Ok, I kno I haven't been here for a long time, I'm sry, but I'M BACK!!! I've just really been held up with hw...grrr

Ok, here's the problem, this is gonna sound so typical of a teen, but It's bugging me. I have this guy friend, and we are pretty good friends, he sends three specific ppl e-mails, me his girlfriend and another friend. Ok, but he flirts with everythin on earth that will flirt back, ok so I now have a crush on him. but his g/f is one of my best friends, and we are really good friends, AND HIM and I are pretty good friends,

like I said before he flirts with every living creature, so....but I DO have a crush on him and it sucks and hurts like hell, but he leads me on, then I kno, of course his g/f is my best friend....should I just end the friendship....so I don't get hurt anymore
I can't figure out which is more worth it?

Dear Confused in Wherever,

What I want to know is if your friend knows he flirts with everyone? If not maybe you should tell her... As much as you might get hurt by him if you continue to allow him to and get into your head she'll be hurt worse because she's the girlfriend. Then again, I guess, that only goes if she is real close to him. Which I am assuming she is since she is dating him.

If she really is your best friend I would back off from her boyfriend some because friendships will last a lot longer (or forever) but odds are a relationship with him wouldn't. (Not saying it won't- just the odds are usually against it when you're still in High School.)

Another question... does he flirt with you infront of his girlfriend or behind her back? That'd probably determine a lot also.

If she knows he flirts it probably wouldn't be a huge problem for your friend because if she knows it's usually the boyfriend doing harmless flirting that most guys do naturally. I think it's hardware into any guy, or at least most guys. (Mine definitely included.)


What to do about the crush. Thing is- don't do anything about it. Don't make advances toward him or anything... if it's just a minor crush it'll go away eventually. Don't let his continueing flirts get to you. Be like 'yeah okay, you say that to everyone.' If he gets more deeper than that I recommend definitely telling your friend if you don't already.

Thing is a couple of my friends really like my b/f, but it doesn't bother me because I can trust them not to be like "Hey *wink wink*" while I'm not there. It comes down to trust between the friends I suppose.

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I wrote it like a collumn...LOL Sorry I have to keep myself entertained.

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I wrote it like a collumn...LOL Sorry I have to keep myself entertained.

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Now, onto the problem....

Im going through the exact thing you're going through, except I'm the girlfriend, so I dont know what to tell you, except that you could wait for them to break up, then maybe you guys would hook up. I dont know.

thank you so much. So I shouldn't stop the friendship? It's just that I'm not sure if the friendship is worth all the hurt...
and he does flirt with me in front of his g/f. He flirts EVEN more behind her back. She doesn't seem to mind. She knew before they went out that I liked him. But he doesn't kno.

Im going through the exact same thing w\one of my friends but the guy used to be my friend-i dont like him much any more cuz he is a complete *******. I dont think u should stop the friendship cuz that will really screw things up.