mykel
01-03-2009, 03:11 AM
I received Maureen McCormick's book as a gift from my knowing partner a couple of weeks ago and I just can't believe what a profoundly good read it is. I'm going to give everyone I know a copy.
I don't just mean that as gushing fan, but as a human being, a child of the 1970's, and a child who also comes from a dysfunctional family.
I have just a few more chapters to go until the end and I'm at the point where she finally sees a medical doctor for her depression. I wanted to start a new thread, as the other one just doesn't do the book justice.
Where do I begin?
My first impression was how pleased I was with how many "Brady Bunch" details she gives. That was such a nice touch. But I was immediately drawn in by her compelling tales about her private family life and how devastatingly dysfunctional it was. Poor baby. All of them, really. My heart ached to find out how her grandparents died and how irreversibly damaged her mother was because of it.
Knowing that, it seems like the role of Marcia should have been a blessing, but I suspect it may have made things worse for her, not as an actress later trying to get quality roles, but as a person desperately in need of peace and stability. She found these things as part of the fictional "Brady's," all right, but unfortunately for her, the show ended when she may have needed it the most---which made me feel a little guilty about being a fan of hers, and the show, in the first place.
I don't know about the other kids, but this particular kid, Maureen, as vulnerable and emotionally arrested as she was, became so entangled with the role and the vastly more functional adult cast and crew members surrounding her and guiding her, that she, in fact, fell to pieces when the show ended, in spite of her early laments about her role in it.
This was made obvious by her account of how she finally admitted to Lloyd Schwartz that she had a problem with substance abuse during the "Brady Brides." It was if just having him there again moved her forward a notch. Unfortunately, his daily presence, and that of her second "Brady" family didn't last, and she slid backwards, again.
I trust that she has made peace with the fact that she and the role of Marcia are inextricably linked, but sadly, I suspect that a part of her still believes it was the role that held her back all those years, rather than simply being blacklisted in Hollywood because of her insatiable addiction to cocaine and other substances and the wreck they made of her already unstable life.
I don't know if she has considered this but it seems clear to me that she was stuck in a Catch-22 of wanting to distance herself from the role, but doing so by becoming a real-life Bad Girl, rather than finding a similar part to play on TV or in film, as Eve did. Alas, at the time, it wasn't meant to be, although, to be fair, she later rocked that Barbara Mandrell biopic. She lost herself in that role!
As I am wrapping up the read, I also have to admit that, fan or not, her story has moved me in a positive way. I'm even thinking it's time to see the doctor for anti-depressants, because the symptoms Maureen described in such vivid detail sound so familiar to me. Our families to a degree, too. Abusive father and stepfather, terrified mother, secrets, betrayals, economic hardships, alcoholism, medical traumas, etc.
As a fan, however, I want to say that Maureen's acceptance of her iconic status has allowed her to literally become the Big Sister of Us All, by giving us this great gift, the story of her life, before, during and after a point in time for her, and for us, that none of us who were there in the 1970's will ever forget.
As my gift to her, I wish to say, "Thank you, Maureen, for helping me to see that you are far more interesting for yourself, than for one role you played out of many, and to appreciate the memories and pitfalls of youth, while moving ever forward, toward true maturity."
I will share more of my impressions about her book in just a few days.
Mykel
I don't just mean that as gushing fan, but as a human being, a child of the 1970's, and a child who also comes from a dysfunctional family.
I have just a few more chapters to go until the end and I'm at the point where she finally sees a medical doctor for her depression. I wanted to start a new thread, as the other one just doesn't do the book justice.
Where do I begin?
My first impression was how pleased I was with how many "Brady Bunch" details she gives. That was such a nice touch. But I was immediately drawn in by her compelling tales about her private family life and how devastatingly dysfunctional it was. Poor baby. All of them, really. My heart ached to find out how her grandparents died and how irreversibly damaged her mother was because of it.
Knowing that, it seems like the role of Marcia should have been a blessing, but I suspect it may have made things worse for her, not as an actress later trying to get quality roles, but as a person desperately in need of peace and stability. She found these things as part of the fictional "Brady's," all right, but unfortunately for her, the show ended when she may have needed it the most---which made me feel a little guilty about being a fan of hers, and the show, in the first place.
I don't know about the other kids, but this particular kid, Maureen, as vulnerable and emotionally arrested as she was, became so entangled with the role and the vastly more functional adult cast and crew members surrounding her and guiding her, that she, in fact, fell to pieces when the show ended, in spite of her early laments about her role in it.
This was made obvious by her account of how she finally admitted to Lloyd Schwartz that she had a problem with substance abuse during the "Brady Brides." It was if just having him there again moved her forward a notch. Unfortunately, his daily presence, and that of her second "Brady" family didn't last, and she slid backwards, again.
I trust that she has made peace with the fact that she and the role of Marcia are inextricably linked, but sadly, I suspect that a part of her still believes it was the role that held her back all those years, rather than simply being blacklisted in Hollywood because of her insatiable addiction to cocaine and other substances and the wreck they made of her already unstable life.
I don't know if she has considered this but it seems clear to me that she was stuck in a Catch-22 of wanting to distance herself from the role, but doing so by becoming a real-life Bad Girl, rather than finding a similar part to play on TV or in film, as Eve did. Alas, at the time, it wasn't meant to be, although, to be fair, she later rocked that Barbara Mandrell biopic. She lost herself in that role!
As I am wrapping up the read, I also have to admit that, fan or not, her story has moved me in a positive way. I'm even thinking it's time to see the doctor for anti-depressants, because the symptoms Maureen described in such vivid detail sound so familiar to me. Our families to a degree, too. Abusive father and stepfather, terrified mother, secrets, betrayals, economic hardships, alcoholism, medical traumas, etc.
As a fan, however, I want to say that Maureen's acceptance of her iconic status has allowed her to literally become the Big Sister of Us All, by giving us this great gift, the story of her life, before, during and after a point in time for her, and for us, that none of us who were there in the 1970's will ever forget.
As my gift to her, I wish to say, "Thank you, Maureen, for helping me to see that you are far more interesting for yourself, than for one role you played out of many, and to appreciate the memories and pitfalls of youth, while moving ever forward, toward true maturity."
I will share more of my impressions about her book in just a few days.
Mykel