Just want to know should a guy be criticized for not wanting to date a females with kids? I personally prefer not to date a female with kids because i don't have any and i'm not really ready for family outings. So right now, a single famale with no kids is best for me at this time. Please only mature respones. Any thoughts?

maybe you should just give up on females. they obviously have too many hang ups for you.

Originally posted by SOLOMON
Just want to know should a guy be criticized for not wanting to date a females with kids?

Not at all.

Originally posted by TJL


Not at all.

Thank you, yeah it's crazy how certain females will just get so hype when you prfer to date women with no kids.LOL

I don't think a person should be criticized for not wanting to date someone with children. If the relationship results in marriage and the one without kids isn't committed to their spouse's kids, then it's not fair to anyone involved, especially the children.
I married a man with kids so I speak from experience. It hasn't always been easy, but things are great now. I knew going in that he had financial and emotional obligations to his children.
Marrying someone with kids is a huge commitment, and if you know it's not for you, it's best to not date someone with kids.

SOLOMON, the next Rainman???

Not wanting to date her because she has children? ~ No.

Many people don't feel comfortable around children at any time. Some don't feel equipped to handle kids at a particular time in their lives. To date a woman with kids is a huge responsibility. It takes a lot of patience, and the child(ren) will always have to come first. That is a given.

BTW, that works both ways. A woman should not be criticized for shying away from dating a man who has children.

Originally posted by Mysty Eyes
Not wanting to date her because she has children? ~ No.

Many people don't feel comfortable around children at any time. Some don't feel equipped to handle kids at a particular time in their lives. To date a woman with kids is a huge responsibility. It takes a lot of patience, and the child(ren) will always have to come first. That is a given.

BTW, that works both ways. A woman should not be criticized for shying away from dating a man who has children.


True

Originally posted by bandito
SOLOMON, the next Rainman???


you have proved to everyone that you are IMMATURE

Originally posted by SOLOMON



you have proved to everyone that you are IMMATURE You have proved to everyone that you are an idiot.

Originally posted by bandito
SOLOMON, the next Rainman???

:lol:

no i don't think they should be criticized, I would not want to date (at the moment as I am only 21 - way too young for kids!!), a woman who has kids.

also, whats with all the solomon bashing, i think his posts are fine and i hardly think he is the next Rainman, I don't think anyone can be as bloody annoying as him! :rolleyes:

Even some married couples choose not to have kids. Nothing wrong or hard to understand about a single man or a single woman choosing to shy away from getting involved in a romantic relationship with someone who has children. The opposite sex is difficult enough for us all to undestand. Toss kids into the mix and you can count on sailing some choppy waters. If you think you're up to the challenge then it could turn out to be very rewarding but still difficult. If you're not interested in taking on that challenge then by all means don't.

not at all, considering i tortured all of my moms boyfriends until i was 13, ah good times.

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
not at all, considering i tortured all of my moms boyfriends until i was 13, ah good times. :lol:

I wouldn't wanna date a man w/ kids.. so no, i don't think he/she should be critized

Originally posted by bandito
SOLOMON, the next Rainman???

:rolleyes: You obviously don't know what Nate was like. SOLOMON has a brain and Nate was lucky if he could spell him name right. Why do you think he always signed his posts? For practice...

I dunno. I don't think it would really matter to me, unless the kids were like HUGE brats or something, because I usually like kids. I wanna be a teacher someday, so I will have to get used to kids someday any how.:D I don't think that anybody should be criticized for having kids.

Originally posted by Original Prankster


:rolleyes: You obviously don't know what Nate was like. SOLOMON has a brain and Nate was lucky if he could spell him name right. Why do you think he always signed his posts? For practice...

Yeah, you're right, Solomon actually posts questions that make you think a bit, even if they sound controversial. The best Nate could come up with was your favorite things about K-Mart, what you liked best about K-Mart, what was your favorite K-Mart logo, your favorite Blue Light special at K-Mart, your favorite checker at K-Mart, your favorite snack at K-Mart, where the best places to pick up girls/guys were at K-Mart (which applied both ways to him), sales figures nationwide for K-Mart, bankruptcy updates for K-Mart, favorite memories over K-Mart, and whether we'd choose disembowelment over missing K-Mart.

Btw, did I mention he was seriously into K-Mart?

Originally posted by Captain ABlairica


Yeah, you're right, Solomon actually posts questions that make you think a bit, even if they sound controversial. The best Nate could come up with was your favorite things about K-Mart, what you liked best about K-Mart, what was your favorite K-Mart logo, your favorite Blue Light special at K-Mart, your favorite checker at K-Mart, your favorite snack at K-Mart, where the best places to pick up girls/guys were at K-Mart (which applied both ways to him), sales figures nationwide for K-Mart, bankruptcy updates for K-Mart, favorite memories over K-Mart, and whether we'd choose disembowelment over missing K-Mart.

Btw, did I mention he was seriously into K-Mart?

:lol: :lol:

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
not at all, considering i tortured all of my moms boyfriends until i was 13, ah good times.

I Still Torture My Moms Boyfriends :D

Originally posted by Original Prankster
Nate was lucky if he could spell him name right. Why do you think he always signed his posts? For practice...

:lol:

I don't think it's a problem if someone doesn't want to date someone that has kids. It adds too much responsibility to the relationship.

No, Not at all. I don't blame them. I'm a girl and I don't really like dating guys with kids. Too much baggage as far as I'm concerned unless the kids are grown and out of the house.

The only person I really think would date with kids would be Ewan. I don't want kids...I wouldn't want to get involved with somebody elses.

I don't think he should be criticized either. I'm female, and I don't even want kids, let alone someone else's!

Originally posted by Captain ABlairica


Yeah, you're right, Solomon actually posts questions that make you think a bit, even if they sound controversial. The best Nate could come up with was your favorite things about K-Mart, what you liked best about K-Mart, what was your favorite K-Mart logo, your favorite Blue Light special at K-Mart, your favorite checker at K-Mart, your favorite snack at K-Mart, where the best places to pick up girls/guys were at K-Mart (which applied both ways to him), sales figures nationwide for K-Mart, bankruptcy updates for K-Mart, favorite memories over K-Mart, and whether we'd choose disembowelment over missing K-Mart.

Btw, did I mention he was seriously into K-Mart?


:lol:

no. but damn u have way too many turnoffs.

Originally posted by ~°Sarah°~
no. but damn u have way too many turnoffs.


I only have 3 turnoffs

1.Ugly hands
2,Ugly feet
3.Kids

Originally posted by SOLOMON



I only have 3 turnoffs

1.Ugly hands
2,Ugly feet
3.Kids

i'm not trying to make trouble.but why do all your topics have to be about ur problems with women? i mean it does get pretty annoying...just wondering...:)

Originally posted by TheFonzIsCool


i'm not trying to make trouble.but why do all your topics have to be about ur problems with women? i mean it does get pretty annoying...just wondering...:)


I don;t have any problems, i just wanted to know should men be attacked if they don't like females with kids. On the flip side, Most women don't lke to date men with kids but they are never criticized but men are.

Originally posted by SOLOMON



I don;t have any problems, i just wanted to know should men be attacked if they don't like females with kids. On the flip side, Most women don't lke to date men with kids but they are never criticized but men are.

ok just wondering since all your topics are on women..:D

Why? Do you want to be criticized for it? I mean seriously, what's the point of asking?

Originally posted by MaRtInA_GuRL
Why? Do you want to be criticized for it? I mean seriously, what's the point of asking?


I'm asking because most men who prefer females with no kids are called all types of names. So i wanted females responses on this question.

no... you have to consider that the relationship would be very different if she already had children.

but i do give guys who would date someone with children a lot of credit- my friend has a 5 year old daughter and her bf of two years is so great and it doesnt bother him that she has a child.
but not everyone could deal w/ that.

I've dated a couple of women who had kids of their own and it could be tough...so no I don't think a guy should be critisized for not wanting to date them.

Originally posted by SOLOMON
Just want to know should a guy be criticized for not wanting to date a females with kids?

Not at all. If a guy isn't ready for kids or doesn't want kids at all then it's fine if he doesn't want to date a female with kids or who wants to have kids. Eveeryone has the right to choose to how they live their life. If they don't want kids right away, it shouldn't be a big deal.

Originally posted by Original Prankster


:rolleyes: You obviously don't know what Nate was like. SOLOMON has a brain and Nate was lucky if he could spell him name right. Why do you think he always signed his posts? For practice...

LOL!

Okay, I wouldn't date a guy with kids. I might lose out on being with the guy I was supposed to be with, but I just don't want kids. I can't imagine myself having kids. I have zero patience being around kids. I go to Walmart and I want to have a quiet, peaceful time shopping. No way. I hear who knows how many screaming and wailing kids acting up. I just couldn't take it. Seriously, couldn't take it.

Okay, so what about dating a guy that has teenagers? Nope. Yes, it's true that teenagers don't scream and wail, but they can still do other things. Teenagers (some do, anyway) has this offensive guard. If I started dating their dad, I'm sure they would diss me, hate my guts, because they think I have a chance of replacing their mother. Just no way, all the way around. jmo

Edit: If I were the one with the kids, I wouldn't criticize the guy for not wanting to date me. The guy might feel the same way I talked about above. I sure as hell wouldn't criticize him.

Shut the hell up with your relationship threads already, nobody cares about you being a greedy bastard. You are just seeking attention...

Originally posted by Avril Lavigne
Shut the hell up with your relationship threads already, nobody cares about you being a greedy bastard. You are just seeking attention...


Didn't you hear me say I only wanted mature respones? What is your problem?

Originally posted by SOLOMON



I only have 3 turnoffs

1.Ugly hands
2,Ugly feet
3.Kids

you forgot one...No A/C

No i don't think he or she should be criticized for not wanting to date someone with kids. Its your choice, I on the other hand love children and i wouldn't care if i dated a man with children. Its the love that counts.

Solomon what would you do if you fell so deeply in love with a woman and she had children? Would you not date her? Or would you because you are in love with her? Just wondering!

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
No i don't think he or she should be criticized for not wanting to date someone with kids. Its your choice, I on the other hand love children and i wouldn't care if i dated a man with children. Its the love that counts.

Solomon what would you do if you fell so deeply in love with a woman and she had children? Would you not date her? Or would you because you are in love with her? Just wondering!


It would never get to that point because I always find out quickly whether a female has kids or not.

And then there was Sherry N., who brought her 12 year old daughter along on most of our dates. That kind of put a damper on things.

I dont think a guy should be criticized for not wanting a woman with kids. That's very understandable. Maybe he dosent think he is ready to handle a family. However, if you truly fall in love with someone, it wouldn't matter as much if they had kids. I'm sure it would still matter, but I think you would be more capable of seeing past it. All in all, though, I see nothing wrong with not wanting to date women who have children. I don't see anything wrong with still being friends with them, however.

Originally posted by *GoodMorningCalgary*


you forgot one...No A/C :lol:

Originally posted by BrandonS
And then there was Sherry N., who brought her 12 year old daughter along on most of our dates. That kind of put a damper on things.

It would. Well, you shouldnt be criticized, but if you were serious about her, then she told you about her kid, and you dumped her, yeah you should be criticized for it.

No, I didn't dump her because of the daughter. I just kept trying to get the kid out of the dates (without making the kid feel bad).

They shouldn't be because some guys aren't ready for kids yet.I believe that I am even though I'm only 15.I would love to have a family although I'd prefer the kids to be my own.

Originally posted by TheFonzIsCool


i'm not trying to make trouble.but why do all your topics have to be about ur problems with women? i mean it does get pretty annoying...just wondering...:)

Yeah,I wonder the same thing.

your not being discrimatory toward anyone it takes someone with alot of patience to deal with competing or vying for the womens affections because you are not a constant in her life her children are.I dated women a few times with children and it wasn't easy.the problem is that you cannot always choose who you fall in love with,so apart of taking that chance of dating and falling in love is that person might have children or just 1.I don't like undiscplined children,My child is going to understand when it comes to being social there's children hour then its adult time.I hope that helped alittle.

I have a 9 year old daughter and I have been on a total of about 5 dates in her lifetime. It's extremely difficult, at least for me, to find someone to date because guys can't seem to understand that we are a package deal. You get one of us, you get both of us. She will ALWAYS be my priority. Always.