for those elder members on so....I have best friends and close friends, but we just graduated from high school, so now we are all going off to different schools, in a variety of different states, we've made promises to stay close and to go to each others wedding no matter what...but realistically, i know some I wont see again, or care that much but the others who Im closest too, I want to remain as close, and they claim to as well, so the question I pose- between all our new friends at college, and life changing in general, is it possible to still be bestfriends when it is all said and done? I know we will all change but I hope to grow old with a few of them...ahh im nervous for college :eek:

I'm absolutely dreading leaving high school for this reason. Luckily, I still have a year left, and I realize that after this it'll never be the same, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. I'm dreading graduation, I'll probably end up crying like a little bitch, and I never cry.

I'm absolutely dreading leaving high school for this reason. Luckily, I still have a year left, and I realize that after this it'll never be the same, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. I'm dreading graduation, I'll probably end up crying like a little bitch, and I never cry.

dude that was like me...the one time i cry is when im drunk and cuz of graduation...and well my friends are starting to leave (i dont go till sept..) but my bfff is leaving monday and shes going 12 hrs away by car...its not fun to think about

I couldve pretty much cared less about the friends I had in HS when I got out. Most of them werent 'real' friends, and were more of school friends. And the friends that I was close with, werent really going too far anyways.

my best friends in highschool were the same friends I had since the 3rd grade, and i wasn't friends with any of them after about 5 years... i think I went to one old friend's bachelor party - not the wedding - and that was the last time I saw any of them.

It probably isnt that big of a deal, you'll make new friends in college and whatnot - it doesnt hurt to TRY and stay close with old friends, but if you want it to work, you will have to WORK at it.

I have a couple of friends that have gone on to other schools in Upstate, N.Y. for college...whenever they are home, we always hang out, have sleepovers, go places, etc. So, yea, it depends on the situation, really and if your friends change much(or you, for that matter). My friends seem like the same people I knew in high school :)

I dont really talk to many people I graduated with that often. Just a select few. I do think though as that song says, the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were younger. I miss alot of my elementary school friends I lost when I moved!

I'm going into my second year of college...most of my friends from home are scattered from boston to seattle....
the first summer home is a real reality check as to which friends you're going to really care about keeping...of my group of friends from high school, about 8 of us have really kept in touch and plan to stay that way...the others you see around and say hello but dont really go out of your way to stay close to.
you'll also make soooooooooo many new friends, that are practically family after awhile, that your focus will shift, itll be your really close friends from home that you'll put in the time to keep (and yes, go to each others weddings).

i hate that issue so much. i'm emotionally unstable in the first place and i cannot deal with changes like that. i seriously don't know how i'm going to deal with going my own separate way from everyone i've been going to school with since like fourth grade and never seeing them again. trying to keep in touch with them is just depressing. not to spiral too off topic but that's one of the reasons i don't want to live much longer, i HATE the idea that my life hasn't really begun yet, i feel like i've lived long enough. there are just a few things i want to do, which is the only reason i'd have a problem with dying now, and 5-10 years from now i feel like my life will be complete and i'll be done with it.

from what I understand most of the people from HS won't matter much anymore after you meet new people at college.

for those elder members on so....I have best friends and close friends, but we just graduated from high school, so now we are all going off to different schools, in a variety of different states, we've made promises to stay close and to go to each others wedding no matter what...but realistically, i know some I wont see again, or care that much but the others who Im closest too, I want to remain as close, and they claim to as well, so the question I pose- between all our new friends at college, and life changing in general, is it possible to still be bestfriends when it is all said and done? I know we will all change but I hope to grow old with a few of them...ahh im nervous for college :eek:

Always remember, regardless of how often you stay in touch, your frienship with each person on whatever level is in your hearts.

Because of personal life changes, you will marry at different times, some may never marry, some may have children, job demands will vary, all of which will contribute to the frequency or infrequency of your contact with one another.

But whenever you do speak or meet, you will pick right up from where you left off, but as true friends, it will feel as if it were just yesterday that you just spoke or saw each other. :)

within my group of friends there is 5 of us and we call one another our best friends...one is going to school near me, and we are wicked tight, and I feel like you just know and I believe she is someone who I will be friends with forever...I strongly value my friendships so hopefully that will be true. My best friend though is going like 12 hrs away, and so her family and I joke about how I get her room when she goes to college...I dont know what will happen but these are the two friendships I would love to still see entact when its all said and done

It's easier in a small, more rural, town. There's fewer colleges that people will realistically go to (sure, the occasional person goes to UCLA or West Point, but....), so more groups of people go together. Most people come back to their parents' with decent frequency, so it's easier to just go over there and see them. Most people are able to retain their friendships with a greater deal of ease.

Of course, this isn't necessarily the case. Even though I actually went with around 8 other friends/acquaintances from high school, I really only keep even occasional contact with two...and see the others now and then.

The opportunity exists, at least, for most of us to stay relatively in touch, but people just...grow apart (large campuses don't help this). Really, I only have COMPLETELY lost contact with four people from high school - three went to UK (two of whom actually got married [both of which were really good friends of mine....I wasn't at the wedding]), and one just kinda...disappeared.

Being one of the older ones here.... all my friends who I knew back in the day are no longer in my life. They have all chosen different routes. Some have passed away. Others have gone their own way and never bothered to contac me even if they have my phone #.

I am one of those people who open communications with friends but they choose not to open communication with me. The friends I have now are all new.

Wait a minute......... I do have a friend whos been my friend for 25 odd years. :thumbsup:

my dad has friends who went to kindergarden with, and all still see each othher a lot- so I hope something ths is hereditary ;)i

This thought scares the heck out of me, I dont wanna lose all of my friends. Im sure ill keep some of them, I mean my mom has friends that she's known since middle school, but still....

I talk to absolutely no one from HS anymore. They've all gotten married or moved and forgotten I exist. Marriage...that's the real kicker.

It wasn't a big deal to me. I don't talk to anyone that I graduated with, not even ONE person. I actually didn't even really have too many friends throughout high school and by senior year, I just wanted to leave that place and get away from those people and never look back. I hope I never speak to any of them again. I guess it's easier to leave high school when you loathed it and didn't really have any close friendships with anyone.

However, I can imagine how difficult it would be to have close friends and have to go your seperate ways come graduation. But I guess I am just lucky enough not to have any of those high school ties.

I don't see any of my HS friends anymore. I went to college with a few of them but when that was finished we all just went our separate ways. I had very little in common with them after that. Most of them got married, had kids right after college and didn't really have time to hang out anymore. I was single and working full time up until a few months ago so I didn't really have much free time either. I do think that it is possible to keep in contact with HS friends after graduation though. My brother who is 40 is still very good friends with 2 of his old HS classmates, if fact they have all been very close since their elementary school days.
I think it really all depends on how close the friendship is to begin with. I had friends in HS but never any really close friends, just people who happened to be in some of my classes. Every year in HS I hung around with different people.

the day I had been dreading since ive graduated came and I just said bye to my bestfriend :( I dont think ive cried that much, haha...but I'm like a part of her family so I think ill still hang out at her house, but clearly wont be the same

for those elder members on so....I have best friends and close friends, but we just graduated from high school, so now we are all going off to different schools, in a variety of different states, we've made promises to stay close and to go to each others wedding no matter what...but realistically, i know some I wont see again, or care that much but the others who Im closest too, I want to remain as close, and they claim to as well, so the question I pose- between all our new friends at college, and life changing in general, is it possible to still be bestfriends when it is all said and done? I know we will all change but I hope to grow old with a few of them...ahh im nervous for college :eek:

To answer your question...yes it is possible. But it takes work from both sides. I have friends from high school that I'm still very close to today. Infact, they all call my parents mom and dad. We've been there for weddings, births, birthdays, fights with spouses, and we are about to go through a REAL nasty divorce. Some people from high school I'll probably never see again other than reunions...but there are those few.

It was probably a bit easier for me b/c I've had to keep in touch with people for years. I moved around alot and I am still friends with people I went to elementary school with. I actually went back to Florida a few years back and met her boyfriend and then 2 year old son. It was great seeing her and her family again.

Email has helped a BUNCH in keeping touch. Use it often and you can stay in contact with your friends.

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I'm absolutely dreading leaving high school for this reason. Luckily, I still have a year left, and I realize that after this it'll never be the same, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. I'm dreading graduation, I'll probably end up crying like a little bitch, and I never cry.

thats gonna be me..there gonna ahve to like drag me out of the school after graduation lol