A Problem

[Wreckless]

Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

I remember saying in the past that you dated a girl in high school and she died of cancer in your senior year.

wow that's horrible sorry mike

[Nighthawk76]

Thanks everyone.

[Nighthawk76]

Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

I remember you saying in the past that you dated a girl in high school and she died of cancer in your senior year.

It was junior year.

[LuLu Rogers]

Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

I remember you saying in the past that you dated a girl in high school and she died of cancer in your senior year.

Probably not the best thing to bring up here Jen

[Hollow]

lol

[Family Ties Forever!]

Originally Posted by LuLu Rogers

Probably not the best thing to bring up here Jen

You know, it was just my opinion. I thought Mike was refering to the same girl. How was I supposed to know it was someone else? I have the right to post here.

[LuLu Rogers]

Originally Posted by Family Ties Forever!

You know, it was just my opinion. I thought Mike was refering to the same girl. How was I supposed to know it was someone else? I have the right to post here.

I meant that bringing up the death of a past girlfriend probably isn't a good idea right now.

[PunkyP0WER]

oh mike, you're such a dear sweet guy to have to feel this way. i can't tell you how many times i put my heart out there only for it to get trampled on. but the worst thing you can do is give up altogether. i know it can sometimes be painful, very painful - but as the old saying goes, its better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all. no matter what, you'll always have a piece of her you carry and you're a better person for it and shes a better person for knowing you. but by all means, don't give up. there is someone out there, but don't put blinders on, keep your eyes open, that person might just be right in front of you and you don't even realize it.

[Nighthawk76]

Originally Posted by FactsFan

I'm really sorry you are going through this Mike. I know it is rough, and even though you know it was the right decision for you and Kelly to part ways, your heart still holds a lot of love for her. I think it is fine for you to be happy being single for now. You shouldn't feel like you have to rush out and find another girl to be with. Take things one day at a time and trust the Lord to get you through this. It is always best to trust in His plan for your life. I'll be thinking of you and sending prayers your way!

Thanks, B. I know you are not a regular poster in Chit Chat, so I greatly appreciate you taking time out to offer me this advice.

[Nighthawk76]

Originally Posted by PunkyP0WER

oh mike, you're such a dear sweet guy to have to feel this way. i can't tell you how many times i put my heart out there only for it to get trampled on. but the worst thing you can do is give up altogether. i know it can sometimes be painful, very painful - but as the old saying goes, its better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all. no matter what, you'll always have a piece of her you carry and you're a better person for it and shes a better person for knowing you. but by all means, don't give up. there is someone out there, but don't put blinders on, keep your eyes open, that person might just be right in front of you and you don't even realize it.

Thanks, Kimberlee. You say the nicest things about me. And I want you to know that it means a great deal. I am still touched by what you said in your PM the other day. I'm gald that we have become friends.

[Nighthawk76]

Originally Posted by safety pin

i'm sorry. i know how that is. three years ago i fell in love with my boyfriend (which i acknowledge is an unusually strong feeling for a 16-year-old, but what can i say, it happened). we broke up, then were unofficial on and off for a while until he spontaneously got engaged to his ex and they're married now. we haven't talked a lot lately (things have been a little rough), it's been over six months since i've even seen him in person, but these feelings seem to just get stronger. he still has feelings for me too, and i decided a while ago that even if he weren't married, we probably wouldn't be happy if we dated again due to the way things have been between us, but of course there's always that natural desire, so it really hurts. it's not that i want to spend eternity wallowing in heartache over him, but i'm not motivated at all to move onto anyone else. i could write a novel about what made him so special to me and i really feel that in the end, he's the one for me, even if i'm not the one for him. last week i briefly got involved with someone else, figuring i had nothing to lose, but i broke it off because i was comparing everything about him to my ex and i was so uncomfortable with trying to move on. i just really feel like i don't ever want to be with anyone else again.

but like the others have advised, the best thing to do is take it one day at a time. i'm sure there are plenty of experiences down the road that could help resolve your current situation. good luck with it all.

Thanks, Sarah. I know that many of you have been it situations like me, that's why I decided to share my problem. It is nice to know I'm not alone in what I have been going through.

[Nighthawk76]

Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

I know what you are going through, Mike; because I am in similar situation. Being in love with someone, does not fade overnight; sometimes this feeling will linger on and on. My advice is to think well of Kelly, pray for her and continue on with your life. Surround yourself with things that make you the happiest, like reading or listening to your favorite music. Also remember that you are human, and you have feelings and sometimes those feelings are very strong and do not wane; embrace them, learn from them, and take each day as it comes....

What would the world be like wtihout music, Tara? I think without music I would have lost my mind years ago. it has always been an inspiration for me.

[TripperFan]

I was like you Mike for 7 years in my twenties after having my heart broken by a guy. I couldn't even look at anyone else - just wasn't interested.

Then suddenly one day, I met this guy (at work) and everything changed. For whatever reason, I didn't compare him to my other love. He stood on his own and I've never looked back since. And now, unfortunately I lost him and am back in the same boat - dating someone else, but comparing them to Frank.

What I really mean to say, is that you can't look for someone. Just one day, someone will appear that will replace that other person for you. You'll suddenly realize it and will be able to move on. And hopefully, that will be the person you'll be with for the rest of your life.

And like Sarah said, I now know that had I ever ended up with the first guy, I would have been miserable and we probably would have broken up in an ugly way anyways. Instead, fate left it so that we both have wonderful memories of each other and I still hold him dear in a little cubby hole in my heart.

[beautifuldreamer]

Originally Posted by Waking Up Laughing

What would the world be like wtihout music, Tara? I think without music I would have lost my mind years ago. it has always been an inspiration for me.

I feel the same way... music is one of the only things that keeps me sane.

[Theda Bara]

Originally Posted by Waking Up Laughing

What would the world be like wtihout music, Tara? I think without music I would have lost my mind years ago. it has always been an inspiration for me.

Music can be such a blessing; especially when you are not feeling up to par emotionally. I love it, music has been such a salvation. Every time I am feeling down, I just go check out a live band, and then I feel a lot better