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Hawkee 05-08-2022, 05:56 AM My cat seems to have developed a very annoying habit that is driving me crazy and I don't know how to cure it and I would love some advice that can be helpful. Lately every day my cat has started to yowl and meow really loud for no reason and he does this from 6AM to Noon and then be quiet for a few minutes then at 4PM till 2AM he starts yowling and meowing loudly again. Mom and I play with our cat and feed him and pamper him all the time and it hasn't cured this habit. And it's gotten to the point that I can't sleep because he wakes us up with annoying yowling. We also don't let our cat socialize with other cats because he might get sick or hurt. Another thing he does is nibble on Mom's legs when she is sleeping and play real rough but he don't bite. What is the cause of this new behavior in my cat?
Bestie
Zoneboy 05-08-2022, 06:23 AM I have 3 female indoor cats and 2 will howl late at night like yours. With mine it's usually during or after their heat cycle. The other cat so far hasn't done any howling. Since we're talking about weird cat behavior, my calico will make sounds like a pigeon when she's in heat. I need to get it on video because it's hysterical when she does it. :brent
Caroline13 05-08-2022, 01:45 PM Oh goodness, when my daughter left our household at 18 or so, I vowed never to be responsible for another animal.
Hope you can get it worked out.
Wawwie 05-08-2022, 03:44 PM My cat seems to have developed a very annoying habit that is driving me crazy and I don't know how to cure it and I would love some advice that can be helpful. Lately every day my cat has started to yowl and meow really loud for no reason and he does this from 6AM to Noon and then be quiet for a few minutes then at 4PM till 2AM he starts yowling and meowing loudly again. Mom and I play with our cat and feed him and pamper him all the time and it hasn't cured this habit. And it's gotten to the point that I can't sleep because he wakes us up with annoying yowling. We also don't let our cat socialize with other cats because he might get sick or hurt. Another thing he does is nibble on Mom's legs when she is sleeping and play real rough but he don't bite. What is the cause of this new behavior in my cat?
Bestie
I had a male cat that did the howling until I got him neutered. Once he was neutered, the howling stopped.
I had a male cat that did the howling until I got him neutered. Once he was neutered, the howling stopped.
That’s when I would start howling.
Caroline13 05-08-2022, 04:41 PM Who does not have their house cats neutered?
Bonniegirl 05-08-2022, 04:44 PM That’s when I would start howling.
:lol::D:lol::D:lol::D
Bonniegirl 05-08-2022, 04:47 PM My cat seems to have developed a very annoying habit that is driving me crazy and I don't know how to cure it and I would love some advice that can be helpful. Lately every day my cat has started to yowl and meow really loud for no reason and he does this from 6AM to Noon and then be quiet for a few minutes then at 4PM till 2AM he starts yowling and meowing loudly again. Mom and I play with our cat and feed him and pamper him all the time and it hasn't cured this habit. And it's gotten to the point that I can't sleep because he wakes us up with annoying yowling. We also don't let our cat socialize with other cats because he might get sick or hurt. Another thing he does is nibble on Mom's legs when she is sleeping and play real rough but he don't bite. What is the cause of this new behavior in my cat?
Bestie
How old is the cat ? If he is a young cat it could just be that he needs to get neutered ! If he has been neutered already, and esp.if he is an older cat could be something wrong with him. He might be sick or in pain! :( You should take him to the vet as soon as possible ! ;)
Dude111 05-08-2022, 05:48 PM Meow!!
stevea 05-08-2022, 07:44 PM I know the times are approximate but that's 16 hours of yowling and meowing. That's a lot for any cat, if only because indoor kitties sleep a lot.
I'd lean toward being in pain and like Bonniegirl said he needs a visit to the vet ASAP.
Bonniegirl 05-08-2022, 09:19 PM I know the times are approximate but that's 16 hours of yowling and meowing. That's a lot for any cat, if only because indoor kitties sleep a lot.
I'd lean toward being in pain and like Bonniegirl said he needs a visit to the vet ASAP.
Yes, for sure ! Right now I don't have a cat, but as a child my family always had cats ! And I had a few after leaving my family home and also I have friends who have cats , so I am familiar with them ! It kinda seems like something might really he wrong healthwise with this poor kitty! :(
Hawkee 05-09-2022, 03:29 AM I did check if my cat is in pain but Mom and I checked and my cat is very fine and has no pain whatsoever but we still can't figure out what is causing my cat to yowl and meow really loud. And another thing my cat has started to do is that ever since Mom gave me our old recliner to put in my room anytime I eat breakfast or dinner my cat will jump on top of the recliner and stares at me and I dread one day he will land on my head and cause injury to me but if I get off the recliner he yowls at me but if he gets spooked "which some sounds spook my cat" he leaps like a panther onto the recliner and yowls. I dread one day that a leap like that might break my cat's legs
Bestie
Bonniegirl 05-09-2022, 04:01 AM I did check if my cat is in pain but Mom and I checked and my cat is very fine and has no pain whatsoever but we still can't figure out what is causing my cat to yowl and meow really loud. And another thing my cat has started to do is that ever since Mom gave me our old recliner to put in my room anytime I eat breakfast or dinner my cat will jump on top of the recliner and stares at me and I dread one day he will land on my head and cause injury to me but if I get off the recliner he yowls at me but if he gets spooked "which some sounds spook my cat" he leaps like a panther onto the recliner and yowls. I dread one day that a leap like that might break my cat's legs
Bestie
At this point I really don't know what to say ! This is a very disturbing post and I feel that your cat is not in a good way ! Either sick or in pain , or very unhappy !! If you DO NOT take him to the vet , than.....
I don't even know what to say really or add advice which might make the situation worse but I'm very upset thinking this poor cat might be in alot of distress !! :(
Please, please do NOT just put this poor animal outside or anything, but you might really think about trying to rehome him , find a new loving home for this cat . I don't think at this point you and your Mom are capable of taking care of this cat properly !:confused:
Bonniegirl 05-09-2022, 04:20 AM Who does not have their house cats neutered?
Exactly !! I totally agree Caroline ! Not sure what is going on here with this cat , but yes you are so right , all pets should be spayed and neutered and properly cared for! If not, than the person shouldn't even have pets!! :confused:
Zoneboy 05-09-2022, 05:25 AM I did check if my cat is in pain but Mom and I checked and my cat is very fine and has no pain whatsoever. Bestie
How do you know for sure the cat has no pain? Unless you take it to the vet as suggested you don't. How old is he? Have you checked his teeth and gums? Is he active like most any indoor cats such as running through the house chasing laser lights, jumping on furniture, destroying window blinds, making biscuits etc.? 2 of my cats started howling a few weeks ago about 7am and when I went to check their food & water both bowls had been emptied overnight by a game of chase the cat. After cleaning it up and replenishing the bowls the howling stopped for that day. A few months ago my gray tabby developed an irregular heartbeat. She became sluggish and lost all interest in any kind of running or playing. I took her to the vet and after that along with the meds she was back to her usual self. So unless your cat told you himself he was in no pain then I concur with the others and suggest you take him to the vet.
Wawwie 05-09-2022, 12:21 PM At this point I really don't know what to say ! This is a very disturbing post and I feel that your cat is not in a good way ! Either sick or in pain , or very unhappy !! If you DO NOT take him to the vet , than.....
I don't even know what to say really or add advice which might make the situation worse but I'm very upset thinking this poor cat might be in alot of distress !! :(
Please, please do NOT just put this poor animal outside or anything, but you might really think about trying to rehome him , find a new loving home for this cat . I don't think at this point you and your Mom are capable of taking care of this cat properly !:confused:
I agree completely with you, Bonnie. Sounds like this pet owner doesn't deserve to even have a pet seeing as how he/she refuses to take this poor cat to the vet. And he/she still has not said if the cat has even been neutered. It is very apparent that this cat owner doesn't have a clue. When someone adopts a pet, they assume responsibility for it and it is PAINFULLY obvious that this poor cat is in need of a visit to the vet.
LaBestia, you should surrender your cat to a homeless pet center A.S.A.P. You are clueless, probably incapable of even caring for a house plant.
GentlemanJim 05-09-2022, 12:40 PM My cat seems to have developed a very annoying habit that is driving me crazy and I don't know how to cure it and I would love some advice that can be helpful. Lately every day my cat has started to yowl and meow really loud for no reason and he does this from 6AM to Noon and then be quiet for a few minutes then at 4PM till 2AM he starts yowling and meowing loudly again. Mom and I play with our cat and feed him and pamper him all the time and it hasn't cured this habit. And it's gotten to the point that I can't sleep because he wakes us up with annoying yowling. We also don't let our cat socialize with other cats because he might get sick or hurt. Another thing he does is nibble on Mom's legs when she is sleeping and play real rough but he don't bite. What is the cause of this new behavior in my cat?
Bestie
I've only had one cat, a male siamese, and he would act that way wherever the neighbor's female cat was in heat. I guess there was just something in the air, and he was trying to "call out" hoping she would find him?
This was never a problem during the winter months when the houses were sealed up tight. but after the screens were installed, it was a monthly bit. He particularly enjoyed going right up to a screened window and bellowing out to the world. For anyone who is familiar with Siamese.....they know the yeowl that I'm talking about.
So, did this behavior just start once you opened up the windows? Has it ever happened before? Does it come and go? (assuming it has happened before)
If you've had the cat a long time, and this behavior has just started...then yes it might be a good idea to see a vet. But if it's a new kitty. or you just got a new neighbor who has a female cat...then welcome to your new normal...lol!
One other possibility, but if this is an adult cat that you just got from another person, it could be "seeking" it's old master.
But my personal bet is that there is just "something in the air" ;)
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 01:31 PM How do you know for sure the cat has no pain? Unless you take it to the vet as suggested you don't. How old is he? Have you checked his teeth and gums? Is he active like most any indoor cats such as running through the house chasing laser lights, jumping on furniture, destroying window blinds, making biscuits etc.? 2 of my cats started howling a few weeks ago about 7am and when I went to check their food & water both bowls had been emptied overnight by a game of chase the cat. After cleaning it up and replenishing the bowls the howling stopped for that day. A few months ago my gray tabby developed an irregular heartbeat. She became sluggish and lost all interest in any kind of running or playing. I took her to the vet and after that along with the meds she was back to her usual self. So unless your cat told you himself he was in no pain then I concur with the others and suggest you take him to the vet.
I agree, did the cat tell you he/she is in no pain. Vets can't even be sure of t this one..
My daughter just had to put down their 15 yr old doggie due to advancing Sundowners, dementia. She didn't seem to be in a lot of pain, but who knows, but she sure was so lost with t his disease.
Now do cats end up with dementia...and I didn't read how old this cat is and maybe I missed that one...
I hear this guy on the radio on Saturdays and he knows a LOT about animals...perhaps you can contact him.
https://thepetshow.com/warren-eckstein/
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 02:17 PM I've only had one cat, a male siamese, and he would act that way wherever the neighbor's female cat was in heat. I guess there was just something in the air, and he was trying to "call out" hoping she would find him?
This was never a problem during the winter months when the houses were sealed up tight. but after the screens were installed, it was a monthly bit. He particularly enjoyed going right up to a screened window and bellowing out to the world. For anyone who is familiar with Siamese.....they know the yeowl that I'm talking about.
So, did this behavior just start once you opened up the windows? Has it ever happened before? Does it come and go? (assuming it has happened before)
If you've had the cat a long time, and this behavior has just started...then yes it might be a good idea to see a vet. But if it's a new kitty. or you just got a new neighbor who has a female cat...then welcome to your new normal...lol!
One other possibility, but if this is an adult cat that you just got from another person, it could be "seeking" it's old master.
But my personal bet is that there is just "something in the air" ;)
Something in the air, GJ??? Oh how I wish it was just something in the air that cause my aches/pains...:confused:
HuntingtonM15 05-09-2022, 02:29 PM Sounds like this pet owner doesn't deserve to even have a pet seeing as how he/she refuses to take this poor cat to the vet.
I have to agree and this is not something I'd say lightly. But if someone doesn't have the wherewithal to take a very obviously distressed animal to the vet instead of asking for advice on a Sitcoms forum, they probably should not own a pet.
GentlemanJim 05-09-2022, 02:48 PM Something in the air, GJ??? :
Pheromones. I've previously read studies that suggest certain animals can "smell" in 3D. Meaning they can accurately guage how far away a source is, based upon the strength of the scent.
In the case of my Siamese, my next door neighbor had a female Siamese, and the proximity was driving him insane
GentlemanJim 05-09-2022, 02:56 PM I suspect this will ruffle some feathers, but in the case of my siamese, his bellowing would at times become majorly annoying. He'd just climb into a window, and howl for 5-10 minutes at a time...take a short break, and then resume.
So, a couple times I rolled up a newspaper, snuck up behind him, and just swatted the window sill beside him (never actually making contact).
After a short time, I no longer even had to get up out of my chair, I could just pick up a magazine and make a rustling sound, and kitty knew to cool it.
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 06:27 PM I have to agree and this is not something I'd say lightly. But if someone doesn't have the wherewithal to take a very obviously distressed animal to the vet instead of asking for advice on a Sitcoms forum, they probably should not own a pet.
Ah, it's happened, now attack the owner for how she is working on this issue...and reading the cruel attacks from wawwie a while back, shame on you judgmental members. :eek:
BTW: I would handle this issue the same way, many forums have pet sections just for this reason, to discuss with other members....not everyone has an extra few hundred laying around to run to vets when there are howls or coughs....just one reason that I choose no house animals...:wave:
And I know if it were my cat I would be researching Dr Google pet docs as there could be some good suggestions on remedies for this issue. I'd be doing the same research for the cat as I would be doing for me, not running to a doc when there are so many cures in our homes.
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 06:32 PM I suspect this will ruffle some feathers, but in the case of my siamese, his bellowing would at times become majorly annoying. He'd just climb into a window, and howl for 5-10 minutes at a time...take a short break, and then resume.
So, a couple times I rolled up a newspaper, snuck up behind him, and just swatted the window sill beside him (never actually making contact).
After a short time, I no longer even had to get up out of my chair, I could just pick up a magazine and make a rustling sound, and kitty knew to cool it.
Many animals end up with loose screws just like humans. One of the cats my daughter had long ago, was very pretty but a horrible disposition, would bite the hands that fed it.....
Wawwie 05-09-2022, 06:55 PM cruel attacks from wawwie a while back, shame on you judgmental members. :eek:
Any pet you ever had would be better off running away from home and living on puddle water.
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 08:30 PM Any pet you ever had would be better off running away from home and living on puddle water.
Little belly laughing here, you are so sweet..
stevea 05-09-2022, 09:52 PM All we know is that this is a new behavior and the cat is a male. We don't know how old the cat is, how long they have had him, or whether he is neutered.
Early on Wawwie said she had this situation and the cat was neutered--that solved it. So, vet visit. If this is an older cat whose behavior suddenly changed, he needs a vet visit.
No other choices. Vet visit, right?
stevea 05-09-2022, 10:00 PM And I know if it were my cat I would be researching Dr Google pet docs as there could be some good suggestions on remedies for this issue. I'd be doing the same research for the cat as I would be doing for me, not running to a doc when there are so many cures in our homes.
Here's a cat wailing and crying 16 hours a day and you'd be checking Dr. Nutjob?
Geez, if somebody has a money issue, tell the vet!
I agree, some animals are trouble from the get-go--my parents had a cat named Girl-Girl when I was a baby, and she hissed and growled at everyone--she was always this way.
But this is a sudden change in behavior. It needs attention--the cat needs to be examined.
Caroline13 05-09-2022, 10:38 PM I believe there are clinics and agencies that would help if finances are an issue.
I was raised with outside cats around our big family apt bldg and dogs/doghouses...
No inside animals.
Dude111 05-10-2022, 01:15 AM Something in the air, GJ??? Oh how I wish it was just something in the air that cause my aches/pains...:confused:
I wish they would go away honey and you felt good again :)
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 01:29 AM Well, what actually cured the "problem" with my Siamese, is we just started putting him outside at 11 PM, and after that we were fine.
Oh, he'd have a pile of dead mice on the back porch some mornings...some times rats (we lived on a river).....but overall the freedom made him a much happier kitty. We just wouldn't put him out in the spring (nesting birds) or in the winter.
Some mornings he'd come back pretty banged up...somewhere along the line he learned to not mess with raccoons....but he was a much more at ease housemate once we started letting him out to expend his excess energies.
HuntingtonM15 05-10-2022, 08:55 AM Ah, it's happened, now attack the owner for how she is working on this issue...and reading the cruel attacks from wawwie a while back, shame on you judgmental members. :eek:
BTW: I would handle this issue the same way, many forums have pet sections just for this reason, to discuss with other members....not everyone has an extra few hundred laying around to run to vets when there are howls or coughs....just one reason that I choose no house animals...:wave:
And I know if it were my cat I would be researching Dr Google pet docs as there could be some good suggestions on remedies for this issue. I'd be doing the same research for the cat as I would be doing for me, not running to a doc when there are so many cures in our homes.
This is why people have issues with you. You center yourself in situations that don't need your unnecessary comments. Nothing cruel was said. If you think letting a cat howl for hours on end without getting it medical attention is the perfect solution, you are the cruel one. I won't be replying to you any further. You're a very rude and off-putting individual.
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 10:28 AM My cat seems to have developed a very annoying habit that is driving me crazy and I don't know how to cure it and I would love some advice that can be helpful.
Bestie
Let me save you the expense of an office visit to the vet. Just tell the cat to get more exercise, quit eating anything it finds enjoyable, stop smoking, and cut down on the soda pop. :p
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 01:14 PM Let me save you the expense of an office visit to the vet. Just tell the cat to get more exercise, quit eating anything it finds enjoyable, stop smoking, and cut down on the soda pop. :p
Oh no GJ, get the cat to a vet and spend $100's as SOME OF THE EXPERTS here say to do....don't tell the cat to heal himself give him to a vet so they can get their cut $$$$.:rolleyes::rolleyes:
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 01:21 PM Have not heard from LaBestia and wondering what has changed if anything. She's getting a lot of replies to her question.
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 01:24 PM This is why people have issues with you. You center yourself in situations that don't need your unnecessary comments. Nothing cruel was said. If you think letting a cat howl for hours on end without getting it medical attention is the perfect solution, you are the cruel one. I won't be replying to you any further. You're a very rude and off-putting individual.
No perfect solution given here but ideas as the OP asked for.
And a few of you added some dictator comments to her or don't you read what you print.
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 01:53 PM Have not heard from LaBestia and wondering what has changed if anything. She's getting a lot of replies to her question.
That really is the more noteworthy aspect. Lots of feedback including additional questions from people trying to help...and zip from to O.P. That says something in itself.
So, we might as well have fun with it.
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 01:57 PM [QUOTE=GentlemanJim;6048162]That really is the more noteworthy aspect. Lots of feedback including additional questions from people trying to help...and zip from to O.P. That says something in itself.
So, we might as well have fun with it.[/Q
Yep:D;):)
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 02:10 PM The paradox is, I just about have to have one foot in the grave, before I'll go see a doctor personally, My German shepherd lived to be 14 without a vet, until I took him in to get him put down, with arthritis, and my Siamese cat was strong as an ox and never saw a vet.... So it's hard to justify a vet unless there is tangible evidence that treatment is necessary. I seriously suspect if they take this cat into the vet, the "cure" will be to have the animal neutered.
If the owner cant see that for themself, then maybe a trip to the vet in order to be told the obvious might be desirable?
I think the only time I ever took a pet to the vet was a hamster with an eye infection (lol. I was 40 years old with a pet hamster)...and the vet was asking "you sure that you want to spend this money on a hamster?"
And I was like "of course! I love this little guy" .
But there was evidence there was an organic problem to be cured. So it seemed justified.
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 02:21 PM LOL, maybe a nice, expensive course of therapy, combined with a scrip for kitty tranquilizers...get the cat strung out on darvons....
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 02:31 PM GJ: Funny on the hamster, my grandkids had a hamster, and the boy had a creepy lizard at one point, and none of them want a cat in their lives NOW....they are a dog family and got a new Shiba Inyu since their 15 yr old had to be put down not long ago.
Me: a bf and I owned a couple of parakeets for a short time but found a home for them,
they were not going to work in our lives.
And running to a doc now in my life, does not happen....I do my own healing all I can when I can and when needed....Too bad I can't undo a botched hip replacement....
Good chatting.
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 02:45 PM I agree completely with you, Bonnie. Sounds like this pet owner doesn't deserve to even have a pet seeing as how he/she refuses to take this poor cat to the vet. And he/she still has not said if the cat has even been neutered. It is very apparent that this cat owner doesn't have a clue. When someone adopts a pet, they assume responsibility for it and it is PAINFULLY obvious that this poor cat is in need of a visit to the vet.
LaBestia, you should surrender your cat to a homeless pet center A.S.A.P. You are clueless, probably incapable of even caring for a house plant.
Here it is and all I can say How Rude and dictatorial and pushing a SHOULD on a member. :eek:
icecream 05-10-2022, 02:53 PM Here it is and all I can say How Rude and dictatorial and pushing a SHOULD on a member. :eek:As Wawwie is forever on my ignore list, I did not see her horrible comment until you quoted it just now. But it sadly doesn't surprise me, her viciousness and meanness have no limits. Yet some here consider this troll friendly. :rolleyes: No wonder Bestie hasn't come back to their thread after being attacked like that.
Caroline13 05-10-2022, 03:29 PM As Wawwie is forever on my ignore list, I did not see her horrible comment until you quoted it just now. But it sadly doesn't surprise me, her viciousness and meanness have no limits. Yet some here consider this troll friendly. :rolleyes: No wonder Bestie hasn't come back to their thread after being attacked like that.
Hi, I don't have anyone on the Ignore List, I just don't think they should be able to attack others and not be somewhat attacked back. Believe me I've had more than my share here.
Some are certainly wild and wooley and very disrespectful of others. But they love to try to turn it around and put the blame on the person being attacked....not even passive/aggressive, pure aggression.
GentlemanJim 05-10-2022, 03:46 PM Some are certainly wild and wooley and very disrespectful of others. But they love to try to turn it around and put the blame on the person being attacked....not even passive/aggressive, pure aggression.
Oh, but don't you see? THEIR insults are witty, clever, and funny, while anything directed back at them is childish, mean spirited, and hateful.
One of them was almost my friend once, but I blew it. :lol:
Hawkee 05-11-2022, 02:50 AM Mom and I did try to control my cat's yowling in the mornings and we found that he LOVES Kern's Mango Nectar and if Mom gives him some Kern's Mango Nectar after I drink some he licks the cup and it makes him a happy camper and keeps him quiet at least for a while but he will yowl again at breakfast and Mom gives him leftover milk from my cereal and that seems to cure him. By the way my cat just turned 5 on Mother's Day because he actually was born when my mom was cleaning the house and she heard little mewing sounds and sure enough my cat was born because the mother cat had her babies in the family room in our old house and he's been with me ever since and he was Mom's Mother's Day gift
Bestie
Caroline13 05-11-2022, 01:35 PM Oh, but don't you see? THEIR insults are witty, clever, and funny, while anything directed back at them is childish, mean spirited, and hateful.
One of them was almost my friend once, but I blew it. :lol:
Oh so that's what I'm missing their sick-wit....OK
GentlemanJim 05-11-2022, 02:08 PM Mom and I did try to control my cat's yowling in the mornings and we found that he LOVES Kern's Mango Nectar and if Mom gives him some Kern's Mango Nectar after I drink some he licks the cup and it makes him a happy camper and keeps him quiet at least for a while
Bestie
Hi LeBestia,
Glad your kitty is on the mend. Sounds like he's just about got you trained. ;)
So, 5 years old, and this just started? I'd keep an eye on him paying particular attention to if this becomes a pattern, or a cycle. Of course I'm sure if it became apparent that misery was a part of it, you would take it to a vet.
GentlemanJim 05-11-2022, 03:10 PM Oh so that's what I'm missing their sick-wit....OK
Well, just being honest. There are 2 sides to every coin. It's extremely challenging to try to believe that you don't know that your behavior is irritating, and that makes it appear as though it is intentional.
That's probably why the moderators just look the other way when you are targeted with behavior that clearly is against the rules. Every online community has a "good ol' boy" network, and you have done a stellar job of aligning this one against you.
And, good ol boy networks tend to learn well just how much they can get away with, how long their dear old friends will look the other way while they get in a few quick jabs with no consequence, and it only starts looking like a fight once the target responds in kind.
Thats been my experience all across the net, it's just the way things are. Any newcomer with enough backbone to stand up for themselves typically is cast as the trouble maker. ;)
Caroline13 05-11-2022, 03:36 PM Well, just being honest. There are 2 sides to every coin. It's extremely challenging to try to believe that you don't know that your behavior is irritating, and that makes it appear as though it is intentional.
That's probably why the moderators just look the other way when you are targeted with behavior that clearly is against the rules. Every online community has a "good ol' boy" network, and you have done a stellar job of aligning this one against you.
And, good ol boy networks tend to learn well just how much they can get away with, how long their dear old friends will look the other way while they get in a few quick jabs with no consequence, and it only starts looking like a fight once the target responds in kind.
Thats been my experience all across the net, it's just the way things are. Any newcomer with enough backbone to stand up for themselves typically is cast as the trouble maker. ;)
I hear you and appreciate TJ allowing me to post what MOST here don't want to hear or read.
I'm about to quit a health forum I'm a member for 7 yrs soon and have contributed so much info for 1000's who seek help. The moderator has decided to monitor me for the last couple yrs and I'm ready to fly the coup....
My problem, I guess, is sharing what I've learned over many decades. But I cannot be any other way.
We know there are many more than one way to "skin a cat" and have choices to choose our way...
stevea 05-11-2022, 05:23 PM Well, just being honest. There are 2 sides to every coin. It's extremely challenging to try to believe that you don't know that your behavior is irritating, and that makes it appear as though it is intentional.
That's probably why the moderators just look the other way when you are targeted with behavior that clearly is against the rules. Every online community has a "good ol' boy" network, and you have done a stellar job of aligning this one against you.
I realize we're on Chit Chat right now, but I'd cite this from TJ under rules on Politics:
Political discussion is a of different nature than discussing sitcoms, movies or music etc. We do our best to keep it as civil as possible. Name calling or personal attacks are not allowed; however, a moderate level of sarcasm is to be expected when discussing politics. The actual Politicians talk that way. Use the Report Post feature if something offends you. Keep it off the boards. If it's over the line, action will be taken....Anyone would be hard pressed to find a political forum that runs smoothly. If people can't find it elsewhere, don't expect a miracle from me. Don't expect perfection here.
Basically, you're going to find snark, sarcasm, and nastiness with Politics. Now we try to edit name calling, threats, and direct personal attacks. But remember that moderators are not always there; as he says, if it's over the line, report it.
GentlemanJim 05-11-2022, 06:40 PM I. Now we try to edit name calling, threats, and direct personal attacks. But remember that moderators are not always there; .
https://youtu.be/34ag4nkSh7Q?t=26 :lol:
Dude111 05-12-2022, 03:38 AM Meow :)
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