She hasn't been on since Sept. 14th, so 3 weeks exactly, but she wasn't posting a lot even when she was here, for a little while before that. I wonder where she is and or what's she's doing. I hope she's ok too. She could just be taking time off from the boards or from everything, and spending time with her family/husband, but she was one of my favorite posters. Anyways, hope you are ok Ardis and here's to you! :cheers: :cheers: :). Hope you come back soon. We miss you!


Kyle

I miss her a lot too

Same here. Maybe she's just busy with life.

Same here. Maybe she's just busy with life.

That's what I'm thinking, or just hanging out, relaxing off the computer. Whatever it is, I hope she comes in here maybe ;) and tells us what's going on, and if she's ok too. Cause I hope she is.

What about Sarah(safety pin)? She hasn't posted since August 25th :(

What about Sarah(safetypin)? She's been missing for a while :(

According to her final post she left the board.

According to her final post she left the board.


Yeah, I see that now. Too bad, I'm really going to miss her :(

What about Sarah(safety pin)? She hasn't posted since August 25th :(

Yeah I miss her too. I was thinking about her for awhile, and making a thread about that- but not while I was creating this thread.

James, did she say before she left, why she wanted to leave/was leaving? I hope she's ok & coming back. Both of them actually- I mean that.

Yeah, I see that now. Too bad, I'm really going to miss her :(

What happened with her though? Why did she say she was leaving??

James, did she say before she left, why she wanted to leave/was leaving? I hope she's ok & coming back. Both of them actually- I mean that.

No she didn't and I do not know why she left. I just saw that the last thing she posted she mentioned it was her last.

According to her final post she left the board.


NO Way! Really? That doesn't sound like Sarah at all ??????? She's been here through just about everything!

Also, I notice Brad hasn't been around. Yah, I miss Ardis too. It is a busy time.

I know it will be for me this week - I just found out it's Thanksgiving this coming weekend! YIKES!

NO Way! Really? That doesn't sound like Sarah at all ??????? She's been here through just about everything!

Also, I notice Brad hasn't been around. Yah, I miss Ardis too. It is a busy time.

I know it will be for me this week - I just found out it's Thanksgiving this coming weekend! YIKES!

Yeah I know- you are right. Surprising that she did that.

And Brad is ok. I talk to him on Facebook all the time :) ;). But feel free to ask him if he hasn't been on here awhile, or on Facebook/SO in awhile.

Btw, I missed you too when you left. You are a great poster and very funny. Seriously Cathy you are hilarious!!!! :) :lol: ;)

NO Way! Really? That doesn't sound like Sarah at all ??????? She's been here through just about everything!

I didn't know safety pin had left either. I hope she comes back, and I hope we see MonarC around soon too.

I didn't know safety pin had left either. I hope she comes back, and I hope we see MonarC around soon too.

I hope so too Michelle. Both are great members. Sarah is hilarious too. I wish she wouldn't have left, and I wonder why :confused: :(.

Why do you insist on making these threads Kyle? All they do is ask for trouble. Certain members left on their own and if they really wanted you or anybody to know where they were, they would've sent you a pm or an email. People leave for a variety of reasons, they get bored, they meet a girl or a boy, etc.

Why do you insist on making these threads Kyle? All they do is ask for trouble. Certain members left on their own and if they really wanted you or anybody to know where they were, they would've sent you a pm or an email. People leave for a variety of reasons, they get bored, they meet a girl or a boy, etc.
That's right, Brian. You make a lot of sense. People have lives besides SO.

Why do you insist on making these threads Kyle? All they do is ask for trouble. Certain members left on their own and if they really wanted you or anybody to know where they were, they would've sent you a pm or an email. People leave for a variety of reasons, they get bored, they meet a girl or a boy, etc.

To let them know that I and other members miss them. Their is nothing wrong with remembering members, and looking out for them.

That's right, Brian. You make a lot of sense. People have lives besides SO.
They do!?!?!?!?? Nah jk I know they do LOL


BTW how would you leave SO and not come back? I've tried, it has has a powerful force that keeps people coming!

I remember sometime MonarC posted that she was posting from work. I think maybe she is working now and is spending less time online surfing.

To let them know that I and other members miss them. Their is nothing wrong with remembering members, and looking out for them.
MonarC is an adult with a husband. She doesn't need you looking out for her. People shouldn't be speculating on why members left. They are adults, and it's a privacy issue. If people wanted to say why they left, they would. MonarC's website is listed in her profile. Contact her there if you want. I wish you'd stop going public with this stuff myself. People leave all the time. Most of them are easy enough to find on MySpace or Facebook.

Why do you insist on making these threads Kyle? All they do is ask for trouble. Certain members left on their own and if they really wanted you or anybody to know where they were, they would've sent you a pm or an email. People leave for a variety of reasons, they get bored, they meet a girl or a boy, etc.

I understand that with some members, threads like this can bring up bad memories, but I don't see MonarC as being one of those few. Wreckless has made several of these threads as of late, but it's also nothing new - members have been making them for years, whenever they've noticed someone hasn't posted for a while.

I do understand your reasoning that sometimes problems can emerge from threads asking after other members, but I don't think this is the case with this thread at the moment.

I think as long as people don't bring up any past disagreements or trash talk anyone, then threads like these are fine. I think people may need to be careful what they say in them (for example, refraining from bringing up past events that people don't want to talk about) but as long as people are careful, I think threads like this are okay.

I didn't want to start a whole new thread, but what happened with Sarah (safety pin)? Hs anyone heard from her? She didn't do anything to herself, did she?

Anyway, this is for Sarah: ticked: ticked: ticked: ticked: ticked: ticked: ticked: That smilie always makes me think of her :lol:

Why do you insist on making these threads Kyle? All they do is ask for trouble. Certain members left on their own and if they really wanted you or anybody to know where they were, they would've sent you a pm or an email. People leave for a variety of reasons, they get bored, they meet a girl or a boy, etc.
Kyle starts these threads because he has a kind and caring heart. He cares about the people he considers friends and misses them when there not here. This is one of the things I admire most about Kyle and consider myself luckey to be one of those he calls "friend".

Kyle starts these threads because he has a kind and caring heart. He cares about the people he considers friends and misses them when there not here. This is one of the things I admire most about Kyle and consider myself luckey to be one of those he calls "friend".
I agree with you there, Marv. If people don't like these kinds of threads, you don't have to read them. I also get concerned when certain members don't post for awhile.

I agree with you there, Marv. If people don't like these kinds of threads, you don't have to read them. I also get concerned when certain members don't post for awhile.
And I agree with you Kristen. If people don't like these types of threads they don't have to read them or post on them. I get concerned too when people "disappear" from the boards.

And I agree with you Kristen. If people don't like these types of threads they don't have to read them or post on them. I get concerned too when people "disappear" from the boards.

I get a little concerned too, especially when I can't reach the members on myspace or facebook. I do think regular posters should put it in their signature if they're gonna be away from SO for a little while, or even permanently. I know members have lives and don't need to spend every second on SO, but a lot of people consider their online friends just as important and close as their offline friends, and a little concern doesn't seem like such a big deal in my opinion. In fact, I think Ardis and Sarah, and any other members that haven't been around in awhile would appreciate the concern.

Nobody disappeared though, they either left and moved on or took a break. Either way, if they wanted to be found they'd email people or pm them. Most of these "missing" people can be found on Facebook and Twitter. Threads like these can cause trouble especially if they left on bad terms.

I've had recent contact with Sarah. MonarC was lurking as recently as three weeks ago, according to her profile. She also has a website that's current. Contact her there. Nobody's disappeared. People move on from sites all the time.

Kyle starts these threads because he has a kind and caring heart. He cares about the people he considers friends and misses them when there not here. This is one of the things I admire most about Kyle and consider myself luckey to be one of those he calls "friend".
Monarc can be contacted via her website, as well as Twitter, both in her profile and signature. Anyone can plainly see that she's been around from the activity notice in her profile. This was more of an attempt to get a discussion going about why she left. With her, Sarah, any adult, that's not a good idea for a few reasons. They may have left on bad terms. If I left, and I have, twice, I wouldn't want members discussing why I left. Sarah posted that she was leaving. If she wanted members to know more, she'd tell them. Same goes for Monarc. Members can always send people PMs. They'll get an e-mail notice. If they want to reply, they will. If they don't, they won't. In the past, I've contacted TJ privately and asked him if he's heard from certain members.

Just a personal note here. When I left for five months, I would lurk occasionally, hoping to see a thread like this for me, wondering where I had gone. That sounds incredibly self-centered, but a couple of times I really wanted to come back but when i didn't see anything about my missing status, I figured that no one noticed that I was gone!
However to be fair, when I did come back I was very flattered at how many warm welcome PMs and board notes I got, so that's why I've stayed. The reasons why I left are not worth discussing at this point.

I can see both sides of threads like these; One is like I mentioned above, that maybe the MIA poster would see it and know that they are missed, but then again it might also make others feel like they don't count enough to warrant their own thread.

It's definitely nice to know that people miss you when you are gone, though!

One thing that also might work is sending the person a PM through the board. I get my notifications via e-mail so if I saw that I had a new PM from Sitcoms Online, I'd be happy and know instantly that at least one person was thinking of me. So just think that if everyone who misses MonarC (I miss her too) sent a PM to her... wow, she's really know that she was missed!

Andrea

Monarc can be contacted via her website, as well as Twitter, both in her profile and signature. Anyone can plainly see that she's been around from the activity notice in her profile. This was more of an attempt to get a discussion going about why she left. With her, Sarah, any adult, that's not a good idea for a few reasons. They may have left on bad terms. If I left, and I have, twice, I wouldn't want members discussing why I left. Sarah posted that she was leaving. If she wanted members to know more, she'd tell them. Same goes for Monarc. Members can always send people PMs. They'll get an e-mail notice. If they want to reply, they will. If they don't, they won't. In the past, I've contacted TJ privately and asked him if he's heard from certain members.

Exactly. Making threads like this only asks for trouble. If someone wants people to know where they are they will tell them. People need to respect the fact that some people don't want the attention or problems threads like this can stir up. They are entitled to their privacy. This isn't new. I think that if someone wants to know where a fellow or former SO member is that person needs to contact them privately, off the boards. Threads asking where someone is can lead to drama and we don't need that.

The administrators have stated before that threads like this are unnecessary. People need to leave well enough alone. There's a perfect example of a former member who was given a thread. Nothing good came out of that thread.

Exactly. Making threads like this only asks for trouble. If someone wants people to know where they are they will tell them. People need to respect the fact that some people don't want the attention or problems threads like this can stir up. They are entitled to their privacy. This isn't new. I think that if someone wants to know where a fellow or former SO member is that person needs to contact them privately, off the boards. Threads asking where someone is can lead to drama and we don't need that.

The administrators have stated before that threads like this are unnecessary. People need to leave well enough alone. There's a perfect example of a former member who was given a thread. Nothing good came out of that thread.
Yea I agree. Sometimes members just need a break from the boards for awhile. And as others have said, if someone leaves because of problems with other members it can create a lot of tension in a thread. The best thing to do is send the person a pm or asking privately some of that person's friends. If they don't know then I doubt anyone else on the board would know.

MonarC is an adult with a husband. She doesn't need you looking out for her. People shouldn't be speculating on why members left. They are adults, and it's a privacy issue. If people wanted to say why they left, they would. MonarC's website is listed in her profile. Contact her there if you want. I wish you'd stop going public with this stuff myself. People leave all the time. Most of them are easy enough to find on MySpace or Facebook.

Oh I'm sorry. I was being a friend and looking out for her. It wasn't like I was trying to bring up trouble.

Monarc can be contacted via her website, as well as Twitter, both in her profile and signature. Anyone can plainly see that she's been around from the activity notice in her profile. This was more of an attempt to get a discussion going about why she left. With her, Sarah, any adult, that's not a good idea for a few reasons. They may have left on bad terms. If I left, and I have, twice, I wouldn't want members discussing why I left. Sarah posted that she was leaving. If she wanted members to know more, she'd tell them. Same goes for Monarc. Members can always send people PMs. They'll get an e-mail notice. If they want to reply, they will. If they don't, they won't. In the past, I've contacted TJ privately and asked him if he's heard from certain members.

Other members brought up the Sarah part, I did not. This thread was for Arids/MonarC, and MonarC only. I wasn't trying to start fights with bringing up why Sarah left either. Somebody just happened to talk about her not here as well, and I commented on it. As far as it being an attempt to get a discussion on why she left, it really wasn't Janice. If I had a friend who wasn't posting on here or on Facebook/Myspace for awhile, and I hadn't heard from them, I would be generally concerned for them, and as a friend, I would hope they were ok and worry about them. MonarC when I had originally posted this thread a few days ago, hadn't been on since the 14th of September, which was just about 3 weeks. I remember Big C posted a thread about me not being around, and it was only 2 weeks, if that, so people get generally worried about friends. I honestly forgot about PMing or contacting her. Sometimes with members, they are better friends with the person then I am, so they might know a lot more where they are, if they are ok, and what they are doing. I know that was the case with Brad. I was worried about him on several occasions, but people have his phone number including you, so I figured those people might know more of what's going on at home for him and if he's ok or not. That's just an example though. I really didn't mean to bring up the Sarah stuff, even though I do miss her, and bringing up fights- I did not mean for all of that to happen, but it was my instincts as a person who cares about her and being a friend, that made me think about making a thread about it. That's all :).

^ See that's just it. Someone starts a thread asking about one person and then someone else asks about another person. Next thing you know, people are asking questions that are best left unasked (on the boards at least).

Just because others have previously made threads doesn't mean the 'trend' should continue. Just because threads have been made, doesn't mean they should have been. Really, it's not hard to privately contact the person and ask them if they are ok. What if you were to ask publicly where someone is, that person could end up embarrassed if they left and didn't want to be found.

^ See that's just it. Someone starts a thread asking about one person and then someone else asks about another person. Next thing you know, people are asking questions that are best left unasked (on the boards at least).

Just because others have previously made threads doesn't mean the 'trend' should continue. Just because threads have been made, doesn't mean they should have been. Really, it's not hard to privately contact the person and ask them if they are ok. What if you were to ask publicly where someone is, that person could end up embarrassed if they left and didn't want to be found.

But people here are not looking at what was important about it- me looking out for a friend.

instead, they focus and think i'm starting trouble. this is why conversations over a computer can be misconstrued, because you don't know what the person/poster means by the thread or comments. it could look like a mean thread, but the person didn't mean that. i was looking out for a friend, and people focus on "oh you shouldn't make threads for members, members have lives of their own." that has nothing to do with that, and that's not the point. if i can't even make a thread for me being worried about a friend, then I don't know what I can make, or say, or can't say. I understand people's problems with the last thread, on a member, but this one- I don't understand. MonarC isn't a troublemaker or a person that has gotten in trouble with MODs on here- at least I don't think. I just don't understand what's so bad about looking out for a friend. That used to be a great thing, now it's turning into a bad thing on the internet.

I apologize for bringing up Sarah. I had no idea she left on bad terms. I just knew that she hadn't posted in a while and that didn't seem like her to me.

I don't know if Sarah left on bad terms. If she did, I'm sure someone will come along and tell us all about it; which is exactly why these threads suck. They snowball and often lead to trouble. Where's this one, where's that one? There are other ways to inquire about a member than making a thread. An adult not being around for three weeks is no reason to sound the alarm.

it's called being a friend. did you not worry about my buddy brad when he was gone?

just because it isn't a serious issue in their life, doesn't mean it's bad to worry about them.

I don't know if Sarah left on bad terms. If she did, I'm sure someone will come along and tell us all about it; which is exactly why these threads suck. They snowball and often lead to trouble. Where's this one, where's that one? There are other ways to inquire about a member than making a thread. An adult not being around for three weeks is no reason to sound the alarm.


It was just an impulse reaction, I was thinking about her, read this thread, and posted what I was thinking. I hadn't really thought it through before I posted. My mind tends to wander a lot these days.

it's called being a friend. did you not worry about my buddy brad when he was gone?

just because it isn't a serious issue in their life, doesn't mean it's bad to worry about them.
Don't lecture me on friendship. PM a person if you're wondering where they are. Don't make threads. They serve no purpose. Monarc is an adult with a family. Besides, there are often things going on behind the scenes, and threads like these tend to start trouble. I've been moderating this board for over six years, and I know what I'm talking about.

It was just an impulse reaction, I was thinking about her, read this thread, and posted what I was thinking. I hadn't really thought it through before I posted. My mind tends to wander a lot these days.
Don't give it another thought. Lauren. I was just explaining how it snowballs. As a moderator, I tend to know things. Not trying to sound mysterious, but you know what I mean, my fibro sister. ;)

I've worried about members too that have suddenly disappeared but I've never started a thread about them. I either send them a pm or pm some of their friends. These type of threads just have a life of their own sometimes and you don't know where they will go. There is nothing worse then watching drama that should remain off the boards suddenly rear its ugly head in a thread like this. It's happened before....even if that wasn't the original intent.

Don't lecture me on friendship. PM a person if you're wondering where they are. Don't make threads. They serve no purpose. Monarc is an adult with a family. Besides, there are often things going on behind the scenes, and threads like these tend to start trouble. I've been moderating this board for over six years, and I know what I'm talking about.

then don't say I'm doing this to start a fight. I wasn't. if the person is missing, and I am making the thread- why would I PM them? if they haven't been active for 3 weeks, it would be pretty hard to get a response out of 'em, but that's what I will do from now on, since apparently, it's so bad to ask where friends have been. Yeah I realize that, and that's why I said to you and everybody else here that doesn't like these threads- that I didn't mean to start fights, and that was by no means, my intentions in making this thread at all. I was worried about a friend, and was reaching out to people to see if they knew what was going on, and friends of her. That's all.

I've worried about members too that have suddenly disappeared but I've never started a thread about them. I either send them a pm or pm some of their friends. These type of threads just have a life of their own sometimes and you don't know where they will go. There is nothing worse then watching drama that should remain off the boards suddenly rear its ugly head in a thread like this. It's happened before....even if that wasn't the original intent.

I know Sonny. I wasn't trying to start a fight though. I know it comes off like that, and sometimes fights ensue anyway, even if those weren't my intentions at all. I was just being a friend like anybody else, who worries when they haven't heard from them in awhile. I was just concerned, and hoping that she was ok.

I never said you were trying to start a fight, just get a discussion going on why she left. You are not stupid, Kyle. You know how to contact a person. Can we end this now? Really, I'm tired. I'm done anyway, lol.

I hope we've all learned something from this unfortunate thread. I know Kyle has learned that there are other ways to express his concern for his friends other than starting a thread. I hope the moderators of this site can learn from this too. For example it was only necessary to express your concerns (which were perfectly valid) once. I'm sure Kyle understood your point the first time. Also it wasn't necessary for every mod that was on line tonight to gang up on Kyle. Like I said the point only needed to made once. I understand the concern about the thread getting out of hand but it this case it was the concern that got out of hand not the thread. I love S.O. and I appreciate all that our Moderaters and Administraters do to make S.O. the great site that it is. I realize that they don't have an easy job but I believe their job can be accomplished in a gentler and more compassionate way than what happened in this thread. I for one feel very lucky that we have this great community that we share at S.O. and what makes it so great is the respect with which we treat each other. Lets not lose that respect in the heat of the moment or in the zeal to do our job. I hope we can all move on from this and continue to enjoy this great community. I hope I haven't offended anyone with these comments. They were intended to help all of us learn from this unfortunate situation and hopefully give it closure so we can move forward and put it behind us.

I hope I haven't offended anyone with these comments. They were intended to help all of us learn from this unfortunate situation and hopefully give it closure so we can move forward and put it behind us.

Absolutely not. Your comments were very well put and thought out. I think you brought up some excellent points!

I hope we've all learned something from this unfortunate thread. I know Kyle has learned that there are other ways to express his concern for his friends other than starting a thread. I hope the moderators of this site can learn from this too. For example it was only necessary to express your concerns (which were perfectly valid) once. I'm sure Kyle understood your point the first time. Also it wasn't necessary for every mod that was on line tonight to gang up on Kyle. Like I said the point only needed to made once. I understand the concern about the thread getting out of hand but it this case it was the concern that got out of hand not the thread. I love S.O. and I appreciate all that our Moderaters and Administraters do to make S.O. the great site that it is. I realize that they don't have an easy job but I believe their job can be accomplished in a gentler and more compassionate way than what happened in this thread. I for one feel very lucky that we have this great community that we share at S.O. and what makes it so great is the respect with which we treat each other. Lets not lose that respect in the heat of the moment or in the zeal to do our job. I hope we can all move on from this and continue to enjoy this great community. I hope I haven't offended anyone with these comments. They were intended to help all of us learn from this unfortunate situation and hopefully give it closure so we can move forward and put it behind us.
You've offended me. I'll reply as many times in a thread as I want. I replied to people. This wasn't a learning experience for me, and although I'm a moderator, I'm also a member. I take the same tone as is shown towards me. A gentler and more compassionate way, making my point only once, respect....were you promoted to SO's arbitrator and nobody told me? Your post is a basket of insults wrapped in a "Can't we all just get along?" tone. Talk about passive-aggressive. Give me a break and spare me the lecture. There's your closure.

I hope we've all learned something from this unfortunate thread. I know Kyle has learned that there are other ways to express his concern for his friends other than starting a thread. I hope the moderators of this site can learn from this too. For example it was only necessary to express your concerns (which were perfectly valid) once. I'm sure Kyle understood your point the first time. Also it wasn't necessary for every mod that was on line tonight to gang up on Kyle. Like I said the point only needed to made once. I understand the concern about the thread getting out of hand but it this case it was the concern that got out of hand not the thread. I love S.O. and I appreciate all that our Moderaters and Administraters do to make S.O. the great site that it is. I realize that they don't have an easy job but I believe their job can be accomplished in a gentler and more compassionate way than what happened in this thread. I for one feel very lucky that we have this great community that we share at S.O. and what makes it so great is the respect with which we treat each other. Lets not lose that respect in the heat of the moment or in the zeal to do our job. I hope we can all move on from this and continue to enjoy this great community. I hope I haven't offended anyone with these comments. They were intended to help all of us learn from this unfortunate situation and hopefully give it closure so we can move forward and put it behind us.

The fact that a few people replied to this thread, who are moderators, does not make it a gang up. We [modeators[ have the right to post just as any other member would. You seem to be implying that we are using our 'status' to our advantage, which is not true. Imagine if you were a moderator and someone other than yourself made a blanket statement like that. You would be offended. No one was involved in a gang up.

Since when was it established that we can only post once? Sometimes it takes more than once to make a point, esp. if the point doesn't seem to be 'sinking in'.

Try looking at the situation from the stand point of someone who chose to leave. Would you really want anyone talking about you? Even if it was just to ask how you were, it's the fact that you left. If you wanted someone to know where you were you would tell them, right?

Here's a perfect example. My phone number is not listed in the phone book under my name. The reason? Because I like my privacy. If I want someone to have my number I will give it to them. I wouldn't want someone inquiring about it. The same logic applies here. If someone's not here anymore, respect that.

The adminstrators and moderators are compassionate and caring so don't try to say that we are not.

Another thing. There was no gang-up, so let's drop the Kyle is a victim rap. Moderators can only "moderate" on their assigned boards. So Jenny (Family Ties Forever!) can only warn a member on The Family Ties forum. Anywhere else is out of her jurisdiction, so to speak. Just because you see "Moderator" over a person's avatar, doesn't mean they can moderate everywhere. Only Administrators can do that. I'm still shaking my head over being told to post once. What, just ignore what was being said towards or about me? That's not happening anytime soon. Kyle got a slap the first sentence, then it was a tongue lashing at the Mods for the rest of the post. No wonder he made you an Appreciation Thread, lol. Hate to say I told you so, but these threads always lead to trouble.

Absolutely not. Your comments were very well put and thought out. I think you brought up some excellent points!

You might feel different if you had a finger of blame pointed your way. It's easy for you to agree with him/her since you're not being accused of being uncompassionate and hard.

Another thing. There was no gang-up, so let's drop the Kyle is a victim rap. Moderators can only "moderate" on their assigned boards. So Jenny (Family Ties Forever!) can only warn a member on The Family Ties forum. Anywhere else is out of her jurisdiction, so to speak. Just because you see "Moderator" under a person's avatar, doesn't mean they can moderate everywhere. Only Administrators can do that. I'm still shaking my head over being told to post once. What, just ignore what was being said towards or about me? That's not happening anytime soon. Kyle got a slap the first sentence, then it was a tongue lashing at the Mods for the rest of the post. No wonder he made you an Appreciation Thread, lol. Hate to say I told you so, but these threads always lead to trouble.

What Janice says or does should not be questioned or judged. She has a difficult and thankless job.

You deserve more respect then what you get Janice. :)

I hope we've all learned something from this unfortunate thread. I know Kyle has learned that there are other ways to express his concern for his friends other than starting a thread. I hope the moderators of this site can learn from this too. For example it was only necessary to express your concerns (which were perfectly valid) once. I'm sure Kyle understood your point the first time. Also it wasn't necessary for every mod that was on line tonight to gang up on Kyle. Like I said the point only needed to made once. I understand the concern about the thread getting out of hand but it this case it was the concern that got out of hand not the thread. I love S.O. and I appreciate all that our Moderaters and Administraters do to make S.O. the great site that it is. I realize that they don't have an easy job but I believe their job can be accomplished in a gentler and more compassionate way than what happened in this thread. I for one feel very lucky that we have this great community that we share at S.O. and what makes it so great is the respect with which we treat each other. Lets not lose that respect in the heat of the moment or in the zeal to do our job. I hope we can all move on from this and continue to enjoy this great community. I hope I haven't offended anyone with these comments. They were intended to help all of us learn from this unfortunate situation and hopefully give it closure so we can move forward and put it behind us.
This is very insulting. That's one reason I've never wanted to be a moderator. You get no respect and if you voice an opinion you get the "You're a moderator" thrown back at you. Moderators have a right to voice their opinions just like everybody else. Just because someone has moderator over there name doesn't mean they are acting as a moderator. I saw no gangup in this thread. I saw members explain why a thread like this is a bad idea. The only thing I learned from this unfortunate thread was that it shouldn't have been made.

The only think I learned from this unfortunate thread was that it shouldn't have been made.

I very much agree.
And I also agree with the fact that the mods and admins like Janice do get shown a lack of respect on a regular basis, and there's no excuse for that.
I'm looking all the way back to the reason this thread was started... Kyle was concerned about Ardis... and look where we are now.:rolleyes: Nobody is a victim here, and no body is ganging up on anybody, for cryin out loud. Fact remains, Janice didn't think Kyle went about this the right way, that's when things started getting two sided. This whole mess of crap started cause Kyle was concerned about a friend... ? Can we just say, no more threads like this, and delete this damn thead please. :rolleyes: Enough already. (and please, I'm not trying to offend ANYBODY.. I swear!!!!)

I did not mean for all of that to happen, but it was my instincts as a person who cares about her and being a friend, that made me think about making a thread about it. That's all :).

Since you are friends she should have let you know that she would be gone so that you wouldn't worry about her or find it necessary to make a thread regarding her whereabouts.