I was watching an episode of All in the Family last night and on that particular episode Archie's brother Fred who is like 40 something (I'm not sure if they said what his age was on the show but I believe it was somewhere in the late 40's, maybe someone knowes if they said his age on the show) married a girl who was 18 years old. Lets say he was 48 thats a 30 year difference. So I pose some questions for you.

1. Do you think age is a big factor in a relationship and What in your opinion should be an age limit or should there even be one? (Age limit)
2.Do you think it is wrong that an older man or older women marries a young man or young women or do you think that if you are really truly in love with that person that there is nothing wrong with that? I'm talking like a 20 or 30 year old age difference.

This episode of AITF got me thinking about this and I want to see what you all think.

IMO age could be a big factor. I think if you are closer in age you have a lot more in common than a person of a much older age. I would say maybe a 5-10 year age difference again this is MO. To answer the second question I don't know if they are truly in love then maybe but if its for money or some other reason then I think its wrong. JMO.

What do you think?

It doesnt matter to me. When you fall in love, you really cant change your feelings. However, I wouldnt be dating an old Hughy

I don't think it should matter if two people are really in love with each other. Age is just a state of mind anyway. Isn't that what people are always saying? So what if someone is older than their partner and has a 20 or 30 year age difference between them. It's the feelings and the love between the couple that should truly matter.

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
It doesnt matter to me. When you fall in love, you really cant change your feelings. However, I wouldnt be dating an old Hughy

I agree with you on that.When your in love your in love.You can't put on age limit on that.

1) I don't really care about age either. Now don't get me wrong. I 'm not gonna go get married to a 70 year old and I'm 18. No, just no for that.

2) Hmm, if it's true love then I don't see anything wrong with it. I know my answers are kind of confusing. What's wrong with a 50 year old marrying a 30 year old? Nothing. It's just when you have that really big age gap like 50 years, I don't think a person can do that. If I married a 70 year old tomorrow, people would probably look at me as if I were a gold digging whore or something.

Originally posted by ¤MsConanOBrien¤
It doesnt matter to me. When you fall in love, you really cant change your feelings. However, I wouldnt be dating an old Hughy


I agree with you. It doesn't matter to me, When your in love your in love, however I would prefer to be with some one around my age,but hey thats just me. if a person is say 60 and the marry a 30 year old person if they are truly in love then I see nothing wrong with it.

Nothing wrong with it. Although im not gonna go date one of the Golden Girls.....Well actually....I Am pretty desperate... LOL

Well actually that is kind of young well atleast for me anyways. He would have to be ten years younger that's as far as I would go no younger or else the guy is way to iminture for me. I don't see anything wrong with dating an older man I think older guys are more mature so I could go for a guy who is 15 years older then me but thats as far as I would go any older it would be like dating my dad.

I don't think there's anything terribly wrong with people with a big age difference getting married, except that they might not have anything in common. I guess if they love each other though then it doesn't matter. One thing that annoys the hell out of me is when a really young woman marries someone a lot older, and a lot richer like say.. Anna Nicole. Now she might have loved him, but I think it was probably more in a father-like way, but you're not supposed to marry someone who you have feelings like that for.

1. Age can get to be a big factor later on, like if you're 25 and you have to care for your 90-year-old husband who had a stroke, but it shouldn't affect the initial falling in love. Age limit? I'd try to cut it off at about 50 years or so.
2. I don't think it's wrong if you love each other - genuinely, not for money or anything. If you have real, true feelings for each other, you'll find a way to make it work regardless of age.

Love is love and shouldn't make a difference.

um, 10 years diffrence is enough for anyone.

1. Do you think age is a big factor in a relationship and What in your opinion should be an age limit or should there even be one? I dont think its the biggest factor but it definitly is a factor. If you marry someone 20 years older than you...people wonder. (My cousin did just that, believe me, some not good things have resulted) Depending on what stage in your life you're at- theres also a maturity/experience gap that can be a problem (not all the time, but often)

2.Do you think it is wrong that an older man or older women marries a young man or young women or do you think that if you are really truly in love with that person that there is nothing wrong with that? Ehhhhh, if theyre happy then I dont think its my place to say anything- but I dont think Id marry someone that much older/younger

It doesn't mean a thing to me. I'd actually prefer older.

20 years is prob. where i'd draw the line.. but then again, i've never met "the one", and for all I know, if he's 30 years older than me.. then i guess that's just how it's meant to be. But i've never seen myself as so mature that a guy 30 years older than me would find me appealing for anything but sex.. so yea, 20 years is prob. my max for now.

The age difference issue is a tricky one. I think age begins to matter less and less as you get older. It's a pretty big deal if 2 people are in a relationship and one is 15 and the other is 20. But it doesn't matter so much when one is 40 and the other is 45. The difference in each case is 5 years but it's almost insignificant in the latter case, whereas in the former case the older partner is looking at charges for statutory rape!!!!
I remember when I was 17 - I fell in love with a girl who was 2 years my junior. I never acted on my feelings and I certainly never told her how I felt yet I still found myself racked with guilt about our age difference. I know for a fact that now that I'm 20 I would have no problems about having feelings for a girl of 18
- again, it's only 2 years of a difference but it doesn't matter now that I'm older.

In answer to the 2nd question - I don't think there's anything wrong with people who have a pretty big age gap between them getting married. You can't help the way you feel and if you really love someone age is insignificant. However in a lot of cases (see Anna Nicole for details) younger women are marrying older men not because of love but because of money. I find this intrinsically wrong - not to mention totally sick!

At the end of the day I can't really look at the issue of marriage objectively. Cos I am gay and gay marriage is - and probably will remain to be for a long time - illegal in the UK I find it hard to see things from my own point of veiw. I'd like to get married someday but I don't think that it'll ever happen. If it does however I can assure you that the issue of age or money will not be a factor.

Well, it all depends on the situation because every situation is different. You can't help who you fall in love with and if you happen to fall for someone much older or much younger and you want to get married I see nothing wrong in that, just as long as the younger person is at least 18. On the other hand I think 18 is a bit young to be thinking about marriage no matter how old the their partner is but the more you try and discourage someone from getting hitched (especially a young person who thinks they know everything anyway) the more they are going to want to go ahead with it just to spite you. Sometimes it is best just to let people make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes. As far as people who are closer in age having more things in common, that very well may be true but the divorce rate is still something like 50% and that includes couples of all ages.

I know everyone else said that age doesn't make a difference, but I'm traditional with that. I won't be able to fall in love with anyone younger than me or more than 2 yrs older. It's just to iffy for me. I'd feel too awkward. There's just something weird about it.

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
um, 10 years diffrence is enough for anyone.

Yeah, I would say up to a 10 or 12 year difference. Maybe 15 years.
What happens when two people marry with a 30-year age difference... they both like to hike or bicycle. How is a 65-year-old man going to keep up with a 35-year-old woman?

BTW, while waiting in line at a supermarket about 6 months ago, I heard the man in front of me say to the cashier that he is getting married (for the first time) at age 54!

Originally posted by Three'sCompanyrules
1. Do you think age is a big factor in a relationship and What in your opinion should be an age limit or should there even be one? (Age limit)--Naw.
2.Do you think it is wrong that an older man or older women marries a young man or young women or do you think that if you are really truly in love with that person that there is nothing wrong with that? I'm talking like a 20 or 30 year old age difference.- No way. If you're in love and your happy, hell. Hav fun.

Lets just say i'm 30 and i have a crush on a guy thats 20 and leave it at that

Well, I don't think it's wrong for there to be an age difference. If you really love someone, it shouldn't matter. Am I going to do it. No, I'm already married and he's only like 1 1/2 yrs older than me. But, I know a lady who's husband was 18 years older than her. It was okay in the beginning, but then he was ready to retire, and she was at the peak of her career. So, he retired and played golf all day while she worked her tail off. Needless to say, they are no longer married. Also, I know another lady who's husband is 17 years older. They are both retired now. But, she has said before that it was really hard when he got older because he was too tired or just didn't want to do the fun stuff she was still wanting to do. But, that can happen with people closer in age, too.

So, age difference or not, you really have to look at the whole situation before you make a committment like marriage.

Originally posted by pandora_spocks
I don't think it should matter if two people are really in love with each other. Age is just a state of mind anyway. Isn't that what people are always saying? So what if someone is older than their partner and has a 20 or 30 year age difference between them. It's the feelings and the love between the couple that should truly matter.

That is true I agree with u, Ive been talking to my neighbor for along time now, and he finally told me how he felt about me i'm 23 and he's like 39 years old,and I dont think age doesnt matter I think it's just a number Thats my opionion cuz guys my age are jerks..And i want to date somone older thats more mature in the relationship and would like to settle down exc..

I know people who married someone 25 or so yrs younger there are alot of women with old souls who are far more mature and classy then there age my suggest.The fact is that you don't want to marry or be someone who us in so poor of health that you cannot be with them because they are in and out of hospitals.There are those who are in the same field tend to connect.Carol Burnett just got married for the third time.she married younger only in age but not in compatibility or in the sense of priorities.I think as you get more settled into a thought proccess that you want someone with values and integrity,a sense of fun,loyal,compassionate,tender,romantic.There has to be more then looks when you are 70 and cannot make whoopi anymore its called soulmates.the internal connection of knowing your with the person you were meant to be with forever.I have mine she is the mother of my son.To me that makes us more connect then I can ever imagine.So age isn't the major issue hear,shared interests,genuine,unconditional love and respect for the others persons likes and dislikes equally and shortcomings.Thats' you know you have that someone when there strengths superceed their weaknesses and trivial annoyances.I hope everyone finds that kind of love because life is to short to undervalue your worth or someone elses.

It all depends on the individuals involved. Some people are really old in attitude while they are young in age. Others are really young in attitude, but are chronologically older.

If you're in love it doesn't matter anyway.

Paul McCartney is 60; his wife is 34. They just found out that they are expecting a baby. But Paul apparently is healthy, and is possibly one of the "youngest" 60-year-olds out there. They don't seem to have a problem with the age difference.

:love:

I certainly believe that the older you get, the less it matters. When you or your partner is under the age of 20 - it is a huge factor. When I was 19 I fell for a guy who was 16. Three years, here folks, THREE! But we were in such different parts of life. I was already in college and he was still trying out for his driver's license and excited about prom. You know what? I've been to prom, going again would have made me really feel old. Aside from me feeling weird, there's a definate double standard, imo between older guys dating younger girls and older girls dating younger guys. It's more accepted for older guys to be with younger girls. Not really fair, but that's been my experience.

I don't really care. For the most part (with just that one exception) I'm really attracted to older guys. I don't care how old they are. I'm not going to say "Anyone over 15 years older than me is out" cuz that's not fair or realistic. For starters, no one "picks" who they're going to fall in love with. It just happens. If you're in love, get married. The only problem I can see with age/marriage is if one person is too old to have children. That could be a real barrier. But other than that, who cares?

I'm a little biased. In my favorite book of all time, the younger sister finally marries a man who is 16 years older than her. Maybe you've heard of it? It's called SENSE AND SENSIBILITY :lol:

I always told myself I would never date anyone significantly younger than myself, but let's face it, I'm getting on in years so if an attractive 21 year old (drinking age is my new limit) wanted to be with me then there is no way in Hell I'm going to refuse.

Just curious Chad, which Golden Girl do you have your eye on?

;)

Originally posted by TJL
I always told myself I would never date anyone significantly younger than myself, but let's face it, I'm getting on in years so if an attractive 21 year old (drinking age is my new limit) wanted to be with me then there is no way in Hell I'm going to refuse.
;)

LOL, but honestly TJL, this is what I'm talking about. If a 20 year old girl liked you, you wouldn't date her because she's not within your limit? :lol: (I'm 20, I gotta ask!) :happyface

Originally posted by Liza


LOL, but honestly TJL, this is what I'm talking about. If a 20 year old girl liked you, you wouldn't date her because she's not within your limit? :lol: (I'm 20, I gotta ask!) :happyface

Hmmmmm. Okay 20! That's it! Any lower, and someone might send the cops after me.

Actually I set my age limit at 21 because I like to frequent establishments that serve alcohol and with my luck my date would probably get carded.

;)

I think as long as the younger spouse is of legal age and there's no more than 30 yrs age difference,then go for it! :)

for me age doesnt matter. ive been seeing a guy 15 years older than me. if you are really in love and want to get married and there is a 20-30 year age difference then so what.

Who cares how old you are? Age should not interfere with one's feelings for another. Has anybody ever had a crush on a teacher or counselor at school? It happens a lot with guys who are in their teens, including me. So no, age would have nothing to do with my feelings for another.