I wasn't going to say anything at all but I wanted everyone to know...

This is regarding one of our members; Veggie-tari-jenn.

I am saddened to say that she passed away last week. She didn't post here a lot and in fact she hadn't posted since June but most of her posts were in the games section but I know she replied to a lot of threads. I was just looking at them and remembering her. Needless to say that I am completely devastated. Jenn and I were very close friends and although we only knew each other through countless emails even more letters/packages and two phone calls I loved her.

I can't really disclose how she died because quite honestly I don't know all of the circumstances, but I know that it was sudden and she had had a birthday in June and I believe that she was 41.

We had known each other since 2013 when we were both watching One Life To Live. I found her on an OLTL message board called Rodi's which is now defunct, but I would always see her posts about how she would go to the store and buy a ton of stuff using coupons and end up spending next to nothing (that girl could SHOP!) and then she would donate it all to a homeless shelter or a battered women's shelter. She was such an amazing person and would send me packages, cards and letters for no reason.

She loved the Saw movies, Friday the 13th (I would send her Friday the 13th e-cards whenever a Friday fell on the 13th... and her favorite was when her birthday would fall on a Friday b/c her birthday was June 13th!). She loved hockey (Esp the Chicago Blackhawks), the Chicago Cubs and the Chicago Bears. She was always doing things for others and helping out any way she could to make this world a better place. I can only aspire to be as wonderful as she was.

She was a much better friend to me than I ever was to her, and I deeply regret that I wasn't better at it. I always used the excuse that my job was too demanding or I had too many things going on and now it's too late to make amends.

But she wouldn't want me dwelling on stuff like that so I'm trying not to. I feel for her family; her parents and her brother but especially her husabnd whom she'd been dating since 1992 or 1993 and they just got married in 2012. I was so happy for them both and the only time I've ever spoken to her husabnd was when he called to tell me that she was gone.

I hope I haven't upset anyone here, but it is a very sad thing to lose someone you're close to; especially a good friend. She loved this board and I'm proud to say that I'm the one who introduced her and was happy when he said that she wanted to join.

Corey Haim was her favorite actor and she was devastated by his passing so I hope that she is able to meet him in heaven. I can't wait to meet her. And what better place to meet?

PS: Sorry for the bright pink, but it was her favorite color, so I thought it was appropriate.

:( That really is sad. My heart goes out to her family and friends. I remember her talking about Corey Haim, and I even talked to her about some of his movies in the movie section.

Wow. That is awful. She was so young, and had so much more life yet to live. I never personally talked to her, but I remember reading her posts about couponing and thought it was really impressive.

May she rest in peace.

I found the welcome thread you made for her a few years ago.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?t=230943&highlight=Veggie-tari-jenn

This is very sad. 41 is too young to die. Prayers go out to her friends and her family. :(

This is really sad news, I loved reading about her couponing and was hoping to be able to do some trading with her by mail but we never did.

:rip: Jenn


By the way, if you click the link to her welcome thread that Mr. Television posted above you'll notice that Schmoopie started that topic 7 years ago today. :(

Very sad. I'm in shock! I liked her a lot. We both were Gemini's and we had several posts together about that! I also remember how she loved her couponing. I was so impressed how she did that, and enjoyed reading her posts on What was your last purchase!

I had noticed she hadn't been posting in a while, but I just figured it being summer time, maybe she was busy. I remember her saying her and her husband loved camping! Very sad, 41 years old only, I can imagine how sad this is for her husband and Family! My heart and prayers are with them!

I enjoyed posting here with Jenn, as we all did. She was a sweet , easy going, nice person, and will be very missed!

RIP Jenn!

I didn't know her,but I have come to understand bereavement is a much harder process than most people realize.

Oh, this is so sad! I never knew her but I remember reading some of her posts. May she rest in peace :(

I'm sorry to hear that. :( That's sad. I do remember her posts about all the coupons and the savings she got. RIP.

very sad - too young :rip:

I will miss Jenn's presence on the S.O. boards and her posts. May she rest in peace. My sympathy and prayers to her husband, family, and close friends on their loss. Thinking of you Andrea! (Schmoopie)

How very sad, much much too young. I feel so bad for her husband and other family and loved ones. Her coupon hobby was very impressive. Andrea, you've lost a dear friend, and I'm sorry for your loss.

Very sad to hear this...

I did notice that she stopped posting a few months ago and that she deleted her profile info., so I thought that she was taking a break or moved on from the board.

I found the welcome thread you made for her a few years ago.

http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?t=230943&highlight=Veggie-tari-jenn

This is very sad. 41 is too young to die. Prayers go out to her friends and her family. :(

Thank you so much. I didn't have the heart to go though all of her posts but I knew that I would want to see them some day. It's still hard to read the last email she sent me just a few weeks ago; the one I'll never be able to reply to.

Thank you so much everyone. I never dreamed I'd get this big of a response but this means so much to me. I am in tears reading these and I know that she would be so touched knowing that so many people felt her presence on the board. Just when I think that I've cried all of the tears I'm going to cry (which, quite honestly doesn't feel like nearly enough, but what can you do, right?).... Thank you again, so very much. I am so touched by this, you have no idea....

You know, I would NEVER do this under any other circumstances, but since it seems that she had such a presence here, if you want to do something to honor her memory (and seriously, this is completely voluntary; I would never outright ask anyone to do this), my husband and I absolutely love Giant Pandas and are going to send a donation to Pandas International in her memory. She loved all animals and everything in the world and when she found out that my husband LOVES pandas almost as much as he loves me (Perhaps even more... ha ha), she would constantly send us everything and anything panda-related; even if it was just a picture she found in the paper or a magazine along with a note. I"m sure that Pandas International would be touched if people sent in a donation in her memory. ONLY if you want to though. Please note I am NOT soliciting anything b/c it feels strange to ask people to donate in memory of someone they didn't know but I'm sure she would love it. I donated something in honor of her wedding anniversary last year and she really liked it. Giving to a charity is much better than sending flowers, IMO. https://www.pandasinternational.org/

Schmoopie, that was beautiful. You make me wish I had known her. RIP. Never take for granted who you have in your life. Live each day with a time to count your blessings. Carpe Diem. I didn't know Jenn, but in her honor, I would like to close with a quote from Corey Haim, "It basically comes down to that word: Love. I guess that's what it's all about."

Schmoopie, that was beautiful. You make me wish I had known her. RIP. Never take for granted who you have in your life. Live each day with a time to count your blessings. Carpe Diem. I didn't know Jenn, but in her honor, I would like to close with a quote from Corey Haim, "It basically comes down to that word: Love. I guess that's what it's all about."

Thank you Pat. I sincerely appreciate your kind words. That's a beautiful quote. She would have loved it.

What sad news. She was in the prime of her life. My condolences to her family.

All I can say is...she was so young...that's so sad...

I'm shocked that she has passed away. My condolences to her family and friends. Schmoopie your doing a hell of a job with this thread.

Thank you so much. I didn't have the heart to go though all of her posts but I knew that I would want to see them some day. It's still hard to read the last email she sent me just a few weeks ago; the one I'll never be able to reply to.
I'm very sorry for your loss Andrea. I didn't know Jenn that well but she sounded like a great person. I've been on SO for 12 years and have met many great friends here. I know how I would feel if something happened to any one of them. You just don't expect something like this to happen to someone so young. :(

So very sad to hear this, may she rest in peace.

This is very sad. I wish I had followed her posts more. I think it was a while back that I had seen them last.

Once again I cannot thank you all enough for your kind comments. I 'lit' this candle for her if anyone wants to leave a comment (you can put your SO name) in her memory. Here is the link; http://www.lightacandle.co.uk/view-20372.html

If you can't find it, just go to the site and put in this number.... 20372

BTW, I put it as Jenn (Veggie) because we met on a One Life To Live message board and her name on there was Veggie so that's what I've always called her. She was a very strict vegetarian (hence the "Veggie-Tari-Jenn"... Ha ha) and the name just fits.

Thank you so much.

Once again I cannot thank you all enough for your kind comments. I 'lit' this candle for her if anyone wants to leave a comment (you can put your SO name) in her memory. Here is the link; http://www.lightacandle.co.uk/view-20372.html

If you can't find it, just go to the site and put in this number.... 20372

BTW, I put it as Jenn (Veggie) because we met on a One Life To Live message board and her name on there was Veggie so that's what I've always called her. She was a very strict vegetarian (hence the "Veggie-Tari-Jenn"... Ha ha) and the name just fits.

Thank you so much.

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So did I.

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I put together a couple of care packages (feminine hygiene and medical supplies) and sent them to a few domestic violence shelters in honor of her.

I hope I don't sound like a broken record but I clicked on her candle tonight and saw the four comments. That means so much to me. I sent a copy to her husband via email with a note letting him know that I made that for her and to send it to family and friends. Hopefully he doesn't think I'm bothering him. It feels weird talking to him via email and once on the phone/some texts (I was at work and burst into tears when he texted me the information about her funeral. That probably wasn't a good idea to look at my phone while I was on a call with a client, but oh well...), but I did send him a card as well as her parents and younger brother. I ended up practically writing a novel on each one, which I found funny because for one I don't know her parents or brother at all (nor her husband really) but also because she and I would write really LONG letters to each other. She did have large loopy handwriting (oh, I will miss that so much), but she once sent me a letter that was literally 100 pages long. I'll never forget the look on my coworker's faces one Sunday morning when I came in with that letter. It was a slow day so I was going to sit at my desk and read it, but they couldn't believe how long it was!

I put together a couple of care packages (feminine hygiene and medical supplies) and sent them to a few domestic violence shelters in honor of her.
OMG, thank you so much. I'm going to pass this on to her husband so that he knows what wonderful people she associated with on this board.

Sorry to hear about this, my condolences to her family and friends. She was young too, just 41. What happened to her? Sounds mysterious.

She was one of a few members who would participate in the post TV shows you like and post TV shows you dislike games.

Sorry to hear about this, my condolences to her family and friends. She was young too, just 41. What happened to her? Sounds mysterious.

Okay, I haven't talked to her husband recently (I just sent a card to him and her parents last week) so I didn't want to ask too many questions right away. But this is what I know... I promise I'll share more details when I find out more.

I got an email from her back in late July saying that she had fallen outside her back door while wearing flip flops. I was going to reply and jokingly scold her about doing that (thank GOD I didn't, but she would have understood). She ended up with a broken leg in three places in the hospital for five days. So of course I replied and asked how she was and she told me that her husband had gotten her a wheelchair and she was doing really well. I texted her on August 3rd asking how she was and she replied enthusiastically saying that she was doing awesome and healing nicely. So I didn't hear anything else until the 13th (A Thursday) when I was on the bus going to work. I noticed a text on my phone that said "This is Jenn's husband, call me immediately" Of course this was around 7am and I was on my way to work. The text had come in the night before and to this day I am furious with myself for not checking my phone. So I kind of freaked out and texted him back asking him what happened or what was wrong and then I sent HER a text telling her that he had just texted me (oh how I hate that I did that). He didn't reply but I just KNEW that it was horrible news. I waited until couldn't stand it anymore and finally called him around 11 when I was at lunch. He told me exactly what happened but all I heard was him asking me if I knew that she had broken her leg and then he said something about the night before she had been rushed to the hospital because she had stopped breathing. By the time he got to the hospital she was gone.

So I really don't know what happened but I'm going to find out. I know people don't like to talk about tragic things like that so soon after it happened but it's been three weeks (Feels like much shorter), so I'm going to try asking him. My only thought is that she was allergic to everything so maybe it was the medication or something. I really have no clue what to say except that I feel this emptiness without her.

I promise I will update you all when I find out more. I don't want to go into too many details but that's the jest of it. Thank you all for being so caring about this and about her. She would love knowing that she was so appreciated on the board.

Okay, I haven't talked to her husband recently (I just sent a card to him and her parents last week) so I didn't want to ask too many questions right away. But this is what I know... I promise I'll share more details when I find out more.

I got an email from her back in late July saying that she had fallen outside her back door while wearing flip flops. I was going to reply and jokingly scold her about doing that (thank GOD I didn't, but she would have understood). She ended up with a broken leg in three places in the hospital for five days. So of course I replied and asked how she was and she told me that her husband had gotten her a wheelchair and she was doing really well. I texted her on August 3rd asking how she was and she replied enthusiastically saying that she was doing awesome and healing nicely. So I didn't hear anything else until the 13th (A Thursday) when I was on the bus going to work. I noticed a text on my phone that said "This is Jenn's husband, call me immediately" Of course this was around 7am and I was on my way to work. The text had come in the night before and to this day I am furious with myself for not checking my phone. So I kind of freaked out and texted him back asking him what happened or what was wrong and then I sent HER a text telling her that he had just texted me (oh how I hate that I did that). He didn't reply but I just KNEW that it was horrible news. I waited until couldn't stand it anymore and finally called him around 11 when I was at lunch. He told me exactly what happened but all I heard was him asking me if I knew that she had broken her leg and then he said something about the night before she had been rushed to the hospital because she had stopped breathing. By the time he got to the hospital she was gone.

So I really don't know what happened but I'm going to find out. I know people don't like to talk about tragic things like that so soon after it happened but it's been three weeks (Feels like much shorter), so I'm going to try asking him. My only thought is that she was allergic to everything so maybe it was the medication or something. I really have no clue what to say except that I feel this emptiness without her.

I promise I will update you all when I find out more. I don't want to go into too many details but that's the jest of it. Thank you all for being so caring about this and about her. She would love knowing that she was so appreciated on the board.

Thanks Schmoopie for the update, sounds like maybe she had an adverse reaction to medication. Post again when you find out more. I know this is a difficult time for you, losing a great friend is never easy. My prayers for Jenn, to her family, to you and to those who knew her.

A few years ago, a friend of mine was shoveling snow out front of his house one winter morning. He threw his back out, and ended up in the hospital for back surgery. After the surgery, he developed an infection, and got very sick from it. He seemed to be recovering, but then had a relapse and passed away. Hospitals are scary places. Surgery is always risky.

I haven't been here in so long, but after your fb post I wanted to stop by and offer my condolences. I know you and Jenn were very close and I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers to her family and all her friends. *hugs*

Okay, I haven't talked to her husband recently (I just sent a card to him and her parents last week) so I didn't want to ask too many questions right away. But this is what I know... I promise I'll share more details when I find out more.

I got an email from her back in late July saying that she had fallen outside her back door while wearing flip flops. I was going to reply and jokingly scold her about doing that (thank GOD I didn't, but she would have understood). She ended up with a broken leg in three places in the hospital for five days. So of course I replied and asked how she was and she told me that her husband had gotten her a wheelchair and she was doing really well. I texted her on August 3rd asking how she was and she replied enthusiastically saying that she was doing awesome and healing nicely. So I didn't hear anything else until the 13th (A Thursday) when I was on the bus going to work. I noticed a text on my phone that said "This is Jenn's husband, call me immediately" Of course this was around 7am and I was on my way to work. The text had come in the night before and to this day I am furious with myself for not checking my phone. So I kind of freaked out and texted him back asking him what happened or what was wrong and then I sent HER a text telling her that he had just texted me (oh how I hate that I did that). He didn't reply but I just KNEW that it was horrible news. I waited until couldn't stand it anymore and finally called him around 11 when I was at lunch. He told me exactly what happened but all I heard was him asking me if I knew that she had broken her leg and then he said something about the night before she had been rushed to the hospital because she had stopped breathing. By the time he got to the hospital she was gone.

So I really don't know what happened but I'm going to find out. I know people don't like to talk about tragic things like that so soon after it happened but it's been three weeks (Feels like much shorter), so I'm going to try asking him. My only thought is that she was allergic to everything so maybe it was the medication or something. I really have no clue what to say except that I feel this emptiness without her.

I promise I will update you all when I find out more. I don't want to go into too many details but that's the jest of it. Thank you all for being so caring about this and about her. She would love knowing that she was so appreciated on the board.


Oh NO!!! WOW!!!! :(

It's just heartbreaking. You're healthy one day and gone the next. Nobody ever knows what the next day will bring. :(

I sent Jenn a private message back in April regarding being a fellow fan of the Chicago Cubs, and she was kind and generous with her response. I'm totally shocked and saddened. Deepest condolences to everyone whose lives she touched.

Wow this is very sad :(

It's just heartbreaking. You're healthy one day and gone the next. Nobody ever knows what the next day will bring. :(

Unfortunately this is true. That's why every day should be appreciated and not taken for granted. Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone.