View Full Version : I need some advice


Unwanted Angel
01-28-2003, 08:16 AM
Forget i ever said this, i was stupid and just looking for attention.

JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo
01-28-2003, 08:18 AM
wow.. that's pretty... wow...

well, usually I would say not too, cause i'd say that trust is pretty much lost.. but since theres a kid involved, as dorky as this sounds, just follow your heart... i mean, if ya really love the guy, and you think you can forgive him and have trust in him again, then it's worth a shot

Moonlight Lady
01-28-2003, 01:48 PM
I wouldn't rush into anything. I'd say take your time with this relationship. He needs to work alot harder in proving to you that he can be trusted. It's good to follow your heart, but for the sake of your child, use your head too. :)

DarleneIllyria
01-28-2003, 10:23 PM
That is a big problem. I say give him another shot. If he screws up this time, don't take him back again. I make mistakes on a daily basis, and I would rule his cheating down to a mistake this time. I try not to repeat my mistakes and if he does repeat his mistake, he really isn't worth it.

It always seems to me that the heart and mind always disagree. In my case, it does that. I can never get the two to agree. I have to really struggle with some decisions and try to think as logically as I can. I don't want to jump into something and get hurt in the long run. Maybe you should take some time and just try to think it out. It takes so much time to get over the hurt and maybe it would be better to say 'no' this time and try to prevent getting hurt again.

It really is your decision. Maybe explain to your ex-bf the situation. Explain to him that you really and truly still love him, but if he screws up this time then it's over for good.

Edit: If he screws up again, still keep close to him for your child's sake. Explain to him this time that it just isn't going to work, but you still want him to be around for your son.

¤I Love Clay Aiken¤
01-29-2003, 12:15 AM
Give it just one more try-- but keep your distance. If he does it again, kick is YKW in.

Janice
01-29-2003, 01:35 AM
Take him back but have one of those microchips installed in him so you'll know where he is every minute. j/k
This is a tough one. If he's truly remorseful, then give him another chance since you love him. It would be nice for the baby, but you have to think of yourself too. You don't want to get hurt again.
Maybe counseling to find out why he cheated would be helpful. I'm guessing, but I'm thinking the both of you were young when you got together. If that's the case, maybe he was too young to commit then, but has matured now.
Since he lost you once, perhaps he's learned his lesson.

AnaheimPMWitch
01-29-2003, 01:35 AM
Gosh sweetie I dont know what to say this is a tough situation I agree with everyonelse follow your Heart
I've been in this situation before My Ex Boyfriend of 6 years cheated one me SOO MANY TIMES and I kept taking him back FINALLY I just got fed up with it all and broke up with him I think the final straw for ME was when he cheated on me with someone who was SUPPOSED to be a friend :( but the lucky thing for Us was there wasnt a kid involved its harder when theres a child involved I'd say Just Follow your heart

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RWCTV
01-29-2003, 01:44 PM
If it were me and I was in your situation, I would not take him back.

First of all, if he cheated on you once, chances are he will cheat on you again. He would just be more careful doing it the 2nd time around.

Also, it sounds like he is using you for his sanctuary. What I mean is that he goes out and has a good time with someone else, but after the event is over, he still has you to come back to. Think about this, if you wouldn't have caught him cheating, you would be together, but you would not know what was going on. And if you got married and never found out about it, he could be passing an STD from one of "the slut's" experiences. Also, the matter could result in future divorce and child custody, and what not. You have just found out a revelation about your boyfriend.

I would rather find out sooner rather than later and that's just what you did. You found out sooner.

White_Daisy
01-29-2003, 01:53 PM
Wow....I know you've been getting mixed answers from everyone and I'm not even sure which one I agree with. I mean, if you take him back, he could hurt you again or you two could be happy.

And if you don't, you could feel miserable without him or you'll feel like you're a stronger person and you don't need him.

I just don't know how to answer this, because it's too hard of a decision for you to ask other people. I mean, we don't know the full details. We don't know how you truly feel or how he feels. I know this sounds corny, but only you can solve this.