So here I am, nearing my mid 30's. I've got a 9 year old daughter, I've never been married, I've been on about...5 dates since my kid was born. Now all of a sudden I've got this potential date thrown in my face with this very nice guy I know. We've talked on the phone a few times and have made plans to go out at some point...but I'm so out of the loop! I don't want to be chasing this guy around like a kid in high school but it's been a long time since anyone has shown any interest in me. I've lost over 70 pounds since last spring and this is the first time I'll be able to wear nice clothes when I go out.

When you are an adult and 'date' are the rules different than when you are a teenager? :lol: I feel a little stupid - it's just been that long since I've been out!

i'd say that theyre different, but then i've never known what the rules were in the first place :confused:

good for you - maybe it will develop into something, maybe you'll just be friends, however it turns out, just be casual and have fun

My gosh! I haven't dated since since I was 17! I have been with the same guy (I married in 1968) ever since! I really hope that you can find a nice guy to share your life with. I am a big champion of marriage. But I guess I can't really relate to your life. I have been married all my life practically! My daughter, who is 34,just celebrated her 13th wedding anniversary so there is hope there! I don't know if you are ready for marriage or whatever but I just wanted to tell you that a long happy relationship is possible! I guess I just want to tell you that I wish you all the happiness that I can! :D Good luck!:)

Originally posted by Penny Lane
My gosh! I haven't dated since since I was 17! I have been with the same guy (I married in 1968) ever since! I really hope that you can find a nice guy to share your life with. I am a big champion of marriage. But I guess I can't really relate to your life. I have been married all my life practically! My daughter, who is 34,just celebrated her 13th wedding anniversary so there is hope there! I don't know if you are ready for marriage or whatever but I just wanted to tell you that a long happy relationship is possible! I guess I just want to tell you that I wish you all the happiness that I can! :D Good luck!:)


My daughter's "father" did a good one on me and I've been very hesitant to date at all. I want to have the whole happy family thing but I also need some adult conversation. My kid is in school all day and I work with kids all night long - I miss the adult companionship thing. I have to get over that hurdle of fearing the whole 'relationship' thing. I dont know how this is going to work out. He's called me a few times, made a few comments that I took as something positive but I'm afraid to even look forward to anything, even just going out, because I'm so accustomed to things crashing down around me. Does that make sense? So in the meantime my mind works overtime wondering how all of this is going to go...do I call, don't I call, do I say hi or anything more? How much do I say or not say, how much do I reveal or not reveal...it makes my head hurt thinking about it.

don't get yourself so worked up, or you WILL scare him off

Originally posted by robyrob
don't get yourself so worked up, or you WILL scare him off

That's what I'm worried about. I've had so little experience in this that I have NO IDEA how to do things. It freaks me out and I dont want that to come across. :(

The rules haven't changed one bit when it comes to dating.

You women still drive us to drink.

;)

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
That's what I'm worried about. I've had so little experience in this that I have NO IDEA how to do things. It freaks me out and I dont want that to come across. :( just take it easy and go have fun, you may even want to tell him you're nervous because you haven't dated in awhile, better yet, follow tom's advice and just get the guy drunk...

Originally posted by robyrob
just take it easy and go have fun, you may even want to tell him you're nervous because you haven't dated in awhile, better yet, follow tom's advice and just get the guy drunk...

He knows...

I'd like us to both get drunk ;) :groucho :mango

Originally posted by robyrob
i'd say that theyre different, but then i've never known what the rules were in the first place :confused:


If there are any, I'd never know. No one is ever interested in me when I'm interested in them. :(

But good luck! Maybe this guy will be one of the few really nice ones in the world.

Heh!

He just called me and we talked for over an hour - lots of stuff.

I'm so excited - trying to contain. He said he'll call again on Sunday so I have to just hang on till he does. We seem to have some stuff in common, same sense of humor and stuff.

Dont know where it will go but I'm hoping it goes at least to a date or two :)

I'm only 16, so I can't help you out much with the dating thing...but I really wanted to say congradulations on losing 70lbs!! That's quite an accomplishment. Keep up the good work!:clap: :D

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
Heh!

He just called me and we talked for over an hour - lots of stuff.

I'm so excited - trying to contain. He said he'll call again on Sunday so I have to just hang on till he does. We seem to have some stuff in common, same sense of humor and stuff.

Dont know where it will go but I'm hoping it goes at least to a date or two :)

*crosses fingers*

I got another phone call :)

No word on an outing yet but hey, the talking is fun so far :):)

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
That's what I'm worried about. I've had so little experience in this that I have NO IDEA how to do things. It freaks me out and I dont want that to come across. :(


Just go with the Flow

He's coming to my house tomorrow night :) We're goign to watch "American Pie", he's never seen it!

I'M NERVOUS :eek:

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
He's coming to my house tomorrow night :) We're goign to watch "American Pie", he's never seen it!

I'M NERVOUS :eek:


Isn't it a little soon for him to be coming to your house?

Originally posted by TVShow Analyzer
Isn't it a little soon for him to be coming to your house?


TVA, I agree with you on this one. But the again maybe a sitter couldn't be found. Anyway have a good time, and relax.

Originally posted by TVShow Analyzer
Isn't it a little soon for him to be coming to your house?

No

This isn't some guy I just met 2 weeks ago, I've known him for 2 years. We just recently started to really talk and stuff. He works odd hours and I have a kid in bed at the odd hours he's done working. This is fine. I'm not marrying him tonight :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
No

This isn't some guy I just met 2 weeks ago, I've known him for 2 years. We just recently started to really talk and stuff. He works odd hours and I have a kid in bed at the odd hours he's done working. This is fine. I'm not marrying him tonight :rolleyes:


Just be careful

I hope you have a good time.

I was hoping he would take you out on the town though.

As for TJL....... "You men make us drink too" :lol: ;)

Originally posted by Pitooey
I hope you have a good time.

I was hoping he would take you out on the town though.

As for TJL....... "You men make us drink too" :lol: ;)

We will be doing something in the next few weeks when my schedule is set for the summer and works easier with his. :)

Originally posted by TVShow Analyzer
Just be careful

Dont worry, my mom locked up the alchohol and my best friend bought me condoms so I think I'm all set.


:lol:

Solomon, I'm 33, I'm good, I swear.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
We will be doing something in the next few weeks when my schedule is set for the summer and works easier with his. :)

Very good. Take things easy, No need to rush.

I think that's one dating tip that hasn't changed over the years.

;)

Have Fun. Also be sure to let your daughter know you are dating.
It will hurt her if you don't.

Not meaning to sound smug or anything but I am so glad that I am married and don't have to worry about things like this!Ah..............;)

Originally posted by Penny Lane
Not meaning to sound smug or anything but I am so glad that I am married and don't have to worry about things like this!Ah..............;)

I hate it, I wish I were married and I didn't have to deal with this. The whole beginning of things is so weird - you worry about what you say, if you said the wrong thing, what you do, etc. Things still seem okay - still talking, emailing, etc.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
He's coming to my house tomorrow night :) We're goign to watch "American Pie", he's never seen it!

I'M NERVOUS :eek:

Who suggested American Pie? LOL.

...sorry (about loling). That is just a "pretty interesting" movie to watch when you're over 30 and on a first date with someone. I'm sure you'll have a lot of fun anyways. :)