On another Website, a Poster said something like,"I was gambling in a Casino when the guy next to me won a $4,000 Jackpot. He begged me to switch seats with him and he would give me $2,000 to claim the Jackpot as my own. I did and he paid me the $2,000, but now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't have done that because it was weird that he begged a complete Stranger to claim the Jackpot for $2,000. Why wouldn't he want his entire $4,000?"

A Poster replied something like,"He probably didn't want to claim the $4,000 himself because he could have Alimony Payments. I don't even know what Alimony is, but it sounds awful."

I (Janice Johnson) responded something like,"Alimony is something you pay an ex spouse after divorce. I've always hated the idea of Alimony, especially if the reason for the divorce in the first place is because the paying spouse was cheated on. Why should someone have to financially support another Adult they are no longer legally bonded to especially if the reason for the divorce was because they got cheated on? Why should they pay someone who cheated on them? Hell no!"

Someone else responded,"Alimony is like buying oats for a horse you no longer own " Another Poster said something like," My Friend didn't sign a Prenup and his ex wife cheated on him. He divorced her because of her affair and he has to pay her $2,000 every month." I, Janice Johnson responded,"Alimony sucks! It should be outlawed!"

I soon went to another thread and tried to respond but I couldn't. I assumed it was a glitch. I went back to the Jackpot Thread and an Admin wrote something like,"You have hijacked this thread twice by mentioning Alimony twice. It's about a guy trying to hide his Jackpot and asking a complete Stranger to claim it for him for half the Jackpot, not about Alimony. You have received a two week Suspension for Hijacking."

I(Janice Johnson) was like,"I wonder who got Suspended for making a Alimony hijack. I know it's not me because I haven't done anything wrong." I then saw in horror that it WAS me who got a two week Suspension for Hijacking with Alimony! :eek: And the Admin had chosen to only quote MY responses, making it unfairly look like I just brought up Alimony out of nowhere, didn't even include the posts I responded to.

Posters said something like,"Janice Johnson didn't hijack anything. The reason she brought up Alimony twice was because she was responding to two different people who brought it up first. She doesn't deserve a two week Suspension. You've done worse things. If anything, the people who brought up Alimony first should be the ones who get a two week Suspension, not Janice Johnson. You owe Janice Johnson an immediate reinstatement and a full apology for this unfair two week Suspension. "

The unfair two week Suspension still stuck despite multiple Posters protesting the two week Suspension. After I came back after the unfair two week Suspension, Posters were like,"Janice Johnson is a lot stronger than I am. I would have personally permanently left after that unfair two week Alimony Suspension."

I still don't get how I was the only one who got into trouble for the Alimony thing when I was responding to two different people who brought it up first. :confused:

Janice Johnson: Another 'woe is me' story drama, hope you will figure it out.

Janice Johnson: Another 'woe is me' story drama, hope you will figure it out.


You don't find it odd and unfair that I was the only one who got a Suspension for this despite me merely responding to people who brought it up first? :confused:

I hope its ok Janice :)

You don't find it odd and unfair that I was the only one who got a Suspension for this despite me merely responding to people who brought it up first? :confused:

I won't spin my wheels "trying" to get into other's minds...and for sure moderators....I have had my share of nasty moderation and bans... I had a moderator yrs ago who befriended me and then before I went much further, I was thrown under the bus.......

Wasnt that on CD Carole??

They are horrible and dont deserve a site!!

Wasnt that on CD Carole??

They are horrible and dont deserve a site!!

Yep and have no desire to go back there. I've said this before they are heavy duty funded and love pharma generally,, and I am the opposite and they don't like that.

Another site I was a member after hip replacement ordeal, didn't like to hear negative outcomes from these surgeries and my outcome was negtative, they I heard was also funded by Big Medicine, and they got rid of me.

On another Website, a Poster said something like,"I was gambling in a Casino when the guy next to me won a $4,000 Jackpot. He begged me to switch seats with him and he would give me $2,000 to claim the Jackpot as my own. I did and he paid me the $2,000, but now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't have done that because it was weird that he begged a complete Stranger to claim the Jackpot for $2,000. Why wouldn't he want his entire $4,000?"

A Poster replied something like,"He probably didn't want to claim the $4,000 himself because he could have Alimony Payments. I don't even know what Alimony is, but it sounds awful."

I (Janice Johnson) responded something like,"Alimony is something you pay an ex spouse after divorce. I've always hated the idea of Alimony, especially if the reason for the divorce in the first place is because the paying spouse was cheated on. Why should someone have to financially support another Adult they are no longer legally bonded to especially if the reason for the divorce was because they got cheated on? Why should they pay someone who cheated on them? Hell no!"

Someone else responded,"Alimony is like buying oats for a horse you no longer own " Another Poster said something like," My Friend didn't sign a Prenup and his ex wife cheated on him. He divorced her because of her affair and he has to pay her $2,000 every month." I, Janice Johnson responded,"Alimony sucks! It should be outlawed!"

I soon went to another thread and tried to respond but I couldn't. I assumed it was a glitch. I went back to the Jackpot Thread and an Admin wrote something like,"You have hijacked this thread twice by mentioning Alimony twice. It's about a guy trying to hide his Jackpot and asking a complete Stranger to claim it for him for half the Jackpot, not about Alimony. You have received a two week Suspension for Hijacking."

I(Janice Johnson) was like,"I wonder who got Suspended for making a Alimony hijack. I know it's not me because I haven't done anything wrong." I then saw in horror that it WAS me who got a two week Suspension for Hijacking with Alimony! :eek: And the Admin had chosen to only quote MY responses, making it unfairly look like I just brought up Alimony out of nowhere, didn't even include the posts I responded to.

Posters said something like,"Janice Johnson didn't hijack anything. The reason she brought up Alimony twice was because she was responding to two different people who brought it up first. She doesn't deserve a two week Suspension. You've done worse things. If anything, the people who brought up Alimony first should be the ones who get a two week Suspension, not Janice Johnson. You owe Janice Johnson an immediate reinstatement and a full apology for this unfair two week Suspension. "

The unfair two week Suspension still stuck despite multiple Posters protesting the two week Suspension. After I came back after the unfair two week Suspension, Posters were like,"Janice Johnson is a lot stronger than I am. I would have personally permanently left after that unfair two week Alimony Suspension."

I still don't get how I was the only one who got into trouble for the Alimony thing when I was responding to two different people who brought it up first. :confused:
Sometimes, moderators are just dumb.
Besides, I agree with you about alimony (but it doesn't exist here in Sweden anyway).

Sometimes, moderators are just dumb.
Besides, I agree with you about alimony (but it doesn't exist here in Sweden anyway).

I don't get how someone who CHEATED gets Alimony? :confused: If the divorce happened because of cheating, the cheating person shouldn't get Alimony. If anything, the cheating person should have to pay Alimony to the ex spouse who was faithful.

For the most part, alimony is a scam and yes should be outlawed. If a spouse cheats they shouldn't get it at all, should only be for those who were stay-at-home spouses and only used until they can get on their feet. Lifetime alimony needs to disappear. What site was this on? Sounds like City-Data, I used to get infractions and eventually banned for the stupidest things.

I don't get how someone who CHEATED gets Alimony? :confused: If the divorce happened because of cheating, the cheating person shouldn't get Alimony. If anything, the cheating person should have to pay Alimony to the ex spouse who was faithful.
Yeah, I really don't get why alimony still exists and how a cheating spouse can get it.

Yeah, I really don't get why alimony still exists and how a cheating spouse can get it.

Makes zero sense for a cheating spouse to get Alimony. :confused: I 100 percent agree with you.

Makes zero sense for a cheating spouse to get Alimony. :confused: I 100 percent agree with you.
It is hardly strange that alimony doesn't exist here in Sweden anymore, if it ever did.
It is much stranger that it still exists in the US.

Yeah, I really don't get why alimony still exists and how a cheating spouse can get it.

The Cheating half is historically the MALE half and the one who makes the most money....it costs Money to cheat....and keep so many females happy with the cheaters...Moms are primary caregivers of the children and how can they make money to cheat???/ Good Grief, how unthinking can so many be????

How about the population difference in the 2 countries,,,,Sweden has a little over 10Million, US over 330Million. Look at the whole pictures....

For the most part, alimony is a scam and yes should be outlawed. If a spouse cheats they shouldn't get it at all, should only be for those who were stay-at-home spouses and only used until they can get on their feet. Lifetime alimony needs to disappear. What site was this on? Sounds like City-Data, I used to get infractions and eventually banned for the stupidest things.

Ah sage advice from a person who must have a lot of experiene with being married, cheating, being cheated on, having and raising children, No????:rolleyes:

The Cheating half is historically the MALE half and the one who makes the most money....it costs Money to cheat....and keep so many females happy with the cheaters...Moms are primary caregivers of the children and how can they make money to cheat???/ Good Grief, how unthinking can so many be????

How about the population difference in the 2 countries,,,,Sweden has a little over 10Million, US over 330Million. Look at the whole pictures....
Right now, we were discussing cheating spouses who still expect alimony.
It is not a bad idea on paper that a man who left his wife for someone else pays alimony.
That is probably how this whole thing started.
It is really awful though that a woman can be at fault for a divorce and still win.

And I don't get what the size of Sweden's population has to do with this...

This thread has gone all over the place, and I will always contend that the male has the major part in divorce business and leaves a wife/mother with no job skills, but a wife and mother....

The size of country has a lot to do with it all and the traditions of the country. I believe I was reading at one time that women in Norway frown on marriage.....

This thread has gone all over the place, and I will always contend that the male has the major part in divorce business and leaves a wife/mother with no job skills, but a wife and mother....
This has become less of an issue though as more women work even if they're married and have kids.

The size of country has a lot to do with it all and the traditions of the country. I believe I was reading at one time that women in Norway frown on marriage.....
I'm sorry, but you still haven't explained what the size of the country has to do with this.

This thread has gone all over the place, and I will always contend that the male has the major part in divorce business and leaves a wife/mother with no job skills, but a wife and mother....

The size of country has a lot to do with it all and the traditions of the country. I believe I was reading at one time that women in Norway frown on marriage.....

Most women in the US work. I always worked. I decided not to have kids. You need to stop living in the past.

Most women in the US work. I always worked. I decided not to have kids. You need to stop living in the past.

You don't need to tell me how I'm to live, I experienced a lot of life and don't LOVE what life and countries are experiencing now....thanks....



And on the smaller vs larger number of people, animals anything for that matter, it's a LOT easier to manage small vs large groups...just common sense on this.

That Admin who unfairly Suspended me for two weeks had a bone to pick with me, before I knew how she was, I asked her for help when I was being bullied, harassed, and insulted by other Posters and she was like,"Suck it up and grow up or I will ban you!":eek::mad: I was stunned and angry that she said that to the VICTIM who asked her for help! :eek::mad: I was fully expecting her to say something like,"You guys who are harassing, insulting, and bullying Janice Johnson need to knock it off. She's upset, and I honestly don't blame her. I would be upset too if I were her. Once again, knock it off." I wasn't expecting HER to attack me too! :eek::mad:

A Poster on a connected Website said something like,"What kind of awful Admin threatens to ban the VICTIM who asked her for help?" She also told me to discuss a problem I had in PM, so I asked her for help in PM and she was like,"I'm going to ignore you!" :eek::mad:

Other Posters were like,"She's being AWFUL to you. You need to report her to the Head Admin. " I was trying to be nice, so I didn't report her to the Head Admin, just stewed politely for three years. One day, after she once again unfairly accused me of hijacking a thread, I FINALLY lost it and told her off in a VERY nasty rant. I was fully expecting a one month Suspension, but I got permanently banned.

A Poster said something like,"Janice Johnson is right. The Female Admin has been VERY mean to her and gets no consequences." Another Poster was like,"I was wondering when Janice Johnson was going to stand up for herself." Other Posters were like,"Why didn't the Head Admin say something like,"You need to stop harassing, insulting, and bullying Janice Johnson? Your behavior is appalling and highly unprofessional for an Admin. Knock it off. " Another Poster was like,"I would have went off on her a long time ago." Another Poster was like," I don't like that Janice Johnson got permanently banned for that one time fed up cussing rant."

That Admin who unfairly Suspended me for two weeks had a bone to pick with me, before I knew how she was, I asked her for help when I was being bullied, harassed, and insulted by other Posters and she was like,"Suck it up and grow up or I will ban you!":eek::mad: I was stunned and angry that she said that to the VICTIM who asked her for help! :eek::mad: I was fully expecting her to say something like,"You guys who are harassing, insulting, and bullying Janice Johnson need to knock it off. She's upset, and I honestly don't blame her. I would be upset too if I were her. Once again, knock it off." I wasn't expecting HER to attack me too! :eek::mad:

A Poster on a connected Website said something like,"What kind of awful Admin threatens to ban the VICTIM who asked her for help?" She also told me to discuss a problem I had in PM, so I asked her for help in PM and she was like,"I'm going to ignore you!" :eek::mad:

Other Posters were like,"She's being AWFUL to you. You need to report her to the Head Admin. " I was trying to be nice, so I didn't report her to the Head Admin, just stewed politely for three years. One day, after she once again unfairly accused me of hijacking a thread, I FINALLY lost it and told her off in a VERY nasty rant. I was fully expecting a one month Suspension, but I got permanently banned.

A Poster said something like,"Janice Johnson is right. The Female Admin has been VERY mean to her and gets no consequences." Another Poster was like,"I was wondering when Janice Johnson was going to stand up for herself." Other Posters were like,"Why didn't the Head Admin say something like,"You need to stop harassing, insulting, and bullying Janice Johnson? Your behavior is appalling and highly unprofessional for an Admin. Knock it off. " Another Poster was like,"I would have went off on her a long time ago." Another Poster was like," I don't like that Janice Johnson got permanently banned for that one time fed up cussing rant."
Like I said, there are some really mean and petty moderators out there.
But you can at least be glad that the other members supported you.

Ah sage advice from a person who must have a lot of experiene with being married, cheating, being cheated on, having and raising children, No????:rolleyes:

Well I have been cheated one but what's your point? I know you claim to be 85 but here's the reality, and that is women now work. Women aren't generally stay at home moms now, most aren't. If they are, then that's their problem but doesn't mean their husband should support them if they decide not to work after not being married. I don't know why you are so interested in me, don't you have some grapefruit and bleach drink waiting for you?

Most women in the US work. I always worked. I decided not to have kids. You need to stop living in the past.

Agreed. She is way off and said I don't know what I am talking about. I also chose not to have kids and most of the women I know with kids work, studies show this.

Guys, please don't get my thread closed with your bickering. I've had multiple threads closed because Posters were hurling insults at each other and I don't want this thread closed because of Posters hurling insults at each other.

So many talk here like they have LONG life histories, and they do NOT, the longer one lives the more experiences.

And women have worked in and out of the homes for generations. There are so many FORMS of work women have done while being a house mom.

And the grapefruit/bleach comment, very classless.

Guys, please don't get my thread closed with your bickering. I've had multiple threads closed because Posters were hurling insults at each other and I don't want this thread closed because of Posters hurling insults at each other.

She started it and she always does. I've repeatedly reported her and she gets away with things constantly.

So many talk here like they have LONG life histories, and they do NOT, the longer one lives the more experiences.

And women have worked in and out of the homes for generations. There are so many FORMS of work women have done while being a house mom.

And the grapefruit/bleach comment, very classless.


I have long experience so not sure of your point. Once again not all women are stay-at-home moms. Few are nowadays. As for the grapefruit and bleach comment, well you were the one touting that so not my fault.

General reminder: please stay respectful and civil while discussing the topic. Thanks everyone :thumbsup:

General reminder: please stay respectful and civil while discussing the topic. Thanks everyone :thumbsup:

Thank you Phoenix. :) The insulting hijacking really was getting out of control.