...its the worst.

Anyone else ever have opportunities to do something or say something and for some reason hold back, on later to really regret it?


I've had one of those missed opportunitis, or at least it's feeling missed. It's been a couple weeks and nothing yet happened...shoulda taken advantage when I was ahead...






I know that just made no sense at all, but just needed to sort out thoughts. Sorry, yet thanks.








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Yes,it has happened to me,a lot.

Yeah, I know what you mean. It happened to me about 10 times last friday alone. :(

Yeah, I know the feeling...
It's the things you don't do that you regret, not as frequently the things you do do.
All in all, it sucks.

Yes, I have had that happen to me. But the most recent and one I regret the most was not standing up and saying something about my friend at his memorial service. I wanted to so much, because the people there that were talking didn't seem to really know him. I feel bad for not doing it, but at the time I thought it was better that I didn't because I didn't want to offend anyone there.

Oh my god yes. And it makes me feel really bad when I think about all of the things I could have said or done.

yea... i guess you live and learn.

yes..
and then you just want to go back and fix it, but you cant, so you move on but not really.

yeah, ever time something goes wrong, I think of all the stuff that I should have said that I didn't, things that might have kept something stupid from happening. I hate that so bad.

I personally don't believe in regrets. It's not a good thing to have them - and I really try not to. That's not to say I always succeed. I met the most wonderful guy in the world last summer, and I can't believe that I just let him go. :crying: He's now in the Canadian army, and I'm really regretting not telling him how I felt. I guess he's the one that got away... :blush:

Yeah. I pretty much have regrets about something every day.

I've had plenty.

Sure- everyone has that, but youre thinking back to it in retrospect- and when you think back, your preceptions on how someone might've reacted to yur unsaid comments can have changed. No better time for thinking thsn the present.

everyday, but there not really opportunities

Yes... that's happened to me before a few times... and now I'm trying to prevent it at this very moment... I have something to tell someone but it's so hard to tell her, because they are powerful words, and I'm extremely self-conscious

My biggest 'missed opportunity' was not telling Carmen how I really felt about her. I really did have a chance with that girl but I blew it. Now she's living down in England with her girlfriend and every day I can't help but think "that could've been me".

I also greatly regret not going to university while I had the opportunity. I thought I was being mature and doing the right thing by getting a job and earning my own way in the world right after I left school but now I deeply regret my descision. What makes me feel even worse is the fact that I regret my descision for all the wrong reasons:
I don't wish that I had gone to uni cos I wanted to educate myself. I don't wish I'd gone to uni cos I wanted more qualifications. I don't wish I'd gone to uni cos I wanted to achieve something and make people proud of me.
No, I wish I'd gone to uni cos then I'd have been able to meet loads of hott women and land myself a girlfriend!
It's not about the education - it's all about the women. I'm a shallow b*st*rd and it makes me sick!

I regret all the times I'd made up my mind to tell my pal Emma that I'm gay but chickened out at the last minute.
I'll tell her before the end of the year - I promise!!

I regret that my best guy-friend, Rory, is about to leave and go to uni and I'll probably never see him again.
All I need to do is say to him "listen mate, your friendship means a lot to me and I really hope we can stay in touch" but I know that I won't be able to do that. I'm completely unable to say such things to someone face-to-face so I'll probably never see him again - all because I'm unable to express my true emotions.

I suck.

:(

Originally posted by Mossopp

I suck.

:(

You need a hug. :hug: And no, you do not suck. That's probably one of the worst things you can tell yourself. You just have troubles, that's all. You're not crazy. Although... if you're crazy, we might as well be crazy together, cause I know I'm out there :crazy:

yeah sure I have alot of missed oppurtonities but hopefully i'll learn from them

I'm so sorry Alex! I think everyone knows how that feels.


I'm going to give you some free advise: Don't dwell on the past! Learn from it! If you can take away a lesson from that bad experience, then it won't seem so utterly terrible; and you will become a better person because of it!

Originally posted by Mossopp


I regret all the times I'd made up my mind to tell my pal Emma that I'm gay but chickened out at the last minute.
I'll tell her before the end of the year - I promise!!

I regret that my best guy-friend, Rory, is about to leave and go to uni and I'll probably never see him again.
All I need to do is say to him "listen mate, your friendship means a lot to me and I really hope we can stay in touch" but I know that I won't be able to do that. I'm completely unable to say such things to someone face-to-face so I'll probably never see him again - all because I'm unable to express my true emotions.



:(


NO MORE WHAT IF'S! You have got to tell them what you have on your mind! If you can't tell them in person, write them a note. You know what you want to say! Say it somehow, someway; or you will have another regret to add to your list. Don't let it happen again!


No more what if's!