Farrah & Michael. Which death hit you the hardest?

[Janice]

Originally Posted by Lee

I don't think they knew this thread was only about Michael and Farrah. You
should have specified that.

It's the name of the thread, and I specified it in my first post. This is the last post on this please. I'm not looking to offend. I'm asking about two legends. You didn't even post an answer, just playing thread cop.

[Brad Russ]

Originally Posted by Lee

I don't think they knew this thread was only about Michael and Farrah. You
should have specified that.

How can you get anymore specific than "Farrah & Michael. Which death hit you the hardest"?

Anyway, even though Farrah's death hit me harder, Michael Jackson's is having more and more of an impact on me as time goes by. At first I didn't really think much, but as the days have gone on, and as I've seen the coverage, and listened to my favorite Jackson songs over and over again, the fact that we'll never see him again has really hit me. I will truly miss the guy, and my hope for him is that he gets what he never got on earth, a chance to finally be at peace.

[Tootie]

Michael Jackson. I had to take an anxiety pill because I was in shock.

[Schmoopie]

Well, Michael's was definitely unexpected. Farrah's sadly wasn't. However I'm sorry that she wasn't able to recover from this terrible illness. It's sad that she was taken away so young. But in answer to the question, I'm going to go with Michael, simply because I was never really a fan of Farrah's, but I was a big Michael Jackson fan in the 80's when Thriller was relased. I had that album and listened to it so much that I had every song memorized.

[Janice]

Originally Posted by Little Mel

How can you get anymore specific than "Farrah & Michael. Which death hit you the hardest"?

Anyway, even though Farrah's death hit me harder, Michael Jackson's is having more and more of an impact on me as time goes by. At first I didn't really think much, but as the days have gone on, and as I've seen the coverage, and listened to my favorite Jackson songs over and over again, the fact that we'll never see him again has really hit me. I will truly miss the guy, and my hope for him is that he gets what he never got on earth, a chance to finally be at peace.

Don't you find that the way Farrah and Michael died on the same day complicated the grieving process? If they died a month apart, it would have been easier on the heart and mind. I wasn't going to use this as an example, but here goes. On September 7, 2003, my sister died suddenly. It was a Sunday. I was devastated beyond words since I had lost my parents the previous year. The wake was that Thursday. That day, I woke up to the news that John Ritter had died. I was a lifelong fan of John. I watched Three's Company during its original run.

So, here I was, four days into grieving my sister, and John Ritter died on the day of her wake. I felt so sad about John, yet felt guilty for feeling sad. I felt it was disrespectful towards my sister. The following week, I told a friend what was I was going through. I mean, John Ritter's death didn't touch my sister's death in terms of what hurt the most; however his death did bother me a great deal. Still, the guilt. My friend used the analogy of 9/11. He said, for example, to imagine someone whose parent died that day, from cancer. That person was capable of feeling sorrow for both sad events. The heart can hold many emotions at once, including grief. Boy, it's late. Sometimes I just wander into certain territory that I shouldn't. I'm sorry.

[Schmoopie]

Originally Posted by Janice

Don't you find that the way Farrah and Michael died on the same day complicated the grieving process? If they died a month apart, it would have been easier on the heart and mind. I wasn't going to use this as an example, but here goes. On September 7, 2003, my sister died suddenly. It was a Sunday. I was devastated beyond words since I had lost my parents the previous year. The wake was that Thursday. That day, I woke up to the news that John Ritter had died. I was a lifelong fan of John. I watched Three's Company during its original run.

So, here I was, four days into grieving my sister, and John Ritter died on the day of her wake. I felt so sad about John, yet felt guilty for feeling sad. I felt it was disrespectful towards my sister. The following week, I told a friend what was I was going through. I mean, John Ritter's death didn't touch my sister's death in terms of what hurt the most; however his death did bother me a great deal. Still, the guilt. My friend used the analogy of 9/11. He said, for example, to imagine someone whose parent died that day, from cancer. That person was capable of feeling sorrow for both sad events. The heart can hold many emotions at once, including grief. Boy, it's late. Sometimes I just wander into certain territory that I shouldn't. I'm sorry.

That was beautiful, Janice. That must have been hard, dealing with the loss of your sister (I'm sorry to hear that, by the way), and then hearing about John Ritter. His death really shocked me, but I can see how it would be really hard, trying to "decide" who to grieve over and feeling guilty for not knowing which one is "right". How awful that you lost your parents the year before as well. I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I'm sure it's still difficult for you.

to you.

Andrea

[Brad Russ]

Originally Posted by Janice

Don't you find that the way Farrah and Michael died on the same day complicated the grieving process? If they died a month apart, it would have been easier on the heart and mind. I wasn't going to use this as an example, but here goes. On September 7, 2003, my sister died suddenly. It was a Sunday. I was devastated beyond words since I had lost my parents the previous year. The wake was that Thursday. That day, I woke up to the news that John Ritter had died. I was a lifelong fan of John. I watched Three's Company during its original run.

So, here I was, four days into grieving my sister, and John Ritter died on the day of her wake. I felt so sad about John, yet felt guilty for feeling sad. I felt it was disrespectful towards my sister. The following week, I told a friend what was I was going through. I mean, John Ritter's death didn't touch my sister's death in terms of what hurt the most; however his death did bother me a great deal. Still, the guilt. My friend used the analogy of 9/11. He said, for example, to imagine someone whose parent died that day, from cancer. That person was capable of feeling sorrow for both sad events. The heart can hold many emotions at once, including grief. Boy, it's late. Sometimes I just wander into certain territory that I shouldn't. I'm sorry.

I actually did have feelings similar to that. I was just really confused when I heard the news, and actually felt bad that Farrah's death initially hit me so much harder than Michael's. I kind of felt like a bad person, like I should be grieving both deaths equally, but than I realized that our emotions are what they are, and you can't change it. I do find it odd how initially Michael's death didn't really impact me, and now it really does. Like I said, watching the coverage, hearing past interviews, and listening to his songs has made me realize what an amazing talent we truly lost. I wasn't around obviously when Elvis died, but Michael's death is kind of this generations version of that. I feel like someone truly amazing and unique died, and I can imagine that it feels similar to what people felt when Elvis died. Both were just out of the blue, and so totally unexpected.

I know about how your sister died just a few days before John Ritter's, but even when I hear the story now, it impacts me just as much as when you first told me. I know you felt guilty feeling bad about John Ritter's death, while grieving over your sister. But I don't think you should ever feel bad about it. Obviously your sister dying was a much bigger loss, but feeling bad about John Ritter just shows me that you have a big heart. That's all it does. I know I've told you this before, but I am so very sorry about all the losses you've had in your life. Nobody deserves to go through all that. Just know that your mother, father, and sister are probably watching over you, and I know they're proud of the amazing woman you are. God Bless You my friend!!!

[Jessica]

It's sad that both of them died, but I haven't really watched Charlie's Angels so I must say Michael. Who would ever thought that whould happen.
He was one of my favorite singers.

[eltonfan80]

michael 's death hit me the hardest i was so upset

[Chocoholic]

Celebrity deaths don't seem to hit me all that hard. I feel for their loved ones, but I feel that way for everybody.

[Jack Gomez]

Farrah's death hit me much much harder. My mom had cancer a few years ago and suffered the same way Farrah did. My mom died early July of 2006 and it's kind of eerie that Farrah died late June so close to when my mom passed. I saw clips of her documentary but I couldn't bring myself to watch it because it was just too painful.

[catlover79]

Farrah - mainly because of the TV special. That was so personal, I felt like I knew her.

[Jessica]

I read today on the cover of a magazine Michael knew he was gonna die. He had wrote a letter to his children.

[sunshinefizzy]

As much as I liked Farrah, I knew her number was coming up. Michael on the other hand, that crap really makes you think about your own mortality in the sense that you just never know.

[James"Thunder"Early]

I was really sad about both, but Michael's hit me hardest because it was so sudden and unexpected. Overall, it was hard hearing about two icons dying in one day.