there was a pregnant 8th grader :eek:

Trust me....You will look back at this and shake your head whether you're single or not.

Heck, I shake my head at half of my posts from 2002, and I was just making posts about sitcoms.
Me too :nod: (Well from 2004)

Sad thing. When I was 13 and in the 7th grade, I knew of a pregnant 12-year-old girl in the 6th grade. Now, that kid is already a teenager. ohno:

When I was a freshman in college, I met a girl who had a baby at 13. I couldn't believe it.

How 'bout this... my childhood development teacher in high school told us that when she was at the hospital having her baby, she saw an 11 year old girl sitting there, and later found out she was pregnant... with twins.

How 'bout this... my childhood development teacher in high school told us that when she was at the hospital having her baby, she saw an 11 year old girl sitting there, and later found out she was pregnant... with twins.
Damn! :eek: ohno:

How 'bout this... my childhood development teacher in high school told us that when she was at the hospital having her baby, she saw an 11 year old girl sitting there, and later found out she was pregnant... with twins.

No way!! :eek: That reminds me of that 11 year old pregant girl in Moscow who had that boyfriend (the father of the baby) who was 22 and got arrested. But they still loved each other.
Gosh, I know someone said this before but.....kids are just not kids anymore!

Coming into high school, was an eye opener for me. I knew at least 4 girls that were pregnant that year. It was easy to figure out what they did over Summer Vacation.