ok, here's the deal. I'm 16 (just turned 16), and my bf will be 18 next week. We've been together for about 3 months, and our parents never knew how old we were because we didn't think they would approve of the age difference. but yesterday, his mother found out how old I was, and flipped out. She wants us to break up, and she said if he disobeys her, she will come to my house and tell my mom how old HE is, then I'll be in trouble, and then we will definately not see eachother again (except at school). Do you all think she is wrong for this? We really really like eachother, but she's making us unhappy. Are WE wrong?

No. You're parents are over protective.

You guys aren't wrong.. your mom and his mom are just overprotective.. like Ashlee said..

His mom is being closed minded if she disapproves just because you're a couple years younger. Its the same thing how my mom disapproves of me when I had a crush on a fat girl :rolleyes:

Well, I think that there's nothing wrong with an 18 year old dating a 16 year old, however I guess a parent would be upset because an 18 year old can be accused of rape for having sex with a minor, or doing anything relating to sex, even if it was consentual. There was a story about a boy in Georgia who had sex with a 17 year old when he was 18. He got a bunch of years in prison, so maybe your boyfriend's mother is worried about that...

Well, did you OR he lie to her about the age difference? Or were the both of you just successful in not having to bring it up? If there was no lying about it, then it's kind of a sucky deal for you. If you did, then your parents have every right to feel that way.

At 16 you are still a MINOR. If he touches you 'the wrong way' you could accuse him of many things. Prolly that's his mom's main concern.

We are both in the same situation. We didn't lie, we just let them assume that we were the ages they thought we were, but we didn't correct them. They have rights to be angry about ur lying, but they shouldn't try to seperate us because of it.

I don't think you're wrong. I'm 16 and my bf is 19, and both of our parents are okay with it. I think your parents are overprotective.

That's only two years younger.......

Your parents are just protective. Im not saying your wrong, though

And another thing i don't get. She yelled at him about how he was about to be a grown man dating a "child", but she's not treating him like one like a grown man. She should let him make his own decisions. Hell, my uncle lives here with me and my mom, but just because he lives under her roof doesn't mean she can tell him that his girlfriend is too young and he should break up w/ her....if she's worried about me accusing him of something, she needs to try to get to know me because I would never do that to him, or anyone.

If it were my mom she'd allow it, because she thinks the boy/man should be a good amount (1-2 years older) older than the girl.

If his mom is going to refer to him as a "grown man" then she needs to treat him like one.

Since both of your parents disapprove, you should just stay friends until you turn 18. Believe me, you'll be 18 before you know it. If you both like each other that much, it'll be worth the wait.

Originally posted by laceyinthesky
Since both of your parents disapprove, you should just stay friends until you turn 18. Believe me, you'll be 18 before you know it. If you both like each other that much, it'll be worth the wait. Yeah, I guess if it results to that that's all you can do. If you liked each other enough, you'd still like each other after a couple of years anyway.

Not saying you'll do this, but some girls have been known to accuse older guys they're dating of rape if they break up with them or something, that's probably why. His mom doesn't want something like to happen.

She's just a very overprotective mom, I think any mother that had an 18 year old son dating a 16 year old girl would feel the same way

I don't think it's that big of a deal, but technically -- if you sleep together, it is rape.


I think she's looking out for the legal side of it more than anything.

Then again I could understand your parents being a little uncertain about an older guy. But in a few years, age won't matter that much.

I can definitely understand their concern...just try talking to both your parents together.

uh you guys, 16 and 18 is different than, say 15 and 17. she's a minor, her boyfriend isn't.

Originally posted by safety pin
uh you guys, 16 and 18 is different than, say 15 and 17. she's a minor, her boyfriend isn't.

Exactly.
If they have sex, it's rape.
Which is illegal.

Originally posted by safety pin
uh you guys, 16 and 18 is different than, say 15 and 17. she's a minor, her boyfriend isn't.

Nobody said that, we were just saying that the legal aspect is what his mom is probably very wary of.

When my husband and I starting dating I was 17 he was 24. He had already served 3 years in the military and was a divorced man! My parents did not approve! Now as a parent and an adult I can see why! I am sure that in 1 year in which I would have been 18 we would still have been in love. We just celebrated our 36th wedding anniversary!

All I can tell you is it would probably be better if you along with your mother. It could save both of you a lot of stress and worry! I know that 2 years sounds like an eternity but really it isn't! Good Luck!:wave: