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victorianscribe
09-19-2003, 11:49 AM
Hi. I'm a new member here, and I'd like to introduce myself.

My name is Jerri; I was 16 when Freddie passed, and his loss hit me very hard. I grew up madly in love with both Tony Orlando and Freddie. I must admit that I had more of the crush on Tony, while I thought of Freddie as more of a big brother figure. I heard that he had shot himself on a cold, grey January afternoon, right after I got on the school bus for the ride home. For hours, I couldn't figure out whether this awful story was true or just a rumor; back then, remember, there was no CNN or MSNBC, no twenty-four hour per day news culture. When I did hear this awful truth confirmed on the nightly news, however, I prayed for Freddie and clung to a childlike faith that no matter how dire his condition sounded, he would still live and be okay.

I kept the radio on all next day, a Saturday, while I waited a vigil. At about four o'clock, I heard that Freddie had passed, and I will never forget the song that was playing when the announcer broke in with that sad news -- Cherchez La Femme (sp?) by Dr. Buzzard's Original Savannah Band, a one-hit wonder. Gloria Estefan re-recorded it about ten years ago; I have that CD, and I still get the creeps whenever I hear that song.

I've never been able to understand why Freddie's death has haunted me all these years. I can honestly say that, since January 29, 1977, not a day has gone by when I haven't thought of him -- sometimes it's only for a moment, sometimes it's longer.
During that summer of 1977, our local NBC station broadcast reruns of Chico during the day; I would watch them and feel so sad for him. I was never able to watch the Chico episodes without Freddie -- it was too sad for me, just too sad.

When TV Land rebroadcast Chico a few years ago, I thought I would try to watch it. I lasted for about five minutes. Freddie was even better than I remembered -- he literally sparkled with brilliance, and it broke my heart just to see him.

One week ago, I got up early, logged on to the computer, and was shocked to read about John Ritter's premature death. For the past year or so, I've loved curling up in front of the TV on Tuesday nights, reading a book, and having "8 Simple Rules" in the background. I thought he was such a great talent, and the role reversal of that show cracked me up -- the former Jack Tripper, one of "Three's Company", as harried parent of two pretty girls like the ones Jack Ritter lived with -- one a gorgeous blonde like Suzanne Somers! Of course, seeing John Ritter age made me more conscious of how I've aged over the years.

Last Tuesday, instead of watching "8 Simple Rules", I watched ABC's tribute to John Ritter, and was immensely touched by the reactions of those who worked with him, especially the young actresses who played his daughters. They talked about how he would always be in their hearts. In addition, although I tried to understand the reasons behind continuing that show without John, I honestly wondered if it would work. Naturally, my mind traveled back to previous shows that had struggled on without a pivotal or central character. And naturally, my mind traveled back to ....

Chico and the Man.

I stayed up late Tuesday night, typed "Freddie Prinze" into my Yahoo! search box, and sat back to see what I might find. A site called "Sweet Laughterman" touched me deeply, one reason being that the background music was Josh Groban's "Where You Are", a sad/beautiful song I've always connected to Freddie in my mind. Do you know, I went out the next day and bought that CD, even though I couldn't really afford it?

Then yesterday -- and I hope this won't offend anyone or make you think I'm odd -- I went to church, as I do most mornings whenever possible. I usually light a candle for everyone I know who's passed on -- my grandfather, Freddie, etc. (If I tried lighting one candle for each person, I'd take up all the available space in the church, and go broke in the process.) Yesterday, I resolved to light a candle for Freddie and Freddie alone. After I did, I said a prayer to the Virgin Mary that she would keep him safe, and went back to my seat. At that moment, I heard a phrase in my mind: Forgive Me.

I'll leave this event open to your interpretation, because I don't wish to force mine on anyone else. But I will tell you how I interpret it -- I think Freddie was talking to me. I don't know how else to explain it.

As you can imagine, there are very few people I can tell about the fact that Freddie's death still haunts me, that he's still in my heart. I just know that I haven't been able to get him out of my mind for the past few days, and that's why I'm posting here. I can't NOT post here. I don't know what to do with this feeling; I've wondered if I'm going crazy, losing it totally. I would love to see Freddie on TV again, and TV Land doesn't show Chico anymore! I've already stored some pictures of him on my computer, and I'd love to put one up in my house, but no one here would stand for it, I'm sure! Anyone who knows me would consider this morbid, or strange, or simply wrong. But I can't get him out of my mind ... and I haven't forgotten him for almost twenty-seven years now. I have a journal of feelings I wrote down after his death, and to this day, I haven't gathered the strength to open it. As I said earlier, I've thought of him at least once every day for all these years.

Goodness, I've rambled on long enough! I hope I haven't bored you. As I read your posts, I knew I couldn't remain just a lurker here, because the subject matter is too close to a very private, very painful, but also very joyful part of my heart.

Thanks for listening.

Goodnight Gracie
09-19-2003, 11:51 AM
WELCOME!!!! :wave:

Luckymama58
09-19-2003, 01:12 PM
Welcome to our family. We have many people who feel the same way you do and you aren't crazy to feel what you did with that experience of Freddie. I have been "haunted" by him for a long time. I have had dreams and even some waking experiences where I think he is trying to tell me that he is sorry for the way things happened. I thought I was nuts too, till other told me of their experiences. Being a good Catholic, I wondered if I was nuts, but I guess he is trying to tell us he wants us to forgive him. I am convinced he didn't mean to do it, that it was an accident in a way. And I know he wants others to know about the craziness of the business that drove him to seek help in drugs that eventually caused him to do what he did. It was sad, but I think he hopes his story might help others too. I suffer from panic and depression and used to take similar drugs, so I know where he was coming from there. I took myself off of the drugs and now have life style ways of coping with my depression and panic. I only wish Freddie could have gotten better help for his problems. :(
BTW I was 18 when Freddie took his life. I was devistated by the event, but learned to move on. But he will always have a place in my heart.

victorianscribe
09-19-2003, 02:11 PM
Thank you, Gracie and LuckyMama!

I'm a Catholic, too, and as I said earlier, I wondered if I was crazy for that experience. But I've had God speak to me in church,
and I have no good reason to think that Freddie wasn't speaking out to me.

LuckyMama, I've always been convinced that what happened was an accident, that Freddie's mind was confused by drugs, and he didn't really know what he was doing. I've always been angry when people referred to his death as a suicide, because -- correct me if I'm wrong -- it was eventually ruled accidental, wasn't it? Only recently (most often in articles about Jr.) have I seen it described as a self-inflicted death, not a suicide. That sounds like a weird description, I know, but I remember a case of four teenagers who were high on cocaine getting into a car and gassing themselves -- because they were high, the coroner ruled their deaths accidental.

I'm glad you were able to overcome your problems, LuckyMama. Again, thank you both for the welcome.

hue_mee
09-19-2003, 06:08 PM
Welcome Victorianscribe!
I too was 13 when Freddie died and remember hearing the news of his death from my father. I was heartbroken! I have learned to move on and with the help of everyone here have found a wonderful get away so to speak remembering Freddie's laughter through everyone here. We have alot of fun here as you can see. I am so glad you are here with us to share in the joy of our beloved Freddie Prinze.

Joy
09-19-2003, 08:34 PM
welcome!
This is a great place post often!!!

Danisel331
09-20-2003, 12:27 AM
Welcome!:wave:

Cheryl Harrell
09-20-2003, 06:30 PM
Welcome to the boards. You will find a great Freddie family here! :)

Prince
09-21-2003, 12:42 AM
Hi and welcome to the board. I hope you will post often. We all love Freddie and understand your feelings. He's still working his magic after all this time.

CCH
09-22-2003, 05:47 PM
Hi Jerri welcome! :wave:

Cheryl Harrell
09-23-2003, 03:51 PM
Welcome to the Freddie family! It's nice to see the family growing! You'll like it on here. I do! :)

victorianscribe
09-23-2003, 11:53 PM
Thanks so much for the warm and friendly welcome, everyone. It's great to meet you all!

sfditusa
09-24-2003, 10:36 PM
I wanted to say hi as well, and let you know that reading your post is like reading my posts!

I was 14 when he died, and was so devastated. I literally thought of him every minute of the day. I went through denial, and concoted story after story of how he would come back to us while in school.

My grades dropped from A/B's to actually failing tests and quizzes, yet teachers would just give me a passing grade, never finding out what was wrong. Even my parents tried to wish my depression away. I am trying to "move on" after stirring up my emotions about Freddie again.

These groups are great, and really helpful in joining together in our love for our Freddie. Please email me at sfditusa@hotmail.com I would love to chat or email. I really enjoy connecting with people who experienced what I did all those years ago. And the internet has finally actualized my dream!

Welcome to our group, and please keep in touch!

sfditusa
09-25-2003, 07:04 PM
I wanted to say hi as well, and let you know that reading your post is like reading my posts!

I was 14 when he died, and was so devastated. I literally thought of him every minute of the day. I went through denial, and concoted story after story of how he would come back to us while in school.

My grades dropped from A/B's to actually failing tests and quizzes, yet teachers would just give me a passing grade, never finding out what was wrong. Even my parents tried to wish my depression away. I am trying to "move on" after stirring up my emotions about Freddie again.

These groups are great, and really helpful in joining together in our love for our Freddie. Please email me at sfditusa@hotmail.com I would love to chat or email. I really enjoy connecting with people who experienced what I did all those years ago. And the internet has finally actualized my dream!

Welcome to our group, and please keep in touch!

Karen64
09-26-2003, 10:06 AM
Hello and welcome! :wave:
Reading your post sounds very much like the way I felt back then--his death hit me hard, and later, reading the stories in the Enquirer about the circumstances surrounding his death made me confused and angry (this was when I was still so young and naive and believed EVERYTHING that was printed)
I remember watching the reruns of Chico during the summer of 77.

Through the years, I had always thought about Freddie and wondered how Freddie Jr was doing and what he was up to.... It was a pleasant surprise many years later to see him acting in TV shows and later in movies!

When I got access to the internet, I would look up Freddie Prinze on the search engines and usually get nothing...then later, I would get all these things on Freddie Junior! Then, when TV Land finally ran episodes of Chico, all these Freddie Prinze internet sites popped up! It was SO neat to find a message board on my favorite show and favorite actor and be able to talk to other folks who feel the same as I do!!!

victorianscribe
09-26-2003, 11:07 AM
Thanks for your welcome, karen64 and sfditusa!

Through the years, I always wondered about Freddie Jr., too, and was glad to see him achieve success. Of course, I always hope that happiness goes along with it.

I look forward to getting to know all of you better.

Cheryl Harrell
09-27-2003, 01:51 PM
I was so afraid things might slow down on the boards & people might lose interest & it'd be just me here since CATM is no longer on tv. So it's nice to see new folks on here & the old one still posting. Freddie depends on us to keep his name alive... :)

hue_mee
09-27-2003, 01:58 PM
It is always such a joy to see new people come to the boards as well as those who have been regulars here since TVLand aired the show 2 years ago. I find it theraputic in a way when new members come by. With all of us here discussing Freddie and the Show it brings back such wonderful memories.

victorianscribe
09-27-2003, 04:40 PM
Well, I'm here! Not a day has gone by since he left us that I haven't thought about him ... but no one who knows me realizes that. It's wonderful to finally air my "secret".

Joy
09-27-2003, 07:26 PM
and another bonus is with all the new people on the boards we can go over earlier topics and get new perspectives and ideas it helps keep things fresh