A lot of times I like to sit back and think about the last 10 years- where I was from elementary- high school. Especially in a year or two I will be further on in my college years- I will meet new people, share a new environment and life will be faster. Not saying it will be dull and there is a lot of people to meet, but I miss old friends, old times and childhood. Mostly, my elementary and middle school/intermediate school, I remember how everybody knew each other, all the fun we had and being a kid, not having to worry about SOME of the people in the real world. Ever since then, I have lost track with a number of friends or when I moved away, we didn't talk as much nor hung out anymore. It also makes me realize the time of your life as a kid and being with your friends, having your jokes, just everything about being a kid- sort of like The Wonder Years, is appreciated and awesome. I was wondering if anybody else reminisces about their childhood or about moments in their life? And if you would share what you think about that you enjoyed or miss.

I've been doing that a lot lately. I'm 21 now - some of my former classmates are now married, some are married with new babies, some of us are now in our last year of college etc. There's a few that are still in that 'party hard' stage but most of us don't have the time for it (never was a party girl anyway). At times it doesn't feel real to me -this being an adult- seems like just yesterday we were skipping classes, complaining about teachers, homework etc. That and coming straight home from school only to talk for hours on the phone or instant message for the rest of the night. We're lucky if we have enough time to chat for 20 minutes these days. Here we are...working, paying our own way through life, starting families. I like where my life is going though -- and even though I wouldn't want to go back...I sure do miss it sometimes.
My parents always told me; "Don't rush your life away. It goes too fast as it is." And I'd just roll my eyes...yeah, now I see what they meant lol.

Yeah, I agree and understand with what you're saying. For me, it's harder cause I have friends in different areas and I'll admit, I'm a depressive person at times. For example, I always feel like friends move on to different things and I am afraid I will lose them. People have told me the friends that care and that you want around will stay around, even if you still chat with them, so I can only take that for it's word. I moved around for a couple years where I knew people from 5 different cities, and a lot of people, because my parents have been divorced for 12 years, so I would stay with my Dad down his house, I would be down my Mom's. Anyways, it's nice to look back. It's almost like a home movie.

Thanks to the Internet, I am able to communicate with friends that I worked
with twenty years ago ... and friends I went to school with over forty years
ago! :lol:

Thanks to the Internet, I am able to communicate with friends that I worked
with twenty years ago ... and friends I went to school with over forty years
ago (not to mention my niece and nephew, who I've known for more than fifty years)! :lol:

I sometimes look back on my past with a little regret that I didn't make more effort to spend time with the quality people I knew at that time. I guess it's about living and learning. :(

Yeah, I'm getting to that point now. Next year will be 10 years since I was in high school, and it seriously does not feel like it was that many years ago already. I'm coming up on a few other milestones that are just a few short years away, too... It's already been 21 years since I started school and won't be much longer before I hit the 20-year mark for kindergarten (that's not until 2011 though... a good while away).

I think about things like that... and then wonder what my childhood would have been like had I not been forced to move/change schools so many times. But I try not to dwell on that part too much. What matters to me is I survived my childhood, and I'm here today. I'm all about living and learning from my mistakes... something I ignored in my teens.

I am going to be 40, (in less than a year and a half from now..*GASP*) and I do not do a lot of reminiscing; and, the reason is, the older you become, I think the more you realize that you should focus on the future and not in the past.


Remember, that you cannot change the past, BUT, you can change the future:)

I have used the internet, specifically Facebook to locate ALOT of friends, so that helps.

I am going to be 40, (in less than a year and a half from now..*GASP*) and I do not do a lot of reminiscing; and, the reason is, the older you become, I think the more you realize that you should focus on the future and not in the past.


Remember, that you cannot change the past, BUT, you can change the future:)

I guess everybody is different. For me, it is the opposite. I turned 61 this
year, and the older I get the more I think about the past .. probably
because, to be honest, all my best years are behind me: my best job, the
best TV shows, the best music, my best friends, the best of .. well, nearly everything. My family is gone (except for my dog), my parttime job is in
jeopardy, my unemployment benefits stopped, and I'm not quite old enough to retire. Is it any wonder that I yearn for "the good old days"?

I guess everybody is different. For me, it is the opposite. I turned 61 this
year, and the older I get the more I think about the past .. probably
because, to be honest, all my best years are behind me: my best job, the
best TV shows, the best music, my best friends, the best of .. well, nearly everything. My family is gone (except for my dog), my parttime job is in
jeopardy, my unemployment benefits stopped, and I'm not quite old enough to retire. Is it any wonder that I yearn for "the good old days"?

I'm going to be 41 on Monday, and I get what you are saying. I often find myself wondering "What if"; especially when it comes to choices I made regarding college and so forth. I won't get into all that, but then I also wonder if my husband and I would have crossed paths, had my life been different. I would hate to think that we would have never met! :( But then again you just never know!

Andrea

I'm going to be 41 on Monday, and I get what you are saying. I often find myself wondering "What if"; especially when it comes to choices I made regarding college and so forth. I won't get into all that, but then I also wonder if my husband and I would have crossed paths, had my life been different. I would hate to think that we would have never met! :( But then again you just never know!

Andrea

41, huh? I thought that you were in your 20's.

when i think about my life before my mom died, it seems so irrelevant to the present. it was just completely different and changed so fast. i used to be fascinated by people who were mostly interested in the dark/morbid side of life, and about a year after she died, i realized i'd naturally become one of them. it led to affect my mannerisms, the way i dress, my social life, and my attitude on just about everything. i'm sure it wasn't just because of her absence, but the effects of it, such as my dad beginning to badly abuse me immediately following her death. it's been six years and i'm still the same way and i don't think it will ever change. it's very difficult to imagine the way things would be otherwise. i didn't become the person i am now on purpose, but i honestly think i would still be the way i used to if she hadn't died. i usually don't think about the first 13 years of my life because it's so bizarre...feels like i'm thinking about someone else's life rather than my own.

41, huh? I thought that you were in your 20's.

:thanks: :bighug: I feel like it! Age is just a number, anyway... right?

Andrea

:thanks: :bighug: I feel like it! Age is just a number, anyway... right?

Andreathat's right; age IS just a number. I'm 51 and I feel like I'm still in my 20s.

I am going to be 40, (in less than a year and a half from now..*GASP*) and I do not do a lot of reminiscing; and, the reason is, the older you become, I think the more you realize that you should focus on the future and not in the past.


Remember, that you cannot change the past, BUT, you can change the future:)you're 39, Tara? I would have thought you were a little younger. :lol:

(if you're wondering, I'm 51 and will turn 52 in November)

I have used the internet, specifically Facebook to locate ALOT of friends, so that helps.

I'll be 38 next month, graduated 20 years ago!!! Funny you mention it, one of my friends that I grew up with joined Facebook, as did I, and now all of these people I haven't talked to in ages are popping up out of the woodwork!!! The internet and texting makes it soooo much easier to keep in touch with people, even if it's only now and then :nod:

I am going to be 40, (in less than a year and a half from now..*GASP*) and I do not do a lot of reminiscing; and, the reason is, the older you become, I think the more you realize that you should focus on the future and not in the past.


Remember, that you cannot change the past, BUT, you can change the future:)

My ex girlfriend Donna just turned 40 on July first, and she shares your attitude. She said she's happier now than she was at 20, or even at 30, so it's really just as you say, and isn't about dwelling on the past, but instead having positive thoughts about your future, and eventually those positive though will transform into positively all around you.

I had a really tough time in this last year, but I am choosing not to dwell on the bad things, (which can be very hard to do), but instead I've convinced myself that this next year will be good, and I know it will.

you're 39, Tara? I would have thought you were a little younger. :lol:

(if you're wondering, I'm 51 and will turn 52 in November)
Ha, I think a lot of people, assume that I am a lot younger (at this board) because of my attitude. I am, basically, someone, whom is very young at heart.

My ex girlfriend Donna just turned 40 on July first, and she shares your attitude. She said she's happier now than she was at 20, or even at 30, so it's really just as you say, and isn't about dwelling on the past, but instead having positive thoughts about your future, and eventually those positive though will transform into positively all around you.

I had a really tough time in this last year, but I am choosing not to dwell on the bad things, (which can be very hard to do), but instead I've convinced myself that this next year will be good, and I know it will.
The only thing I miss about being in my 20s was my youth. And, that is about it. I do not miss the person I was, during that time of my life. I enjoy life a lot more, now, in my late 30s, then I EVER did ,ten years ago.