Im going down on Wednesday to get fitted for a bridesmaid gown (which sucks because Im losing weight and the wedding aint til the end of the year so Ill have to get it re-altered), and I was wondering how much I should expect to spend? I was told to bring money and ugh I forgot to ask how much itd be and I have no idea how much these things cost.

How nice is it going to be. It could be as much as $500.
I dunno. And I highly doubt it would ever come to $500. Meangya Id go naked if that were the case.

How nice is it going to be. It could be as much as $500.


Yeah - depends on the bride's tastes/expectations and all. Do you know what she usually spends on her regular clothes (i.e. - does she go for designer stuff)?

Is there any way you can just call her and ask directly? Can't see she would be offended. Or, if you know the name of the store and if they've already been decided on, they could tell you exactly.

I agree though - be prepared for anything from $250 to even $600. Mention to them too, that you are losing weight!

Have fun! ;)

If she's a Louis Vutton person, she might be springing for a really nice dress.



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I bought a bridesmaid dress for the Military Ball last year... it was Jessica McClintock. It was $265 but on sale... so I paid somewhere between $200-$225 for it. I forgot.

Reason #126 it's great to be a guy: You plop down a small-ish [compared to THOSE numbers] amount of money, rent a tux for a couple of days for whatever occasion might spring up, and then send it back.

And even if we need to buy one due to attending formal events often, they're by and large still cheaper than dresses.

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I've been in my share of weddings. They're a lot of fun, but very expensive. Dress, shoes, salon, wedding shower, shower gift, bachelorette party, wedding gift...lots of money.

I've been in my share of weddings. They're a lot of fun, but very expensive. Dress, shoes, salon, wedding shower, shower gift, bachelorette party, wedding gift...lots of money.
That's why I don't want a very fancy wedding. I hate spending that much money.

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do bridesmaids pay for their own dresses when their in a wedding, or is that the brides responsiblity?

do bridesmaids pay for their own dresses when their in a wedding, or is that the brides responsiblity?
usually they pay for their own

do bridesmaids pay for their own dresses when their in a wedding, or is that the brides responsiblity?


Supposedly the tradition always was that if the bride insisted on a certain type or design, she would foot the bill and if she left it more to the bridesmaids then they would pay themselves.

About the last 15 years though the bridesmaids seem to get stuck with the whole thing regardless - dress, shoes, salon (although many brides will pickup hairdressing/makeup tabs) - yeah - and gift! Gets really pricey and worse if your the maid/matron of honor - you're expected to host a bridal shower.
The bride should still get a gift for them though - and the more they're expected to spend, then usually the gift from the bride reflects that too.
For my brother's wedding, I got stuck paying $250 for a homemade, ill-fitting
dress that I ended up using as a Halloween costume going as Shirley Temple (if that gives you any idea of how BAD this thing was)! The jewelry (necklace and matching earrings) fell apart at the reception.

Just elope - or live together!! Better spent towards a honeymoon to remember or the house I say! :D

OMG 500 dollars? Dude I would say screw you unless they're paying. That's freaking ridiculous. I will never have some big fancy wedding. Who needs all that crap?

OMG 500 dollars? Dude I would say screw you unless they're paying. That's freaking ridiculous. I will never have some big fancy wedding. Who needs all that crap?
UGH. Nice to know girl! Ill call the wedding planner. :mrtarver:

i don't want a big fancy wedding...

how do you ask someone to be your bridesmaid, and then expect them to pay for their own dress? that doesn't make any sense to me.

I know!! I've thought the same thing.

Supposedly its supposed to be a big honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid so you're not supposed to be offended when they want you to put out big bucks to do it.

I think weddings have just gotten ridiculous in costs over the last decade or so. We did everything we could to cut costs but still put on a fairly decent "Italian Wedding". Still ran $36,000 for about 90 guests! I'd rather use the money towards building a good start for the future together - like a downpayment for a house.

Too much emphasis on "The Day" now instead of the marriage!

well, my dress is NOT going to be over 500 dollars, it makes me cringe thinking of paying that much... my fiance's cousin paid 800$ for her dress, and it had red stripes on it (very ugly). We're not going to have a big wedding party, maid of honor, two bridesmaid, best man, two groomsman. Flowers will be done by family, but we'll still have to pout money down for the flowers...catering done by family (reception in church gym). I'm hoping it doesn't kill us.

But that makes me nervous now, asking someone to be a bridesmaid and then when it c omes time to buy the dress look at them awkwardly when the lady ask how we will be paying for it.

But that makes me nervous now, asking someone to be a bridesmaid and then when it c omes time to buy the dress look at them awkwardly when the lady ask how we will be paying for it.

Have you already asked them? Do you have a chance to discuss it with them before you start any further? That's what I did. I only had two, my sister-in-law and my best friend. I knew especially for my best friend that it might be a struggle for her so I just openly discussed it with her when I asked her. I told her what dresses I had in mind and approximately what they should cost and we went from there. I didn't mind comprimising for them. The dresses might not have been what I would have dreamed of, but they were still very nice and I made sure they were in styles that could be worn again. That takes some of the hurt out of it for them.

Wow - red stripes huh? Was the groom a barber???? heehee!

thats weird. my sister is getting married soon and she's paying for all her bridesmaids dresses

thats weird. my sister is getting married soon and she's paying for all her bridesmaids dresses


That's actually very generous of her. Do you know if they're designer or super expensive ones?

That's actually very generous of her. Do you know if they're designer or super expensive ones?
i dont know but knowing my sister they're not cheap. mind you this is the girl who had a $10,000 Sweet 16.

i dont know but knowing my sister they're not cheap. mind you this is the girl who had a $10,000 Sweet 16.



HOLY SMOKES!!!!! I can't even remember my sweet 16!! Probably got a home baked cake and a small present at best!!!

Yeah, o.k., if she likes expensive things, then that's probably why she's picking up the tab. I'll bet she's got a lot in her wedding party then too eh? (like 6 to 8 bridesmaids).

HOLY SMOKES!!!!! I can't even remember my sweet 16!! Probably got a home baked cake and a small present at best!!!

Yeah, o.k., if she likes expensive things, then that's probably why she's picking up the tab. I'll bet she's got a lot in her wedding party then too eh? (like 6 to 8 bridesmaids).

i think it goes: jessee, kristin, emily,alyssa,becky, kate and erin. shes only having two friends in it though, the rest are family. but her fiances side is just as bad, he's having me and my brother, his 2 brothers and friends.

I knew it!!! Didn't I say 6 - 8 ?!?!!! :lol:

Going to look like Charle's & Diana's all over again!

Wow - that's going to cost her - or your parents an absolute fortune!!!

When I was younger that's the sort of thing I wanted, but no more. As it was it was so much money, worry, work and stress all for one day.

And the killer is, the bride and groom quite often don't even get a chance to truly enjoy it or even eat the meal they chose - they're too busy having to visit everyone - yada - yada - yada!

If I were to do it again - small chapel wedding with immediate family and very close friends only - and then a big, informal backyard pool party/BBQ and just be able to party and have fun.