They say teenagers don't know what love is because they really don't have a concept of it yet. They say that what we get are just crushes, right? And none of it can be serious to them, really. But how do you know? Who here can say what's just a crush and what isn't? Because I sure as hell don't know what's going on.

Love is a very hard concept for anyone to understand, and it truly does take a fair amount of experience and possibly some heartbreaks to realize what is what.

go make some mistakes (but stay out of trouble) - you can figure out if its love or a crush later.

I'm too shy to make mistakes :(

Love is so confusing. It's like, with me, I just wish I could find a really guy friend, not a boyfriend but just a really good guy friend. But most guys I know are jerks so there goes that thought.

I feel your pain. I've been contemplating that for years, and actually right now. Do I just have a crush on Mr. X? Am I just in love with the whole concept of being in love and not in love with him? *sigh* Before I was like, oh, he's not my type and we'd make a horrible couple. But then I did something stupid and I was all afraid he'd never talk to me again and when I found out I was wrong about all that, I was thrilled. Man....

But yeah, I have a horrible fear of rejection and making myself look like an ass.

I've had tons of "crushes" and thought I was in love with all of them and would die without them,but I soon discovered that its nothing more than a temporary infatuation,not true love.I look back on the boys who I got really upset about and thought I'd never get over,and now I just have to laugh,because they now seem so unimportant.
But my biggest downfall is that I love being "in love" and I am too idealistic.If I 'like' someone I start imagining that they are the perfect human being who can no wrong,and I get a nasty awakening when I discover that they are only human and screw up like we all do.
And,in my experience,having a crush that doesn't know you,know of your love for them,or doesn't like you can really break your heart.Trust me,I've been there.

But yeah, I have a horrible fear of rejection and making myself look like an ass.

omg me too. sometimes i try to do things in a good way but i end up making myself look like an ass. it sucks.

Personally I do not like being in love..I do not handle relationships very well because I feel once I have feelings for someone that individual has a part of my heart and my soul. And having that person has such power over you (in an emotional way) scares the hell out of me and it still does and I am in my 30s. I have been in a lot of relationships over the years, and honestly, I like being single...

I have only been in love once, and once only. I doubt I will ever feel the same way about anyone again. It was horrible... after she broke my heart [twice, might I add] I couldn't get over her. She occupied my thoughts, my dreams, it's like she was taking over me. I'm happy with my boyfriend of 3 months, but she is STILL in my life. I just cannot get rid of her.

Love, in my opinion, is a pain in the ****ing ass.

I've had two major crushes throughout my life (one in middle school 10+ years ago and the other last summer). Strong crushes are very powerful. If you've never had a major crush, then it would be difficult to describe in detail, but it just feels like the crushee has so much control just because of their existence that made you notice them.

One of the reasonable answers of not wanting to approach a crush would be because of fear of rejection. It's very understandable. But how would you know if you don't approach the person? :)

Love, in my opinion, is a pain in the ****ing ass.DING DINBG DING DSING! A WINNER!

But how would you know if you don't approach the person? :)

I really honestly don't even want a boyfriend. I'm not ready for that junk yet. And plus, like others have said...it's probably just a crush and you're wasting your time. That's why I hate being a teenager, all of the stuff you feel and think is most likely bull****.

Love is when you can go through hell and back with that person. Love is when you can accept that person's flaws. Love is sticking with a person through thick and thin.

Crushes come and go, but love lasts a long time. (Most times forever) I don't think you can honestly know what love is until you go through that stuff. Teenagers need to date different people and just have a good time. There's no sense in rushing into anything with anybody.

I really honestly don't even want a boyfriend. I'm not ready for that junk yet. And plus, like others have said...it's probably just a crush and you're wasting your time. That's why I hate being a teenager, all of the stuff you feel and think is most likely bull****.

I'm glad to see your not rushing into love like a lot of teenagers. That is a good thing. I had a similar outlook when I was a teenager, it gave me a chance to see things from the outside looking in. That is when I believe you truly learn things about yourself and what you want in a person. I still dated ,mind you, but I kept it at an observing level. You have to be objective when dating , or it will break you down. People get caught up in a lot of pointless drama just because they want to force someone to be the their " ideal " person. That is a setup to failure. The best thing is to concentrate on yourself, someone will see and appreciate the person you've grown into, and want to be apart of that ( and vice versa, of course ) That is the beginnings of love, and of course what Brain Damage said is about right! ;)

sorry... i babble in the mornings :crazy:

I love loving someone. It just makes me feel like a have a reason to live.

sorry... i babble in the mornings :crazy:That's fine, I posted this thread to see what everyone has to say :p

If it's a crush, you will get over it eventually, no matter how much you feel like you're in love with that person right now. As for what qualifies being in love with someone - I have no idea.

People get caught up in a lot of pointless drama just because they want to force someone to be the their " ideal " person. That is a setup to failure. The best thing is to concentrate on yourself, someone will see and appreciate the person you've grown into, and want to be apart of that ( and vice versa, of course )

I agree. I think it's better to accept people for who they are. I don't believe in changing a person because then not either one of the people would be happy. I think love is accepting the other person for their good things and their faults. I mean, if a person turned out to be a criminal or something I think there would be an exception, but for the most part for normal people, I think people should just be accepted for who they are.

Love is a very odd feeling. Sometimes it makes your life feel so perfect, You truly look forward to every day...And yet, It can also make you feel so depressed that you no longer wanna live. I've personally been in love In the past, It started out as a crush...But after 6-7 years I Could tell that i was really in love with this person. Unfortunately, I Never had the guts to take action or anything and had to eventually get over her when I Realized that she already had someone in her life.

A Crush is alot more simple. It doesn't make you quite as happy as love, But You also don't get into the levels of depression that you get if something goes wrong. I've learned from my past mistakes, And I'm gonna stick with crushes until the day comes when I Finally KNOW Who my soulmate is.

I Sure Know alot about love considering I've never had a girlfriend. :(

Even if not approaching crushes, it can be fun. It's safe because you can stay your distance without getting involved. :)

I Sure Know alot about love considering I've never had a girlfriend. :(
:bighug: Ill be your girlfriend. :)

:bighug: Ill be your girlfriend. :)
Sure, Why Not.

Sure, Why Not.
get a room :cuss:

get a room :cuss:

Shut up bitch! :mad:

I think that when you first see someone and are attracted to them that is a crush. Even if you get to know the person and maybe have been dating them awhile that you're still dealing with a crush, though many mistake this for love. I feel for a relationship to blossom into full blown love, there has to be some history between the persons involved. When you're girlfriend or boyfriend is also your best friend, and you can finish each other's sentences and you're relationship is based on respect and enjoying each other's company over purly physical attraction (though to be in loved one must be attracted to the person whom they love) then it is love. I don't think that teenagers are experienced enough or mature enough to be in love.

Shut up bitch! :mad:
:p

I think that when you first see someone and are attracted to them that is a crush. Even if you get to know the person and maybe have been dating them awhile that you're still dealing with a crush, though many mistake this for love. I feel for a relationship to blossom into full blown love, there has to be some history between the persons involved. When you're girlfriend or boyfriend is also your best friend, and you can finish each other's sentences and you're relationship is based on respect and enjoying each other's company over purly physical attraction (though to be in loved one must be attracted to the person whom they love) then it is love. I don't think that teenagers are experienced enough or mature enough to be in love.
I agree with that. That's why I don't buy into "Love at First Sight."

Love is a very odd feeling. Sometimes it makes your life feel so perfect, You truly look forward to every day...And yet, It can also make you feel so depressed that you no longer wanna live. I've personally been in love In the past, It started out as a crush...But after 6-7 years I Could tell that i was really in love with this person. Unfortunately, I Never had the guts to take action or anything and had to eventually get over her when I Realized that she already had someone in her life.

A Crush is alot more simple. It doesn't make you quite as happy as love, But You also don't get into the levels of depression that you get if something goes wrong. I've learned from my past mistakes, And I'm gonna stick with crushes until the day comes when I Finally KNOW Who my soulmate is.

I Sure Know alot about love considering I've never had a girlfriend. :(I'm sorry, Chad :( It does all suck. I wish I were an ameoba.

I agree with that. That's why I don't buy into "Love at First Sight."
I think love at first sight is the biggest load of horse ****. That's physical attraction, not love.

I am also not one to believe in the "love at first sight." It's way impossible. Sure, a person "may" feel they are in love, but there is a lot more than the physical attraction. Love is deeper.

I am also not one to believe in the "love at first sight." It's way impossible. Sure, a person "may" feel they are in love, but there is a lot more than the physical attraction. Love is deeper.
I agree

So confusing man. Not as confusing as chemistry, but confusing nonetheless.

I agree

So confusing man. Not as confusing as chemistry, but confusing nonetheless.

But it IS chemistry!! No wonder it sucks. *runs*

But it IS chemistry!! No wonder it sucks. *runs*
HOLY ****...you're right! **** this ****.