Should I Report This Or Not!!!!

[Brandon]

Originally posted by Janice

Don't feel sorry for me. The children in my life are treated like royalty. It's alarmists, drama queens and dime-droppers like you that deserve pity.
If the 10-year brat is raising holy hell, a short stay in a bathroom won't kill him.
And yes, since you mentioned it, both of the bathrooms in my home are spacious and beautiful.

and i don't feel sorry for YOU, i feel sorry for the kids. SS

[DarleneIllyria]

You could report it if you have more evidence. If you see bruises on the kid all the time, maybe you should consider reporting it. I have to admit telling a kid to go to the bathroom and stay in there as punishment is a bit unusual, but I don't consider it abuse. I consider abuse as either verbal abuse or beating the kid. jmo

[Janice]

Originally posted by Buffy&Angelique


and i don't feel sorry for YOU, i feel sorry for the kids. SS

Save your pity drama queen. Every kid in my life is fortunate to have me there.
For the record, I wouldn't send a child to the bathroom, but I still know it doesn't constitute child abuse.
The minute Child Protective Services enters a family, it becomes hell, even when the parents are completely innocent. Every move the family makes is monitored. If the kid falls off a bike, there's accusations of abuse. Everything is magnified and blown out of proportion. Children are removed from their homes on false accusations which is why I urge anyone to think twice before alerting authorities on a 'hunch'. Lives are often ruined this way.

[Warm & Fuzzy]

Originally posted by Janice

Save your pity drama queen. Every kid in my life is fortunate to have me there.
For the record, I wouldn't send a child to the bathroom, but I still know it doesn't constitute child abuse.
The minute Child Protective Services enters a family, it becomes hell, even when the parents are completely innocent. Every move the family makes is monitored. If the kid falls off a bike, there's accusations of abuse. Everything is magnified and blown out of proportion. Children are removed from their homes on false accusations which is why I urge anyone to think twice before alerting authorities on a 'hunch'. Lives are often ruined this way.

Reporting something like child abuse is very risky; I must agree. I think that's probably why many children struggle to talk about their problems or whatever the heck is going on within the walls of their home. I mean, the child might grow up to depise his/her parents, but it's always fortunate to have them around, no matter how painful it may be. Foster parents could be more beneficial to a child, but it's nothing like having the parents whom gave birth to you.

[Janice]

Originally posted by Jo's the bomb
Reporting something like child abuse is very risky; I must agree. I think that's probably why many children struggle to talk about their problems or whatever the heck is going within the walls of their home. I mean, the child might grow up to depise his/her parents, but it's always fortunate to have them around, no matter how painful it may be. Froster parents could be more beneficial to a child, but it's nothing like having the parents whom gave birth to you.

I agree. I'm all for removing children from abusive homes. Even in those cases, family reunification is the ultimate goal. The foster care system is a like a roulette wheel...you never know what you'll end up with.
It often does provide a safe haven for kids waiting to be reunited with their families (while parents are participating in court-ordered parenting classes), or sadly, foster homes are a stopover while a child waits to be adopted.
Some foster homes are hell on earth.
With that said, no child should ever be yanked out of their own home and placed in a foster home because some busybody needs a little excitement in their life and puts in a call to the authorities.

[Warm & Fuzzy]

Originally posted by Janice

I agree. I'm all for removing children from abusive homes. Even in those cases, family reunification is the ultimate goal. The foster care system is a like a roulette wheel...you never know what you'll end up with.

Once you're in a foster home, you just keep getting pin-balled around, even after family reunification...

[Kristina]

Originally posted by Buffy&Angelique


I didn't call u stupid (u know what it's all about anyways. it's something friendly, so don't even go there)...

you called me a 'stupid slap' that doesn't seem very friendly to me.

[Ian]

Give me a break...abuse? You people don't know what abuse is! Being tied to a bedpost and whipped is abuse. Being locked in a bathroom for a short time is a mild form of punishment!

Parents are too soft these days. A little bit of discipline never hurt anyone, in fact, many kids are being hurt (and hurting others) because of a lack of discipline in this country. Don't report this! Reporting this would, just, be silly.

[Brandon]

Originally posted by JOHN LENNON LIVES
Give me a break...abuse? You people don't know what abuse is! Being tied to a bedpost and whipped is abuse. Being locked in a bathroom for a short time is a mild form of punishment!

Parents are too soft these days. A little bit of discipline never hurt anyone, in fact, many kids are being hurt (and hurting others) because of a lack of discipline in this country. Don't report this! Reporting this would, just, be silly.

Yes, but... those who are getting abused will end up taking there frustrations on others... HURTING others...

[DetectiveGriffin]

I'm sorry, I havent read this whole thread, so I don't know if it's been addressed, but the post got me.

You gave so little info, just that she closes him in the bathroom when he's bad?

A lot of children have violent tantrums; I've seen women in the hospital who have beaten or stabbed by even very young children. Is this child mentally disturbed and does the child become physically violent?

If this is the case, containing him anywhere he's unlikely to hurt
someone is a good thing. Many people would be inclined to lose their temper
to the point of seriously injuring someone. If this is her coping mechanism, it's a good start. If this is the case, she can talk to someone in child abusive prevention and ask for immediate help - a referal to get the situation under control.

If she shuts the child in the bathroom for a long period of time over something stupid, like he refused to clean his plate or pick up toys, thats just pretty sad.

If its only for a short period of time over trivial stuff, you might just point out to her that the bathroom might be a dangerous place for a time out, because there are so many potentially
hazardous things to get into.

Good Luck

[laceyinthesky]

Originally posted by Buffy&Angelique


Yes, but... those who are getting abused will end up taking there frustrations on others... HURTING others...

That's not necessarily true. And who's to say that there's even abuse going on here? For hundreds of years up until the later part of the 20th century it was considered alright to spank a child to discipline them. Did all of those children grow up being abusive to others? I'm sure many people on these message boards along with myself were spanked as children, that doesn't make us all abusive. Quite frankly I think I would have rather been locked in a bathroom than spanked as a child.