So I finally get the phone call no one wants to get. My brother left a message to call him as soon as possible last night, so I call him and ask what's up.

What's up, indeed.

He tells me that yesterday before noon my mother passed away in her sleep in a nursing home. She would have been 62 this month. I felt numb, shocked, even disappointed that I didn't have
a chance to tell her about my kitties.:crying: It seems so strange that two months ago she was doing okay with her home improvement things, what she liked to do most. It's like you expect it to happen, but I didn't think (and didn't wish) it would happen so soon.

So last Friday was my last day to see her. It was so hard to see her so ill and frail. You regret you don't get a chance to tell her things you had all your life to tell her.:(

Im so sorry :crying:

I'm so sorry

omg how sad:( i'm really sorry

Sorry Greg.
My Dad died a year ago almost to the day. My mom just had a cancer scare and had to have surgery. So I'm battling with the 'no more mom and dad' blues myself.

I was just recently sort of forced into a major conversation with my mom about something. I don't know if we resolved anything but it seemed to bring us closer together that we both dealt with it. I guess maybe the 'dealing with' is maybe more important than the outcome of dealing with issues when it comes to families.

Sorry about the middle of the night call, Greg. I know how that one feels.

My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your mother isn't suffering anymore.

My thoughts are with you. Life is difficult without a mother especially at a young age.

There's no love like a mother's love.

Originally posted by Kitt
Sorry Greg.
My Dad died a year ago almost to the day. My mom just had a cancer scare and had to have surgery. So I'm battling with the 'no more mom and dad' blues myself.

I was just recently sort of forced into a major conversation with my mom about something. I don't know if we resolved anything but it seemed to bring us closer together that we both dealt with it. I guess maybe the 'dealing with' is maybe more important than the outcome of dealing with issues when it comes to families.

Sorry about the middle of the night call, Greg. I know how that one feels. :thanks:

I've already spoken to you- but I want to take this opportunity to again tell you how profoundly sorry I am, Greg. Remember, we all love you here and will be here if you want to talk.

Oh wow.. I'm so sorry! Noone ever deserves that :(

So sorry about your mother's loss. Remember that she's now watching you and watching over you.

I am so sorry:(

IM so sorry about that :(

I'm so sorry :crying: my deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.

I am so sorry Cpt. I know exactly what you're feeling because I too lost my mother seven monts ago, you and your family have my deepest sympathies :(

I am very very sorry and I understand and realize that no "I am sorry" or "you're in my thoughts and prayers" can possibly make up for the fact that your mother is no longer a part of this life and knowing you're never going to see her again until you're dead. It is something that completely sucks and I hope you'll be able to deal as painlessly as you possibly can.

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry

just out of curiosity, was your mother ill for a long time and this was expected, or was this out of nowhere? Either way it's still a shock because both ways, she's dead. But was it something you knew was going to happen soon, or did it just happen out of nowhere?

I knew my mom was going to die for about 18 months before it happened, so in a way, it was a relief (I don't mean it at all how it sounds), but in a way, I felt like I could start living again after the first few months because I really put everything on the backburner to take care of her and spend as much time as I could. But now I feel like things are looking up because I don't have to worry about her dying in the middle of the night (which ironically is what did happen) or anything like that anymore, I can let loose.

I'm sorry about your mom. My prayers will be with you and your family.:(

:( I am sorry for your loss - hang in there Captain

I just lost my mother 7 months ago, it's really tough. I believe she is in a better place now. I'm Sorry for your loss, you have my sympathies. :(

My deepest condolences to you and your family

Sorry to hear about your mother. Peace and love to you and your family. :crying: :crying: peacesign:

I'm so sorry :crying:

I'm really sorry :(

im very sorry for your loss my prayers are with you and your family

I know what your going thru. My dad died two years of a massive heart attack. He was fine one minute then felt dizzy and he was gone. My mom was diagnoised with breast cancer last year. It was caught early and she is doing great. Your mom is in a better place now. It will take some time but hang in there.

You and your family are in my prayers.

I'm so sorry about your mom!! :crying:

I'm truly sorry and my deepest sympathies to you and your entire family. May she rest in peace. God Bless You All!!

My deepest condolences.

Originally posted by Janice
My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your mother isn't suffering anymore.

My thoughts are with you. Life is difficult without a mother especially at a young age.

There's no love like a mother's love. I guess it was a very good thing that I was able to get down to the hospital last Friday to hold her hand and give her a kiss...It was strange because for so many years I felt that I had lacked affirmation from her, and I was glad to get that last week before she died yesterday.

:( Im sorry.:hug: But she is pain free now and Im sure she lived a wonderful life.:)

My condolences go out to you and your family as well.. I am so sorry. :(

:bighug:

I'm so sorry. Its coming upon the second anniversary of my mothers death and it still hurts especially this time of the year. The one comfort is that she is no longer in pain and is in a better place. You have my deepest sympathies.:(

How many times can we say that I am sorry for a death of of a loved one.we can't I am sorry it makes my heart break in half,when my monther dies she is 74 in good health,but I don't knowwhat I'll do go insaine for a while or just be de pressed all the time, I don't caarehow old they are the children the parents will alway in my heart. Treat your self to something a massage,go to a movie,or just sit and reflect on your pass, think of the good things in your life,and take care you have to sprits wacthing over you now. :( :( :(

I'm very sorry. I give you and your family my deepest condolences.

I am so deeply sorry. I pray for her to be at peace, and for you and your family in this very hard time. Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things anyone has to do, and there's really nothing we can say that will make it any easier. I just hope you know we're all thinking of you and are here for you if you need us.

:bighug:

I'm really sorry :( I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

My thoughts are with you at this sad time. :wave:

Greg,

You have my deepest condolences.

Brad

Hang in there, Greg. We're here for you. :)

Oh, I'm really sorry

Greg, I can't tell you how sorry I am that you lost your mother. It is so saddening and shocking for you to lose her so suddenly. You know she is no longer suffering and I hope knowing that can get you through this terribly difficult time. God bless you and your family.

I am so sorry. :(

I'm so sorry to hear this Captain ABlairica

my condolances

Well, last week was not a fun week. You go through so many emotions, sorrow, depression, fear, remorse, frustration, anger, and then you just...burn out. You feel nothing. These are the emotions people have told me you go through when a parent dies.:(

And what really made me mad was at my mother's memorial service at her house last Wednesday, when I spoke at length to the crowd about the up-and-down relationship with my mother, that she nurtured me to be a creative intelligent kid, but then I was a little too "intellectual" and over-imaginative, and hyperactive for her. I was left with the feeling that I was "different" and not to be taken seriously, and that my creative, artistic pursuits were "not worth doing." It wasn't until later in her life that she kind of understood a little where I was coming from. But after the service, my older brother said that "I went on a little too long" with my schpiel, that people were getting frustrated and wanted to eat. I say, to hell with them!!!:mad: I had something I felt I needed to say, and I didn't care what my brother thought. It was nice afterwards that some people came up to me and said that my mother thought very highly of me.:D

You did the right thing, Greg, telling your story. Period! I would loved to have heard what you had to say. Knowing you as I do from this site, I'm sure it would have been quite moving and interesting for me to hear. Please don't let anyone - brother included - cause you to lose sight of your inner emotions or alter your approach in how you choose to express them. Savor that you had and took the opportunity to express yourself. So many of us are not able, for one reason or another, to express ourselves. That's especially unfortunate wnen it comes to life changing turns in our worlds. So good for you that you are not only capable of expressing yourself, but willing to do so!

A hand shake and a hug is what I'd pass along to you if I were standing next to you Greg.

Originally posted by Kitt
You did the right thing, Greg, telling your story. Period! I would loved to have heard what you had to say. Knowing you as I do from this site, I'm sure it would have been quite moving and interesting for me to hear. Please don't let anyone - brother included - cause you to lose sight of your inner emotions or alter your approach in how you choose to express them. Savor that you had and took the opportunity to express yourself. So many of us are not able, for one reason or another, to express ourselves. That's especially unfortunate wnen it comes to life changing turns in our worlds. So good for you that you are not only capable of expressing yourself, but willing to do so!

A hand shake and a hug is what I'd pass along to you if I were standing next to you Greg. :thanks: :hug: :bighug:

Yeah, I think my brother's just jealous that he's not an artist like me!!:lol: He even says he's not one. I got all the COOL gifts when I was a kid!!

I am sorry to hear that your mother passed away. You have my deepest condolences.

By the way I applaud you on your speech. Your mother would be proud of you.