If she can handle it,yes.But if you're going to neglect your family to go to
work,then maybe you shouldn't have a career.It all comes down to what you
value more.I admire women who can do both,but i am still an old fashioned
girl who believes that the woman should be home when the kids get home
from school.

I don't think it's a good thing. In this day and age it's nearly impossible to manage a household on 1 income and that's sad but I believe in many cases it can be done if you just give up a few luxuries. After I get married and have kids I will not work full time outside of the home anymore. I told my fiance maybe 1 or 2 days a week and that's it and he supports my decision 100%. Sure we won't be able to enjoy having all the material things that we could if we were both working but I think after kids come along that stuff won't matter as much. I think it's more important to sit down at the dinner table with the family and watch the kids take their first steps, go to the kids school functions etc. Working mothers often miss out on those things. Sometimes you just can't have everything, you have to sacrifice one thing for another. Family and a career don't go together very well IMO.

as long as she can support her family and spend at least some quality time with them.

I think she can have both- however, I'm not choosing that route. I don't want kids. Hell, I don't even want to be married. I want to work, work, work.

I hate women who stay at home all day while their children are at school and live off their husbands. It sucks that there are so many women who can afford to do that and still be wealthy while both of my parents work hard and can barely pay the bills.

Even if my husband made a good enough living for me not to work, I still would. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

If they can spend enough time with their families then yes. I think that women who are working should NOT work at all when their children are very young- as in like not old enough to be in school yet. I don't like it when new mothers give birth and then like 3 weeks later they already go back to work. Mothers should spend TIME with their children. That's what my mom did when my brother and I were young. She didn't work at all when we were little and then when I started preschool (my bro is older) she started working. The only reason mothers should be working IMO when their children are that young is if the husbands job isn't enough to support the family or better yet she doesn't have a husband at all. When the children start school around 3 or 4 years old then I think it's OK for the mother to go to work.

Yes it is VERY possible. My mom has been doing the balancing act since I was three. All that woman should stay home and wait for their man and take care of "his" kids and just be happy he is home from work is all ****ing bull****. I'm so glad it's not like that anymore.

my mom did it by herself for almost 20 years...

no, bitc.hes should go to the kitchen where they belong

Yeah...

I think it's a personal decision, and I can only speak from my own experience growing up. We were fortunate that my father made a great living which enabled my mother to be a stay-at-home mother to their four kids.

I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them.

It was a decision my parents made early on, and I consider myself fortunate. They were quite a team. I know that things are a lot different today and two paychecks are often needed to raise a family. Every situation is different.

I LOVED having a stay-at-home mother.

I don't know, do you think a man can have a career and a family?

I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them.

That sounds very much like my upbringing.My Mum was always around and I am grateful to her for that.We weren't rich,but at least we weren't unloved or neglected.Now before anyone says anything about that 'unloved' comment,I dont mean all parents who work dont love their children,but I think My Mum showed the love she had for her kids by always being around for them,making the dinner,helping with homework,not coming home from work at 8pm.I had friends who had take away most nights because one of their parents would pick it up on their way home from work.I had home cooked meals,and the house was always immaculate,because my Mum spent her day doing housework.

I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying
at home raising children.

Well webwarrior,I am not against it at all.I think its how it should be.

I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying
at home raising children.
purist.

Well webwarrior,I am not against it at all.I think its how it should be.
I AGREEA womANq SHOULd only make babiezz n like...cooook foodddd. lolz [/circa1947]

I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying
at home raising children.
And many of us here simply don't understand how you tolerate no opinion other than your own.

my mom was an apartment manager and we lived in one of the apartments connected to her office until i was 5, so she basically lived at work. when i was 11 she quit and just stayed home and took care of us for the rest of her life. my dad is a geologist and has a high income so it didn't cause any financial problems.

I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying
at home raising children.
i'm not against, i'm 100% for it if that's the right path for you

as for me, if i stayed at home all day while my husband was working and my kids were at school, i'd be 400 lbs and not get a thing done. I know what works for me, that doesn't. Me and my fiance both agreee; we are both going to work. When we have children, then we will decide if one of us stays home. Chances are however, we will both continue to work and day care will be our new best friend :)

I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them.


My mom would be there for our friends who's moms worked too. I remember a time when one of my friends got sick in school and she ended up coming to my house after school and my mom took care of her because her mom didn't get home from work till after dark. I remember at the time envying my friend and her sister because their parents were always working and they could do whatever they wanted all day. Now when I think about it, I just get a feeling of sadness. When I have kids I will always try to be at home for them. It's too bad that in this society a woman is looked upon as lazy if she chooses to stay home and raise a family. That in itself is a mighty big job.

My mom would be there for our friends who's moms worked too. I remember a time when one of my friends got sick in school and she ended up coming to my house after school and my mom took care of her because her mom didn't get home from work till after dark. I remember at the time envying my friend and her sister because their parents were always working and they could do whatever they wanted all day. Now when I think about it, I just get a feeling of sadness. When I have kids I will always try to be at home for them. It's too bad that in this society a woman is looked upon as lazy if she chooses to stay home and raise a family. That in itself is a mighty big job.
My mother was the Kool-Aid mom for sure. She not only kept a great home, but she kept herself in great shape too. I was her third child, and she was only 23. What a knockout too. When I started dating, the guys couldn't get over her beauty. I was always so proud. It was like having a movie star for a mother, and I'm not kidding. She was that beautiful. The Ava Gardner type of beauty.

It is a shame that certain people look down on women who choose to stay at home with their children. It really is a personal decision. I don't fault any woman who chooses to work outside the home. It could be for many reasons, be it financial, self-fulfillment....or they don't want to interupt their careers on the climb of the corporate ladder.

On the same hand, I don't feel women should be faulted for making the decision to devote all their time to motherhood. As I stated, I just loved having a stay-at-home mother. I'm very grateful for my wonderful childhood, and I always thanked my parents for it when I got older. They used to laugh it off and tell me it was their job. I told them that not everyone takes child-rearing as seriously as they did. My mother was far from lazy. Never watched a soap opera in her life. She was busy as hell with her kids and home. My parents, those two meant business when it came to raising their children.