Just curious....

Males: First off, how old are you? If a girl approaches you, makes conversation, you seemingly enjoy it, then asks you out, and then gives you her phone number AND email address (but you don't give her yours), how long do you wait until you call her? Please specify whether you consider yourself shy or not. Why, or why not?

Females: Have you been the girl in the scenario above to ask a guy out? If so, please share your experiences. Good or bad.

Thanks to everyone who answers the questions... :)

Females: Have you been the girl in the scenario above to ask a guy out? If so, please share your experiences. Good or bad.



Welp, my current boyfriend and I were best friends for about a year and a half before we started dating, and so, I kind of forget how it happened... we were just talking one night and I told him I had feelings for him (he already told me he had them for me) and we just kind of mutually agreed on it, I guess, I'm not really sure... whatever it was though, it worked. We've been together 5 1/2 months :)

mine is very "hello, i am 4 years old"... I went on a blind date and met Jonathan... we hit it off really well, talked constantly, good eye contact, etc. etc... anyway, about a month of flirting but not having anything definite he just looked at me and said "Melissa, I really do not know how to do this so i'm going to do it the only way I know how... Will you be my girlfriend?" it was sooo adorable, I couldn't help but to say yes... :)

mine is very "hello, i am 4 years old"... I went on a blind date and met Jonathan... we hit it off really well, talked constantly, good eye contact, etc. etc... anyway, about a month of flirting but not having anything definite he just looked at me and said "Melissa, I really do not know how to do this so i'm going to do it the only way I know how... Will you be my girlfriend?" it was sooo adorable, I couldn't help but to say yes... :)



Ahhh - that's cute!

My husband ASKED to kiss me - I thought that was so sweet!

Females: Have you been the girl in the scenario above to ask a guy out? If so, please share your experiences. Good or bad.

Hell no. I'm chicken **** when it comes to that. I'd rather slit my wrists.

Hell no. I'm chicken **** when it comes to that. I'd rather slit my wrists.
Hell yes.

Kay Scarpetta & MsOrange: Thank you both for your responses!

Dawson's Girl & Pleasant Tomorrow: Why not? I'm just curious to read why you choose not to. I actually don't blame you too, in reality. The first guy I asked out last summer was gay. His is understandable, as I didn't go further - he's outta reach. The second guy I asked out was actually ten days ago, and he said, "yes." I gave him my number and email address, but I have yet to hear from him. :( He was painfully shy and didn't open up much, but then I had guts to approach him and got him to open up, we talked, he asked me questions, he and I were flirting, etc, but I haven't heard from him. It makes me feel stupid and wish I could crawl back into a hole. Not a good feeling....

Anyway, anyone have anymore stories to share on approaching people? There MUST be others.... :)

I don't like girls.

mine is very "hello, i am 4 years old"... I went on a blind date and met Jonathan... we hit it off really well, talked constantly, good eye contact, etc. etc... anyway, about a month of flirting but not having anything definite he just looked at me and said "Melissa, I really do not know how to do this so i'm going to do it the only way I know how... Will you be my girlfriend?" it was sooo adorable, I couldn't help but to say yes... :)



awww, that's sweet

awww, that's sweet
:loveya:

I don't like girls.


We know already

Kay Scarpetta & MsOrange: Thank you both for your responses!

Dawson's Girl & Pleasant Tomorrow: Why not? I'm just curious to read why you choose not to. I actually don't blame you too, in reality. The first guy I asked out last summer was gay. His is understandable, as I didn't go further - he's outta reach. The second guy I asked out was actually ten days ago, and he said, "yes." I gave him my number and email address, but I have yet to hear from him. :( He was painfully shy and didn't open up much, but then I had guts to approach him and got him to open up, we talked, he asked me questions, he and I were flirting, etc, but I haven't heard from him. It makes me feel stupid and wish I could crawl back into a hole. Not a good feeling....

Anyway, anyone have anymore stories to share on approaching people? There MUST be others.... :)

Kinda how you feel right now scares me out of doing it. Fear of rejection, fear of humiliating myself, the general pain of sitting around waiting for something to happen that probably won't...

I don't like girls.
me either!!!

Females: Have you been the girl in the scenario above to ask a guy out? If so, please share your experiences. Good or bad.

My ex and I were "together" for a week before we officially started dating but I am the one that asked if he wanted to go steady (shall we say).

Kinda how you feel right now scares me out of doing it. Fear of rejection, fear of humiliating myself, the general pain of sitting around waiting for something to happen that probably won't...
Since I am a late bloomer, I want to perish the thought of a first date being when I am in my 30s or even in my 40s. *cringes* That's why I am pushing myself to go forth with it as part of life's learning lessons just to get through the hurdles of getting past the approach experience. It has to be taken as a normal part of life. Yes, it *is* scary, but I am finding it also builds self-confidence. We walk around knowing it *can* be done. Don't be afraid of it. :) There are also things going on with other people, too. This guy I asked out is VERY shy, so he could be scared, too. I gave him that "bam" experience of just asking him out, and he did enjoy talking with me. However, he also mentioned he had health-related personal problems going on (he mentioned them as part of self-disclosing, and that means A LOT in communication), so I think that's also part of why he's taking a while. Maybe he's scared to death to initiate anything. Well, I'll send you a PM with more info. Just look at it in a positive light. :)

We know already



< collective sigh of relief >

(male) I've never been in that situation. Pretty much the only people who I would call a friend in life are girls but none have ever liked me like that. whatevuh.

Just curious....

Males: First off, how old are you? If a girl approaches you, makes conversation, you seemingly enjoy it, then asks you out, and then gives you her phone number AND email address (but you don't give her yours), how long do you wait until you call her? Please specify whether you consider yourself shy or not. Why, or why not?


Well, if some girl gives you her number, then it's pretty safe to say that she digs you, so I see no reason in waiting to call her. Call her the next day. She's obviously interested, so go for it.

Since this happens to me all the time, I just throw the number on the giant pile of girls phone numbers in my living room.

;)

There's this guy at work I have major feelings for and I'm trying to work up the nerve to ask him out. He's leaving our job to go work for his dad so I'm afraid I won't see him again if I don't act on it now. I did get his email address yesterday though ;D and I bought him a present today.

Yesterday I told him that I was sad and he asked me why and I told him "because I'm gonna miss you" and he said "aww thanks Mandie!" I really am gonna miss him, work is gonna SUCK now. But at least now if we did start dating it wouldn't be a problem with our boss he doesn't like coworkers dating at all.

There's this guy at work I have major feelings for and I'm trying to work up the nerve to ask him out. He's leaving our job to go work for his dad so I'm afraid I won't see him again if I don't act on it now. I did get his email address yesterday though ;D and I bought him a present today.

Yesterday I told him that I was sad and he asked me why and I told him "because I'm gonna miss you" and he said "aww thanks Mandie!" I really am gonna miss him, work is gonna SUCK now. But at least now if we did start dating it wouldn't be a problem with our boss he doesn't like coworkers dating at all.


Hey - who knows!! Maybe God will shine down on you and they'll hire an even funnier, nicer, hunk to replace him. When one door closes......

Hey - who knows!! Maybe God will shine down on you and they'll hire an even funnier, nicer, hunk to replace him. When one door closes......

noooo I don't want another guy LOL I feel a strong connection with this one. He certainly wasn't hesitant about giving me his email address and AIM name and when he came in yesterday we greeted each other with a big smile. He's such a sweetheart. :D

noooo I don't want another guy LOL I feel a strong connection with this one. He certainly wasn't hesitant about giving me his email address and AIM name and when he came in yesterday we greeted each other with a big smile. He's such a sweetheart. :D


Did he ask for yours at all?

He sounds a bit like my husband. I practically had to hit him over the head. I had to get so high school on him!! He was the tech guy at our company and he came up to work on my boss's pc once. After that, I learned how to sabatoge my email so that he'd have to come up and fix it. He must have thought I was the stupidest chick on earth cuz I'd do this once or twice a DAY - at least!! Then I do it to my co-workers machines who worked beside me (with their blessing of course)! I'd say to him - gee thanks, I owe you a beer or something for helping me out. He'd just always be nice and say, oh that's o.k. - its my job. I finally had to get word out and even then he didn't believe that I was interested. I finally just got up the nerve after about 3 months of this. He said yes right away! Turns out he was just so painfully shy, and I was popular (not bragging, this is what he tells me) that there was no way he was ever going to do it. Wouldn't have happened if I hadn't just broken down and done it. We've now been together for 15 years and are more in love now than ever! :D

Did he ask for yours at all?

He sounds a bit like my husband. I practically had to hit him over the head. I had to get so high school on him!! He was the tech guy at our company and he came up to work on my boss's pc once. After that, I learned how to sabatoge my email so that he'd have to come up and fix it. He must have thought I was the stupidest chick on earth cuz I'd do this once or twice a DAY - at least!! Then I do it to my co-workers machines who worked beside me (with their blessing of course)! I'd say to him - gee thanks, I owe you a beer or something for helping me out. He'd just always be nice and say, oh that's o.k. - its my job. I finally had to get word out and even then he didn't believe that I was interested. I finally just got up the nerve after about 3 months of this. He said yes right away! Turns out he was just so painfully shy, and I was popular (not bragging, this is what he tells me) that there was no way he was ever going to do it. Wouldn't have happened if I hadn't just broken down and done it. We've now been together for 15 years and are more in love now than ever! :D


No he didn't get the opportunity too when I got his it got really busy up front so he didn't have time plus the boss was hovering. I'm gonna give him my cell phone number too I already have it written down. I'm gonna suggest that we hang out, even if I'm too nervous to do it face to face I can always IM or email him and ask him.

No he didn't get the opportunity too when I got his it got really busy up front so he didn't have time plus the boss was hovering. I'm gonna give him my cell phone number too I already have it written down. I'm gonna suggest that we hang out, even if I'm too nervous to do it face to face I can always IM or email him and ask him.


Yeah, that's all you have to do - make it very casual - just like its off the cuff and you haven't put too much thought into it.

Just the way he reacted to you should tell you that he's not going to flat out reject you. You can start it out as a friendship out of work, and I'll bet he'll take it from there if he's interested.

(I'm kinda living vicariously now thru you - its fun and bringing back memories of my dating days....just now I have more confidence and guts. That's the drag for women - that only seems to happen once you hit your thirties and forties for most of us). Now if I were single, I wouldn't be afraid to ask any guy out or get turned down. And there's no reason it has to make it uncomfortable in the future if he does. I asked a guy out once and he said no (turned out he had just starting dating someone else). He ended up moving in with her and having a baby, but we were still friends after that. Not another word about it was mentioned and I think we both eventually forgot I ever asked him. No big deal.

The last time I did this, I called her 2 days after she gave me her number. It's weird she turned out being engaged. <_<

Will get back to everyone's posts soon, but I just wanted to break some great news to everyone.....

GOT an email from the guy today!!! AHHH!!!! :) I mean, that is just SO sweet of him to do!!! He was sorry for having kept me a while, and he had a sense of humor telling me I can curse him out and even place Voodoo on him - how funny! He mentioned to me he's not into dating now (he also said he's not gay or taken right now) because of stuff he's going through (the personal stuff I picked up on during our convo - I was right!), but it's just not in the cards for him at the moment. He's interested in being friends, and said he's enjoyed talking with me!!! :eek: I'm not in the least sad or anything, and I admire he, at least, tried to contact me!!! Wow!!! I had that feeling, too, when I was opening up my email I just had a gut feeling to find an email from him! Much to my surprise, I did!! But anyway... I just wanted to share my news with everyone.... Friends is fine, too. Friends are special. :)

The last time I did this, I called her 2 days after she gave me her number. It's weird she turned out being engaged. <_<

Yeah.

Okay, ladies! New rule.

We would really apreciate it if you informed us of your status before you produce the digits. Having a husband or a fiance or a live in boyfriend is something we'd really like to know about before we pick up the phone.

;)

Yeah.

Okay, ladies! New rule.

We would really apreciate it if you informed us of your status before you produce the digits. Having a husband or a fiance or a live in boyfriend is something we'd really like to know about before we pick up the phone.

Alright, already! Now I know. Geez. :rolleyes:

Alright, already! Now I know. Geez. :rolleyes:


Yeah...geez....what's the big deal?? We're supposed to get over it fast enough when its 5 months into the relationship!! ;) :p

Yeah.

Okay, ladies! New rule.

We would really apreciate it if you informed us of your status before you produce the digits. Having a husband or a fiance or a live in boyfriend is something we'd really like to know about before we pick up the phone.

;)

I don't get why someone would give out their number if they were taken anyways unless they said their intention was to be friends.

Swedeace!!!!



YAAAHHOOO! :clap::yippee: That's great news! And even with him saying that and still wanting to be friends doesn't close the door on it down the road. Just depends on what his issues are and how long it takes. And even if it just remains friends by then, I'm sure you'll still be really happy! See - it pays to take some risks in life! Ya never know if ya never try, and you don't want to say "what if" down the road too often!

:cool:

After that, I learned how to sabatoge my email so that he'd have to come up and fix it. He must have thought I was the stupidest chick on earth cuz I'd do this once or twice a DAY - at least!! Then I do it to my co-workers machines who worked beside me (with their blessing of course)!

:lol: That's awesome.

The last time I did this, I called her 2 days after she gave me her number. It's weird she turned out being engaged. <_<

O_o And she still gave you her number??

O_o And she still gave you her number??

Ha, yeah. Before this, she told me and my mom she thinks I'm cute..so I go to her place of work, get her number and email, and she conveniently mentions a couple days later in an email how her fiance works for Cingular...

I don't get you people with the xx chromosomes.

Ha, yeah. Before this, she told me and my mom she thinks I'm cute..so I go to her place of work, get her number and email, and she conveniently mentions a couple days later in an email how her fiance works for Cingular...

I don't get you people with the xx chromosomes.


HEY!! Don't be blaming all of us!! That is twight zone material and just makes the rest of us sane ones look bad! :lol: