I'm stunned at my aunt's latest display of idiocy. My 16 year old cousin goes online all the time...nothing wrong there. But she's befriended someone who has invited her to their house in London to stay overnight. I don't know if this person is male or female, how old they are, or how long they've been chatting to my cousin for but I was horrified when my aunt said she's going to let my cousin go.

I'm for meeting people off the internet if it's done with sense, like meeting in a public place, being over 18 or if not having parents with you...but to let a 16 year old girl (who suffers from depression which includes anoerix, self harm, no confidence and being on Prozac) go to somebody's house alone when they've never met before hand is madness in my opinion.

I'll have a really hard time feeling sorry for my aunt if she finds her daughter dead after this crazy stunt, because I have a really hard time believing that a parent (who is a teacher that works with bad behaved kids) can be so blind and stupid to the possible dangers...my mum pointed some dangers out to her and she said they hadn't even crossed her mind, but was still planning on letting her daughter go! It's insane.

Please, tell my aunt this isn't a good idea. I don't want my cousin to get hurt because of such awful parenting.

It is very stupid. But there is nothing we all can say to her to make her change her mind since she's in denial.

That isn't a good idea...She isn't old enough to go on her own. That just sounds like trouble to me. If I were her mother and she wanted to go so badly, I'd go right along with her.

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VERY VERY stupid. I assume you live in England right?

Wow :eek: That is really dangerous!

What does your cousin's father have to say about this?

Is there anyone else in your family that can talk to your aunt about this situation?

Maybe someone from the police or someone from your church.

You need to act quickly and do some kind of prevention, before something terrible happens.

I hope everything turns out okay.

that is a very bad idea. I think meeting people off the internet is a bad idea, specifically being far away from your home and spending the night with that person....its a bad idea IMO

Originally posted by Brent88
I assume you live in England right?

I'd be mortified if she didn't. Not that I'm not already, but..

That is madness, indeed.

I think you should talk to your cousin instead, if you cant get through with your aunt. Afterall, SHE is the one who will be going, and is the one who can get hurt. Better yet, why not go WITH your cousin? Tell her to reschedule-- to meet in a populous area, and NOT stay overnight.

Originally posted by Jrnygrl
What does your cousin's father have to say about this?
Her dad's a drunk and is divorced from the mother...he wouldn't give a crap.

Yes I'm in England, she's in Wales. It really frustrates me that I can't do anything but thanks for the replies, I'm glad others agree that it's stupid.

I think you should talk to your cousin instead, if you cant get through with your aunt. Afterall, SHE is the one who will be going, and is the one who can get hurt. Better yet, why not go WITH your cousin?

My cousin and I don't get along, at all. She wouldn't listen to a word I said and would go just to disagree with me.

I'm thinking your cousin should rethink what she's doing. What a bad idea. And your aunt needs to be slapped for allowing this.

If it were me, and my cousin or aunt or no one else would listen to me, I'd notify the police, since she's a minor that guy could get in serious trouble, but then so could your aunt for letting her go :(

That's rediculous. At that point, as a parent, I'd only go as FAR as letting them meet while I was there supervising it in public.

Wow, that wasnt smart of her

I don't find harm in meeting friends off the web that you have chatted with for a long time and trust. That is if it is a supervised trip and you are at least 18 years old. It is stupid for your aunt to allow that but do you know of any close older friends that your cousin has? If she won't listen to you then maybe they can convince her out of it or if she really wants to go they can go with her.

I don't think it's right to go alone to a person's place who a person only met on the internet. There are a lot of crazy people in this world. Your cousin could get hurt.

it dosent seem right to me ether

Originally posted by crystals
I don't think it's right to go alone to a person's place who a person only met on the internet. There are a lot of crazy people in this world. Your cousin could get hurt. :yeahthat I totally agree. Being invited to someone's home from over the internet and only knowing this person for a very short period of time, is not only dangerous but very naive, I am shocked that the aunt was not more cautious and allowing her 16 year old child to travel to London! If I were you, I would have a very long talk with your aunt and try to persuade her allowing her child to travel those long distances to just to met someone whom, they know absolutely nothing about, what happens if this individual is some kind of deranged pedophile, and rapes the child?...Hello, I would seriously consider having a very lengthy conversation with your aunt and the dangers of meeting someone or anyone over the internet.

at least get her to pose for a good "milk carton" picture first.


P.S. your Aunt is CRAZY if she lets her go.

Originally posted by Undercover Angel
:yeahthat I totally agree. Being invited to someone's home from over the internet and only knowing this person for a very short period of time, is not only dangerous but very naive, I am shocked that the aunt was not more cautious and allowing her 16 year old child to travel to London! If I were you, I would have a very long talk with your aunt and try to persuade her allowing her child to travel those long distances to just to met someone whom, they know absolutely nothing about, what happens if this individual is some kind of deranged pedophile, and rapes the child?...Hello, I would seriously consider having a very lengthy conversation with your aunt and the dangers of meeting someone or anyone over the internet.


I agree completely!

That can be dangerous....your Aunt should at least get to meet your cousins friend online.
Not a good idea for what she's doing....