My (paternal) grandfather's birthday just passed a few minutes ago (July 15th is the day) but he's been dead for 12/13 years now. I am planning on getting a RIP tattoo on my arm in his memory. He would of been 84 yesterday if he was still alive, and I never really knew him as much more as I would of wanted to. I mean I did know him, and definitely remember him distinctly but some people pass before you even grow up. My point of this post & thread is to think back on people that have changed your lives, or you will never forget, or were just special etc. anything you want to make of a special individual who ws or still is in your life. Pop was a great person. He worked 2 jobs for my family at a time, and maybe worked so much that he didn't/couldn't spend as much time with my aunts and uncles as kids as he would of wanted to or should of, but he seemed to cherish and enjoy every moment of his life and lived it to the fullest. He smoked cigarettes from age 9 until his death, and it reminds me of people that enjoy their lives, and never change, for the good, and stay themselves. I will continue to remember my grandfather, not just on his birthday. Are their people in your lives or people that have touched you that are special or changed yours and others lives?

BTW, this doesn't have to be a family member, or even a friend...it can be any of the 2, but it can be somebody related to entertainment, sports etc. or somebody you know who is an acquaintance....

I also have to add Harry Kalas, legendary broadcaster of the Philadelphia Phillies is another person close to my heart, and who is special. He just lit up a room and got along and was nice to everyone. People like that live forever.

i was always close to my mom, probably closer than most children are to their mothers, from birth until she died when i was 13. even while at the age that most kids start finding their parents uncool, unfair, etc it wasn't like that. i always loved spending time with her and i relied on her so much emotionally. just a few months before she died, she wrote a paper about why she loves me, which i still have. the loss of her was so profound, it took me until a few months ago for me to figure out just how it affected me. i thought that i had gotten over it shortly (even though i missed her), but when the deepest roots of your mind are changed forever, you don't acknowledge it as it's happening, let alone attribute it to its cause. i've realized the reason i find so much beauty in death is probably fundamentally because it's what became of her.

my first boyfriend will always have a place in my heart, no matter what. he was the first person to make me feel like i matter and i'm not the ragdoll everyone has always made me out to be. it still affects me to this day. i fell in love with him when i was 16, i'm 20 now and i've accepted the breakup, but i still feel the same way and always will. he could go crazy and kill everyone i care about, and sure i'd be pissed and want him locked up and probably never talk to him again, but i'd still love him. it's unconditional.

i was always close to my mom, probably closer than most children are to their mothers, from birth until she died when i was 13. even while at the age that most kids start finding their parents uncool, unfair, etc it wasn't like that. i always loved spending time with her and i relied on her so much emotionally. just a few months before she died, she wrote a paper about why she loves me, which i still have. the loss of her was so profound, it took me until a few months ago for me to figure out just how it affected me. i thought that i had gotten over it shortly (even though i missed her), but when the deepest roots of your mind are changed forever, you don't acknowledge it as it's happening, let alone attribute it to its cause. i've realized the reason i find so much beauty in death is probably fundamentally because it's what became of her.


I'm still really sorry about your mom Sarah. You know she loved you very much. If you ever need to talk about it, I'm here. You are a very strong person to have gone through that and be able to handle it.

i was always close to my mom, probably closer than most children are to their mothers, from birth until she died when i was 13. even while at the age that most kids start finding their parents uncool, unfair, etc it wasn't like that. i always loved spending time with her and i relied on her so much emotionally. just a few months before she died, she wrote a paper about why she loves me, which i still have. the loss of her was so profound, it took me until a few months ago for me to figure out just how it affected me. i thought that i had gotten over it shortly (even though i missed her), but when the deepest roots of your mind are changed forever, you don't acknowledge it as it's happening, let alone attribute it to its cause. i've realized the reason i find so much beauty in death is probably fundamentally because it's what became of her.


It breaks my heart that you lost your mom at such a young age. I can't say I know what you've been through, I can't even imagine.

Honestly though Sarah, I truly admire you. You're a little younger than I am, but I look up to you in a way and admire what a strong woman you are. You're such a beautiful person with a big heart and fun personality and you're very talented. I'm lucky to call you my friend :) :bighug:

It breaks my heart that you lost your mom at such a young age. I can't say I know what you've been through, I can't even imagine.

Honestly though Sarah, I truly admire you. You're a little younger than I am, but I look up to you in a way and admire what a strong woman you are. You're such a beautiful person with a big heart and fun personality and you're very talented. I'm lucky to call you my friend :) :bighug:

I co-sign this post. Put it together great Lauren. Good job Sarah!!!!

I lost a cousin named Melanie shortly after I turned 14 in 1999. She would've turned 40 last month. I miss her so freaking much... My parents made her my godmother when I was born, and she was just an awesome, caring cousin.

When she died, she left behind two children - a son who was about to turn 7, and a 9-month daughter. The son is now 16, and the daughter is 10. The daughter looks EXACTLY like her mom, and damn does it ever sting. I miss her so much. :(

i was always close to my mom, probably closer than most children are to their mothers, from birth until she died when i was 13. even while at the age that most kids start finding their parents uncool, unfair, etc it wasn't like that. i always loved spending time with her and i relied on her so much emotionally. just a few months before she died, she wrote a paper about why she loves me, which i still have. the loss of her was so profound, it took me until a few months ago for me to figure out just how it affected me. i thought that i had gotten over it shortly (even though i missed her), but when the deepest roots of your mind are changed forever, you don't acknowledge it as it's happening, let alone attribute it to its cause. i've realized the reason i find so much beauty in death is probably fundamentally because it's what became of her.

my first boyfriend will always have a place in my heart, no matter what. he was the first person to make me feel like i matter and i'm not the ragdoll everyone has always made me out to be. it still affects me to this day. i fell in love with him when i was 16, i'm 20 now and i've accepted the breakup, but i still feel the same way and always will. he could go crazy and kill everyone i care about, and sure i'd be pissed and want him locked up and probably never talk to him again, but i'd still love him. it's unconditional.
Sarah, your mom sounds like she was a wonderful person and I'm so sorry you had to lose her at such a young age. No one deserves that. You're a wonderful person and I'm glad that while she was alive, she made you see that. I honestly can't imagine the pain of losing a parent and the emotional pain it must cause.

But like Lauren said, I admire you. Always have. I've always admired your humor and personality and how strong you really are. You're honestly one of the coolest people I've ever known, and I mean that.


I won't talk about my own losses right now...not really in the mood to, but I am sorry to those of you who have lost a loved one. :hug:

I'm sorry that you miss your grandfather Wreckless. I'm sorry to everyone who has lost loved ones. I miss my great-grandpa who died 19 years ago this month. I also miss my great-grandma who died 15 years ago in March. I cherish the people I have in my life. I know how much it hurts when someone you care about dies. Whether family member or friend. Whenever I think of someone I knew who passed away, it's always sad, particularily my great-grandpa and great-grandma.

I was born late in my parents lives, my Mom was 39 and my Dad 48 when I was born. Growing up I was close to them and my Dads Brother and his four sisters, they're all gone now all I have are memories and I miss them all very much. I also miss my Grandmother she was a big influence in my life. Whenever we would visit her or her visit us she would have me read passages from her Bible and her favorite program was Quincy. My Mom died over 2 years ago at the age of 83 from complications of Alzheimer's and Dementia. It was very hard to see how ravaged she was from that disease. I am confident that she always knew who I was in the end. My own test was to walk into her room without saying anything and she always acknowledge me. I have two older brothers left and we are not that close. I also have several Niece's and Nephews as well as Great Nieces and Nephews and I'm really only close to three of them. I really have no desire to be close to anyone now, and I'm still single too. Right now I'm conten with my two cats and I'm in the process of trying to buy my Mom's duplex.

My grandma passed a couple years ago and I still think about her almost everyday. I was also thinking of getting a tat in her memory but I haven't yet. She was such a beautiful person and she put good things in my heart like taking care of animals, recycling, and never waste food. She was such an amazing person and I miss her so so much.

thanks everyone for the kind words. :bighug:

I'm sorry that you miss your grandfather Wreckless. I'm sorry to everyone who has lost loved ones. I miss my great-grandpa who died 19 years ago this month. I also miss my great-grandma who died 15 years ago in March. I cherish the people I have in my life. I know how much it hurts when someone you care about dies. Whether family member or friend. Whenever I think of someone I knew who passed away, it's always sad, particularily my great-grandpa and great-grandma.

it's ok, thank you :).

I'm really sorry about you losing your grandparents as well, that's always really hard to deal with.

I wish I would've known my grandpa a little more as well. This is my mom's dad and even before I could know him, he had dementia.

He died 5 years ago and now I'm going to be moving my grandma this weekend.:(

I was pretty close to my grandmother and lived with her and my uncle for two years(those were some of the more happier times in my youth). I wish I would have spent more time with her in the last few years of her life, because she was the only person in my family who truly understood me and never tried to change me.

People tend to hurt me if I let them get too close...

I think a little bit of you dies each time you lose someone close to you. That's how I feel anyway. I've already talked about losing my Mom before. I've also lost my favorite Aunt and Uncle, all my Grandparents, I've lost a few more Aunts and Uncles, and a Cousin-in-law....it just seems to go on and on. Life is so short folks. One day you're laughing and having fun with everybody and the next thing you know, they're gone. I think about all of them quite a lot and I miss them all. :(