My husband Lou has had a series of falls, starting this summer. He had suffered a sprained back in June, when an obese elderly neighbor had fallen, and he and another man helped her get up. He had two months of physical therapy at home, and he seemed good to go.

Or so we thought. He then began falling, left and right. This all culminated in him not being able to walk at all. He can move his legs, but he can't walk a single step. They've starting testing. They took five vials of blood from him last week, and everything turned up good. They're making arrangements for him to see a neurologist. I'm praying that it's nothing serious.

I'm just so afraid. It breaks my heart when he falls when he's going from his wheelchair to the bed or sofa and struggles to get up. Last night he kept trying to get on the bed, but he simply couldn't lift himself up. I would greatly appreciate your prayers or sending positive thoughts our way. I adore my husband. We're in our 30th year; celebrated our 27th anniversary last week.

Thank you so much.

Janice :heart:

Okay...and pray for me too (I'll inform you by PM).

My husband Lou has had a series of falls, starting this summer. He had suffered a sprained back in June, when an obese elderly neighbor had fallen, and he and another man helped her get up. He had two months of physical therapy at home, and he seemed good to go.

Or so we thought. He then began falling, left and right. This all culminated in him not being able to walk at all. He can move his legs, but he can't walk a single step. They've starting testing. They took five vials of blood from him last week, and everything turned up good. They're making arrangements for him to see a neurologist. I'm praying that it's nothing serious.

I'm just so afraid. It breaks my heart when he falls when he's going from his wheelchair to the bed or sofa and struggles to get up. Last night he kept trying to get on the bed, but he simply couldn't lift himself up. I would greatly appreciate your prayers or sending positive thoughts our way. I adore my husband. We're in our 30th year; celebrated our 27th anniversary last week.

Thank you so much.

Janice :heart:

Janice, I am so sorry that this has happened to Lou. It's terrible that he can't walk. I will definitely say a prayer and keep good thoughts. I sure hope that the doctors can find out what's wrong. Hopefully the neurologist can help. I wish I wasn't so far away. I would like to help. I know this must make you so sad seeing him this way. Can they get a nurse to come in everyday to help? I know I mentioned it before, but don't hesitate to call if you need to talk. I don't care if it's the morning or not. I'm here. Hang in there my friend! Please tell Lou I'm hoping for the best.

:bighug:

Oh my god, Janice; this just breaks my heart. Tell Lou I'm thinking about him, would you? And keep us all posted.

You know you can call me any time if you need to talk. I don't care if it's 2 am and I'm on my deathbed.

Sending lots of love your way.

Janice I am so sorry. I'm keeping Lou in my prayers and I'm hoping everything turns out alright. It isn't fair. You guys are good people and don't deserve this.Tell Lou that I'm thinking about him and I'm always here if you need me. God Bless my friend.

Janice, dear, of course you and Lou are in my thoughts. Know how stressful this must be for you both. Hang in there, you 've got a lotta people who love you, on and off the boards. Lou is lucky to have you by his side. And praying all turns out well. God Bless.

o my god Janice I feel for you! Of course I'll keep Lou in my thoughts and prayers, I know what that must feel like because of my condition (which is, sadly, progressive)

Janice, Lou and you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. It's very sad that an act of kindness trying to help somebody in need has led all of this. I know what an emotional rollercoaster this has been to you. You've been handling this very stressful and scary situation very well. Please stay strong. You both need each other now more than ever. Even though I don't know Lou personally, I feel like I do in some ways. I know he's a wonderful and loving man. You guys have been blessed to have each other for 30 years. Congratulations on your recent anniversary. There will be many more happier times for you guys. I'm praying that Lou is able to get back up on his feet and walk again. He's going to rebound, just like his beloved Red Sox.

Dear Janice, I will keep Lou and you in my prayers.

Sorry to hear about that, Janice.

A neighbor (who has since moved) could not walk for 6 months due to an abscess of the spine. She did eventually walk again, but can't stand for long periods of time.

You are both certainly in my prayers. I hope the physicians can discover exactly what the problem is and are able to treat him so he can regain his ability to walk.

Janice, I'm sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. I hope all turns out well. God Bless!

Thought and prayers coming your way Janice. I'm so sorry you and Lou have to go through this.

You and Lou are in my thoughts and prayers, Janice.

Positive thoughts being sent your way.

You and Lou are both in prayers!

Very sad to hear this, will definitely be praying and thinking about the both of you.

So sorry to hear of this. I know things have been stressful for you guys for some time, and it sounds like there may be more such days to come. Whatever the future holds (and I pray it holds good news) you are there, together, fighting whatever obstacles life sends your way. There is light at the end of every tunnel, and there is hope is every situation.

Please keep us all posted, and feel free to vent/rage/cry/whatever at any time. You're in my thoughts.

So very sorry to hear about your husband. Back injuries can be so tricky & could be the cause of his falls. I hope his doctors can help him to get better. I also imagine it must be very stressful for the both of you. I'll keep you two in my prayers.

i am so sorry to hear this you will both be in my prayers

Lou is in my thought and in my prayers. God bless the both of you :hug:

I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. I hope he gets some good news from the doctors soon. I know it is frustrating not to know exactly what is going on so it can be treated. :(

I am very touched by all the sweet messages that everyone wrote in this thread. It really lifts my spirits. Lou took another fall this morning;a bad one, in the bathroom. He got a terrible gash on his upper back, from the corner of the sink vanity.

He wanted to go, have them get to the bottom of this. This not knowing is terrible. It's only one night, but I miss him being here. :(

I am very touched by all the sweet messages that everyone wrote in this thread. It really lifts my spirits. Lou took another fall this morning;a bad one, in the bathroom. He got a terrible gash on his upper back, from the corner of the sink vanity.

He wanted to go, have them get to the bottom of this. This not knowing is terrible. It's only one night, but I miss him being here. :(

I'm sorry to hear Lou fell again. I know you miss him. I hope the doctors find out what's wrong and take good care of him. I know you take very good care of him. Hang in there. I know it must be so hard with him being in the hopsital and not at home with you. Lets hope that he comes home soon. My thoughts nd prayers continue to be with you and Lou. :hug:

Oh Janice, I'm so sorry to hear Lou fell again. Also know how confounding it is to have something going wrong with your body, and not knowing WHY. Hang in there sweetie. SO many people are thinking of and praying for you and Lou. I know what a good head you have on your shoulders; the next right step will materialize because you 're open to it. Please p.m. me if you want. Over these many years you have shown me many kindnesses, so if I can help in another way just give a holler.

I am very touched by all the sweet messages that everyone wrote in this thread. It really lifts my spirits. Lou took another fall this morning;a bad one, in the bathroom. He got a terrible gash on his upper back, from the corner of the sink vanity.

He wanted to go, have them get to the bottom of this. This not knowing is terrible. It's only one night, but I miss him being here. :(
This is so heartbreaking Janice. Hang in there my friend. I know it's hard and you miss him terribly. Hopefully they'll figure out what's wrong soon. :(

I am very touched by all the sweet messages that everyone wrote in this thread. It really lifts my spirits. Lou took another fall this morning;a bad one, in the bathroom. He got a terrible gash on his upper back, from the corner of the sink vanity.

He wanted to go, have them get to the bottom of this. This not knowing is terrible. It's only one night, but I miss him being here. :(
Janice, this must be a very scary time for you and your husband. You both must be feeling very helpless right now. I just hope that your husband's doctors will be able to detect a specific problem and remedy his medical issues as soon as possible. I hope you will remain strong and find courage in this very difficult time.

Lou had an MRI today. It revealed that "something" is pressing on his spine. They don't know what that something is, but we should know soon enough. He's being transferred to the New England Baptist Hospital, which is the place to be for spine problems. He had back surgery, a spinal fusion, in 2005. I'd say another surgery is on the horizon.

Thank you, my friends, for your continued support and prayers. I can't put into word how much it means to me.


:bighug:

We'll keep praying for both of you, Janice.

Janice, thanks for the update. I'm glad Lou's being transferred to such a wonderful facility, that he's such a strong man and that he has an amazing, loving wife to help him get through this. We have faith that that whatever this thing is on his spine, it can be easily removed, and that his recovery will be swift.

We're constantly thinking of you both.

Love,
Brad, Nicky and Harry

Love and light your way, Janice.

I'm the glad the doctors have made progress in diagnosing Lou's condition! I hope and pray that treatment to relieve his condition will soon follow. Both you and Lou continue to be in my prayers!

I'll bet the docs can zap that offending "thing" in Lou's back. Hopefully that will take care of it...but whatever happens, we're all pulling for you both. I believe that there is strength in prayer and belief and just good feeling, and you sure have a ready arsenal of it here.

Godspeed and stay in touch.

Oh my God. I am so sorry about your husband. I am praying for your husband right now as I'm typing. I really feel emotional right now, my eyes are misting up. Oh God. I am really not sure what to say. Lord, just give Janice's husband the strength to walk and get better. I am just feeling really pained about this. :crying:

Things have got to get better. I feel they will.

It's good that they've identified what's causing the problem. Here's hoping that they take care of it as soon as possible. Continued prayers to you and Lou. Hopefully he'll be back home soon and walking again.

My husband Lou has had a series of falls, starting this summer. He had suffered a sprained back in June, when an obese elderly neighbor had fallen, and he and another man helped her get up. He had two months of physical therapy at home, and he seemed good to go.

Or so we thought. He then began falling, left and right. This all culminated in him not being able to walk at all. He can move his legs, but he can't walk a single step. They've starting testing. They took five vials of blood from him last week, and everything turned up good. They're making arrangements for him to see a neurologist. I'm praying that it's nothing serious.

I'm just so afraid. It breaks my heart when he falls when he's going from his wheelchair to the bed or sofa and struggles to get up. Last night he kept trying to get on the bed, but he simply couldn't lift himself up. I would greatly appreciate your prayers or sending positive thoughts our way. I adore my husband. We're in our 30th year; celebrated our 27th anniversary last week.

Thank you so much.

Janice :heart:



So sorry to hear this news about Lou Janice and want to let you know that my prayers are with you and your husband. Please keep us updated on his situation.

Lou had an MRI today. It revealed that "something" is pressing on his spine. They don't know what that something is, but we should know soon enough. He's being transferred to the New England Baptist Hospital, which is the place to be for spine problems. He had back surgery, a spinal fusion, in 2005. I'd say another surgery is on the horizon.

Thank you, my friends, for your continued support and prayers. I can't put into word how much it means to me.

:bighug:


I hope they find out what is pressing on his spine. I hope the hospital he is being transferred to can give him the best care. Hang in there my friend. :hug:

I am keeping you and Lou in my prayers.

I'm just now seeing this for the first time since this thread was started... Oh my gosh. :( I hope the docs can get to the bottom of this. I feel like it's a good thing they found out fairly quickly that he has something in his back. The sooner that can be taken care of, the better. I have an uncle (related to me via marriage into the family) who has chronic back pain... Not the same thing as Lou's, I imagine, but I guess he is having back surgery soon himself. But I know that much, it's serious stuff... he's unable to work. :(

I just can't fathom how scary these times have been for you and Lou... how suddenly it all started. :( You guys are in my thoughts!! Hang in there! You've done so much for us in the 11+ years you've been here... We're more than happy to rally around you in your time of need/support.

Get well soon, Lou.

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Love,
Sofia

Get well soon, Lou.

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Love,
Sofia
Holy moly. :eek: :drool:

That would definitely cheer ME up. :happyface

Get well soon, Lou.

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Love,
Sofia


Nice earrings. They look real. The emeralds, I mean.

I'm sorry to hear about this, Janice. I'll be praying that everything goes well and he is able to recover fully, from whatever it is that is wrong. :(

Get well soon, Lou.

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Love,
Sofia
:lol: Good one. For anyone who's wondering, Lou had a Physical Therapist this summer who came to our home three days a week, for two months. I told Brad that she was a sexy Brazilian. From that point on, Brad joked and referred to her as Sofia Vegara, lol. I even called her Sofia once, by accident.

The latest news is that one of Lou's discs in his back, L3, is a mess. He's got spinal stenosis which is a narrowing of the spinal canal. There is a bunch of arthritis that has the disc just about coming out. I guess that was the thing that showed up on his MRI. The doctor said to imagine building blocks, and one of them is pushed out, almost falling out. The doctor said that arthritis is putting so much weight on his discs, which in turn press on his spine. He's still in the local hospital which is only ten minutes from my home. He's being transferred to the N.E. Baptist Hospital on Tuesday. His surgeon, the one who did his spinal fusion in 2005 is away and will be back then. That's far from my home, but it's one of the best hospitals in the world for spinal surgery.

They're watching him very closely for any signs of incontinence. That would indicate that his spine is crumbling even more, which would cause permanent paralysis. It's a very scary situation. The doctor said that he'll need major surgery, and there's no guarantee that he'll walk normally again. He'll have to go to a rehab facility after his surgery, to get him walking again. When the doctor was explaining it to us, it felt surreal, as if I was in a movie. Lou's spirits are pretty good. I could very easily fall apart, but that wouldn't do anyone any good. I have to be strong for my husband. I've never been this scared in my entire life.

Again, thanks so much. I read this thread to Lou over the phone. He loves it. I :heart: you guys. :)

Ahhhh, yes, I'm familiar with spinal stenosis. A woman I worked with at work (we don't work together now, but we're still coworkers on the same shift) has that. She says it started about 20 years ago for her -- she's 52 now so it started in her early 30s -- and it got to the point where she doesn't remember what it's like to not have pain at the end of every day. Then in the last year, it degenerated pretty rapidly. Then two weeks before Christmas she was in so much pain one day after work, she had to schedule an emergency back surgery... Unfortunately the earliest she could get in for one was around Christmas. Long story short -- she ended up being on LOA from work until just last month (so, on LOA for 9 months!). I haven't checked in on her lately - but I know she still has pain - but not to the same degree as it was at this time last year. I just know it's serious business - and you really want to get this nipped in the bud ASAP. Is the spinal stenosis a recent development?

From what I remember, my coworker was on an extreme lifting restriction while she was in her healing period - nothing heavier than 5 pounds. So when Lou does have his surgery, no more helping people up for him. :lol:

:lol: Good one. For anyone who's wondering, Lou had a Physical Therapist this summer who came to our home three days a week, for two months. I told Brad that she was a sexy Brazilian. From that point on, Brad joked and referred to her as Sofia Vegara, lol. I even called her Sofia once, by accident.

The latest news is that one of Lou's discs in his back, L3, is a mess. He's got spinal stenosis which is a narrowing of the spinal canal. There is a bunch of arthritis that has the disc just about coming out. I guess that was the thing that showed up on his MRI. The doctor said to imagine building blocks, and one of them is pushed out, almost falling out. The doctor said that arthritis is putting so much weight on his discs, which in turn press on his spine. He's still in the local hospital which is only ten minutes from my home. He's being transferred to the N.E. Baptist Hospital on Tuesday. His surgeon, the one who did his spinal fusion in 2005 is away and will be back then. That's far from my home, but it's one of the best hospitals in the world for spinal surgery.

They're watching him very closely for any signs of incontinence. That would indicate that his spine is crumbling even more, which would cause permanent paralysis. It's a very scary situation. The doctor said that he'll need major surgery, and there's no guarantee that he'll walk normally again. He'll have to go to a rehab facility after his surgery, to get him walking again. When the doctor was explaining it to us, it felt surreal, as if I was in a movie. Lou's spirits are pretty good. I could very easily fall apart, but that wouldn't do anyone any good. I have to be strong for my husband. I've never been this scared in my entire life.

Again, thanks so much. I read this thread to Lou over the phone. He loves it. I :heart: you guys. :)

Janice, wow, I am so sorry to hear this. I can only imagine the shock and heartache you and Lou went through hearing this news. It sounds terrible. I hope that his condition does not get any worse. I hope the the surgery goes well and that he recovers to the fullest possible extent. I know that must be so hard to be strong for him. Try to hang in there. :heart: You can count on me. :hug:

Oh, wow. That's just crazy, Janice! I honestly don't know what to say (I keep starting to type a sentence only to delete it a few words in). There are no words, other than I'm glad you're there for him, as I bet that's what makes him strong. I'd be a blubbering mess if it was me and I had to go through it alone.

I'm encouraged by the fact that he's got great surgeons on his side, and by Allison's post above. The recovery may be odious, but it's doable. With a little help from Sofia, of course...

Keep us all posted if you can. Remember, you can call me anytime if you need to. Nicky's at a retreat all weekend, and I have friends coming over to deep-clean my apartment for me, so I'll be here. Lots of love and Harrison kisses sent both of your way.

And Lou? This is very important: even when you're recovered, I'd better not hear about you lifting anymore obese women. Consider that your warning. ;)

:lol: Good one. For anyone who's wondering, Lou had a Physical Therapist this summer who came to our home three days a week, for two months. I told Brad that she was a sexy Brazilian. From that point on, Brad joked and referred to her as Sofia Vegara, lol. I even called her Sofia once, by accident.

The latest news is that one of Lou's discs in his back, L3, is a mess. He's got spinal stenosis which is a narrowing of the spinal canal. There is a bunch of arthritis that has the disc just about coming out. I guess that was the thing that showed up on his MRI. The doctor said to imagine building blocks, and one of them is pushed out, almost falling out. The doctor said that arthritis is putting so much weight on his discs, which in turn press on his spine. He's still in the local hospital which is only ten minutes from my home. He's being transferred to the N.E. Baptist Hospital on Tuesday. His surgeon, the one who did his spinal fusion in 2005 is away and will be back then. That's far from my home, but it's one of the best hospitals in the world for spinal surgery.

They're watching him very closely for any signs of incontinence. That would indicate that his spine is crumbling even more, which would cause permanent paralysis. It's a very scary situation. The doctor said that he'll need major surgery, and there's no guarantee that he'll walk normally again. He'll have to go to a rehab facility after his surgery, to get him walking again. When the doctor was explaining it to us, it felt surreal, as if I was in a movie. Lou's spirits are pretty good. I could very easily fall apart, but that wouldn't do anyone any good. I have to be strong for my husband. I've never been this scared in my entire life.

Again, thanks so much. I read this thread to Lou over the phone. He loves it. I :heart: you guys. :)
I'm at a loss for words Janice. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. :( You've always been there for me. A day hasn't gone by since you told me about this that I haven't said a prayer for you guys. I know you're scared. You've been through so much. You're the strongest person I know. I know that together the two of you will get through this.

:lol: Good one. For anyone who's wondering, Lou had a Physical Therapist this summer who came to our home three days a week, for two months. I told Brad that she was a sexy Brazilian. From that point on, Brad joked and referred to her as Sofia Vegara, lol. I even called her Sofia once, by accident.

The latest news is that one of Lou's discs in his back, L3, is a mess. He's got spinal stenosis which is a narrowing of the spinal canal. There is a bunch of arthritis that has the disc just about coming out. I guess that was the thing that showed up on his MRI. The doctor said to imagine building blocks, and one of them is pushed out, almost falling out. The doctor said that arthritis is putting so much weight on his discs, which in turn press on his spine. He's still in the local hospital which is only ten minutes from my home. He's being transferred to the N.E. Baptist Hospital on Tuesday. His surgeon, the one who did his spinal fusion in 2005 is away and will be back then. That's far from my home, but it's one of the best hospitals in the world for spinal surgery.

They're watching him very closely for any signs of incontinence. That would indicate that his spine is crumbling even more, which would cause permanent paralysis. It's a very scary situation. The doctor said that he'll need major surgery, and there's no guarantee that he'll walk normally again. He'll have to go to a rehab facility after his surgery, to get him walking again. When the doctor was explaining it to us, it felt surreal, as if I was in a movie. Lou's spirits are pretty good. I could very easily fall apart, but that wouldn't do anyone any good. I have to be strong for my husband. I've never been this scared in my entire life.

Again, thanks so much. I read this thread to Lou over the phone. He loves it. I :heart: you guys. :)

Boy do I understand the "feeling like you were in a movie" part. That's just how I felt when I heard various diagnosises about my mom. It's like the world is full of jello and you're hearing the words from a faraway place. It's shock and it's totally normal and understandable.

Sounds as if Lou has the best care possible. Please take comfort in that. I know you will do what you have to do for him and yourself. You will hang on, you will hold it together, at least when you have to. And if we provide a nice 'relief valve' for the stress, that's great. Please feel free to indulge that.

Hope is everywhere, Janice. I know it's hard to feel anything but dread now, but don't forget about hope. Take care, hold tight and stay in touch.

So sorry to hear about your husband. Prayers sent your way!

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It sounds like your husband is in good hands. I pray and wish for the best.

Janice, I hope your husband is feeling better. I wish lots of hope and encouragement to the both of you.

Continuing to remember you and Lou in my prayers. Darn back problems; we've all been through them here too. Know that you're all in my thoughts and heart.

Any updates, Janice?

I hope things are going ok at the hospital. Thinking of you and Lou. :)

Thanks guys; this concern means so much to me. Lou didn't get transferred today, which was a big disappointment to us both. We both want this over with. I'm afraid that he'll fall when he's scooting over from his bed to that potty thing at his bedside. I'd hate to see him fall on the hard floor onto his spine which is already a mess. Let's face it, he's temporarily (I hope) paralyzed. I don't want any accidents to make it permanent.

The hospital where he's staying doesn't have any real answers. They're just waiting too. The waiting is killing me. It's just more time for my mind to wander to scary places. I don't want this week to slip away into the weekend. I hope I have something to report tomorrow. I have a feeling that once things start, they'll go very fast. Just.....start...dammit....start...scalpel...fix my husband's spine....I want to see him walk through the door.

I'm sorry to hear that Lou wasn't transferred. Delaying it isn't good. You're right, hopefully things will start soon. I hope he doesn't fall either. The waiting sounds terrible. Not knowing and having to wait isn't fair. I can't imagine the agony it's causing. Lets hope the hospital and doctors get it together and do what needs to be done asap.

He's being transferred as we speak. I'm glad about that. Now starts a new chapter of, hopefully, Lou regaining his good health.

He's being transferred as we speak. I'm glad about that. Now starts a new chapter of, hopefully, Lou regaining his good health.
I'm glad he was finally transferred Janice. I know the waiting must be just awful. :( I continue to pray for him. Here's hoping that he gets better real soon.

Thanks for your update, Janice. Keeping in there and praying every day for you and Lou.

He's being transferred as we speak. I'm glad about that. Now starts a new chapter of, hopefully, Lou regaining his good health.

That's great Janice. :) Lets hope things move smoothly along and that Lou gets all better. :)

Hope he gets better really soon. I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Tomorrow (Friday) is the big day. SURGERY. :eek: I'm afraid, but I know it's necessary for Lou to be able to walk again. He's in one of the best spine hospitals around, with one of the best spine surgeons, so that gives me a lot of comfort. Still, it's in my DNA to worry, can't help it. Please say a prayer that all goes well. Thanks.

Janice, you and Lou will be in my thoughts and prayers tommorrow.

Tomorrow (Friday) is the big day. SURGERY. :eek: I'm afraid, but I know it's necessary for Lou to be able to walk again. He's in one of the best spine hospitals around, with one of the best spine surgeons, so that gives me a lot of comfort. Still, it's in my DNA to worry, can't help it. Please say a prayer that all goes well. Thanks.

That's good that tomorrow is surgery today. I hope it goes very well. I know you're afraid. Try not to worry too much if possible. It's good that he's at the best possible place for surgery. I'm sure he will do just fine during the surgery. Feel free to call me if you want. Romeo sends kittly hugs and love. Hang in there. I wish I could be there for moral support. Take care and please keep us updated. :) :heart:

Tomorrow (Friday) is the big day. SURGERY. :eek: I'm afraid, but I know it's necessary for Lou to be able to walk again. He's in one of the best spine hospitals around, with one of the best spine surgeons, so that gives me a lot of comfort. Still, it's in my DNA to worry, can't help it. Please say a prayer that all goes well. Thanks.

I think it's perfectly normal to be concerned. Who wouldn't be?! Like you said though, he's in a good hospital-KEEP that in mind if thoughts start to go off...

You're a special person Janice and so is Lou. So many of us are rooting for you both, with LOTS of thoughts and prayers. You have a very good head on your shoulders, sometimes all you can do is just take the next right action. Keep us posted. God Bless.

Tomorrow (Friday) is the big day. SURGERY. :eek: I'm afraid, but I know it's necessary for Lou to be able to walk again. He's in one of the best spine hospitals around, with one of the best spine surgeons, so that gives me a lot of comfort. Still, it's in my DNA to worry, can't help it. Please say a prayer that all goes well. Thanks.

You're reacting just about the same way I would, I think. Optimism tempered by dread borne from experience.

Gosh, I hope things go well for you guys. We are all praying for you out here. Seems so unfair this has happened due to a good deed.

Please check it when you can, with whatever news there is. We're here for you.

Lou's surgery went well. His surgeon told me that it was worse than expected once inside. Said that MRIs don't show all the problems. The name of his surgery was a Decompression Laminectomy. He said that the nerves were a mess, and he spent a lot of time fixing them. He told me to be patient, that some patients regain all of their strength and mobility, some gain half and although rare, some none.

He said that Lou is a strong man, both in mind and body, and he expects him to do well. This surgeon knows Lou as he did his lumbar spinal fusion seven years ago. A lot will depend on Lou, how hard he works with his Physical Therapists. He has to go to an in-patient facility for anywhere from "two weeks to two months". I know that it's necessary, but i miss him being home so much and it's only been 10 days.

A big cyberhug to those who found it in their hearts to offer me a kind word or three during this trying time, and a big middle finger to those who purposely did not.

That sounds like a net positive, Janice. Time will tell you more, of course, but it sounds like there's lots of hope for Lou to regain at LEAST some or most of his walking ability, and possibly ALL of it.

Thanks for the cyberhug, btw! :)

Lou's surgery went well. His surgeon told me that it was worse than expected once inside. Said that MRIs don't show all the problems. The name of his surgery was a Decompression Laminectomy. He said that the nerves were a mess, and he spent a lot of time fixing them. He told me to be patient, that some patients regain all of their strength and mobility, some gain half and although rare, some none.

He said that Lou is a strong man, both in mind and body, and he expects him to do well. This surgeon knows Lou as he did his lumbar spinal fusion seven years ago. A lot will depend on Lou, how hard he works with his Physical Therapists. He has to go to an in-patient facility for anywhere from "two weeks to two months". I know that it's necessary, but i miss him being home so much and it's only been 10 days.

A big cyberhug to those who found it in their hearts to offer me a kind word or three during this trying time, and a big middle finger to those who purposely did not.

Janice, that's great that Lou did so well with the surgery. :thumbsup: I hope that he is able to regain all his mobility. You're right he's a strong man. I know you miss him.

I hope Mr. Bear and Wally are rooting for Lou. :)

So glad his surgery went well & hope he does good with the therapy.

Glad to hear Lou's surgery went well. My thioughts and prayers will continue to be with you both as Lou goes through rehab.

Lou's surgery went well. His surgeon told me that it was worse than expected once inside. Said that MRIs don't show all the problems. The name of his surgery was a Decompression Laminectomy. He said that the nerves were a mess, and he spent a lot of time fixing them. He told me to be patient, that some patients regain all of their strength and mobility, some gain half and although rare, some none.

He said that Lou is a strong man, both in mind and body, and he expects him to do well. This surgeon knows Lou as he did his lumbar spinal fusion seven years ago. A lot will depend on Lou, how hard he works with his Physical Therapists. He has to go to an in-patient facility for anywhere from "two weeks to two months". I know that it's necessary, but i miss him being home so much and it's only been 10 days.

A big cyberhug to those who found it in their hearts to offer me a kind word or three during this trying time, and a big middle finger to those who purposely did not.
I'm so glad that Lou's surgery went well. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with him. I know you'll miss him terribly as he goes through his rehab . Hopefully he'll make a full recovery. Stay strong my friend. :)

I'm so glad to hear that Lou's surgery went well. I'll be praying that he makes a full recovery. Hang in there, Janice, he will be back home before you know it.

Lou's surgery went well. His surgeon told me that it was worse than expected once inside. Said that MRIs don't show all the problems. The name of his surgery was a Decompression Laminectomy. He said that the nerves were a mess, and he spent a lot of time fixing them. He told me to be patient, that some patients regain all of their strength and mobility, some gain half and although rare, some none.

He said that Lou is a strong man, both in mind and body, and he expects him to do well. This surgeon knows Lou as he did his lumbar spinal fusion seven years ago. A lot will depend on Lou, how hard he works with his Physical Therapists. He has to go to an in-patient facility for anywhere from "two weeks to two months". I know that it's necessary, but i miss him being home so much and it's only been 10 days.

A big cyberhug to those who found it in their hearts to offer me a kind word or three during this trying time, and a big middle finger to those who purposely did not.

There were some people who were unkind to you, Janice? How dare they!

I am sending prayers for a full recovery to you and Lou.

I spent the day with Lou yesterday. He wasn't in that great of shape. He called me today, and said that the surgeon was in to see him today, and he is very concerned that Lou can't move his legs at all. He'll be doing a lot of testing tomorrow to see what's going on. I don't like this one bit. I didn't expect him to be up and dancing within days, but two full days later, and his legs are dead. This is way out of my comfort zone.

That is definitely concerning. I'm sorry the news wasn't better today.

Somehow words fail me (for once!). I want to tell you to hang in there and take things one day at a time, and that's still good advice. But I also understand that from your perspective, red lights are flashing everywhere and your world, and your husband's health, are in jeopardy. I guess the best I can muster is to just let you know you're not alone and to make use of the forum and us in any way you can or need.

I still think there's MUCH hope for recovery and that this might be just one of possibly many bumps in the road. But whatever happens, you still have your husband's love, he has yours, and you are in this together.

Be strong and stay in touch.

I spent the day with Lou yesterday. He wasn't in that great of shape. He called me today, and said that the surgeon was in to see him today, and he is very concerned that Lou can't move his legs at all. He'll be doing a lot of testing tomorrow to see what's going on. I don't like this one bit. I didn't expect him to be up and dancing within days, but two full days later, and his legs are dead. This is way out of my comfort zone.

I'm sorry to hear that Janice. :( I hope it's only a temporary set back and that Lou will be able to regain the feeling in his legs. I hope the tests that they do will explain what's going on. My thoughts are with you and Lou.

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You have my prayers Janice, anything that can be done to help, please don't hesitate to ask :hug:

I'm so sorry to hear this, Janice. You and Lou are in my heart, thoughts and prayers. :bighug:

Janice, I'm very sorry to hear the latest news. I'm sure this is only temporary, but you and Lou will remain in my prayers.

Oh Janice, I'm so sorry. :( I hope this is just temporary and the tests will tell you more. Hang in there my friend. I know it's hard. You and Lou continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

Sorry to hear about this disconcerting twist snd how agonizing it must be. Try to take it one step at a time. Maybe this is just a temporary glitch. Hoping and praying it is, and that a very nice turnaround is just around the bend.

I was checking in to see how Lou was doing. I was hoping for better news. Anytime you need to chat, find me on FB Janice. Keeping you both in my prayers.

We were all hoping for better news, but we're all still praying for both of you, Janice.

Janice, Lou is in my thoughts and prayers. I know what it's like to not be able to walk, and believe me it's not fun. I used to be able to walk with a walker but sadly, I'm now in a wheelchair full-time.

I spent the day with Lou yesterday. He wasn't in that great of shape. He called me today, and said that the surgeon was in to see him today, and he is very concerned that Lou can't move his legs at all. He'll be doing a lot of testing tomorrow to see what's going on. I don't like this one bit. I didn't expect him to be up and dancing within days, but two full days later, and his legs are dead. This is way out of my comfort zone.

I'm so sorry to hear Janice. I just saw this thread. My prayers are with you and Lou at this time. You guys will get through this!

Time will tell, hopefully a change for the better.

I will be praying for you, Janice (and Lou).

Lou's surgeon just called and told me that Lou has a completely new problem. A disc ruptured in his back, and it's close to his heart. They're prepping him for emergency surgery now which will take at least five hours. He said the surgery is very risky. I asked if he meant his life was at risk, and he said no, risky that he'll be paralyzed.

The doctor told me that although he's done this surgery enough, he's still calling in another surgeon who specializes in this surgery. He said that Lou has never had a surgery where they worked directly on his spine, until the one he's having today. He told me that Lou's recovery will take up to a year, and he doesn't even know if he'll walk again. This just keeps going from bad to worse.

Thank you all for being a sounding board for me. It really helps. :hug:

God bless

Lou's surgeon just called and told me that Lou has a completely new problem. A disc ruptured in his back, and it's close to his heart. They're prepping him for emergency surgery now which will take at least five hours. He said the surgery is very risky. I asked if he meant his life was at risk, and he said no, risky that he'll be paralyzed.

The doctor told me that although he's done this surgery enough, he's still calling in another surgeon who specializes in this surgery. He said that Lou has never had a surgery where they worked directly on his spine, until the one he's having today. He told me that Lou's recovery will take up to a year, and he doesn't even know if he'll walk again. This just keeps going from bad to worse.

Thank you all for being a sounding board for me. It really helps. :hug:

God bless

Wow, Janice, I'm so sorry. That is terrible news. I don't know what to think. I'm sorry that you and Lou are going through this nightmare. I hope the disc that ruptured wasn't a result of the surgery he had Friday. That's terrible that it's close to his heart. :( I hope the surgery today goes well. I sincerely hope that Lou can recover and that things will go in the right direction. Please keep us updated.

Thanks for keeping us up to date on Lou's condition. Both of you continue to be in my prayers.

Winston Churchill once said, "When you are going through Hell, keep going."

You guys are doing just that, taking each problem as they arise and meeting them head on, with everything you have. I"m so very sorry you both have to suffer through all of these emergencies and frightening episodes. I wish and pray for both of you a return to happier, healthier times.

Sending positive thoughts to you and Lou. Hope his surgery goes well.

I just saw this. Sorry you and Lou have to go through this.. Sending prayers.

Lou's surgeon just called and told me that Lou has a completely new problem. A disc ruptured in his back, and it's close to his heart. They're prepping him for emergency surgery now which will take at least five hours. He said the surgery is very risky. I asked if he meant his life was at risk, and he said no, risky that he'll be paralyzed.

The doctor told me that although he's done this surgery enough, he's still calling in another surgeon who specializes in this surgery. He said that Lou has never had a surgery where they worked directly on his spine, until the one he's having today. He told me that Lou's recovery will take up to a year, and he doesn't even know if he'll walk again. This just keeps going from bad to worse.

Thank you all for being a sounding board for me. It really helps. :hug:

God bless
Oh no Janice. :( I am so sorry this has happened to you both. It just isn't fair. You can sound off any time you want to. I'm always here for you my friend. You and Lou continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I can say more to make you feel better.

I prayed as well and speak healing for Lou. You guys be blessed.

We love you, Janice.

oh wow, Janice; I'm so sorry to hear this. Rest assured that you two are in my thoughts and prayers.

We love you, Janice.

We sure do. Know it's real hard for you right now Janice and wish I had some magic words of comfort. All I know how to do is to write from the heart. Praying for you and Lou and that the next turn of events proves to be a positive one.

Thinking about you guys, dear friend.

Long day, with his six hour surgery. I wish I understood everything, but it's all so complicated. They fixed the ruptured disc. The surgeon said that it didn't have any support because it was surrounded by arthritis. They cleaned it up; with screws and other hardware.

He said that Lou will have to go to Spaulding Rehab for two months. He has his work cut out for him. They specialize in working with people who don't walk. The doctor gives him a 50/50 chance of walking and will take up to a year. He also said that he has a lot of faith in Lou and he thinks he'll improve; maybe not 100%, but close to it. It remains to be seen.

Our lives have changed, and the future is uncertain. I want Lou to walk again, but I married him in sickness and health, so whatever happens, I'll accept it. I'm lost here without him. Truly heartsick and lost.

With sincere appreciation and love to you all. :hug:

Janice, I do hope you have some family support to help you through this frightening and difficult time. You'll need to be around loved ones for encouragement. That will make you stronger for Lou. I'm sure you're the most important person in his life, and he needs your strength, positive thoughts and encouragement more than anyone.

Please try to be strong.

Well, what the doctor said was encouraging. Let's hope he's right.

I know of someone in a chat room I visit frequently. Haven't met him personally. He suffered a stroke while having some kind of dental procedure done. The dentist's insurance company rewarded him with a very large amount of money but he is partially paralyzed. I think the lower part of him; he can use his arms. He is usually in a wheelchair and has a full-time caregiver or caregivers. He is only about 42 years old.

Long day, with his six hour surgery. I wish I understood everything, but it's all so complicated. They fixed the ruptured disc. The surgeon said that it didn't have any support because it was surrounded by arthritis. They cleaned it up; with screws and other hardware.

He said that Lou will have to go to Spaulding Rehab for two months. He has his work cut out for him. They specialize in working with people who don't walk. The doctor gives him a 50/50 chance of walking and will take up to a year. He also said that he has a lot of faith in Lou and he thinks he'll improve; maybe not 100%, but close to it. It remains to be seen.

Our lives have changed, and the future is uncertain. I want Lou to walk again, but I married him in sickness and health, so whatever happens, I'll accept it. I'm lost here without him. Truly heartsick and lost.

With sincere appreciation and love to you all. :hug:

Janice, I'm glad the surgery went well. I'm sorry this has been so rough on you and Lou. I hope that Lou is one of the 50% that regains the ability to walk. I know you will miss him while he's at the rehab center for two months. I know you already miss him. How far away is Spaulding from you? I hope it's not too far. Love to you. :heart: :hug:

Janice, I'm glad to hear the surgery went well. What is Lou thinking about all this? Keep thinking positive and our prayers are with both of you.

It seems that what the doctor is saying now is much more promising than what was said pre-surgery. It's very good to know that the doctor has a lot of faith in Lou. The rehab centers really know what they're doing, I'm sure they will be able to do a lot for him.

Janice, glad Lou FINALLY got some news with promise. Know he's not fully out of the woods but what the Dr. said is encouraging. I knew it was an automatic given you'd stand by Lou's side. You're one of the most decent people I know - I'm confident Lou will make nice strides with your loving and steadfast support. Hang in there love!

Great encouraging news Janice! Bless you both!:wave:

Ohhhh boy, wow. That is too much to take in all at once. You guys have already gone through 27 years of marriage together -- so you know you'll always be there for him and vice versa. Back surgeries are already risky to begin with, but arthritis thrown into the mix complicates things even further. :( But from what you have posted here -- that is awesome news!! I have read in multiple places that if you truly believe in yourself, you can succeed greatly, beyond your greatest expectations (Ryan White comes to mind - he was diagnosed with AIDS at the end of 1984. This was at a time when the average life expectancy for someone with AIDS was around one year. He lived for over 5 years after his diagnosis). I have faith Lou will succeed in his recovery and that he will blow everyone away with his progress, when he gets to that point in his recovery process. :)

I'm encouraged by this, Janice, and not letting up on my prayers.:hug:

I'm so glad the surgery went well. I believe he will walk again. The rehab will be tedious, but if anyone is strong enough to withstand it and kick this thing's ass, it's Lou--especially with you fighting in his corner. Nicky, Harry and I send our love.

In case you've been trying to get a hold of me, I've been locked out of my main inbox for reasons that aren't clear to me right now. I'm working with Google to get it resolved. I just wanted you to know in case you sent me some mail.

In the meantime, I'm always available via PM here or on Facebook, or via phone.

That's good news Janice. I'm glad his surgery was a success. I know you miss him but hopefully the rehab will do some good and he'll walk again. I'm praying for you guys. You've been through so much. I'm always here for you my friend. :)

Hang in there Janice. I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Glad to hear that the surgery went well Janice. Still a long way to go obviously, we're still praying for both of you (as well as the Doctors) . What you two are going through can't adequately be put into words, but we hope that having so many good folks pray for you will give both of you strength.

So sorry to hear about your husband, Janice. :( I will keep you both in my thoughts! :bighug: :hug:

Any updates, Janice? I'm hoping to hear some more encouraging news.

Janice, I will keep you and Lou in my prayers. Have faith, he will beat this.

What is Lou thinking about all this?
Thanks for asking. Lou is very sad. We're both in a serious state of shock. How could something like this happen? Three weeks ago he was grocery shopping and stuff, now he's in a bed and can't walk. He tries to put an act on for me, that things are okay. I tell him nice try, to save that for other people and to share his real feelings with me. That's what I'm there for; so he does, and it's just so sad to hear. Heartbreaking really.

He called me two nights ago, told me that he had an accident in bed, major. I told him big deal, you gotta go, you gotta go. If anyone gives you a hard time, to let me know. I know the system VERY well as 10 years ago, both of my parents were terminal and hospitalized for a year. Most staff is great, the ones that are not get an attitude adjustment from me. Every patient needs an advocate to keep everyone on their toes. Now they have this belt type contraption that lifts Lou wherever, in that case, the potty stand. We've cried together, together or on the phone. He feels as if he's ruining my life which is crazy. I'm sorry it happened, but I'll take him anyway I can.

The Physical Therapist have started working his legs, twice a day. I was there for his afternoon session last night. Lou is very determined. His legs move, which is a good sign. They hope to build up the strength in his legs, hips and lower back. They both told me that they see a little progress every day. Can't ask for more than that. They can't send him to Spaulding until the doctors here give him the medical clearance. No chance of pneumonia (SO important); they're keeping a careful eye for bedsores which can be very dangerous for a diabetic like him, as he heals slower. They moved him to a special air-type bed which helps prevent bedsores; same with the incisions in his back which have to heal. That was two major surgeries he had, in three days. Spaulding only accepts patients who are otherwise healthy.

I have to thank all of you again, and again. Your love and concern means more to me than I can put into words. Lou also appreciates it and says thank you to all. I read it to him over the phone. His world is so small now, and he loves hearing these things.

:bighug:

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband.

Thanks for asking. Lou is very sad. We're both in a serious state of shock. How could something like this happen? Three weeks ago he was grocery shopping and stuff, now he's in a bed and can't walk. He tries to put an act on for me, that things are okay. I tell him nice try, to save that for other people and to share his real feelings with me. That's what I'm there for; so he does, and it's just so sad to hear. Heartbreaking really.

He called me two nights ago, told me that he had an accident in bed, major. I told him big deal, you gotta go, you gotta go. If anyone gives you a hard time, to let me know. I know the system VERY well as 10 years ago, both of my parents were terminal and hospitalized for a year. Most staff is great, the ones that are not get an attitude adjustment from me. Every patient needs an advocate to keep everyone on their toes. Now they have this belt type contraption that lifts Lou wherever, in that case, the potty stand. We've cried together, together or on the phone. He feels as if he's ruining my life which is crazy. I'm sorry it happened, but I'll take him anyway I can.

The Physical Therapist have started working his legs, twice a day. I was there for his afternoon session last night. Lou is very determined. His legs move, which is a good sign. They hope to build up the strength in his legs, hips and lower back. They both told me that they see a little progress every day. Can't ask for more than that. They can't send him to Spaulding until the doctors here give him the medical clearance. No chance of pneumonia (SO important); they're keeping a careful eye for bedsores which can be very dangerous for a diabetic like him, as he heals slower. They moved him to a special air-type bed which helps prevent bedsores; same with the incisions in his back which have to heal. That was two major surgeries he had, in three days. Spaulding only accepts patients who are otherwise healthy.

I have to thank all of you again, and again. Your love and concern means more to me than I can put into words. Lou also appreciates it and says thank you to all. I read it to him over the phone. His world is so small now, and he loves hearing these things.

:bighug:

I can't imagine how sad it must be. That is good that his legs work. :) I hope the air bed will help. I hope the physical therapy progresses smoothly. I'm glad this thread made Lou feel good. I hope Lou continues to get beter. I'll continue to keep good thoughts. Hugs to you and Lou. :hug:

Well, if he is able to move his legs and they see progress every day, that sounds good.

Yes, watch out for bedsores. I have treated those on my mom. She has a very small one right now, in fact. An air mattress does help. I have one called "low air-loss mattress." Her doctor prescribed it and Medicare covers the cost. Also, the skin barrier Desitin is very good. It's available as a cream or paste; the paste seems to work best.

A wound care nurse treated the bedsores with an ointment called Santyl. I apply that on the wound and cover it with a gauze bandage and paper tape.

Janice, I can only imagine how overwhelming this must seem at times. It really is a lot. But look at how many love and care about you and Lou. With you by his side, he'll cross each hurdle. Yes, each step is a hurdle but the doctor is saying he CAN cross them--little by little each victory will add up. You'll see. And when you're both feeling stressed, hope that the many caring posts here will help. Please take care. God bless.

Thanks for asking. Lou is very sad. We're both in a serious state of shock. How could something like this happen? Three weeks ago he was grocery shopping and stuff, now he's in a bed and can't walk. He tries to put an act on for me, that things are okay. I tell him nice try, to save that for other people and to share his real feelings with me. That's what I'm there for; so he does, and it's just so sad to hear. Heartbreaking really.

He called me two nights ago, told me that he had an accident in bed, major. I told him big deal, you gotta go, you gotta go. If anyone gives you a hard time, to let me know. I know the system VERY well as 10 years ago, both of my parents were terminal and hospitalized for a year. Most staff is great, the ones that are not get an attitude adjustment from me. Every patient needs an advocate to keep everyone on their toes. Now they have this belt type contraption that lifts Lou wherever, in that case, the potty stand. We've cried together, together or on the phone. He feels as if he's ruining my life which is crazy. I'm sorry it happened, but I'll take him anyway I can.

The Physical Therapist have started working his legs, twice a day. I was there for his afternoon session last night. Lou is very determined. His legs move, which is a good sign. They hope to build up the strength in his legs, hips and lower back. They both told me that they see a little progress every day. Can't ask for more than that. They can't send him to Spaulding until the doctors here give him the medical clearance. No chance of pneumonia (SO important); they're keeping a careful eye for bedsores which can be very dangerous for a diabetic like him, as he heals slower. They moved him to a special air-type bed which helps prevent bedsores; same with the incisions in his back which have to heal. That was two major surgeries he had, in three days. Spaulding only accepts patients who are otherwise healthy.

I have to thank all of you again, and again. Your love and concern means more to me than I can put into words. Lou also appreciates it and says thank you to all. I read it to him over the phone. His world is so small now, and he loves hearing these things.

:bighug:
It's good that he's moving his legs some. Every little bit helps. He's lucky to have you Janice.Your love will get him through this. Thoughts and prayers continue to go to you and Lou. This has been so heartbreaking.Life changes just so fast. You just never know. You have been there for all of us. This is the least we can do. I wish it can be more. :hug:

As heartbreaking as the situation is right now, there IS progress, and that's what you have to hold onto. That means there's every reason to hope that there will be continued progress. Hope is like oxygen now, I'm sure.

God bless and thanks for the update. As has been said, we are here for you, and continue to pray for you and Lou's health and peace.

It's good to hear that Lou is making a little progress each day! That's a very hopeful sign! Hang on to that hope! Live in that hope! As usuall you both continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!

In 2010, one of my friends I went to high school with had a stroke out of the blue at 25. His whole right side is paralyzed and he walks with a permanent limp now.

He had to stay in one of those rehab clinics for a year to get back to health and learn how to live with his new situation. Family and friends do help a lot with these sudden situations, believe me you don't want to feel like you're abandoned in one of these places and that your family/friends want nothing to do with you now that you're "not yourself anymore."

I, as well as his other friends, visited him up there as much as we could and I called him when I wasn't able to make the trip. The first couple of months were very depressing. He would go on-and-on about all the things that he was able to do before like being able to drive with us, go partying all night at bars, getting with women... and then he would shout, "Who's gonna want me now! I'm a ****ing cripple! I can't even feel the drool on my chin!"

We had to be strong for him and tell him that he'll get through it and that this isn't the end of the world. The most important thing we told him is that he's still here and we're not going anywhere.

He was also a smoker so he had to get used to those nicotine patches since you aren't allowed to smoke in there and it would be bad for his health if he did. He would beg us for cigs and it was very hard to turn him down.





At first he wasn't able to walk at all and if he did it was with assistance. As the months went on he eventually got most of the strength in his legs back and was able to walk on his own.

When he left the clinic he walked with a cane and he doesn't need it anymore now. I spoke to him 2 weeks ago and he told me that he got his driver's license back after he passed his new road test.

It's possible to beat the odds and always remember you never know what tomorrow will bring.

I'm glad that he's making progress. With your love and support, I know he's going to recover. Don't give up. Don't ever give up.

Let's get this thread to 1000+ replies in support of Janice and Lou!

All progress is good. I want you to know I'm thinking of and praying for you both. What a blessing that you have each other, and an inspiration, Janice!

:bighug: :bighug: :bighug:

Take all of those and more of my love and support.

You have to take each day as it comes. Pray a lot, GOD wants to hear from you. Lou, may you get better and better in every way, each and every day.

Let's get this thread to 1000+ replies in support of Janice and Lou!
I like your style Todd. :) Lou said to tell you thanks for that.

Janice, you and Lou are in my thoughts and prayers every day!!! BIG HUG

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I like your style Todd. :) Lou said to tell you thanks for that.


I like his style too. You & Todd are VERY key reasons this is such a HIGH quality site. You & Lou just keep reading all the heartfelt posts. We'll get this thread to a grand yet. I'll certainly do my part! :typing:

My prayers are continuing to go out for you. May God's love, blessing and healing be with you as you recover, Lou, and bless you Lou and Janice! :)

I'm very sorry, Janice. :(

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Just a quick hello and a prayer.
--Gene:wave:

Just want to let you know that I'm still thinking about you Janice. I hope Lou is recovering well. :)

Keep hanging in there, best to you both, and whenever you have a free moment, keep us updated.

What's the latest? I continue to think of you both all the time. I'm hoping to hear some more encouraging news.

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:


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You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:


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and we love you too, Janice! That's great about Lou! You two are in my thoughts and prayers, as always!

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:


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Janice, this is much more promising news about Lou. I am glad that you are now feeling better about things. I could tell by your post that you were more positive before I even got to the part where you wrote that you were feeling better. Great news for Lou. I hope he will continue to heal and thrive with therapy and lots of support from you.

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:

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That's great Janice. :D I'm glad Lou is doing better. :cool: It's so nice of you to make him dinner and bring him food. It's sweet the time you two spend together. I know it's not like being at home together and you miss him, but it's good that you get to see him while he is there. :) I'll continue to keep positivie thoughts for you and Lou. :)
Love you too. :hug:

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

Wow, I've never known anyone who actually likes a physical therapist!

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Sounds encouraging. If he will eventually be an out-patient, at least he will be home. I also use a transport van for my mom for her doctor's appointments, but it's only about every 2 months. A good thing because it's a big procedure... call the transport company, I need two caregivers to help me carry her downstairs, put her in the wheelchair, ride with her in the bumpy van (its ride is far from smooth), sometimes wait quite a while for the doctor, the van ride back home on the freeway (usually with a lot of traffic), bring her in the house and carry her back upstairs.

That is wonderful news! :)

Sounds like things are (finally) looking up for you guys. Great news! Lots of hard work ahead, no doubt, but you are both obviously up to it and your love will see you through it all.

Very happy for you both!

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:


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That's wonderful news Janice.It's great that the doctor thinks he'll walk again. I can understand what the doctor was saying too. Love is a great Motivation and Lou's love for you will motivate him to get better. You guys are lucky to have each other. You guys continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there my friend. :)

Wow that's great news all around! First that the doctor has such a positive feeling about Lou's prognosis, and secondly that he's been tranferred to a place closer to home (with cheaper parking!) and that you now have a timeline when Lou might be able to come home and continue his rehab as an out patient! You will both continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm very glad things are looking up for Lou now! :wave:

You guys are the greatest. Really, I mean that. Lou was transferred to Spaulding Rehab in Boston on Tuesday. They didn't waste any time. Tuesday morning, it was up and at 'em bright and early. He loves the Physical Therapists (PT). He says that they're very patient, yet persistent. I guess if he didn't get with the program, he'd be wasting everyone's time, including his own. Plus, so much is at stake here.

He's up at 7, they help him get ready for the day. Breakfast is at 8, and a couple of hours of PT follow that. Then a rest and lunch, followed by more PT. He says it can be grueling at times, but it's not so bad. His day is over by 3. This works out well for me since I'm not an early riser. I can still sleep until noon. :sleep2: Today I stopped and got us subs for dinner. The parkingat Spaulding is reasonable, at $5 for the day. At the Baptist, it was $15 a day, which I thought was highway robbery. I leave by 9, then go home, and I HATE IT BECAUSE HE'S NOT HERE. :( This just sucks, but I'm going to make the best of it, for him.

Tonight I stopped at the grocery store on the way home and got stuff to make one of his favorite dishes, eggplant parmesan with pasta. I also got him a cannoli. Can you tell he's Italian, lol. I cooked all night, so I can bring him a nice dinner tomorrow. The food isn't bad at Spaulding, but it's typical hospital food. Lou's surgeon called me today. I missed his final call this week. He told me that he has a good feeling about Lou, and he's sure that he'll walk again. Then he said that the love that we have for each other will make a huge difference in Lou's recovery. He said he hates to think of how Lou would do without me. I was actually surprised to hear a doctor say that.

I'm feeling better about everything. Lou's much closer to home, and we've got a routine down. The doctors feel that he'll spend six to eight weeks in-patient. Then, he'll go out-patient, three days a week. Hopefully, he'll have enough mobility to live at home, use the toilet, etc. A medical van will pick him up in his wheelchair, and return him home after his rehab. I can live with that. They do think it will take at least a year to walk normally again.

Wow, I rambled on. Sorry. Love you all. :heart:


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Glad things are going better and the future looks promising. We're all rooting for you & Lou. Hearing this positive news made my day. And hope MORE and MORE good news keeps coming your way! We love you Janice! God Bless.

Just checking in Janice, and was encouraged reading your recent reply. :) Know that the prayers are continuous for you and Lou. Very glad to hear that things are looking up.

I have also been keeping Lou and yourself in my prayers, Janice. I am glad to hear he is getting much better. Any further news?

God, what an ordeal you guys have been through. Many prayers!

Janice, I hope you and Lou are continuing to stay strong and positive.

Ditto. I still think about you both a lot. I also hope you're able to find some time to relax once in awhile in the midst of all this chaos.

God bless both of you. You are still in my prayers everyday. Stay strong my friend. :)

I'm sorry I haven't given any updates. Until now, there hasn't really been anything new to report. The great news is that Lou had a major breakthrough on Wednesday. He was hooked up to this machine; it's called the robot or something. It keeps him in a harness so he won't fall. Lou felt brave because he told his physical therapist, Wendy, to take the harness off; take it all off he said.

There was a walker in front of him that he had been using, but with the harness and other equipment on, he wasn't really walking himself. Lou then started walking with the walker by himself. He walked to the end, walked back, and then repeated it. It's a good distance. I asked him if the theme to Rocky started playing, lol. Wendy was thrilled, but not as thrilled as Lou and I were. I told a friend, and she started crying.

Wendy does deserve a lot of credit. He had told her that his legs felt numb at times. She said that since he's diabetic, she was concerned about circulation in his legs, so before his workout, she wrapped these hot towel type pads (that go in the microwave) around his legs. Since he got such great results with the heat on his legs, now they're using this machine on him when he's in bed. It's on wheels. Very warm pads go on top of his legs. The machine keeps them warm and does who knows what else. He had another good day today. No more robot machine. He graduated from that. :)

His legs looked dead before, just dangling with zero feeling in them. There are no words to express how happy I am about this. We were starting to get discouraged. I go there every other day, usually more. It's hard for me, but we miss being together. We're one of those couples who are joined at the hip. I'm not very healthy, and my life is in overdrive now. Bring his laundry home, bring it back. Cook or pick up dinner for him. Lou also did all the banking, pet stuff, grocery shopping, car stuff; I got myself gas for the first time in years, and I mean probably a decade, lol. I'm not complaining, just commenting that it's amazing what we can do when we have no other choice. Lou drove me everywhere, appointments, etc. He used to joke and call me Miss Daisy. Now, I'm buzzing in and out of crazy Boston traffic. Hating everyone, lol.

No word really on when he'll be coming home. As much as I miss him, I don't want them to rush things. He told me that he met a guy the other day who, like Lou, lost the use of legs. He was visiting someone. Told Lou that if he could it, anyone could. That's the latest and greatest. I think Lou will keep getting better and better. He never skips a PT session, and he works very hard. They write his schedule on a board in his room. It's intense. He's bringing nerves, muscles, everything, back to life. He's doing a great job. I'm very proud of him. :love:

Thank you to all for your continued support and prayers. It's very much appreciated and means the world to the both of us.

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I'm sorry I haven't given any updates. Until now, there hasn't really been anything new to report. The great news is that Lou had a major breakthrough on Wednesday. He was hooked up to this machine; it's called the robot or something. It keeps him in a harness so he won't fall. Lou felt brave because he told his physical therapist, Wendy, to take the harness off; take it all off he said.

There was a walker in front of him that he had been using, but with the harness and other equipment on, he wasn't really walking himself. Lou then started walking with the walker by himself. He walked to the end, walked back, and then repeated it. It's a good distance. I asked him if the theme to Rocky started playing, lol. Wendy was thrilled, but not as thrilled as Lou and I were. I told a friend, and she started crying.

Wendy does deserve a lot of credit. He had told her that his legs felt numb at times. She said that since he's diabetic, she was concerned about circulation in his legs, so before his workout, she wrapped these hot towel type pads (that go in the microwave) around his legs. Since he got such great results with the heat on his legs, now they're using this machine on him when he's in bed. It's on wheels. Very warm pads go on top of his legs. The machine keeps them warm and does who knows what else. He had another good day today. No more robot machine. He graduated from that. :)

His legs looked dead before, just dangling with zero feeling in them. There are no words to express how happy I am about this. We were starting to get discouraged. I go there every other day, usually more. It's hard for me, but we miss being together. We're one of those couples who are joined at the hip. I'm not very healthy, and my life is in overdrive now. Bring his laundry home, bring it back. Cook or pick up dinner for him. Lou also did all the banking, pet stuff, grocery shopping, car stuff; I got myself gas for the first time in years, and I mean probably a decade, lol. I'm not complaining, just commenting that it's amazing what we can do when we have no other choice. Lou drove me everywhere, appointments, etc. He used to joke and call me Miss Daisy. Now, I'm buzzing in and out of crazy Boston traffic. Hating everyone, lol.

No word really on when he'll be coming home. As much as I miss him, I don't want them to rush things. He told me that he met a guy the other day who, like Lou, lost the use of legs. He was visiting someone. Told Lou that if he could it, anyone could. That's the latest and greatest. I think Lou will keep getting better and better. He never skips a PT session, and he works very hard. They write his schedule on a board in his room. It's intense. He's bringing nerves, muscles, everything, back to life. He's doing a great job. I'm very proud of him. :love:

Thank you to all for your continued support and prayers. It's very much appreciated and means the world to the both of us.

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That's great Janice! :D It sounds like Lou is making a lot of progress and that is good. :thumbsup: I know you miss him and want him home. Keeping good thoughts for you and Lou. :)

It all sounds so encouraging! I'm happy for you both.

Glad things keep coming along for Lou. Sounds like the staff there are great. And with a great wife by his side, spurring him on, how could he not do well. Happy Thanksgiving to you and Lou!

I'm so glad to hear about Lou's breakthrough! Also about how your driving yourself around and buying yourown gas. Good for you!! You both continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!

That's wonderful news Janice. And the timing was perfect, right around Thanksgiving. I'm so happy for you guys. You deserve some good news. Prayers continue to go to you and Lou my friend. God bless you both. :)

Glad to hear that he's doing better. I'm sure it's been very difficult for the both of you & I know you'll be so happy when he gets to come home.

Great news!! Will continue to pray for you both. :)

Wow, this thread breaks my heart (and I apologize for not seeing this sooner. I've been off the forum for months & am just now catching up). I'm so sorry you're going through this, Janice. I, however, am glad Lou is making vast improvements. You are both in my thoughts!

Lou is coming home on Wednesday, just in time for Christmas. Unfortunately, he's coming home in a wheelchair. He'll finish his therapy at home. Physical therapists will come here at least three days a week, and he may still go back to Spaulding if they find it necessary. They had a meeting last week with his two doctors, physical therapists, his caseworkers, his psychologist at Spaulding, his home healthcare team, etc. All in all, there were about 12 people and Lou and I.

They were all very complimentary of Lou and the progress he's made, stating that he has more dedication and has done more in two months than many men half his age. He's a bull of a man. The fact that he was in such good shape prior has helped him a great deal in his recovery.

They have to make sure that Lou is in a safe environment and can transfer easily from his chair to sofa, to bed, to toilet, to tub, etc. I've been attending and will attend more of his physical therapy classes tomorrow, so I can learn the proper way to assist him when he needs it, and to know how to read his cues. Lou is a large man. I'm so far out of my element here, but I'll do my best.

Patience is key. As it is now, Lou doesn't let me do anything for him that he can do for himself. For example, if he wants his sneakers, it would take me a hot minute to walk across the room and get them, and put them on him. He wants to wheel over, pick them up with his grabber (that he grabs me with sometimes, lol); puts the sneakers on himself. What would take me three minutes might take him ten, but he needs to be as independent as his body allows. That's what they've taught him.

They're all confident that he'll walk again this year, but only if he continues to dedicate himself to therapy and put in the time. It simply takes time. They've run every test, every scan known to man, on his legs. They're in perfect condition. The problem is his weak hips. That's what the majority of the therapy will concentrate on. Those muscles have to be strengthened.

Our world was turned upside down last year, in the first week of October. Now comes another phase. I hope it's easier. It's been very difficult for me, driving back and forth, bringing him dinner, bringing his laundry back and forth, getting him what he needs. So many days, I just wanted to crash in bed, but I couldn't. He needed me.

Lou has grown close to many of the staff members as well as other patients. Some of their stories are just heartbreaking. A 17-year old who is a quadriplegic as a result of a car crash. He had been drinking and pulled over to get some sleep. Woke up a couple of hours later, but was still intoxicated and his truck ended up completely upside down. He broke his neck. Lou's roommate, a nice guy who had a heart attack and a stroke. He's in terrible shape. Can't feed himself, can't do much for himself. His wife is a doll. We've exchanged emails. She told me to go to her FB page, and I did today. I couldn't help but cry, looking at her husband's pre-illness photos. Such a happy family. Another roommate from a few months ago. A nice man with a wife and two young children. A beautiful Chinese family. He lost the use of his arms and legs. Neck pain and a burst vein was his downfall. He's about 35 years old.

Spaulding is filled with people who drew the short straw, and I feel enormously lucky that Lou's hill is a much shorter one to climb, in comparison to so many others. I know there's a chance that Lou won't walk again. If that's the case, we'll cope the best way we can. I'm in this forever. This is that sickness and health part of my vows. We've got each other and a lot to be thankful for in our lives. We're alive, that's a great start. It's going to be alright.

Thanks for reading. Love to you all. :heart:


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Lou is coming home on Wednesday, just in time for Christmas. Unfortunately, he's coming home in a wheelchair. He'll finish his therapy at home. Physical therapists will come here at least three days a week, and he may still go back to Spaulding if they find it necessary. They had a meeting last week with his two doctors, physical therapists, his caseworkers, his psychologist at Spaulding, his home healthcare team, etc. All in all, there were about 12 people and Lou and I.

They were all very complimentary of Lou and the progress he's made, stating that he has more dedication and has done more in two months than many men half his age. He's a bull of a man. The fact that he was in such good shape prior has helped him a great deal in his recovery.

They have to make sure that Lou is in a safe environment and can transfer easily from his chair to sofa, to bed, to toilet, to tub, etc. I've been attending and will attend more of his physical therapy classes tomorrow, so I can learn the proper way to assist him when he needs it, and to know how to read his cues. Lou is a large man. I'm so far out of my element here, but I'll do my best.

Patience is key. As it is now, Lou doesn't let me do anything for him that he can do for himself. For example, if he wants his sneakers, it would take me a hot minute to walk across the room and get them, and put them on him. He wants to wheel over, pick them up with his grabber (that he grabs me with sometimes, lol); puts the sneakers on himself. What would take me three minutes might take him ten, but he needs to be as independent as his body allows. That's what they've taught him.

They're all confident that he'll walk again this year, but only if he continues to dedicate himself to therapy and put in the time. It simply takes time. They've run every test, every scan known to man, on his legs. They're in perfect condition. The problem is his weak hips. That's what the majority of the therapy will concentrate on. Those muscles have to be strengthened.

Our world was turned upside down last year, in the first week of October. Now comes another phase. I hope it's easier. It's been very difficult for me, driving back and forth, bringing him dinner, bringing his laundry back and forth, getting him what he needs. So many days, I just wanted to crash in bed, but I couldn't. He needed me.

Lou has grown close to many of the staff members as well as other patients. Some of their stories are just heartbreaking. A 17-year old who is a quadriplegic as a result of a car crash. He had been drinking and pulled over to get some sleep. Woke up a couple of hours later, but was still intoxicated and his truck ended up completely upside down. He broke his neck. Lou's roommate, a nice guy who had a heart attack and a stroke. He's in terrible shape. Can't feed himself, can't do much for himself. His wife is a doll. We've exchanged emails. She told me to go to her FB page, and I did today. I couldn't help but cry, looking at her husband's pre-illness photos. Such a happy family. Another roommate from a few months ago. A nice man with a wife and two young children. A beautiful Chinese family. He lost the use of his arms and legs. Neck pain and a burst vein was his downfall. He's about 35 years old.

Spaulding is filled with people who drew the short straw, and I feel enormously lucky that Lou's hill is a much shorter one to climb, in comparison to so many others. I know there's a chance that Lou won't walk again. If that's the case, we'll cope the best way we can. I'm in this forever. This is that sickness and health part of my vows. We've got each other and a lot to be thankful for in our lives. We're alive, that's a great start. It's going to be alright.

Thanks for reading. Love to you all. :heart:


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That's great news Janice. I'm glad that Lou is coming home for Christmas. :) I'm glad to hear that his therapy is going well. Hopefully he'll be up walking before you know it.I'll keep you both in my prayers. Stay strong my friend. :)

I'm so happy Lou is coming home in time for Christmas! My prayers will continue to be with both of you as you adjust to this new phase of Lou's recovery!

Lou is coming home on Wednesday, just in time for Christmas. Unfortunately, he's coming home in a wheelchair. He'll finish his therapy at home. Physical therapists will come here at least three days a week, and he may still go back to Spaulding if they find it necessary. They had a meeting last week with his two doctors, physical therapists, his caseworkers, his psychologist at Spaulding, his home healthcare team, etc. All in all, there were about 12 people and Lou and I.

They were all very complimentary of Lou and the progress he's made, stating that he has more dedication and has done more in two months than many men half his age. He's a bull of a man. The fact that he was in such good shape prior has helped him a great deal in his recovery.

They have to make sure that Lou is in a safe environment and can transfer easily from his chair to sofa, to bed, to toilet, to tub, etc. I've been attending and will attend more of his physical therapy classes tomorrow, so I can learn the proper way to assist him when he needs it, and to know how to read his cues. Lou is a large man. I'm so far out of my element here, but I'll do my best.

Patience is key. As it is now, Lou doesn't let me do anything for him that he can do for himself. For example, if he wants his sneakers, it would take me a hot minute to walk across the room and get them, and put them on him. He wants to wheel over, pick them up with his grabber (that he grabs me with sometimes, lol); puts the sneakers on himself. What would take me three minutes might take him ten, but he needs to be as independent as his body allows. That's what they've taught him.

They're all confident that he'll walk again this year, but only if he continues to dedicate himself to therapy and put in the time. It simply takes time. They've run every test, every scan known to man, on his legs. They're in perfect condition. The problem is his weak hips. That's what the majority of the therapy will concentrate on. Those muscles have to be strengthened.

Our world was turned upside down last year, in the first week of October. Now comes another phase. I hope it's easier. It's been very difficult for me, driving back and forth, bringing him dinner, bringing his laundry back and forth, getting him what he needs. So many days, I just wanted to crash in bed, but I couldn't. He needed me.

Lou has grown close to many of the staff members as well as other patients. Some of their stories are just heartbreaking. A 17-year old who is a quadriplegic as a result of a car crash. He had been drinking and pulled over to get some sleep. Woke up a couple of hours later, but was still intoxicated and his truck ended up completely upside down. He broke his neck. Lou's roommate, a nice guy who had a heart attack and a stroke. He's in terrible shape. Can't feed himself, can't do much for himself. His wife is a doll. We've exchanged emails. She told me to go to her FB page, and I did today. I couldn't help but cry, looking at her husband's pre-illness photos. Such a happy family. Another roommate from a few months ago. A nice man with a wife and two young children. A beautiful Chinese family. He lost the use of his arms and legs. Neck pain and a burst vein was his downfall. He's about 35 years old.

Spaulding is filled with people who drew the short straw, and I feel enormously lucky that Lou's hill is a much shorter one to climb, in comparison to so many others. I know there's a chance that Lou won't walk again. If that's the case, we'll cope the best way we can. I'm in this forever. This is that sickness and health part of my vows. We've got each other and a lot to be thankful for in our lives. We're alive, that's a great start. It's going to be alright.

Thanks for reading. Love to you all. :heart:


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That's great Janice! :) I know you can't wait to have him home and vice versa. It sounds like he's made great progress and will continue to. I know it will make Christmas easier with him home. :) I'm sure Lily and Cesar will be excited to see him too.
The stories of the other patients are sad. I think it's great that Lou is one of the lucky ones like you mentioned. You have done so much for him while he has been there. :) Please tell Lou hi and welcome home for me.
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So happy to hear he is coming home in time for Christmas. I was just thinking about y'all today and decided to see if there was any progress. Give him my best and here's a hug to you! :bighug:

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Janice I'm so glad to hear that Lou is coming home. Talk about a nice Xmas gift. You have such a great perspective and attitude about this; and the wisdom and sensitivity to see that Lou needs to do what he can on his own. Yes what might take a minute for you may take seven for him. But as he keeps at it, that seven will drop down to six and four and before you know it, he's back to his old self. He's lucky to have you, and again delighted to hear he's making such progress.

That is great news!

Glad to hear he's doing better & can finally come home.

Janice, I'm so glad that things seem to be going so well. Lou seems like a helluva guy...the kind they rarely make these days. God bless him and you. One day at a time, little by little, this dark veil will be lifted from your lives. And the whole experience is a wonderful testament to your love for each other.

Be well and continued success...I know you guys can do this!