Does anyone think they like being depressed like happiness just isn't possible so they prefer being sad? I sometimes think sadness is better because it's what I mostly feel. Am I brainwashing myself into thinking that? Like I said this is a weird, yet stupid question.

Sometimes I like being in a "slump" just to get away. Usually Im optimistic, but I wouldnt say I force/brainwash myself into being it...I just...am.

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
Sometimes I like being in a "slump" just to get away. Usually Im optimistic, but I wouldnt say I force/brainwash myself into being it...I just...am.

Well, I've been depressed pretty much all of my life so maybe thats why I prefer to be sad because I don't hardly know what's like to even smile. I smile on occasion, but not too often. It's like it hurts to smile.

Originally posted by pandora_spocks


Well, I've been depressed pretty much all of my life so maybe thats why I prefer to be sad because I don't hardly know what's like to even smile. I smile on occasion, but not too often. It's like it hurts to smile.
Aww.:( Hurts me to smile too-- but thats usually because I smile a lot!:crazy: I dont usually let if be known when Im upset- I put up a front.

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤

Aww.:( Hurts me to smile too-- but thats usually because I smile a lot!:crazy: I dont usually let if be known when Im upset- I put up a front.

I put up a front if I'm out in public, but sometimes it just seeps through. I feel like one of the Lisbon girls in The Virgin Suicides. Some thought the torture tearing the Lisbon girls pointed to a simple refusal to accept the world as it was handed down to them: So full of flaws. I just keep thinking there's another world where I'm supposed to be now and I missed it because I got stuck in this one. Yeah, I know I'm :crazy:. I always feel like I wanna get out of my body and just leave it lying there and find someone more suitable. Does that make sense? :lol:

Originally posted by pandora_spocks


I put up a front if I'm out in public, but sometimes it just seeps through. I feel like one of the Lisbon girls in The Virgin Suicides. Some thought the torture tearing the Lisbon girls pointed to a simple refusal to accept the world as it was handed down to them: So full of flaws. I just keep thinking there's another world where I'm supposed to be now and I missed it because I got stuck in this one. Yeah, I know I'm :crazy:. I always feel like I wanna get out of my body and just leave it lying there and find someone more suitable. Does that make sense? :lol:
Makes sense to me!! Im sure tons of people can relate.

I have a hard time being happy. Every time I am, something happens to make me feel like crap. I actually like to be sad sometimes.

Originally posted by pandora_spocks
Does anyone think they like being depressed like happiness just isn't possible so they prefer being sad? I sometimes think sadness is better because it's what I mostly feel. Am I brainwashing myself into thinking that? Like I said this is a weird, yet stupid question.

Here is what Norman Vincent Peale (author of The Power of Positive Thinking) says:

Many of us manufacture our own unhappinesss. Of course not all unhappinesss is self-created, for social conditions are responsible for not a few of our woes. Yet it is a fact that to a large extent by our thoughts and attitudes we distill out of the ingredients of life either happiness or unhappiness for ourselves.

I'm a pretty happy person, (after two and a half years of clinical depression I have a right to be!) now just remember that being happy doesn't mean you have to be morning-person-weather-girl-HAPPY - it just means trying to maintain a positive outlook. I had to go through 2 years of therapy to stop being depressed - But since then I really have had a postive attitude and just try to look forward to all that's to come. You'd be surprised just how relaxing it can be.

I'm always happy I hate to see other people down or be put down depression might be some people's way of alerting everyone that life now of days is miserable to be apart of!Mostly I'm happy though the only thing that depresses me are funerals and the news other than that I'm kool:cool: !

I'm SO mixed up, it's not even funny. For half the year, I was constantly depressed. Like, never ever ever happy. Clinical Depression. For the next half, I was half the time happy, half the time depressed again, with horrible mood swings. Now, it's both of them just mixed together.

I'm always sad. When something good happens, I'll be "happy", yet it feels like it's only a mask. I can still feel the depression me.

I wouldn't go back to feeling depressed for anything. I much prefer being happy.

Originally posted by jimmiegirl48
I have a hard time being happy. Every time I am, something happens to make me feel like crap. I actually like to be sad sometimes.

That's exactly what it is like for me. Also, sometimes I think that I am so used to being sad/depressed that I have forgotten what happy feels like.

Originally posted by Miss Karly


I'm always sad. When something good happens, I'll be "happy", yet it feels like it's only a mask. I can still feel the depression me.

That is basically my answer. Exactly my answer.

I constantly feel like I'm not good enough for anyone including myself. I think I'm just in love with my sadness because I seem to always bring myself down no matter how happy I try to be.

I'm never really happy. I mean, I can be in a good mood, and for no reason at all I'll get an overwhelming sadness. I put up a front, usually by making other people laugh. I'm not even considering suicide, because I believe in God and Heaven and Hell. And if you kill yourself, you end up in Hell. I'm not pushing my beliefs on anyone, I'm just letting you know why suicide is not an option for me.

I think about my own mortality alot. Sometimes I wonder if my co-workers would be all that sad with my death.

In the show "Quantum Leap" Sam Beckett spent five seasons trying to find a way home. To get home, he traveled through time and helped people in trouble. In the final episode, instead of going home, which he had the option to do, he decided to keep on leaping forever. He gave up his happiness for others. If I had the chance, I'd do the same thing. I feel like I should be helping others and maybe I am sad because I have nothing going for me. Gee, when I started the Quantum Leap reference, it seemed to match the topic. Now I'm not too sure.:)

However, when I'm sad I tend to eat. So there is something good that comes out of it. A pizza and TV show. :D

I'm sorry Holly. I didn't mean to turn this whole post into a "Me Thread", but I had to get that off my chest. I'd try to give you some advice on how to feel happy, but I haven't the slightest thing to say.

Originally posted by TVAdam
I'm sorry Holly. I didn't mean to turn this whole post into a "Me Thread", but I had to get that off my chest. I'd try to give you some advice on how to feel happy, but I haven't the slightest thing to say.

That's okay.
I don't take medication for my depression and I won't go to a doctor to get any. I think my mind feeds off of my sadness, otherwise I wouldn't be able to live - it's been so long since I even knew what real happiness is. I won't deny it; I think about death and suicide all the time trying to find some way to get out of my body and find some place else to go. Away from home, away from life, tragedies, heartache - you name it. But my hands are tied, no way out from life or death.

Be careful about resolving to be sad all the time, because that can lead to bitterness and frustration. Not healthy.

I'm really sorry if I sound out-of-place here, or if I'm being presumptuous, but reading these messages: it really doesn't sound healthy. I didn't think I was depressed until my mom dragged me into a social worker's office and it all came out. I've seen 3 different people, and they all helped me so much. I don't want to diagnose anyone, but depression is the most common mental illness in America - and it can be treated. If you really think you're depressed too often, you may want to have it checked out. What have you got to lose? Sorry if I offended anyone, but I'm just trying to help. :)

Like you say- sometimes you're happy and not long after something makes you feel like crap- usually it's other people that make people feel like crap. Like when you do nothing wrong and someone just shouts over at you or says something to you- and at the time you're just being yourself. No wonder people are paranoid- you hang around people, and when one of them leave the rest talk about the person- then you wonder what happens when you leave. People who hate People- that's almost everyone; when they can't accept the differences, If a difference is for better or for worse- the different are set aside and labelled 'WORSE'.

I hate people that call everything 'gay', like you do something or listen to some other music or actually have oppinions and it's gay-I'm trying to devise an outline then on what's 'Not-gay' so far I've got this; It's following the flock, accepting majority and allowing yourself t be controlled without your oppinions'
There has to be someone that starts the latest trend- like the continously repeating fashion changes- there must be one person- or an elite group of people, who decide what to wear, so everyone wears it' Technically, the 'narrowmindeds' I described are all clones- but there leasers aren't clones, cos they actually change the fashions; they're manipulators.

I'm really not very happy and a lot of times,I feel mad at the world.As I've said many times,my health isn't too good and so I have limitations,which is very depressing.I wonder if things will be like this my whole life. :(

One thing I've noticed about life is if you feel happy then there are 10 people who don't want you to be happy. It's like you can't show happiness at all . There was a time that I felt happy and showed it but, since then I have to keep my emotions in check because there are too many depressed people around me. It's a shame but, I see more depressed people now than when I was a younger person. With today's technology I thought that I would see more happy people but, everywhere I turn I don't see it at all. I just find it sad........ :(

i never wanna be depressed but when i am i wanna stay depressed...its weird

Originally posted by Pitooey
One thing I've noticed about life is if you feel happy then there are 10 people who don't want you to be happy. It's like you can't show happiness at all . There was a time that I felt happy and showed it but, since then I have to keep my emotions in check because there are too many depressed people around me. It's a shame but, I see more depressed people now than when I was a younger person. With today's technology I thought that I would see more happy people but, everywhere I turn I don't see it at all. I just find it sad........ :( I agree with you I HAD a great weekend and Had fun and was happy and stuff AND THEN this EX friend of mine got mad at me because I DONT like her friend and she starting saying stuff ABOUT MY NIECE which MEGILY ticked me off YOU DONT go there with a GIRLS AUNT i'm SORRY and well that just pretty much ruined my Weekend!!!

I was diagnosed with depression at 14 as well as 5 other mental disorders after being hospitalized, so I most definitely hear where you're coming from. I got to the point where I lived sad and depressed for so long that it didn't even bother me anymore. I was so used to it that it became normal to me, and happiness was now a foreign thing. Fortunately, lately through my writing Iv'e been pulling myself out of my slump a bit, and now that I'm getting out of it, I feel much happier. Just try not to get yourself in such a slump that you can't get out of it. That's when you're in trouble.

Depression sucks, along with my other 848362728562 disorders. I don't like being sad all the time, somtimes I wanna die and that's not a very good thing to think about. I can't picture myself being happy, going out alot, being energetic, etc I like being alone and depressed in a sense I guess, because I never do anything about it.

I'm not very satisfied with my life, but I tend to be in a good mood almost all of the time. I don't know why. I don't think I'm doing anything deliberately to achieve it. Maybe it has to do with attitudes my parents taught me. Maybe something else is responsible. I have no idea.

I do know this, though. Being happy is better than being sad. Probably many people who are sad are sad because there is something very real in their life situation that is very unsatisfactory, whether they know it or not. I think that people who are habitually depressed, should try very hard to change their life situations, because it's probably something about those situations that's causing the depression. If it's too overwhelming to try to change everything, then at least try to change something. Maybe that means getting negative people out of your life. Maybe that means adding positive people to your life. Maybe that means setting a goal of some kind, since having direction in one's life probably makes one happier than having no goals or direction.

Maybe being habitually depressed is the result of having a world view or patterns of thought that are not useful. If you can't fix your depression yourself, try to get help from other people in fixing it. Don't wait too long, because the longer you're habitually depressed, the more it will become an ingrained habit, and the harder it will be to fix it. I think that one of the prerequisites for changing is probably the willingness to accept the possibility that some of your beliefs may be erroneous, even if they seem correct.

That's my two cents worth, anyway.