PLease don't ask a guy what he does for a living if you are unemployed. I see that so many times on TV. And A female ask me that? When I found out she was unemployed, I was like she has some nerve.LOL

uh why?

huh?

Originally posted by ~°Sarah°~
uh why?


WHy? How can a female ask what a GUY does for a living and she is sitting home? Guys shouldn't have to explain their job to a female who doesn't have one.

Originally posted by SOLOMON



WHy? How can a female ask what a GUY does for a living and she is sitting home? Guys shouldn't have to explain their job to a female who doesn't have one.

Maybe they want someone who has a stable job because they're having trouble finding one? Or maybe all these questions are just your male chauvanist side coming through. Whatever is it, I don't want to get involved in it.

why the hell do you have to say bad stuff against women all the time? :rolleyes:

Originally posted by SOLOMON



WHy? How can a female ask what a GUY does for a living and she is sitting home? Guys shouldn't have to explain their job to a female who doesn't have one.
you cant speak for every guy.

oh ok...

you bother me.

Maybe the chick is just making small talk? I'm not saying the second I meet a guy, I would ask him 'Hey, what do you do for a living?' I'd at least come up with something else to ask, but if the person can't think of another question to make small talk and break the ice, I guess the job question is the only question to ask. She's trying to get to know you better, doesn't really matter if she has a job or not when she's asking you the question. She's just trying to break the ice and get to know you better. Just my guess. jmo

Originally posted by MaRtInA_GuRL
why the hell do you have to say bad stuff against women all the time? :rolleyes:


So what if a guy askes you what kind of car you drive and when you ask him he says he doesn't have one. Wouldn't look at him like how can he ask me that and he's not driving.

Originally posted by YearbookLoser
you bother me.

WHO CARES

Originally posted by Jenny
Maybe the chick is just making small talk? I'm not saying the second I meet a guy, I would ask him 'Hey, what do you do for a living?' I'd at least come up with something else to ask, but if the person can't think of another question to make small talk and break the ice, I guess the job question is the only question to ask. She's trying to get to know you better, doesn't really matter if she has a job or not when she's asking you the question. She's just trying to break the ice and get to know you better. Just my guess. jmo


I just feel that a male or female shouldn;'t try and see how stable the other person is if he/she has no job. Just to come out and question a person about their job title when that person is jobless mAkes no sense. By the way, i should have said this rule is for males and females. I don't normally see guys do this but i'm not saying they don't. But i see females ask that question all the time in the very beginning of the date.

Not all females don't have jobs, really you're so ****ing stupid. I told you this once and I will tell you it again if you have a problem with women then **** MEN!

Originally posted by Avril Lavigne
Not all females don't have jobs, really you're so ****ing stupid. I told you this once and I will tell you it again if you have a problem with women then **** MEN!

:lol:

Kristina is right dude you are so annoying. I've seen a lot of your posts expressing the way you feel towards women. If you don't like women then realize that your gay so we can all chat on this board in peace.

What's wrong with a girl showing interest in what you do for a living? I don't get it. I could understand you being upset if a girl was putting you down for not having a job while she herself didn't have one, but to simply get mad at a girl just for asking what you do for a living is absurd. If anything I'd be honored that a girl thought that much of me to even care what I did for a living.

Originally posted by Avril Lavigne
Not all females don't have jobs, really you're so ****ing stupid. I told you this once and I will tell you it again if you have a problem with women then **** MEN!


PLease don't use that kind of language on these boards.

Originally posted by pandora_spocks


:lol:

Kristina is right dude you are so annoying. I've seen a lot of your posts expressing the way you feel towards women. If you don't like women then realize that your gay so we can all chat on this board in peace.


I never said anything about not liking women, i just pick up on a lot of weird things females do when they go on dates. Like I said before, i don;t want no female questioning me about what I do for a living and she is at home doing nothing.

Originally posted by mdntrider7
What's wrong with a girl showing interest in what you do for a living? I don't get it. I could understand you being upset if a girl was putting you down for not having a job while she herself didn't have one, but to simply get mad at a girl just for asking what you do for a living is absurd. If anything I'd be honored that a girl thought that much of me to even care what I did for a living.


Why should a female be so concerned about what a guy does for a living if she is unemployed? I don't think she should ask about unless she is working herself. And please don't say anything about just making conversation. It's plenty of other things to talk about besides a man's job.

Originally posted by SOLOMON

And please don't say anything about just making conversation. It's plenty of other things to talk about besides a man's job.

But maybe she just wants to know...
:rolleyes:



just how often do you have a date, solomon?

Originally posted by Titania



just how often do you have a date, solomon?

yea for real. dude.. she was only making conversation. trust me, you don't sound like the type of guy any woman would be able to put up w/ just for the money, so i don't think you have to worry about that.

Asking what someone does for a living is a normal question.
It's called conversation, everyone asks each other this question.
It is not being nosy or impolite.
Actually, asking other people about themselves is a lot more polite than talking about yourself.

Now, someone giving you a hard time about what you do for a living is something different.

What exactly did someone say to you Solomon to push you over the edge?

My new dating rule:

DONT DATE SOLOMON

:eek:

Lordy I didnt' even read all his posts, just the ones that were quoted. I cannot even believe it.

Originally posted by dlemond

What exactly did someone say to you Solomon to push you over the edge?

Probably "Don't ever call me again!" *click* ;)

Originally posted by GrapeJelly


Probably "Don't ever call me again!" *click* ;)

-LOL

Originally posted by GrapeJelly
Probably "Don't ever call me again!" *click* ;)

:lol:

Well, Solomon, you've alienated people on every single SO message board now. I hope you're happy.

SOLOMON is a classic 'closet-case' if you ask me.
Why else would he have so many issues with women? It's like he's trying to find fault with the entire female population so he can justify his true feelings towards men.

offtopic: shara i love your sig!! mario rpg was the greatest game

Eh?

Originally posted by SOLOMON
I never said anything about not liking women, i just pick up on a lot of weird things females do when they go on dates. Like I said before, i don;t want no female questioning me about what I do for a living and she is at home doing nothing.

Like men don't do stupid things?? That'll be the day. :rolleyes:

And WHO CARES!!! I don't have a job...okay, so I go on a date and ask the guy what he does. It's to get to know him better, not because I have dollar signs in my eyes.

And if the roles were reversed...like I'd care. I'd just say I didn't have one. Sheesh.

One asks another about work because that often says a lot about a person's interests. Often it does not. Follow-up questions might be: Do you enjoy your work? Do you like your employer?

If I were to ask a man: "What do you do for a living?" (your initial question in this thread) and he tells me that he is a scriptwriter, then that tells me that he is a creative person. If I then ask him if there might be a chance that I have seen something that he may have written, that simply means that I am curious as to whether or not I have seen something that he has written. You, I am guessing, would automatically assume that I am wanting to know whether or not he is SUCCESSFUL and RICH. Nope. I simply want to know if I like his work. If he tells me that he writes more obscure works for stage, rather than a TV series, then I wouldn't know his work. If he told me that he writes for "24" then I would know his work.

Whether or not I am employed has no impact on wanting to know more about the person that is the man.

I think I do sort of understand what you're saying SOLOMON. If you're saying that a woman shouldnt have a man to provide for her and that women should be independent, I am with you on that.....like, "homemakers" should get a job and not try to find a guy to give her everything. If that's not what you're saying then Im not sure what you're saying......

Im not taking sides, but seriously if I was unemployed I wouldnt ask my date what he does for a living. Then he'd ask me and I wouldnt want to answer-- how embarassing!!

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
Im not taking sides, but seriously if I was unemployed I wouldnt ask my date what he does for a living. Then he'd ask me and I wouldnt want to answer-- how embarassing!!

I was thinking the same thing. It would just be an embarrasing situation because you know the question will be reciprocated. But I don't think just by asking a question, the girl is out for the guy's money.

Originally posted by Avril Lavigne
Not all females don't have jobs, really you're so ****ing stupid. I told you this once and I will tell you it again if you have a problem with women then **** MEN!

Amen, sista! :lol:

Originally posted by brownsocks
offtopic: shara i love your sig!! mario rpg was the greatest game
thx. i luv that game

OMG you are one gaaaay freak.

Originally posted by dlemond
Asking what someone does for a living is a normal question.
It's called conversation, everyone asks each other this question.
It is not being nosy or impolite.
Actually, asking other people about themselves is a lot more polite than talking about yourself.

Now, someone giving you a hard time about what you do for a living is something different.

What exactly did someone say to you Solomon to push you over the edge?


I was ask by this female what I do for a living and when I asked her she said she was unemployed.

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
I think I do sort of understand what you're saying SOLOMON. If you're saying that a woman shouldnt have a man to provide for her and that women should be independent, I am with you on that.....like, "homemakers" should get a job and not try to find a guy to give her everything. If that's not what you're saying then Im not sure what you're saying......


Yes that's what i'm saying.

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
My new dating rule:

DONT DATE SOLOMON

:eek:



:rotflmao:

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
My new dating rule:

DONT DATE SOLOMON

:eek:



:lol: I don't think we have to worry about that

Originally posted by Nanny Fine
My new dating rule:

DONT DATE SOLOMON

:eek:

Lordy I didnt' even read all his posts, just the ones that were quoted. I cannot even believe it.

:lol: Yeah,don't make THAT mistake!!

Asking what one does for a living is just normal conversation - what's wrong with it???Solomon,you seem so paranoid about women,please seek help,before it's too late.

I saw this coming as I read this topic. :(

Well, now that SOLOMON is an expert on what I can say on dates, I better start taking notes. :rolleyes:

I dont agree with what you are thinking here. Small talk...thats it. God forbid someone make conversation.

wow! a male chauvinistic pig! a bigot, who keeps posting worse and stupider threads a day...

Originally posted by Brandon
wow! a male chauvinistic pig! a bigot, who keeps posting worse and stupider threads a day...


Whatever

Originally posted by SOLOMON



Whatever

Brilliant. Did you learn that in college?

Originally posted by GrapeJelly


Brilliant. Did you learn that in college?

Nah he skipped his final exams.

Originally posted by GrapeJelly


Brilliant. Did you learn that in college? :lol:

Originally posted by Nanny Fine


Nah he skipped his final exams.


LOL-now that actually was funny

I don't see how being unemployed automatically assumes that the person "sits at home" when you're working. A lot of Mother's and even Father’s don't have jobs, but they're definitely not sitting around. Even people without kids don't necessarily have to be "sitting around" if they don't have a job... Some are going to School, taking care of someone, or striving for a dream that isn't working for McDonald's… Most aren’t searching for the big bucks they’re trying to get to know you, like so many have already said. 9 out of 10 times it’s making small talk nothing more nothing less. I find it more rude if they just sit there not saying anything at least they’re showing interest- you should be thankful.

Originally posted by #1_Nancy_McKeon
I don't see how being unemployed automatically assumes that the person "sits at home" when you're working. A lot of Mother's and even Father’s don't have jobs, but they're definitely not sitting around. Even people without kids don't necessarily have to be "sitting around" if they don't have a job... Some are going to School, taking care of someone, or striving for a dream that isn't working for McDonald's… Most aren’t searching for the big bucks they’re trying to get to know you, like so many have already said. 9 out of 10 times it’s making small talk nothing more nothing less. I find it more rude if they just sit there not saying anything at least they’re showing interest- you should be thankful.



The main point of this post was that females who are unemployed should not be so quick to ask a guy what he does for a living on a first date. I'm not saying females can't ask that question at all, i'm just saying it shouldn't be the first question that comes out their mouth if they are unemployed. That's all.,

Originally posted by #1_Nancy_McKeon
I don't see how being unemployed automatically assumes that the person "sits at home" when you're working. A lot of Mother's and even Father’s don't have jobs, but they're definitely not sitting around. Even people without kids don't necessarily have to be "sitting around" if they don't have a job... Some are going to School, taking care of someone, or striving for a dream that isn't working for McDonald's… Most aren’t searching for the big bucks they’re trying to get to know you, like so many have already said. 9 out of 10 times it’s making small talk nothing more nothing less. I find it more rude if they just sit there not saying anything at least they’re showing interest- you should be thankful.

Exactly.But it won't phase Solomon.

Originally posted by SOLOMON




The main point of this post was that females who are unemployed should not be so quick to ask a guy what he does for a living on a first date. I'm not saying females can't ask that question at all, i'm just saying it shouldn't be the first question that comes out their mouth if they are unemployed. That's all.,

psycho.... it's small talk. on first dates, what's to talk about?besides how good the weather is....

Originally posted by Brandon


psycho.... it's small talk. on first dates, what's to talk about?besides how good the weather is....


retardo you can discuss things like

Family background
Education
Areas you grew up in
Favorite foods
hobbies
pet peeve
whether someone likes sports, TV, radio. ETC.

Lol. This is an interesting topic. I was just reading about this in some advice column last night, no joke. I agree, females can be asking the question of what their date does for a living for mere small talk, but a great deal of the time (especially if she's unemployed and asks this question early on), the girl is a straight-up gold-digger. I don't care what anyone says. It's the truth sometimes. If I was a guy and some unemployed girl asked me this immediately, I'd question her motives. Of course, you're talking to someone who thinks there is a right way and a wrong way to date. Guys gotta spot the gold-diggers right away, and this question can be one to check off the gold-digger list if asked too early.

Originally posted by SOLOMON



retardo you can discuss things like

Family background
Education
Areas you grew up in


any of those topics could be just as sensitive for a number of reasons. if the motives arent bad, i dont see what the harm is in asking what a guy does for a living.

Originally posted by Titania


any of those topics could be just as sensitive for a number of reasons. if the motives arent bad, i dont see what the harm is in asking what a guy does for a living.


Because if a female askes the question too early she may give off a GOLD DIGGER VIBE!!!!!!

Some women will ask what you do for a living to make small talk.
Some women will ask what you do for a living because they are curious about you and are trying to get to know you.
Some women will ask what you do for a living because they're gold diggers.
If a woman asks this, and you then treat her badly because you assume she's a gold digger, you run the risk of missing out on an opportunity to know someone who asked the question innocently.

Personally, I had never considered the gold digger angle to this question, but if you're concerned about it, the best course might be to give her the benefit of the doubt, but be alert for future hints she's a golddiger.

Originally posted by SOLOMON



Because if a female askes the question too early she may give off a GOLD DIGGER VIBE!!!!!!

well im not talking about "hello, how are you? whats your job?" but in general conversation



and would you rather she kept the gold-digger thing to herself until after you said "i do"...

Solomon,I guess you think it's ok for a man to ask a woman what she does for a living,huh?

Originally posted by vintagetvgirl
Solomon,I guess you think it's ok for a man to ask a woman what she does for a living,huh?


Not right away but eventually.

OMG! u post the dumbest things

I'm not sure if anybody asked this already, but, SOLOMON...can a guy ask a girl what she does for a living if HE doesn't have a job? Hmm...

Originally posted by *A TV People*
I'm not sure if anybody asked this already, but, SOLOMON...can a guy ask a girl what she does for a living if HE doesn't have a job? Hmm...


Yes the same rule can apply to men, i just don't hear men ask that question a lot within 5 min of a first date, it's usually females. But i'm not saying a man never asked that question EARLY ON A FIRST DATE

Originally posted by SOLOMON
PLease don't ask a guy what he does for a living if you are unemployed. I see that so many times on TV. And A female ask me that? When I found out she was unemployed, I was like she has some nerve.LOL

SOLOMON, what's gotten in with you? Why are you asking these bizarre questions and preaching these off-base statements? You are starting to get me worried.

Originally posted by LucyFan


SOLOMON, what's gotten in with you? Why are you asking these bizarre questions and preaching these off-base statements? You are starting to get me worried.


Relax it's only a discussion about what not to sayon first dates depending on your employment status

Solomon it seems like u & i have some things in common when it comes to females. U know what i hate about a woman? When u ask her how old she is, she says guess my age. How old do i look? B***h i ain't guessing your age. If she can't tell me, then i ain't guessing. Why do women wanna leave a man in the dark about how old they are especially black women? Black women get on my nerves having hang ups about their age. What's the big mystery? Black women out of all races of women are something else. As much as i love my black women, i hate to deal with them cause of their nasty ass attitudes & they be acting like they don't wanna be bothered when they be mad about something or if they're on their period. They also act like they s**t don't stink acting all stuck up. I guarantee u if men stopped approaching women, i betcha women would feel hurt then cause women have this concept that men are always supposed to approach them.

Originally posted by BrandonS
Personally, I had never considered the gold digger angle to this question...

Then I guess you've never heard of Doc. Love or his "System." It's his advice column I was reading the other night. And he's got this thing guys can buy which is the "System." I recommend it to any guy who's having some troubles with the ladies. I always wanna tell my clueless dates about it, but I don't have enough nerve.

Originally posted by isiahthomas
Solomon it seems like u & i have some things in common when it comes to females. U know what i hate about a woman? When u ask her how old she is, she says guess my age. How old do i look? B***h i ain't guessing your age. If she can't tell me, then i ain't guessing. Why do women wanna leave a man in the dark about how old they are especially black women? Black women get on my nerves having hang ups about their age. What's the big mystery? Black women out of all races of women are something else. As much as i love my black women, i hate to deal with them cause of their nasty ass attitudes & they be acting like they don't wanna be bothered when they be mad about something or if they're on their period. They also act like they s**t don't stink acting all stuck up. I guarantee u if men stopped approaching women, i betcha women would feel hurt then cause women have this concept that men are always supposed to approach them. you havent dated all black women how can you say what all black women are

Originally posted by Cashodeen:
Then I guess you've never heard of Doc. Love or his "System." It's his advice column I was reading the other night. And he's got this thing guys can buy which is the "System." I recommend it to any guy who's having some troubles with the ladies. I always wanna tell my clueless dates about it, but I don't have enough nerve.
I just try to be myself, get to know the woman, and make friends. It's not much of a system, but at least I can remember it.

Originally posted by BrandonS
I just try to be myself, get to know the woman, and make friends. It's not much of a system, but at least I can remember it.

LOL, okay. Hey, whatever works, keep at it. :wave:

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
you havent dated all black women how can you say what all black women are
i couldnt have said it better.

...

Originally posted by Polniaczek033

SOLOMON, I hate you. U r such a pig. All u care about is men, if u love men so much, go be gay and f*uck one.

But don't 4get to ask him what he does for a living:rolleyes:

How nice of you to take time out of your precious 12 year old day to post that. Now, kindly put your two cents back in your pocket. You're not even old enough to date yet, so step off.

Originally posted by Cashodeen


How nice of you to take time out of your precious 12 year old day to post that. Now, kindly put your two cents back in your pocket. You're not even old enough to date yet, so step off.
:lol:

I'm getting a male chauvanist vibe from Solomon's post, but I could be wrong.

Originally posetd by Polniaczek033:
SOLOMON, I hate you. U r such a pig. All u care about is men, if u love men so much, go be gay and f*uck one.
Polniaczek033, personal insults against members, make this board a worse place. Fortunately most members have the good manners and restraint to control themselves a little better. Even if you strongly dislike another member, I think there's a more dignified way to behave about it.

Originally posted by ~*Hannah_Lee*~

:lol:

I'm getting a male chauvanist vibe from Solomon's post, but I could be wrong.

No, i'm not a male chauvanist i just never seen men ask that question on a first date if the are not employed. Only females

Jesus Christ, get over yourself SOLOMON.

Originally posted by MaRtInA_GuRL
Jesus Christ, get over yourself SOLOMON.

I'm not sure I know what you mean?

Originally posted by SOLOMON


I'm not sure I know what you mean?
she means get over it and move on w/ life

Originally posted by BrandonS

Polniaczek033, personal insults against members, make this board a worse place. Fortunately most members have the good manners and restraint to control themselves a little better. Even if you strongly dislike another member, I think there's a more dignified way to behave about it.
she cant really hate him just cuz hes hard on women.

Originally posted by ~°Sarah°~

she means get over it and move on w/ life


I was over it, i just was clarifying to someone that i'm not a male chavunist.

Originally posted by SOLOMON
No, i'm not a male chauvanist i just never seen men ask that question on a first date if the are not employed. Only females
A question for you: How do you know whether or not men ask this question on a first date? Have you dated all the men on the planet? Unless you have, you cannot make this comment.

Originally posted by Mysty Eyes

A question for you: How do you know whether or not men ask this question on a first date? Have you dated all the men on the planet? Unless you have, you cannot make this comment.


I'm talking about the dates I see on TV. Not in person.

Originally posted by SOLOMON
I'm talking about the dates I see on TV. Not in person.
Fictional dates? Dates that are are scripted? What makes you think that scripts are in the least bit realistic?

Also, but I may be wrong here, I believe that many if not MOST scriptwriters are men. How do they know what questions most men ask on first dates? Again... they wouldn't, unless they date men themselves, which of course is possible.

In my experience, information regarding the employment situations of both the man and the woman involved frequently are discussed before they ever go out on that first date.

Originally posted by Mysty Eyes

Fictional dates? Dates that are are scripted? What makes you think that scripts are in the least bit realistic?

Also, but I may be wrong here, I believe that many if not MOST scriptwriters are men. How do they know what questions most men ask on first dates? Again... they wouldn't, unless they date men themselves, which of course is possible.

In my experience, information regarding the employment situations of both the man and the woman involved frequently are discussed before they ever go out on that first date.
i think me means like elimidate and dismissed and stuff.

Originally posted by ~°Sarah°~

i think me means like elimidate and dismissed and stuff.

You know what? you're right Sarah

I'll tell you you can tell by someones job title just how motivated or unmotivated they are to bettering their well being.The problem is that alot of people who have alot of degrees something have it hard because they are over achievers so alot of companies tend to shy away from those who might ask alot.My friend scott tells me his title is a proffessional opportunity offender-or A Comedian that gets paid to make fun of life.I think sometimes people unfairly judge or value people based on their jobs.sometimes the economy is so bad you sometimes have to take a job you don't want and swallow your pride because you got bills.I would rather work because its personally drangerous for me to have a playstation around me or tv around.I would rather work and be networking then not working at hall and getting over weight and not experience life.Then again watching Threes company from noon till night can be fun to.who likes the early T.C over the older ones.I work for the Government in Baltimore county it's never boring I'll say that.I'm not bragging but if anyone is going to CA any time I know some great places to eat and play.