what's the best way to prepare for moving to a city far away (2-3 hours)? i'd be going all by myself and i'm still a kid (18-20 is not grown up) and really wouldn't know what i was doing. would i be likely to be able to get a job there before i move, or should i move first and then look for work? also would i be able to get housing there without actually visiting it? please elaborate on these things if you can, kthx. i won't be going to college, jsyk. just getting further away from ****ty memories and closer to opportunities i'd rather have. oh god, i sound like holly aka pandora_spocks. ohno: ps. i'm asking this here because no one i know in person has patience for this question and i hate them all and want to slit their throats but there's no internet access in prison so i won't, but that also gives me more motivation to get god damn the hell out of here, lolz, THX ANY HELP IS APPRECIATED :) :( :o :D ;) :p :cool: :rolleyes: :mad: :eek: :confused: :talk: :crazy: (insert lol smiley here) (insert happyface smiley here) (insert waving smiley here)

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Sarah, I moved a lot before...but not on my own. I think you should get a job, as in- they give you the job first, then move....you are an intelligent and good person so that would work out better. i wish you luck..

I know it was tough living with your dad, so look at it as turning life over to a world of happiness- I hope you find happiness and get used to where you're living at, but I think you need to find a job first, otherwise it's investing in something that's not their, or doesn't have a backbone- ya know? :D

Sarah, it only happens occasionally, but Kyle is right, lol. Kidding with ya, Kyle. You do need to get a job first, especially in this economy. You then take it from there. A roommate would be a good idea, so all you'd need is a bedroom set, which I'm sure you have. Get a job, and explain that you're relocating and need a little time. Jobs often cater to various situations, moves, maternity leaves, etc, so if you got the job, they shouldn't have a problem knowing you need to find housing.

Then, start your roommate search. I hate to say Craigslist, but my brother found his roommate through CL over three years ago, and it's worked out great, and he was relocating from Massachusets to California. You're going to need to some $$$ to get yourself settled. Do you plan on driving? If not, that complicates things a bit because you'll need to find a place to live that has public transportation. There's lots of details that all fall into place, but it starts with a job. If you can't find a job, you can't relocate. :(

It would be ideal if you already knew someone that you planned on living with. That way, you could move in, pay them rent and start your job search. It would take the pressure off you.

Sarah, it only happens occasionally, but Kyle is right, lol. Kidding with ya, Kyle. You do need to get a job first, especially in this economy. You then take it from there. A roommate would be a good idea, so all you'd need is a bedroom set, which I'm sure you have. Get a job, and explain that you're relocating and need a little time. Jobs often cater to various situations, moves, maternity leaves, etc, so if you got the job, they shouldn't have a problem knowing you need to find housing.

Then, start your roommate search. I hate to say Craigslist, but my brother found his roommate through CL over three years ago, and it's worked out great, and he was relocating from Massachusets to California. You're going to need to some $$$ to get yourself settled. Do you plan on driving? If not, that complicates things a bit because you'll need to find a place to live that has public transportation. There's lots of details that all fall into place, but it starts with a job. If you can't find a job, you can't relocate. :(

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i agree with you....especially with the horrible economy right now, I didn't even think about that....a roommate is a great idea...i'm thinking about getting an apartment as well with a roommate...theirs always enough room, it's just money ya gotta factor in, cause guys can always sleep on the coach alternatively when sharing a one room apartment, but I know Sarah would want her own room. just be smart about it too, but I know you will.
It would be ideal if you already knew someone that you planned on living with. That way, you could move in, pay them rent and start your job search. It would take the pressure off you.

what's the best way to prepare for moving to a city far away (2-3 hours)? i'd be going all by myself and i'm still a kid (18-20 is not grown up) and really wouldn't know what i was doing. would i be likely to be able to get a job there before i move, or should i move first and then look for work? also would i be able to get housing there without actually visiting it? please elaborate on these things if you can, kthx. i won't be going to college, jsyk. just getting further away from ****ty memories and closer to opportunities i'd rather have. oh god, i sound like holly aka pandora_spocks. ohno: ps. i'm asking this here because no one i know in person has patience for this question and i hate them all and want to slit their throats but there's no internet access in prison so i won't, but that also gives me more motivation to get god damn the hell out of here, lolz, THX ANY HELP IS APPRECIATED :) :( :o :D ;) :p :cool: :rolleyes: :mad: :eek: :confused: :talk: :crazy: (insert lol smiley here) (insert happyface smiley here) (insert waving smiley here)

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I think I'd check out the job prospects there first, because your desire to move or relocate there will be more of an incentive for you to move--plus, wherever you apply for work will see how serious you are to work there, so much so that you'd be willing to move. You said the place is like 2-3 hours away; that's perfect. It's far, but it's not like it's across the country or anything. So, you could see what they have available--work-wise. I wish you very much luck.

thanks for the feedback everyone. how would i go about finding work there before moving? like staying in a hotel for a while to job hunt?

thanks for the feedback everyone. how would i go about finding work there before moving? like staying in a hotel for a while to job hunt?

no. go their each day and find one...i know it's a 45 min drive but look long and hard each day, for a week or two...then if no luck, search closer cause it's tough to go back and forth like that.

I'm not sure what advice I could give, but I hope it works out for you. :)

Sarah, online hunting is the best way to go.

I'm trying to dig up a few resources that can help you get started. These look like good, free places to try...

https://egov.azdes.gov/CMSInternet/main.aspx?menu=44&id=1224
http://www.jobbankusa.com/jobs/arizona_az/ - this has a small directory of job hunting/service websites for the state of Arizona.

Most states have a government agency that goes by some type of name like Department of Human Services (DHS). I see Arizona has one too, but it's Department of Health Services. http://www.azdhs.gov/

As I recall, you don't have any disabilities. But you do have some known health problems like social anxiety and such, right? Making it pretty scary to you to be doing something like job hunting and moving out on your own. These people at the DHS can help you, but you have to call them and tell them you would like to receive services from them. They'll determine if you qualify for services, and then go on ahead and help you. They don't offer just job services - they can help give you other resources you never knew was available to you to better deal with disabilities/health issues (THAT DHS department is typically known as Vocational Rehabiliation).

Up here where I live, though, it's like pulling teeth to hear from them at all. I call and email frequently, and nothing. I qualify for services with my local DHS, but they're total **** at contacting me. :crazy: (I went and got my new full-time job... all by myself. No outside help at all.)

Also; there is a pretty good chance that a place you're interested in might offer online applications on their website. Hospitals and a lot of retail stores do this, for instance. If you look at job postings on a job service website, it will tell you that X place is hiring, and to go to their website to apply. Oftentimes that's all you'll see on job service websites - you don't always actually apply for a job through their website.

I don't know about ya, but that beats staying in a hotel while job hunting! It took me two months to finally get the job I just got - from the time I sent in the application to the formal hiring. It can be a long and frustrating process, and you want to keep the costs down in the process (cost of traveling to interviews, etc).

I hope that this post is of some help to you! :)

craigslist.com

ooh, thanks! i'm already in DHS for social anxiety and ADD, and they've been paying all my college expenses and helping me find jobs around here. i didn't know they'd be able to help me with this. i don't know why i didn't think of online applications, lol. i guess i could use those and if i need to drive three hours for an interview, i could live with that.

Oooo, so you're already a step ahead of me with the DHS bit. Excellent work. :D

I think you'd have to have your local DHS contact the DHS in the city you want to live in, to let them know you want to continue receiving services from them. So all they would have to do is transfer your files and assign you a new coworker once you get to your new city. That's how I recall it working out when I was moving across state back in 2003. I had to close my case with VR in my old town and have then send my files to where I live now.

I wouldn't want you staying in a hotel for god knows how long. That gets mighty expensive quickly!