What's wrong with a man/woman wanting to be sexually/physically attracted to a person before they decide if they want to be in a relationship? Why is it a big deal to focus on the personality AFTER you get pass the face? I'm constantly criticized for only wanting PRETTY WOMAN. Does that make me a bad guy?

I think personality is more important than physical appearence. A woman can look good, but have a bad personality. I think you should actually be in a relationship before you go to bed with a person, because if you do it before then you probably won't have a relationship at all.

I think personality is more important than physical appearence. A woman can look good, but have a bad personality. I think you should actually be in a relationship before you go to bed with a person, because if you do it before then you probably won't have a relationship at all.



But you can see what type of person they are AFTER you get pass the looks. Now what person sees someone in public and thinks personality first?

But you can see what type of person they are AFTER you get pass the looks. Now what person sees someone in public and thinks personality first?I don't think any of us see personality first

What's wrong with a man/woman wanting to be sexually/physically attracted to a person before they decide if they want to be in a relationship? Why is it a big deal to focus on the personality AFTER you get pass the face? I'm constantly criticized for only wanting PRETTY WOMAN. Does that make me a bad guy?
isn't this thread a rehash Retro? :confused: :crazy:

isn't this thread a rehash Retro? :confused: :crazy:


Rehash of what?

isn't this thread a rehash Retro? :confused: :crazy:


I created this from listeninig to Michael Bayson on the radio about why are attractive people alone. So if you can find a thread similar to this go ahead

Yes, it is. I think it is sad on being judgemental like that.

i seem to recall you mentioning only liking pretty girls/women on a thread, or making a thread and it turned to this...I just know that you mentioned this before. I have a memory remember!? LOL

You know what's ironic? Most of the people that I know that only went for the pretty girl, endeed up with an average girl at best, and found themselves happy! Go figure. :lol:

i seem to recall you mentioning only liking pretty girls/women on a thread, or making a thread and it turned to this...I just know that you mentioned this before. I have a memory remember!? LOL


The statement I made about only liking pretty women was in a Good Times Thread

A girl who's nice to look at is nice, but only if she isnt only nice to look at.

Looks are important, but I think finding a girl with an attractive personality is much more important. I would rather be with a woman who is pretty with a wonderful personality then be with one that is drop dead georgeous, but with a lousy personality.

i know what you mean. looks aren't more important but sexual/physical attraction generally OCCURS first. it doesn't matter how "shallow" some people say it is, it's simply the way the human mind works.

I agree too, that looks are the first attraction.

this reminds me of something i read the other day...best to find someone with a brain and personality because when you get old and you are no longer handsome/pretty, the conversation will be the thing to hold you two together.
So true. Who the hell cares how great someone looks, if you can't have a conversation with them in your old age?

i couldnt go out with someone who has a selfish attitude, even if they were hot, but for me looks are a must but a nice personality is marginly more important

Thinking someone is hot and being in love with them are two different things. That's why I DON'T believe in love at first site because falling in love takes some time to actually know the person. I always liked the saying"Love is blind", because no matter what age, weight, gender, hair color, etc. there is no denying matters of the heart.

Most girls that are really good looking are usually bitchs/ snobs (from the girls I've gone on dates with).

Most girls that are really good looking are usually bitchs/ snobs (from the girls I've gone on dates with).


and the Ugly girls are as sweet as pie-lol No win situation.

I definitely notice a man by the way he looks. Call me shallow, but I will only be interested in someone who takes care of themselves and looks good..and I do not mean someone who is drop dead gorgeous..but someone who take a lot of pride in their appearence; to me, confidence is very attractive. And if someone does not have any self respect..then I do not care how great their "personality" is...

and the Ugly girls are as sweet as pie-lol No win situation.
LOL

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a good-looking woman (Love at first sight, etc.), but it would be kind of nice if you could tell right off that they had a decent personality. Sometimes I think that looks may be important with personality running a close second.

i personally go by this: i don't want a nice girl who looks like an ass, or a hot girl who acts like one. but if a girl was really ugly but with a good personality, i don't think that would do it for me. physical attraction is important at first, but less important as time goes on.

i personally go by this: i don't want a nice girl who looks like an ass, or a hot girl who acts like one. but if a girl was really ugly but with a good personality, i don't think that would do it for me. physical attraction is important at first, but less important as time goes on.


Very Good explanation

I agree that there has to be some kind of physical attraction there for it to work. In my experience with my husband, I wasn't really attracted to him right at first. He was just average looking to me as I'm sure I was to him. But as time went on and we spent time together and got to know each other more we became more attracted to each other. The more I got to know him the better looking he became to me and every day I would find new things about him that I liked. I've found in my experiences that the average looking people have the best personalities anyway, they tend to appreciate you more imo. All the good looking guys I've gone out with turned out to be jerks. So no, I don't think someone is shallow for wanting a nice looking partner who takes care of themselves but I don't think you should turn down an average looking person right off the bat because if you get to know them they just might grow on you.