is it a bad or good quality to be 100% honest and give people the cold, hard truth when asked? i don't think it is good but a lot of people think complete honesty is the best policy. i personally think that it's good to be honest but in the nicest way possible. does anyone think that it's good to be like that, where you give out the complete truth? my friend Makayla is like that. when asked an opinion, she says EXACTLY what is on her mind, where I try to make offensive opinions sound as unoffensive as possible.

in this case, are you guys more like me, where you are sensitive, or are you like Makayla, where you deal out the cold truth?

I think it's good to be 100% honest, if you can do it in a nice way, not rude. :)

there is a great book on this subject called "Radical Honesty:How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth" by Brad Blanton

i think it is bad to be honest in a blunt and cold way, but i think some people are naturally like that.

Its bad to be mean about it but its good to be honest. So you should be honest but not rude.

you know Makayla. do you think she is blunt and cold-honest or friendly-honest? she reminds me of Gina a lot. it's also good to be open minded when answering questions.

Yes and no. People will respect you more for being honest compared to being a liar but you can also hurt people by being honest. I guess a little white lie never hurt anyone.

if someone asked me a question and my real answer might hurt the person, i would say it in the least offensive way possible, still being honest. some people would say it exactly as it runs through their mind, which can hurt people.

I'm by nature brutally honest. *Loks over at little sister. "Em, that dress makes you look like a blimp."*

:lol: i am sometimes like that.

I think it's a little of both, actually. There has to be a line drawn, but that line is all individualized. You have to decide what is appropriate and innappropriate before making a decision of how to bring something up.

I think I would rather hear the honest truth than just hear what *I* want to hear. I have a friend who is very honest and speaks his mind, and I respect that in him. He sees the world in a different manner more so than *most* people I know.

I'm very blunt and brutally honest but It depends on the person for me. If it's family, I'll tell them like it is. If it's a friend or something like that, I sugarcoat it a bit, but I still tell them the truth.

I think it's a little of both, actually. There has to be a line drawn, but that line is all individualized. You have to decide what is appropriate and innappropriate before making a decision of how to bring something up.

I think I would rather hear the honest truth than just hear what *I* want to hear. I have a friend who is very honest and speaks his mind, and I respect that in him. He sees the world in a different manner more so than *most* people I know.

well yeah. if someone showed me a picture of themself and asked if it was ugly and i thought it looked gross, i would say "that isn't a good picture of you, no offense. but it's just the picture", while my friend Makayla would say "i am going to be totally honest on this one, but yes, it looks ugly. not like it matters." but some people respect her for being brutally honest like that.

I've very blunt. I get it from my grandmother... she was a cold, hard British. I'm exactly like her. I used to try and change, but I just can't. It's the way I am. If people don't like what I have to say, then don't listen.

i don't know how i turned out the way i am. my friend Makayla (who i have mentioned like 3 other times in this thread) is a tough, mind-speaking African American (Egyptian). and her mom is like that too. she definitely speaks her mind, but she is softer to people she has known longer.

I'm a very wickedly honest person. I'll say what's on my mind. Not that I'm a cold hearted person or anything like that. I just believe in telling the truth. I'm not sure whether it should be considered a good quality or a bad quality, but I just prefer telling the truth and telling it like it is.

What a ****ty thread.

I kid, I kid.

I just say whats on my mind (but, not to people that I know are sensitive... unless they deserve it).

You should be honest, but tactful.

With all things, the good and the bad, common sense must be practiced. Being 100% honest with no tact and no common courtesty is a terrible trait.

You should be honest, but tactful.
That is what I was trying to say.

You should be honest, but tactful.I totally agree! :clap